#terf ment cw

[coulsonlives]

So ummm, yeah, this person might have made some good posts in the past, but this is NOT okay.

They've also revealed themselves to be a TERF/radfem (their alt blog is balkanradfem).

[pyreshe]

truly wild how many of us were gaslit into believing the world-building in h*rry p*tter was good.

[companionplanting]

We've been debating on how to properly tackle this kind of subject without coming off as ignorant, contradictory, or belittling to others. So if our words come off in that way, please reach out to us and let us know.

With the rampant scene of various mental illnesses being painted as malicious (ASPD, NPD, Schizophrenia, etc.), TERF/SWERF ideology being mainstream as well as on the other side of that same coin of "Alpha" males, it has clearly been shown to us what we had speculated for a while.

People don't want to confront their pain, and blame their trauma on anything but the truth.

I'm gonna go more in depth with this so hear me out.

We had (and still have) gone through a multitude of confronting our trauma, processing it, then eventually having to accept it and move on. It's challenging to say the least. But it's necessary. We have a lot of trauma, so we have had to do this song and dance multiple of times. None of us can say it gets any easier each time, but it has always lead us to getting better.

Each time we are confronted with the same question,

"Why did this happen to me?"

Of course sometimes it goes deeper with other questions, but we always circle back to that same one. A lot of people have asked that, honestly it's not new. We also acknowledge the outside factors that lead to moments of abuse or trauma like systematic oppression of various groups, indoctrination of ideologies, generational trauma, as well as lack of different kinds of support and community. Of course those are explanations, not excuses.

So we then go back to that question after learning what we know about the world and it's harmful systems. "Why me?". What we ultimately came up with was

"It just happened because."

It's anticlimactic and frustrating, we acknowledge that, but true. You can point to all the outside influences, you can dissect people's personhood down to their very core, you can label them with whatever would fit best but none of that is going to answer why it happened to you.

And it won't. But that's okay. There wasn't a grand scheme, it's no one culprit, it's not a big master plan, it's simply just happenstance. You were in the wrong place, at the wrong time, and it's awful, but it had nothing to do with you specifically.

It's easy for us to create a big boogyman to blame our problems. It makes it simpler, easier to digest.

For one example this comes in the form of vilifying people with mental disorders. Maybe it's to excuse their parent's or partner's selfish actions, sudden and aggressive bouts of unexplained violence, or simply neglect in every field.

For TERFs and SWERFs, it's anyone one that doesn't prescribe to their definition of 'womanhood'. Maybe it's to excuse the way past partners would twist and violate their romantic and sensual attractions. Maybe they feel hurt and scared in a patriarchal society, constantly watching and judging. Perhaps even just feeling scared and lost in a world they have very, very little control over.

For 'Alpha' males and their ilk it's to men not prescribing to their definition of 'traditional values'. Maybe it's an excuse to direct sadness and anger that has built up for so long towards society's lessers. Maybe it's an excuse to feel powerful and important in a sea of random unimportance.

I cannot say for sure what these people have been through or desire. Even still it's simply, again, explanations and not actual reasons. But it all goes back to pointing the blame at something, anything to make the world less scary.

The truth, the much more scary truth, is that there is no reason. The world is random, and that includes pain. Those people didn't hurt you because of their mental disorders, their gender, their occupation, none of what that person was.

It happened because.

Of course more awful things happen to various minority groups (LGBTQIA+, disabled people, POC, etc.). Even still, that is again an explanation not a reason.

But there is no one singular monolith you can tear down to make the world freer and happier.

It's just the many complicated and absolutely random layers of the universe.

That's okay, and you will be okay. It makes the world more unpredictable, but you'll find your footing. We're sure of it.

-🖋️, 🌲 & 🍂

[provider-of-pronoun-checks]

hi y’all reminder terfs fuck off I don’t want you here

[butchdykekondraki]

the difference between axel and editor violently posting about things and then niki coming on to talk to people and be reassure is a VAST difference. love it here/pos

don't forget jay fighting with terfs for a day and a half on the old blog because they called him a woman, he called them out by saying that he does infact bodily have a dick, and then they got pissy and the actual quote of "so you just wanted us to call you a woman so you can play the victim card against terfs" was said and jay, the ever-coniving bastard he is, told them, to their face, that they wouldnt have that problem if they were respectful

[alounuitte]

this was put on my dash to drag this person but (uhhhhh needs a cw but idk what. terf rhetoric + all men evil nonsense. abuse/rape ment. idk)

“removing men from kink also removes the abuse” UHHHHHHHHH????? UHHH??????

[the-gayest-sky-kid]

fucking ew the terfs found my post

[izzyliker]

knocked flat on my back by the sheer amount of things to process here

[coulsonlives]

When an artist you really love decides to platform a terf 🥴

[pyreshe]

my hot take of the day is that just bc r.ick r.iordan jumped over the literally under the ground bar of not being as bad as joke ralphing, doesn't mean his work can't or shouldn't be critiqued bc it's got its issues too and so does he.

[meanya]

I never really put up any DNIs on this blog or any of my sideblogs, and now one of my sideblogs posts has been circulating through ✨TERF Tumblr✨ aaaaaaaaaaa 🙃

I mean, it's on me for not putting any DNIs, my blogs are a free-for-all because of that

But... Woooow these blogs man. It's like a car crash I can't look away from.

I mean, it is certainly sobering to be reminded that these people are people, like you or me, who join fandoms and watch shows and all the normal human stuff,,, but wow every TERF post I'm reading as I scroll through their blogs... It makes me so sad

I've been scrolling through the discourses for almost 2 hours now, throwing in my 2 cents here and there, but I gotta say I think my brain has begun to rot

[wish-ful-thinking513]

Yesterday in class, one of my classmates made us cake. There was a few pieces left, and this one guy was going to take two.

I told him I should get one because I’m asexual and I deserve it.

He laughed, said I was right, and gave me the last piece.

[momma-mogai-sphinx]

Don’t interact with my posts if you’re a radfem/TERF or you agree with radfeminism/TERFeminism what the fuck

[johnradams]

She literally rapes a woman and then ends up with a man at the end. that is literally the plot of the book

do you like follow me or something why are you so invested in this lol

[stimmy-fae]

What's a terf/twerf?

TWERF stands for Trans Woman Exclusionary Radical Feminist, someone who claims to be a feminist but excludes trans women from their activism and often actively goes after trans women to smear them. TERF means the same thing, but it omits the W because they also go after trans men, too.

The reason I made that post before was because there’s been a recent upswing of them in the stim community here on Tumblr, making blogs specifically—and I’m saying this in the nicest way possible to keep this blog mostly swear-free—to coddle their transphobic ideas. They’ve also been editing DNI banners made by other people to say “please do interact” which is… literally art theft. 

[jekyll-and-rook]

So, its trans day of remembrance

cw for transphobia; sui ment; TERF ment; and just general bad shit under the cut.

So, this is the first TDOR i've been able to properly be involved in - the first one away from home and the fucking awful environment in that town.

The fact that people are being killed - or being pushed into killing themselves - because they're trans just fucking wrecks me. And I'm not sure if its just because more trans people are out and its more well documented; or its getting worse (i mean- it is getting fucking worse but we'll be ok) but the rates for transphobia and transphobic killings are getting worse.

Holy shit does that scare me.

Ive been in online queer spaces on and off since 2017; ive seen firsthand how TERFS have writhed their way into our spaces, and gotten rid of so much queer history and culture.

Ace rings? what happened to them? (genuinely sad - or maybe im not looking in the right place)

I genuinely thought - around the time that I came out - I wouldn't make it to 18. I thought there'd be no solace in being trans, that no one would or could ever fucking love me.

I'm still here - out of spite and rage - and I wanna try my best for all of my trans siblings who couldn't be who they were. There are so many names - too many names - of trans people who were killed for daring to be who they were. Some of them were still in the fucking closet and they still died.

I'm still here - because I decided to be the elder queer when i got to uni. I decided that fuck it - i'm going to be me and im going to be out and proud. I am extremely fucking lucky that I don't live in an overly conservative county- its unlikely that i'll be killed. I decided to be the person that young trans me needed, and I want to use my shitty experiences and make them into something that young trans people and people who are only just coming out can use.

I'm still here - and to all my trans siblings, especially trans people of colour, I hope you stay and are given the chance to stay. I hope that you all have supportive people in your lives.

I'm still here

And I thought I wouldn't be

And I think I'm still coming to terms with it.