#queer slur discourse

[thatoneautisticfreak]

I genuinely don't understand why people keep saying that queer isn't a slur, it was used to harm people in the lgbtq community in the past and it's STILL being used to try and harm us ??? Like yeah, it's a label, and I get that it's an easy label to fall back on but it's still a slur. Idc if you use it as a label, but you can't just blatantly ignore that it was used to harm us and is still being thrown around to try and harm people

[alinacapellabooks]

You are not an ally if you slut-shame aromantic allosexuals.

You are not an ally if you think that the A in the acronym stands for ally.

You are not an ally if you hurl slurs, which, nine times out of ten, are ableist slurs used to demonise those with cluster B disorders, at aromantics for not wanting to be in romantic relationships.

You are not an ally if you assume that bi/pan women who are dating men (Or bi/pan men who are dating women) have 'turned straight'.

You are not an ally if you think that all committed relationships must be romantic and/or sexual in nature.

You are not an ally if you think that a committed relationship can only consist of two people, and no more.

You are not an ally if you exclude intersex people in any way.

You are not an ally if your support of the LGBTQIA+ community ends the second that you encounter queer people you don’t like or understand.

[sagegreenyaps]

Transandrophobes and exorsexists, on the cusp of just blatantly declaring they believe in "female privilege"-- COUGH-- sorry, I meant "AFAB privilege": Masculinity is not societally punished! So if you become masculine, you will be celebrated!

Butches, from the dawn of gender norms:

[fivetrench]

Pride month is almost over and I forgot to draw anything oopsie. Here’s a very, VERY late doodle of an earwig with some flags and wisdom.

(This post is talking about good faith queer identities, NOT harmful paraphilia, trans-id, consang, or anything else that condones or attempts to normalize dangerous behavior. I do not want people who fall under any of those categories to be on my blog. My account has been and always will be safe for queer people with complex/‘contradictory’ identities.)

[samdyke]

misha collins can reclaim fag by the same logic thats like if two girls are holding hands on the street and they get called dykes the guy yelling at them wont stop to ask if one of them is bisexual and not a lesbian, actually. if they ever asked that man if he was a faggot before calling him one his answer did not change their minds

[autismvampyre]

i feel so fucking bad for my fellow young queers nowadays. so many are being radicalized by the right because we are so disconnected from our past and history and it fucking sucks man

i remember being 14 and just being so lost and uncomfortable in my own skin and getting wrapped up in fucking exclusionary discourse on fucking instagram of all places. i remember not liking myself and being vulnerable and feeling left out, and all these other online queers took me in and said "its fine, you're normal, but we have to fight the not-normal queers to be accepted" and i believed them because who else would i trust?

the idea that there's a wrong kind of gay or trans or queer is so antithetical to what this community is supposed to be about. we're strange, we're outcast. it's so sad to see infighting knowing that its just successful propaganda meant to divide us.

truth is, bigots don't care if you're the "right kind of queer" or not. they still hate you for existing and pandering does nothing but hurt the only community that actually cares. we have to leave behind the mindset that we can only be accepted if we change, because the people who only accept us when we're the "good kind of queer" never fucking respected us in the first place

we're here, we're queer, and we don't have to be "the right kind" to be allowed to exist

[the-alarm-system]

Guys please remember that being a fag is not that serious and you don’t need to tag everything as q slur

and it’s never comparable to racism btw

[bunnymi1k]

i have some thoughts, and i just need to share.

content warning: heavy usage of the word queer in a reclaimed context.

you cannot remove the queer aspect from the owl house.

being queerphobic is literally missing the entire point of the show and it's messaging. the owl house is so important when it comes to representing us onscreen. the protagonist is a queer person of color; it's a huge stepping stone for the community. pushing your way into our spaces, into a fandom that is so elated to have such a phenomenal piece of media so casually show queer characters and relationships, and then telling us you do not accept who we are, etc......

do you not realize the harm you're causing? where's the self awareness? genuinely. belos is quite literally a physical embodiment of religious extremism and the harm it causes; brother wanted to cause a genocide because he was a puritan and believed witches shouldn't live. c'mon now.

the shows whole message is that ostracized people are still deserving of love, and that they'll find their people that love them unconditionally for who they are. that kind of message speaks volumes to queer youth, and can be read AS a queer allegory, especially since luz IS queer.

even if you're one of those people that says "i just don't agree/support" or has the "love the sinner hate the sin" mentality, you aren't exempt. that mindset is still so harmful and disrespectful, and your love for queer people is false. love should be unconditional. you cannot ignore or separate a person's queerness from them. the denial of something so integral to who a person is is so damaging and dangerous, regardless of how ""nice"" you put it. it's the same rhetoric held by those that want us to not exist, in case you forgot; that ideology is a very slippery slope, and can easily become violent. and if your reasoning is just "well i'm religious" then you need to do some heavy self reflection and improvement. whatever authority figure or person from your faith that taught you that you cannot accept queer folk's identities was not preaching the word of god. simple as that. we are people, deserving of acceptance, love, and the same rights as you. if you can't agree with that sentiment, that's your problem and i'm sorry but you cannot call yourself a fan of the show (yeah this is still a post about homophobia in the TOH fandom lmao)

this is, obviously, glossing over the fact that your personal beliefs and faith do not dictate what someone else does in their life, and sure as hell does not dictate what laws should be implemented.

to make a super long story short: the owl house is queer, it's cast is like 99% queer (if not all, i don't even think anyone's been confirmed straight), and to ignore this fact is insulting and there's a reason you guys are shamed in the fandom. however, i do believe people are capable of growth and change, and i hope you can find it within yourselves to change your perspective on the matter.

straights, you got huntlow. leave the other ships alone. especially when it comes to amity. she's a lesbian. stop being weird (this is only half a joke..)

[tecchan]

I thought shipping wars on tumblr were bad. Men in male-dominated fandoms on reddit think they're being personally attacked and oppressed by people shipping anything other than m/f ships because "the game was made for straight men".

[starflesh-moth]

[our-queer-experience]

I'm sure your ask box is full so no rush on this one

Do you consider faggot/dyke as an insult? I never really have but a few of my friends do.

Thanks :)

i think it’s contextual. when i say dyke and fag it is affectionate or joking. when someone shouts “fag!” at you on the street, it is mean to be derogatory and to make you feel afraid.

some people are never ok with saying or hearing it. some people are in context. for me its a neutral word. a positive one. it depends on the person and the context.

[quinni427]

I think if queerness wasn’t as stigmatised a lot of straight men (and others) would realise that even if they are sexually attracted to women they may not be romantically attracted to them. Being aromantic is more common than we think.

If it was widely known that someone’s sexual and romantic attraction don’t necessarily have to be the same cheating and emotionally unavailability would probably be much less common.

More people need to know that you aren’t necessarily a failure if you don’t have/want the average heteronormative family structure.

Knowledge about LGBTQ+ people doesn’t just benefit us it benefits everyone. You shouldn’t have to live a certain way if you don’t want to.

[raedonpoisoning]

mfs be like, “all nonbinary people are valid!” until an afab and/or remotely fem nonbinary person who’s nblm reclaims the f slur and then suddenly it’s “you’re not nonbinary/queer enough to say that word!” or “you’re basically a straight woman!” some of you queer folks have such a weirdly cisnormative and heteronormative view of the world… like you have become the very thing you fought to destroy and it’s ACTUALLY annoying listening to you drop such awful takes.

[velvetvexations]

Whenever i see theyfab defended as a term to call out transmisogynist enbies i search ‘theyfab match:text’ into tumblr and am immediately shown several posts in which theyfab just means “woman i dont like” (even if the person in question is not a woman, or even afab). If you want to call out transmisogynistic enbies call them transmisogynistic enbies.

It never, ever meant transmisogynistic enbies. Not ever.

People who say otherwise are deliberately lying.

[the-alarm-system]

you guys think you can hurt me? I survived the “femboy is a slur you can’t use it” era

[4evrgreeny]

This Pride month, please remember that just because you've personally reclaimed a slur, or even if your community seems to have largely also reclaimed that slur, DOES NOT MEAN EVERYONE HAS!!

Your local college having a 'queer arts' class doesn't mean you get to go around calling people queer without their permission.

Just because you've grown up with the word queer being used as shorthand for the LGBT community doesn't mean everyone else feels the same way.

Just because YOU don't see queer as a slur, doesn't mean everyone else does too.