#seriously. when did i use terf language?

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it's funny how quick you are to weaponize terf language against transmascs

wdym

[sickofthis666]

Man, I miss when tumblr wasn’t the "t4t" website. Now we only got girld*ck jokes and trans rights are the only social issue that's worth mentionning, apparently. It's obvious if only by seeing the amount of posts, pinned posts, and bios with the mention "terfs/transphobes dni".

As an afterthought, some may add racists, ableists and/or homophobics to their little list. Sexism doesn't even appear.

Reading users bios, it's like everyone on this website is trans now - see also, reblogs of people's own post years later with the mention "im a girl now :3" - even though statistically, they're... what? 2% of the population?

Meanwhile somehow half of said population doesn't deserve to fight for their rights. BLM vanished but fear not, TLM is there. Online feminism peaked in 2016 with "the future is female" and #MeToo ended with a lot of calling out by victims but very little consequences for the abusers.

Your brain won't explode if you campaign for more than one cause at a time, I promise.

Old sexism was "your biology determines your behavior". New sexism is "your behavior determines your biology". Same result. Same harmful stereotypes. Some things are meant to harm, no matter how much you want to reclaim them or have fun sounding quirky by using insults/politically incorrect language. No, calling yourself a slut doesn't change from a man calling you that, because the very definition of that word is harmful. An insult doesn't stop being an insult because you enjoy it or because you decided to interpret it in a way that fits you, like religious leaders interprets scripture in a way that fits their interest.

We were supposed to get rid of the idea that women enjoying sex like men do is shameful, bad, disgusting, unnatural. We were supposed to make it neutral, just the way men get to have it, but nooo, you guys wanted to be quirky, rules breakers, special. Somehow you're convinced that doing the complete opposite of what society commonly deems acceptable automatically makes you cool, Good, right, and better than the others. It doesn't! It's not a dichotomy! Same thing with whore. Calling a man that moves his hands when he talks or has a high pitch or exaggerated manners "effeminate" makes you a misogynist and a homophobe, actually.

P*rn doesn't automatically becomes Good and healthy just because society frowns down upon it. Degrading women became a trend. God forbids you kinkshame, but somehow mocking vanilla sex is great, actually. Obviously vanilla must be Bad since it's the opposite of porn, and we all decided at some point that porn was Good. Can’t find f/m erotica on this website that doesn't include at least One sentence specifying how the woman is degraded/seen like a toy/less than human by the man. It's Very Important.

The solution to "women shouldn't have to wear make up to be considered seriously/human" wasn’t "women like their cage actually", it was destroying the cage or put the men in it with us. Cause that is the definition of gender equality. Treating men and women the same regardless of gender.

Hijab will never be feminist as long as men don't wear it too. It's the difference of treatment, simply because of gender, that is sexism/misogyny. The intention of the wearer doesn't matter - the result does.

"Taking your husband's last name isn’t sexist because *I* would be honored to do it" affirmed a woman to me - Since when does sexism mean "mentality/behavior/outfit/etc that all women as a mindhive dislike"? Oh wait - it doesnt - never did; it means difference of treatment between genders, overwhelmingly balanced in favor of men. The day men don't see taking your wife's last name as emasculating, degrading, insulting, belittling, diminishing, disgracing, shameful; the day they take their wife's last name spontaneously, almost systematically, the way women do; the day merely suggesting the idea to them isn’t preposterous;

the day women don't see taking your husband's name, as honorable, normal, the bare minimum, the day women stop taking their husband's name almost systematically, because it's an evidence in their eyes; the day women are not pushed to take their husband's name because it makes administration's work easier, because it's the only way for them to prove that they're related to their children - when i was a little kid, school staff once refused to let me leave with my mom at the end of the day simply because, since she hadn't taken my father's name, obviously she couldnt possibly be my legitimate mother; that "incident" lead to her renounciating her own name; before that, she hadn't entertained the thought; - the day french civil service stops differentiating between Nom d'épouse (wife name) and Nom de jeune fille (maiden name), making marriage an event so decisive in a woman's life that it changes her status; whereas men are born, live and die with only one name, their own, and no one else's.

That day only, we'll be able to affirm that this part of society/culture/custom is not sexist anymore.

In favor of men, not because I hate men, or because women need someone to blame, or because men are inherently evil, but in favor of men because men have been ruling society for thousands of years. Our kings are men. Our presidents are men. Our Prime Ministers are men. Our religious leaders are men. Our CEOs are men. Billionaires are men. The most powerful and/or rich on this earth are men. And people in power, in a logical conclusion, decides measures that will favor themselves over others.

Feminity isn’t real. Masculinity isn’t real. Just like the economy, or borders, it's something humans made up. And yet it would never cross your mind to romanticize or fantasize about those concepts.

Boomers' sexism says "if you're a woman, you must act feminine." Gen Z's sexism says "If you're feminine, you must be a woman."

Feminism says "You'll always be a woman no matter what - but so what? You can do whatever you want."

This website is full of selfrighteous, full of themselves assholes who pretends to be Better than everyone else because they're sooo tolerent, sooo inclusive, they condemn nazis and terfs - but mostly terfs. Terfs never commited murders, contrary to neonazis/white supremacists/incels, but that is but a detail my friend - vigorously, they boycott JKR absolutely - but not their favorite rapist male artists/authors/actors/singers -, they have the moral High Ground. Yet the second they smell an Enemy, someone who doesn't adopt 100% of their causes, verbatim, no holds barred! Anything goes! Death threats, rape threats, stalking, doxxing, going after family members... calling The Other, the Villain - of course they're the villain, since I am the Good Guy and they're against Me! - names, a loser, ugly, fat, a virgin, who can’t get laid/p*ssy. Yes I said Asexuals were a part of the community, what does this have to do with anything? Death and rape threats are okay if they come from My mouth!

[royalberryriku]

The more I learn about the history of the middle east in general, the more I realise that the "Israel-Palestine conflict" is actually just a group killing their own fellow shared ethnic group who are "too brown".

Hebrews and Arabs both originate from Phoenicians, aka "Abraham's descendents" according to their respective oral stories and passed on histories. They are from the same place and people. However, there is a narrative that twists this and claims that Arabs were "always an outside force that invaded", when the various groups within that ethnicity always had their share of cooperation and conflict in various stages of history. Just like, say, the various groups in France. They were of the same group and no particular ethnicity had no more of a "claim" to the land than the other, they just had their beef and eventually integrated.

So when I see "but the Arabs are colonisers" I can't help but ask; what is a colonisers to you? Seriously. If colonisation means "any conflict in the past between a shared group from the same place" every single group would be colonisers. There's no such thing as "an innocent conflict" where atrocities weren't committed by either side. So please get that out of your head if you want to say "but the Arabs did X, Y, Z to the Hebrews so it's colonisation and they don't belong in A, B or C areas". That's just not how colonisation works. It's like calling TERF or cis a slur when they're not. Conflict between the same people from the same area is, yeah, a conflict hit not colonisation. However, a people who are from a completely different place who want to erase an ethnic group and take over their culture, erase their history and get rid of their physical features? Yeah, that's what colonisation is. It's genocide with the aim to erase a specific group or culture and take it and the land over. For example, the British in the Middle East.

The problem with calling Arabs "colonisers" is not only is it completely historically wrong, they're from the same place and have the same origins as the Hebrews, but they (like Palestinian Jews) have been their since before the British came. Compared to European Jews who came later on after having lived in Europe (and became European as that is genuinely a part of their culture and ethnicity as well and shouldn't be erased or forgotten, that's also cultural erasure of Germanic, Polish, etc traditions passed on) and, sure, do have origins there *as well* but it needs to be understood that they, specifically Zionists, are a part of the British colonial project aimed at killing *both* Arabs and Jews. The point isn't to help Jews against a colonisers from the first few centuries (sorry to tell you everyone, but no, the Ottoman Empire, Baylon and the Pharaohs literally do not exist anymore, like how Italy isn't the Roman Empire by default because that's where Rome is), but a group of people who've just been living there for the past few centuries and generations who just want to live. The problem is, they haven't been allowed that and propaganda keeps being pushed that completely jumps around historical facts like, for example, Jews (ethnically speaking) were not always Jews but the Ancient Hebrews, aka, Phoenicians, aka where Arabs came from ethically. They are the same people, just who moved to different areas and developed different cultures and languages. Sort of like, you know, every other nation with specific dialects for specific regions and different cultures and folk stories depending on where you go.

The point is, so much of Jewish history is actively being erased to "protect the Jews" by...commuting cultural genocide of the Jews and Arabs. It ignores the actual impact of Nazism within Israel's formation and history, how much it influenced policy, how Jews who were "too visibly Phoenicians" aka appeared too Jewish or arabic or middle eastern in appearance were deemed as "weaker" and "lesser" for my surviving the holocaust and used as a reason to deny rights to both Jews and Arabs who were too visibly Semitic. It ignores how antisemetic Israel is towards Jewishness and how utterly antisemetic Islamophobia is because they are literally from the same origin and, yes, hatred and fear of one does carry into hatred and fear of the other. So much of the propaganda and denialism of history happening right now is a direct response to dear and hatred of "big noses", "brown skin" and people deemed as too middle eastern because they, just like in World War II, World War I and beforehand, antisemetism is the backbone of British imperialism and conquest of the middle east (yes, this also means a targeting of Arabs and Jews as people who look a specific way). And yes I'm annoyed and yes this is a ramble that's probably not very coherent, but damn I'm so sick and tired of misinformation and the twisting of everything to suit this narrative of "Arabs versus Jews" as if they aren't both just Semites who are being collectively oppressed, erased and reinvented by the west to suit western ends.

[ftmtftm]

if you talk about how a bunch of transmed transmascs became terfs and dont acknowledge how being transmisogynists is why anyone becomes a terf, your analysis is shit. 'its actually everyone else fault they joined a genocidal hate group" like fuck off. THIS is why people dont take you transandrophobia gusy seriously

I really don't think I needed to derail my disjointed analysis (that I was upfront about not being fully articulated from the start!!) where the core thesis was "Many traumatized trans men were taken advantage of by transmed spaces" to delve into an analysis on transmisogyny and the transmed -> TERF pipeline. That's really not my place nor was the point of the post to talk about the transmed to TERF pipeline in any capacity. The point of the post was to talk about the other outcome of guys, similar to myself, who realized their issues was actually their trauma and got the fuck out.

I mentioned that transmedicalism often aligns itself with TERF ideology and conservatism to make it clear that I was not defending transmedicalism. That doesn't mean I need to explain TERF ideology or conservatism. I figured the audience of Tumblr users who would see the post would generally know those things already.

There was also an example about my own experience as well, but that was also not a grand sweeping statement about the transmed to TERF pipeline. It was just a statement about my own experience which was not worth a deep analysis because it would've distracted from my main point. Like, I knew a total of 2 people out of my personal 10~ish member friend group at the time that detransitioned and became TERFs over four years ago - that's not "a bunch of transmed trans mascs becoming TERFs" that's me saying "Hey some people I knew did this and were part of this pipeline, and also some people I knew did what I did and got out because they realized it was trauma and community seeking that got them into transmedicalism and I'm talking about that experience right now."

To use your own language in response to you anon, telling trans mascs to go into deep dives about transmisogyny when their posts are explicitly not about transmisogyny does you no good and makes us not take you seriously. It is actually normal for people to not have to get into every single aspect of an issue if it distracts from their main thesis. That's usually called digressing and is something taught against in early writing classes because it can weaken your points (which - Tumblr posts where OP is collecting their thoughts with the intention of fleshing them out later shouldn't be beholden to but that's neither here nor there!). But yeah. It's normal to not go on massive sidebars about a whole other structure of abuse and oppression like that when it doesn't impact the main point being made.

[sensoryseekinganakin]

genuinely don't think u realised how hurtful some of what you wrote was, and that's kinda scary. "they made u hate your body"??? seriously.

u don't have to share every single experience u have, especially when it perpetuates the idea that trans people are just "confused" and that trans women aren't women/trans men aren't men.

ur experience (detransitioning) isn't common, but terfs and transphobes use that kind of rhetoric to their own advantage.

autoandrophilia is VERY rare and again is an argument used by terfs. all u did w that fic was spread gross language and stereotypes.

also the fact that u made a poll on whether u should post the fic or not lost u followers, that should've been ur first indicator that it wasn't a good fucking idea but clearly shows how ignorant u are about this.

On my twitter poll, the people who didn't want to see it unfollowed me and the people who did want to see it voted "yes". So the twitter poll actually had 100% positive results. I think this is the way that this should work, if you don't want to see something you don't have to interact with it.

Just because my experience is uncommon shouldn't mean that I have to be completely silent about it. If you know anything about any of my other fics, you know I don't shy away from writing specific fetishes just because they're rare.

I write for my own enjoyment and for the enjoyment of others who share my fascinations, not for any other reason. I stated in the disclaimer of my fic that it wasn't political, and that stands now. Choosing to interpret my writing in a political way doesn't make it so. Politicizing my existence doesn't make me an example of anything political.

Again, I'm sorry that I upset you. I have always been someone who writes using very direct and forward language. This carries over to every topic. What I write isn't ever an endorsement of any topic or me saying that it applies to everyone, I only write what applies to me for my own enjoyment.

[blautitlewave]

I’m a trans ally. Transwomen cannot get periods, and it’s annoying that we are seeing an influx of white transwomen (because POC transwomen *typically* have enough sense to not try to step over cis women with an ‘I know everything’ energy) try to claim otherwise and then try to explain to cis women how their bodies work. Doing that echoes mansplaining, and just like a cis woman is not automatically immune to internalizing misogyny, transwomen are not immune to having internalized the misogyny taught to them when they were perceived and treated as men. Lots of transwomen still have misogyny that they need to unpack. Denying it just gives ammunition to TERFs who DO have one singular valid point, and that’s that society doesn’t take cis women’s biological issues seriously, overall. But they then take the flippancy of transwomen and turn it into a reason as to why transwomen are invalid.

Cis women and transwomen are two different types of women that deserve recognition as women and each have their own unique challenges to face in life *as* women. Different biological challenges, different attacks by patriarchy and comp cishet. But trying to convince yourself that the odd feelings you have because of your hormone therapy is the exact same as someone shedding the lining of an organ and having it pass out through their orifice is not it. It simply isn’t the same.

And a similar note, “chestfeeding” is a stupid term. Men and women both have breast tissue. People have been using breast to mean a man’s chest since the old, old days. It’s breastfeeding. If a transwoman or a cis man or whomever is not a cis woman ever could manage to lactate, it would be breast feeding cuz that’s kinda how the operation works. And even if they don’t have breast tissue, the breast is synonymous with the chest area, so.. 💁 why make a new word? It reeks of 90s PC culture that did more effort to police words than actually do anything to help people who needed policy changes and real outreach and uplifted social status.

I feel like trying to use this neutral terminology is needless and pointless. A lot of these language changes are based on the false assumption that modern usage and application of certain terms has been unchanging since time immemorial. The word “breast” is the obvious example here. Words were so much more fluid and general back in the day and only in modern times have they become more refined and restricted, not the other way around.

But there is an argument going around by some cis women that the word “cis” is needless, and I disagree. Cis informs that one was born a woman and she aligns with that designation, whereas trans informs that one was born with the designation of man, but identifies as a woman. To say that “well we’re all women so why give me that label” is another rehashing of the colorblindness of the 80s and 90s, spearheaded by white feminists who didn’t want to interact with how race, ethnicity, class, nationality affects one’s experience of womanhood, preferring instead to lump everyone together as suffering the exact same under patriarchy. False. Trans women face different pressures than cis women, though they echo each other in the end: Threats of violence, harassment, abuse, murder. Medical needs not tended to. Misogyny. Self image issues. Mental illness. Underpaid for labor. Silenced by patriarchy. But the specific ways in which these issues play out in a cis woman’s life vs a transwoman’s life are different.

Trans women will never need to get a cervical cancer scare, or cysts on her ovaries, or a period, or a pregnancy scare. Neither will they be the target of infanticide since once cannot know someone is trans at birth. Everything else relating to harassment and sexual assault and murder are things cis women have endured.

Cis women will never be faced with elected politicians standing up and proclaiming that their entire existence should be eradicated from society, or that them being women is a mental illness in of itself, that being born a woman means they are an inherent danger to children, that they are abominations of God because ‘nowhere in the religious text does it ever mention them’, that being a woman is a fetish or a form of deviancy.

Yes you can make the argument that men throughout history have all but said that women are malformed men, that they’re neurotic and all that, and that they are more susceptible to the devil’s influence. But women by their categories have unique trials and struggles, and it doesn’t do anyone any good by disparaging the struggles of allies just to say yours are better or more valid. It is trans womens’ duty to support cis women by default, and it is in cis women’s best interest to support trans women.

[turanga4]

harry potter 2 and 8

Awww thanks! Link to question is here and I'm by no means done ranting.

What I like most and least:

I most like the way this series really touches on love---all kinds of love---as the driving and most redemptive force in the world, and it does so with no illusion that love is perfect or always gonna 'win.' I like that Harry and Hermione are 'attractive' main characters who could theoretically snog one another...and they don't, and this doesn't lessen the intensity and centrality of the bond that they DO have. I like that Dumbledore holds on to love as the most mysterious and crucial magic in the world, even when he himself has only experienced that emotion colored deeply by pain. I like that love is a thing that Harry's shit childhood is somehow unable to beat out of him, that he manages quite literally to live and die for it and is able, in the end, to experience it fully and peacefully himself.

I least like all the thoughtless and almost casual shit the author has dropped, both in the text and in her public life, that is fundamentally un-loving and contradicts her other central message that things of great importance should be treated with great care. Things like "you can tell the person is an antagonist because they are FAT", "Imma give Cho Chang the most insipid name that is a smash-up of two languages and then make her Very Smart and Pretty but also Too Emotional so she's kind of like a wilting Asian Flower cuz that's never been done before," and "House Elves 💜 Slavery: You Probably Should, Too." Followed of course by her current forays into absolute TERF-dom.

But that makes me able to most like, again, the way fandom is able to go full Death of the Author on that fool and engage with the content in ways that enrich and redeem it all for me. Go, us.

Character With Unexplored Potential: Hmm....I feel like, in canon, they did what could be done within the limits of the narrative structure, although I would have liked to see a more nuanced depiction of both Ginny and Cho and I feel like Peter Pettigrew is just a half-simmered soup of Seriously, What The Fuck.

[papirouge]

Is trans ideology popular in your country? Ive heard there's been a backlash in the UK so now i'm curious about France... My country is unfortunately the type of country that follows whatever trend the USA is doing whether it's bad or good so the ideology did make its way into our schools, universities, politics and so on. But I feel the average person here is much less tolerant of it than the average american, like pretty much everyone believes it's a pretty radical ideology and very few people take the whole nonbinary stuff or neopronouns seriously.

Some serious stuff here has been passed like kids can now transition when they turn 14 (hormone treatment inc puberty blockers and surgery), you can also change your legal sex at that age too no transition of any kind neeeded for that, you just need to request the legal change in your papers from male to female or viceversa. Some dude even got to change his ID to mark X where his sex is supposed to be since he identifies as nonbinary (he's a bio male though).

Like i'm glad to be able to freely express my opinion with others since being critical of trans ideology is quite popular actually, but there are so many laws being changed since people still are very "to each their own". They just care if their own kids get sucked into the ideology but couldn't care less if others do, then they're like "as long as its not hurting anybody". So people tend to act apathetic about the way this agenda is slowly making its way into society since it isn't directly affecting them... Until it does. Then it's just too late.

France is still very TERFy lol

When abortion access got passed in the Constitution, french tra seethed about the fact that the bill didn't even include trans men or "people with uterus" (whatever this is) lol. When female members of the parliament celebrated the bill, they dressed in the "radfem colors" (violet white and green) 👀

I think trans ideology will have an extremely hard time invading romance countries because we have an extremely gendered culture. Even our languages are extremely gendered and gender neutral (singular) pronouns are nonexistent (the only attempt I've seen are those mixing the female and male singular pronouns in a single one, but it still puts genderless people in the female/male pronouns box). We don't have the equivalent of "it" or "they" in french. Everything has a gender, even objects or concepts.

Romance countries also have a very deep love for romance (duh), sex/sensuality and the human body. This comes from the Greek civilization they're the offsprings of ofc, but Catholicism plays a big part too. Catholics love some naked people. They couldn't help pulling out countless paintings of Jesus on the cross almost naked SMH lol. The chapel Sixtine is full of naked bodies too....

That's why in the psyche of those countries, trans bodies are unholy atrocities destroying God's work. Trans people won't be accepted like that out there.... And when they do, they have to be impeccably passing. I always found troubling how french people dissed the first lady (who's trans) on her looks, almost more than the fact he sexed the current president when he was still a 14 y.o boy.... Sometimes tells me if s/he was more passing people wouldn't be that mad, and I lowkey hate it....

Sometimes I feel privileged for being able to have critical thoughts about the trans ideology publicly because I know that women lost their jobs for that. One time I was talking to my colleague about a transathletes and we both agreed how men had some damn nerves and no shame for invading female sports like that. Like- it wasn't even a debate for any of us that those trans women were men and we both seethed against male audacity during the whole discussion lol Most women in France are crypto terf yall lol

But the pushing for trans ideology is definitely getting stronger. It's now possible to change your legal sex (but you have to be an adult I think). Not sure about whether minor can access hormones though.

[ickie-vicky]

i just......the post abt gender abolition, the op specifically. thats exactly what i believe. the only reason trans people have to exist is because we live in a world that DOES have gender and FORCES it on us. so when we deviate from what is forced we are othered SO MUCH that a whole ass category was made to put us into. we. are. not. the. enemy. like, I don't even identify with gender at all, but the only language that is available to communicate my experience, albeit very very vaguely, is transgender. or non binary. i use the term gender to attempt to communicate a thing that cannot be explained in words, but needs to be said. in an ideal world I wouldnt need to, it wouldnt be a factor. but because it is, and because the world has gotten it so wrong for so long, i do need to call myself transgender. but my experience and the way I feel is personal and subjective and too complicated for words. it exists outside of any ideologies or politics or world views. its just me. im working within the framework available to me.

and a trans woman fighting to be recognised for who she is is still working within the lens and language that she, and basically everyone else, was forced to use. if you seriously cannot have empathy for that then okay. not much can be done about that. itd be very sad but cant help peoples lack of theory of mind.

however, if you can, which you should, then youd see she is not so dissimilar to you. all of us are working within a framework we didnt create, and trying to make the best of it. our versions of the best may differ, but that's a common experience. we cant dismantle these systems overnight, just as we cant expect people to completely sever themselves from everything they know immediately.

so, again, whilst i agree gender is harmful, those of us who fall outside of the binary or gender entirely are not the enemies. we are the victims too.

yesss anon you get it! patriarchy (and gender) are the enemy and we are indeed on the same side here - though i don’t agree with your methods

in short: the direct question i was asked was why do i believe that trans ideology is wrong. i answered.

this is how people normally converse/argue. tumblr however has this culture of straying really far from the original point. i think it’s sometimes well intentioned in order to cover all bases, situations, make all sorts of exceptions, etc. but it’s not a positive thing… i see blatant dodging of direct questions on here all the time because tumblr is just Like That and it makes is easy for people to hide behind non-answers

not answering a direct question with a direct answer is almost always a warning sign that the person you are speaking to is talking mad bullshit

i was not asked about if i have empathy for trans people or if i think they are the enemy, so i did not really talk about this

just because i think trans ideology is wrong does not mean i hate all trans people and want them to be forcibly de-gendered or whatever the anti ‘terf’ brigade would have you believe…

i also don’t know how you came to this conclusion anyway as i absolutely do have empathy for trans people and do not see them as the enemy?? thought that was really clear from my previous responses.

1. i laid out the trans perspective of this argument. i clearly understand and empathise with the point of view of a trans person as evidenced by being able to explain it. how can i better empathise that that? i also explicitly said a couple of times that i feel sorry for trans people and how pressure for gender conformity affects them.

2. i never said trans people are the enemy. nothing else to add here i just did not say that lmao…

anyway tldr;

i disagree with trans ideology because it’s sexist

i never said that trans people are the enemy and i have no empathy for them - you came to that conclusion all on your own

i’m not going to apologise for not stating this prior to answering a direct question - it’s not my responsibility to coddle anyone’s feelings and it’s not productive when having a direct and concise argument

some genuine advice: you shouldn’t care what /i/ think about you anyway. if you’re firm in your beliefs then you have no reason to feel bad about yourself.

i think you care about what i think because you agree with me, and that’s scary for you to properly consider.

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#5

Most trans women don’t have to worry about becoming pregnant accidentally or forcibly and be forced to deal with either A. no access to abortive services B. being forced to out yourself to have access to abortive services or C. be forced to detransition because your testosterone is a risk for the fetus and you aren’t allowed to abort or chose not to.

So like. Transandrophobia is a thing. This is transandrophobia. Fucking shut up.

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#4

hi, the more widely accepted short form of non-binary is enby. nb is appropriative of AAVE as it has stood for non-black long before it stood for non-binary. just to let you know since you are planning to call a book NB.

This is... this might be the funniest moment in my fucking life. I was literally just talking to @nothorses about this exact conversation I had read a bit ago.

First, I'm going to link to @transgentleman-luke's post on the subject of nb discourse.

Secondly, nota bene or nb for short, has been in use since 1711, whereas nonblack originates roughly around 1961. I have to admit I heard of nota bene when in high school and still use it a lot because I got in the habit while I was still being a pretentious little shithead.

So if we're really going to go with where it started being used first, nota bene has everyone beat out.

And if I want to be really pedantic, nonbinary as a word (not necessarily a gender label) has been around since 1863. I'm very willing to bet that nb was used as shorthand for the term in some form. I just don't have the time or energy to go dig into it more but trust that humans have always been humans about shit.

Thirdly:

The book isn't called NB. It's Nature Boy, and I use shorthand to make it easier to see the full title in Drive.

Finally, not all nonbinary people like to be called "enby."

Acronyms and shorthand can mean multiple things. This ask, while I'm sure is well-intentioned, carries the same energy as the blockheads who think that because trans men are defending themselves from two black people over a nearly year long harassment campaign they (the trans men) are racist.

Since you don't come across with an aggressive tone, I am willing to believe you're not one of those blockheads. And while I do think there is a troubling trend of AAVE getting appropriated into common vernacular without recognition of its origins or consideration of how it's socially acceptable for white people to "borrow" from black culture but black people have to code switch in order to be taken seriously (admittedly from a USAmerican mindset here), nb is not an appropriation of AAVE language.

Ninja Edit to Add: Anon, I say this sincerely, did you stop to think how English mouths say “enby?” It’s nb. So enby isn’t really a good replacement either, regardless of everything else. 

1,095 notes - Posted February 21, 2022

#3

I like slapping Irreversible Damage in TERFs faces because, I mean, look at it:

I’m a graphic designer. I have a double major in it and printmaking, therefore I am especially qualified to comment on this. Want to know why I switched over to printmaking and book arts as my primary major? Because commercial graphic design is propaganda and I decided I didn’t feel comfortable by that point working for capitalism. 

Like man, my entire life has revolved around books and writing. I just wanted to make good covers. 

Anyway. Here we have a cover of a little white girl with her womb cut out. The title is literally Irreversible Damage. You literally cannot in good faith look at this book cover and tell me that Abigail Shrier isn’t talking about little white girls losing the ability to make little white babies. 

If you can honestly, in 100% good faith look at this cover, look at this title, and tell me otherwise, I’ll call you a liar and block you on sight. Because I have a high tolerance for idiocy but not that.

1,295 notes - Posted March 7, 2022

#2

Can we also discuss the fact there’s a minority of people who aren’t “AFAB” who are still capable of getting pregnant?

Or are we going to keep using this as a new, cooler binary to try and talk about “women lite”

1,551 notes - Posted May 16, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

TERFs don’t want to save trans men and AFAB nonbinarys who don’t look like GNC women.

The want to detransition us, force us to accept our “role” as women, make us proud of the parts of ourselves that often make us the most uncomfortable in our own skin. 

If the trans person in question is white, they want to use our wombs to produce more white babies. Because don’t forget, you can never part the racist from the sexist. 

And if someone’s too far gone, if they’re too loud and brash and wield their words like a baseball bat. If they can’t be silenced, then they want to kill us. Demean us, dehumanize us, use us as a warning to younger, closeted trans people. 

Look at them. Look at what testosterone has done to their bodies, the personalities, their souls. You don’t want to be like that, do you?

TERFs say the want to save us. They don’t.

They want to kill us.

4,545 notes - Posted February 13, 2022

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[antiterf]

Kinda a weird question, but if you dealt with internalised transphobia, how did you, like, get over it (for lack of better terms)? Alternatively, how did you come to terms with being trans?

It wasn’t one trick but a mix of a lot of different shit. I think it’s comparable to cognitive behavioral therapy. It was also partially waiting and having better mental health that came with transition.

Tldr before I get started:

Wait

Try to be around other trans people

Every insult you put towards yourself for being trans, you put on everyone else for being trans

Countering the transphobic arguments I internalized

Joking about it

Overall bettering my mental health

When first knowing I was just outright disgusted and in a bit of denial over it. That part I more or less just had to wait out and slowly come to terms with it. Having another trans person around me in real life helped a lot (even if they were an abusive asshole). It helped to know that I wasn’t alone at that point and that I wasn’t the only one who felt this way.

I ended up having a lot of breakdowns about how I was a “freak” basically, way before any physical transition mind you. What really helped me as someone who was very okay with insulting myself but hated being mean to others was telling myself that if I was so fucking awful for being this way, then I am automatically holding every trans person to that same view. That if I am shitting on myself this much for being trans, I’m insulting the rest of trans people with me. This thought process eventually let me stop these breakdowns sooner and eventually rarely bring them up to never.

It’s still something I use for other people who are the same way, putting others way before themselves. Not only for internalized transphobia but anything from having bad luck financially to disability making it hard for you to get out of bed.

Then there’s the fact that I would argue with myself and do a lot of research on anti transgender arguments and counters to them. Existing in an inherently transphobic society makes you overhear a lot of anti trans shit which you then end up repeating back to yourself. The main reason why I’m so good at defending trans masc and afab trans people compared to trans fem and amab trans people is because learning those arguments was a personal necessity for me to accept myself. Same thing with puberty blockers, language, general gender and queer studies, etc. There’s a reason why I can write so many pages on ROGD but have to do a lot of new studying for trans people displayed as sexual predators since most of that is transmisogyny that I didn’t have to defend myself from.

Then of course I would joke about stuff and take it less seriously when I internalized too much. Which was the main goal of terf-tips for a long time, to get out the thoughts constantly berating me in a humorous way. Flood the tags while I’m at it to make sure that people like me get a bit pulled out of the shit show that is internalized transphobia. Having a joke about it works better to stop having the thought than just blocking it out for me. It also makes you feel more at ease with the transphobia you’re facing for a bit. Yeah, terfs are serious business and a hate group, but you will put yourself through way too much to treat them and their ideology like that 100% of the time. Making jokes about oppression and our oppressors can help a lot more than people realize.

Lastly transition helped by just improving my mental health. Improved mental health helps you deal with things better. I mean, you wouldn’t do very well on a stressful essay during a depressive episode. You probably aren’t going to be the best with handling yourself gently either.

[kkshowtunes]

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[shoutsofmybones]

Hi. I’m the person who brought up the point about how when talking the harm terfs cause we shouldn’t talk about it in strictly binary language. The afab transneutral nonbinary person.

I just wanted to thank you for being so chill and thoughtful about it. It can be really hard to get binary folks to listen and recognize those of us who fall outside the binary for whatever reason. But you did, so thank you.

I also wanted to apologize if my message to you came across as mean or attacking you. That wasn’t my intent, but I fully understand how my message might have come across that way so I take full responsibility for that.

I hope you have a good day, and that you stay safe and well.

i didn't feel particularly attacked, don't worry about it. i appreciated having my slip-up pointed out, as I'm really trying to actively prevent myself from becoming a person who talks about gender in a binary way. i'm good at thinking in a non-binary way, i think (i have many many enby friends), but sometimes when i speak or write i slip into the binary, which i really don't want! so seriously thank you! be well :-)

[trans-advice]

is it normal for the incessant transphobia in the uk media to make a seemingly cis person feel down and hopeless? It kind of feels personal, could that just be because I’m bi and a fellow member of the lgbt community (plus I’m depressed anyway) or might I be a repressed nb person?

While I don't know for sure, the incessant transphobia is sexual harassment that seeks to ban people's right to bodily autonomy & focuses a lot on biological essentialism. Like seriously, groups wanting to criminalize abortion support stuff like this. Gender segregation of bathrooms & sports teams has more to do with the patriarchy & the bourgeoisie being in charge.

I'm both bisexual & transgender, so like I need gender neutral language in order to talk about dating because not only did I not know who I was going to fall in love with, but I also didn't know what gender designation I'd be allowed to live in. So like same-sex marriage controversy in USA during my childhood, had both of those problems involved for me. Like making marriage gender neutral benefits trans people who are then able to transition without mandatory divorce. It helps bisexual people because same-sex marriage starts to require gender-neutral language for general discussions which reflects the fact that when we date our candidate pool is relatively gender-neutral compared to straight & gay people. (From the bisexual perspective, normalization of marrying someone of any gender marker, allows for better clarity about how bisexuality is a separate matter from polyamory/monogamy because discussions of "husband or wive" etc where gender-neutral terms weren't being used, relied on the heterosexism of men get a wife & women get a husband to clarify the intended monogamy.)

Transphobia often tries to bail out sexists in order to keep the rigidity of sex alive (worse, TERFs (like other fascists) often do this in a way that recuperates disability politics by conflating the entirety of sex with disability, while being anti-disability). Another thing is that people who support racial capitalism, (and capitalism is corporatism) tend to support transphobia as well, because transphobia is involved in the surveillance required to maintain a social reproduction model that externalizes the costs of having a labor pool to exploit onto the workers instead of the state.

So to be clear, being this gloomy about transphobia isn't something that should be only felt by trans people.

So how you feel about this doesn't necessarily answer the question about your own gender identity. Look into how the incessant transphobia interferes with your hopes & dreams. Go from there.

Good Luck, Peace & Love,

Eve

[n7punk]

Hi! Your works are immaculate and I find myself legitimately recommending them to any and everyone who will take me seriously. You write emotion in a way that makes my heart ache (in both angst and joy). Your characterizations of adora always hit me like a train. I related to them in otos and lgp so much. I could not stop crying and reading through tears is tough! Thank you as always.

I noticed you mentioned something about icky commenters. Have you thought about setting your comments to moderated? It might make people actually think before writing bs.

ah tysm 🥺 otos and lgp are two works i really poured my queer little heart into, speaking from my own experiences, so its always amazing when other people connect with them <3 otos is one of my favourite things ive ever written tbh because of just the Lesbanism of the story and getting to go all-in on autistic Adora.

and i definitely thought about moderating comments on strange disease, but i haven’t had the same problems on other works, just that one for some reason. it literally had me sitting there like, what, are the furries showing up for werewolf adora just rude? is that a thing? i prefer to leave them unmoderated because having to approve them means i have to interact with them even more, but rest assured that the second a terf finds lgp its comment section is getting moderated (i almost did it preemptively, but so far people have been good and ive been so happy to see that). 

ao3 authors can also delete comments on their works even when they are unmoderated. i generally prefer to leave the comments section untouched (even though i do read it and save the best ones in my inbox), but when people leave a) demanding comments about updates (”MORE”, i saw that a lot on strange disease), b) offensive ones like that racist one (again, on strange disease) or c) use language im uncomfortable with even if it is positively (usually comes up around smut), i go ahead and delete those comments because i dont want to look at my comment section and have to cringe back. 

[bluewatsons]

Alone Ferber, Judith Butler on the culture wars, JK Rowling and living in “anti-intellectual times”, New Statesman (September 22, 2020)

Alona Ferber: In Gender Trouble, you wrote that "contemporary feminist debates over the meanings of gender lead time and again to a certain sense of trouble, as if the indeterminacy of gender might eventually culminate in the failure of feminism”. How far do ideas you explored in that book 30 years ago help explain how the trans rights debate has moved into mainstream culture and politics?

Judith Butler: I want to first question whether trans-exclusionary feminists are really the same as mainstream feminists. If you are right to identify the one with the other, then a feminist position opposing transphobia is a marginal position. I think this may be wrong. My wager is that most feminists support trans rights and oppose all forms of transphobia. So I find it worrisome that suddenly the trans-exclusionary radical feminist position is understood as commonly accepted or even mainstream. I think it is actually a fringe movement that is seeking to speak in the name of the mainstream, and that our responsibility is to refuse to let that happen.

Alona Ferber: One example of mainstream public discourse on this issue in the UK is the argument about allowing people to self-identify in terms of their gender. In an open letter she published in June, JK Rowling articulated the concern that this would "throw open the doors of bathrooms and changing rooms to any man who believes or feels he’s a woman", potentially putting women at risk of violence.

Judith Butler: If we look closely at the example that you characterise as “mainstream” we can see that a domain of fantasy is at work, one which reflects more about the feminist who has such a fear than any actually existing situation in trans life. The feminist who holds such a view presumes that the penis does define the person, and that anyone with a penis would identify as a woman for the purposes of entering such changing rooms and posing a threat to the women inside. It assumes that the penis is the threat, or that any person who has a penis who identifies as a woman is engaging in a base, deceitful, and harmful form of disguise. This is a rich fantasy, and one that comes from powerful fears, but it does not describe a social reality. Trans women are often discriminated against in men’s bathrooms, and their modes of self-identification are ways of describing a lived reality, one that cannot be captured or regulated by the fantasies brought to bear upon them. The fact that such fantasies pass as public argument is itself cause for worry.

Alona Ferber: I want to challenge you on the term “terf”, or trans-exclusionary radical feminist, which some people see as a slur.

Judith Butler: I am not aware that terf is used as a slur. I wonder what name self-declared feminists who wish to exclude trans women from women's spaces would be called? If they do favour exclusion, why not call them exclusionary? If they understand themselves as belonging to that strain of radical feminism that opposes gender reassignment, why not call them radical feminists? My only regret is that there was a movement of radical sexual freedom that once travelled under the name of radical feminism, but it has sadly morphed into a campaign to pathologise trans and gender non-conforming peoples. My sense is that we have to renew the feminist commitment to gender equality and gender freedom in order to affirm the complexity of gendered lives as they are currently being lived.

Alona Ferber: The consensus among progressives seems to be that feminists who are on JK Rowling’s side of the argument are on the wrong side of history. Is this fair, or is there any merit in their arguments?

Judith Butler: Let us be clear that the debate here is not between feminists and trans activists. There are trans-affirmative feminists, and many trans people are also committed feminists. So one clear problem is the framing that acts as if the debate is between feminists and trans people. It is not. One reason to militate against this framing is because trans activism is linked to queer activism and to feminist legacies that remain very alive today. Feminism has always been committed to the proposition that the social meanings of what it is to be a man or a woman are not yet settled. We tell histories about what it meant to be a woman at a certain time and place, and we track the transformation of those categories over time. We depend on gender as a historical category, and that means we do not yet know all the ways it may come to signify, and we are open to new understandings of its social meanings. It would be a disaster for feminism to return either to a strictly biological understanding of gender or to reduce social conduct to a body part or to impose fearful fantasies, their own anxieties, on trans women... Their abiding and very real sense of gender ought to be recognised socially and publicly as a relatively simple matter of according another human dignity. The trans-exclusionary radical feminist position attacks the dignity of trans people.

Alona Ferber: In Gender Trouble you asked whether, by seeking to represent a particular idea of women, feminists participate in the same dynamics of oppression and heteronormativity that they are trying to shift. In the light of the bitter arguments playing out within feminism now, does the same still apply?

Judith Butler: As I remember the argument in Gender Trouble (written more than 30 years ago), the point was rather different. First, one does not have to be a woman to be a feminist, and we should not confuse the categories. Men who are feminists, non-binary and trans people who are feminists, are part of the movement if they hold to the basic propositions of freedom and equality that are part of any feminist political struggle. When laws and social policies represent women, they make tacit decisions about who counts as a woman, and very often make presuppositions about what a woman is. We have seen this in the domain of reproductive rights. So the question I was asking then is: do we need to have a settled idea of women, or of any gender, in order to advance feminist goals? . . . I put the question that way… to remind us that feminists are committed to thinking about the diverse and historically shifting meanings of gender, and to the ideals of gender freedom. By gender freedom, I do not mean we all get to choose our gender. Rather, we get to make a political claim to live freely and without fear of discrimination and violence against the genders that we are. Many people who were assigned “female” at birth never felt at home with that assignment, and those people (including me) tell all of us something important about the constraints of traditional gender norms for many who fall outside its terms. . . . Feminists know that women with ambition are called “monstrous” or that women who are not heterosexual are pathologised. We fight those misrepresentations because they are false and because they reflect more about the misogyny of those who make demeaning caricatures than they do about the complex social diversity of women. Women should not engage in the forms of phobic caricature by which they have been traditionally demeaned. And by “women” I mean all those who identify in that way.

Alona Ferber: How much is toxicity on this issue a function of culture wars playing out online?

Judith Butler: I think we are living in anti-intellectual times, and that this is evident across the political spectrum. The quickness of social media allows for forms of vitriol that do not exactly support thoughtful debate. We need to cherish the longer forms.

Alona Ferber: Threats of violence and abuse would seem to take these “anti-intellectual times” to an extreme. What do you have to say about violent or abusive language used online against people like JK Rowling?

Judith Butler: I am against online abuse of all kinds. I confess to being perplexed by the fact that you point out the abuse levelled against JK Rowling, but you do not cite the abuse against trans people and their allies that happens online and in person. I disagree with JK Rowling's view on trans people, but I do not think she should suffer harassment and threats. Let us also remember, though, the threats against trans people in places like Brazil, the harassment of trans people in the streets and on the job in places like Poland and Romania – or indeed right here in the US. So if we are going to object to harassment and threats, as we surely should, we should also make sure we have a large picture of where that is happening, who is most profoundly affected, and whether it is tolerated by those who should be opposing it. It won’t do to say that threats against some people are tolerable but against others are intolerable.

Alona Ferber: You weren't a signatory to the open letter on “cancel culture” in Harper's this summer, but did its arguments resonate with you?

Judith Butler: I have mixed feelings about that letter. On the one hand, I am an educator and writer and believe in slow and thoughtful debate. I learn from being confronted and challenged, and I accept that I have made some significant errors in my public life. If someone then said I should not be read or listened to as a result of those errors, well, I would object internally, since I don't think any mistake a person made can, or should, summarise that person. We live in time; we err, sometimes seriously; and if we are lucky, we change precisely because of interactions that let us see things differently . . . On the other hand, some of those signatories were taking aim at Black Lives Matter as if the loud and public opposition to racism were itself uncivilised behaviour. Some of them have opposed legal rights for Palestine. Others have [allegedly] committed sexual harassment. And yet others do not wish to be challenged on their racism. Democracy requires a good challenge, and it does not always arrive in soft tones. So I am not in favour of neutralising the strong political demands for justice on the part of subjugated people. When one has not been heard for decades, the cry for justice is bound to be loud.

Alona Ferber: This year, you published, The Force of Nonviolence. Does the idea of “radical equality”, which you discuss in the book, have any relevance for the feminist movement?

Judith Butler: My point in the recent book is to suggest that we rethink equality in terms of interdependency. We tend to say that one person should be treated the same as another, and we measure whether or not equality has been achieved by comparing individual cases. But what if the individual – and individualism – is part of the problem? It makes a difference to understand ourselves as living in a world in which we are fundamentally dependent on others, on institutions, on the Earth, and to see that this life depends on a sustaining organisation for various forms of life. If no one escapes that interdependency, then we are equal in a different sense. We are equally dependent, that is, equally social and ecological, and that means we cease to understand ourselves only as demarcated individuals. If trans-exclusionary radical feminists understood themselves as sharing a world with trans people, in a common struggle for equality, freedom from violence, and for social recognition, there would be no more trans-exclusionary radical feminists. But feminism would surely survive as a coalitional practice and vision of solidarity.

Alona Ferber: You have spoken about the backlash against “gender ideology”, and wrote an essay for the New Statesman about it in 2019. Do you see any connection between this and contemporary debates about trans rights?

Judith Butler: It is painful to see that Trump’s position that gender should be defined by biological sex, and that the evangelical and right-wing Catholic effort to purge “gender” from education and public policy accords with the trans-exclusionary radical feminists' return to biological essentialism. It is a sad day when some feminists promote the anti-gender ideology position of the most reactionary forces in our society.

Alona Ferber: What do you think would break this impasse in feminism over trans rights? What would lead to a more constructive debate?

Judith Butler: I suppose a debate, were it possible, would have to reconsider the ways in which the medical determination of sex functions in relation to the lived and historical reality of gender.