#the invisible orientation: an introduction to asexuality

[corainne]

Due to recent developments I wanted to recommend two books for people who might want to educate themselves and/or read up on Asexuality.

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sonder Decker is a really good primer if you don’t really know anything about the topic, it explains the basics and goes into romantic attraction and sexual activity, talks about common assumption about asexuality and is really catered towards people with no previous knowledge. It’s a decade old now, so it is somewhat dated, but still an excellent start.

Meanwhile Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen talks a lot about the lived experience of asexuals, both as individuals and in relationships, I found it to be very insightful and validating, amd if you want to understand asexuals better I think this might be really helpful

If anyone has other recommendations please feel free to add them, especially fiction books, my bookshelves are severely lacking in that regard

[animefeminist]

Queerplatonic relationships and found family in Buddy Daddies

Spoilers for Buddy Daddies

When Buddy Daddies first aired, many anime fans described it as “the gay version of Spy X Family” for its similarities in depicting two adults (in this case, two male assassins) adopting a child for practical reasons to create an unconventional, but unexpectedly loving family. These comparisons largely dried up when it became clear that the show was not depicting a romantic relationship between the two male leads—not even to queerbait or ship-tease them. Despite the lack of a love story between the protagonists, however, Buddy Daddies can still be read as a queer series. While queer relationships in mainstream media are often defined by romantic and sexual attraction, Buddy Daddies stands out because it examines queerplatonic relationships, which is rarely depicted even in LGBTQIA+ storytelling.  

Within aromantic and asexual communities, a queerplatonic relationship (QPR) is defined as an intimate committed relationship which is not romantic in nature. For many aro/ace folks who experience little to no romantic and/or sexual attraction, queerplatonic relationships involve a level of commitment and emotional intimacy that appears similar to conventional romantic relationships. As Julie Sondra Decker wrote in The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality, a QPR “looks indistinguishable from romance when outside the equation,” but should not be “assigned a romantic status if participants say it is not romantic.”  Based on this definition, Kazuki and Rei’s relationship can be interpreted as a QPR, having a deep and meaningful relationship without the specific elements of romantic and/or sexual intimacy.  

Read it at Anime Feminist!

[asexualite]

📓Livres

🇫🇷 En français

Asexuelle - Anna Mangeot (Editions Larousse, 2024)

Post-romantique - Aline Laurent-Mayard (Editions JC Lattès, 2024)

Désirer autrement - Alain Héril (Éditions Leduc, 2023)

La Révolution du No Sex, petit traité d'asexualité et d'abstinence - Magali Croset-Calisto (Editions de l'Observatoire, 2023)

Asexualité : quand le sexe n'est pas un sujet - Véronique Lopez (Books on Demand, 2023)

Asexualité, comprendre l'orientation invisible - Julie Sondra Decker (Améthyste éditions, 2021)

🇬🇧 En anglais

The Invisible Orientation, an introduction to asexuality - Julie Sondra Decker

Ace, What asexuality reveals about desire, society, and the meaning of sex - Angela Chen

Ace and Pround, An Asexual Anthology - A.K.Andrews

Asexuality and Sexual Normativity, An Anthology - Mark Carrigan, Kristina Gupta, Todd Morrison, 2014

[rigil-kentauris]

plugged in all the books ive read into story graph the first book it puts on my recommendations is the invisible orientation an introduction to asexuality

[booksandwords]

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker

Read time: 22 Days (intermittent) Rating: 2.5/5 stars

The quote: If it does fit you, welcome! Asexual communities are very diverse and friendly in many places, and most asexual people have a confusing and frustrating story just like you might. Here’s hoping you have a smooth transition into understanding your issues and navigating the world without having to feel inferior or left out or isolated anymore.

I want to start with want to say that I think in the hands of the right ace at the right time, I could see this being downright empowering. There is some sound advice for newbies in here. It is a half-decent reference for a 20-something who wants something more formal than the forums blogs and videos. It could do some truly wonderful things for the lives of aces if given to the right support people too. Think parents, caregivers, siblings, and maybe partners who don't know much about asexuality and want information.

I'm glad I finally got around to reading The Invisible Orientation, even if at 7 years old it book is aging now. That feeling of datedness and some problematic advice, among some other things, contribute to my rating this a 2.5-star book in this day and age. I was disappointed in the section on disrespectful confrontations the option to just politely walk away from the badgering person regardless of their importance to you. Removing yourself from the situation was not included. It should have been, it is an acceptable and self-preserving response that will be crucial for some aces (especially young ones). Some of what was advised were full-on goading the conversation partner. The list of scholarly material in the resources was a welcome surprise. Academia always has interesting takes on sex and gender. It does cover a variety of topics like asexual presentation (the black ring), aspec representation in media (including that horrendous House M.D. episode), the differential between sexual attraction and drive, "corrective" rape, alternatives to sex and knowing ones limits.

To me, The Invisible Orientation is not the most readable work. It has taken me weeks to read it. It feels like it had a slightly confused audience. Like the audience it was trying to hit was too broad. I can see some justification for that potentially disorganised audience there are relatively few aspecs in the world. The book is divided up into an introduction and six parts. Part one: Asexuality 101; Part two: Asexual experiences; Part three: The many myths of Asexuality; Part four: If you are Asexual (or think you might be); Part five: If someone you know is Asexual (or might be); Part six: Other resources. I quite like the formatting. Text boxes for quotes and bold on important lines to hammer home the necessary points. It does reiterate those points well. Firmly reminding that it is not a choice aspecs were born this way. The style in which Part four is written is smart it is stylised as Bingo card. Misunderstood groups use them to show how often they hear the same arguments, with every item on the card representing a misunderstanding or an inappropriate comment.. I'm not going to add a list of quotes to this one but I will share some from my kindle highlights.

Out of respect, I will list the contributors to the book they are given in the resources section of the book but I feel they deserved better. Quite a few were tied to The Asexual Agenda on WordPress, I'll list the tumblrs because that is a particularly popular site for aces. • Andrew Hinderlitter • Audacious Ace • Aydan Selby • Dallas Bryson • Fiish @apollyptica • ILY • Jo Qualmann • Kaz • Laura @ace-muslim • M. Leclerc • Mary Kame Ginoza • Queenie @queenieofaces • Rebecca @4seiji • Sciatrix • Tom • Tristan Miller

Read for Dymocks 2022 Reading Challenge. Filling the prompt: "Inspiring Change" This is mostly inspiring change in those who know aspecs. Though there is a degree of change inspired in aspecs themselves.

[life-of-an-asexual]

Asexual Non-Fiction

Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen

An engaging exploration of what it means to be asexual in a world that's obsessed with sexual attraction, and what we can all learn about desire and identity by using an ace lens to see the world. Through interviews, cultural criticism, and memoir, ACE invites all readers to consider big-picture issues through the lens of asexuality, because every place that sexuality touches our world, asexuality does too.

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker

In The Invisible Orientation, Julie Sondra Decker outlines what asexuality is, counters misconceptions, provides resources, and puts asexual people's experiences in context as they move through a very sexualized world. It includes information for asexual people to help understand their orientation and what it means for their relationships, as well as tips and facts for those who want to understand their asexual friends and loved ones.

How to Be Ace: A Memoir of Growing Up Asexual by Rebecca Burgess

In this brave, hilarious and empowering graphic memoir, we follow Rebecca as they navigate a culture obsessed with sex—from being bullied at school and trying to fit in with friends, to forcing themself into relationships and experiencing anxiety and OCD—before coming to understand and embrace their asexual identity.

A Quick & Easy Guide to Asexuality by Molly Mulldoon and Will Hernandez

Writer Molly Muldoon and cartoonist Will Hernandez, both in the ace community, are here to shed light on society’s misconceptions of asexuality and what being ace is really like. This book is for anyone who wants to learn about asexuality, and for Ace people themselves, to validate their experiences. Asexuality is a real identity and it’s time the world recognizes it. Here’s to being invisible no more! 

Asexualities: Feminist and Queer Perspectives edited by Karli June Cerankowski and Megan Milks

As the first book-length collection of critical essays ever produced on the topic of asexuality, this book serves as a foundational text in a growing field of study. It also aims to reshape the directions of feminist and queer studies, and to radically alter popular conceptions of sex and desire. Including units addressing theories of asexual orientation; the politics of asexuality; asexuality in media culture; masculinity and asexuality; health, disability, and medicalization; and asexual literary theory, Asexualities will be of interest to scholars and students in sexuality, gender, sociology, cultural studies, disability studies, and media culture.

Refusing Compulsory Sexuality: A Black Asexual Lens on Our Sex-Obsessed Culture by Sherronda J. Brown

In this exploration of what it means to be Black and asexual in America today, Sherronda J. Brown offers new perspectives on asexuality. She takes an incisive look at how anti-Blackness, white supremacy, patriarchy, heteronormativity, and capitalism enact harm against asexual people, contextualizing acephobia within a racial framework in the first book of its kind. A necessary and unapologetic reclamation, Refusing Compulsory Sexuality is smart, timely, and an essential read for asexuals, aromantics, queer readers, and anyone looking to better understand sexual politics in America.

I Am Ace: Advice on Living Your Best Asexual Life by Cody Daigle-Orians

Within these pages lie all the advice you need as a questioning ace teen. Tackling everything from what asexuality is, the asexual spectrum and tips on coming out, to intimacy, relationships, acephobia and finding joy, this guide will help you better understand your asexual identity alongside deeply relatable anecdotes drawn from Cody's personal experience. Whether you are ace, demi, gray-ace or not sure yet, this book will give you the courage and confidence to embrace your authentic self and live your best ace life.

Ace Voices: What it Means to Be Asexual, Aromantic, Demi or Grey-Ace by Eris Young

Drawing upon interviews with a wide range of people across the asexual spectrum, Eris Young is here to take you on an empowering, enriching journey through the rich multitudes of asexual life. With chapters spanning everything from dating, relationships and sex, to mental and emotional health, family, community and joy, the inspirational stories and personal experiences within these pages speak to aces living and loving in unique ways. Find support amongst the diverse narratives of aces sex-repulsed and sex-favourable, alongside voices exploring what it means to be black and ace, to be queer and ace, or ace and multi-partnered - and use it as a springboard for your own ace growth.

Asexual Erotics: Intimate Readings of Compulsory Sexuality by Ela Przybylo

Through a wide-ranging analysis of pivotal queer, feminist, and anti-racist movements; television and film; art and photography; and fiction, nonfiction, and theoretical texts, each chapter explores asexual erotics and demonstrates how asexuality has been vital to the formulation of intimate ways of knowing and being. Asexual Erotics assembles a compendium of asexual possibilities that speaks against the centralization of sex and sexuality, asking that we consider the ways in which compulsory sexuality is detrimental not only to asexual and nonsexual people but to all.

Ace Notes by Michele Kirichanskaya

As an ace or questioning person in an oh-so-allo world, you're probably in desperate need of a cheat sheet. Covering everything from coming out, explaining asexuality and understanding different types of attraction, to marriage, relationships, sex, consent, gatekeeping, religion, ace culture and more, this is the ultimate arsenal for whatever the allo world throws at you.

Ace and Aro Journeys: A Guide to Embracing Your Asexual or Aromantic Identity by The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project

Join the The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project (TAAAP) for a deep dive into the process of discovering and embracing your ace and aro identities. Empower yourself to explore the nuances of your identity, find and develop support networks, explore different kinds of partnership, come out to your communities and find real joy within. Combining a rigorous exploration of identity and sexuality models with hundreds of candid and poignant testimonials - this companion vouches for your personal truth, wherever you lie on the aspec spectrum.

Sounds Fake But Okay: An Asexual and Aromantic Perspective on Love, Relationships, Sex, and Pretty Much Anything Else by Sarah Costello and Kayla Kaszyca

Drawing on Sarah and Kayla's personal stories, and those of aspec friends all over the world, prepare to explore your microlabels, investigate different models of partnership, delve into the intersection of gender norms and compulsory sexuality and reconsider the meaning of sex - when allosexual attraction is out of the equation.

[intangibel]

Happy International Asexuality Day!!

💚💜♠️ sending so much love to any tumblr folk who are on the asexual spectrum like me &/or are aroace ♠️💜💚

♠️What is Asexuality?♠️

An Asexual is a person who rarely or never experiences sexual attraction. They are not drawn to people sexually and do not feel compelled to act on attraction to others in a sexual way. Asexuality does not preclude you from experiencing other types of attraction (including romantic attraction) to people of the same or different gender to yourself, or define whether you want to be in a committed relationship.

💜Why is awareness important? 💜

An absence of attraction is much harder to define than a presence; and lack of awareness means many people have no idea that there are words to describe their experiences or others who feel the same. While the term has been in common use since the 1960s, many people are well over the age of 25 when they first hear the word - especially if they experience romantic attraction to the opposite gender and haven’t had much exposure to the broader LGBTIQAP+ community. When you’re told all of your life that romantic feelings about someone are inextricably linked to sexual attraction it can be confusing when your experiences don’t seem to match. It can also be hard to tell what is hyperbole and what are thoughts that allosexual (the opposite of asexual) people have the intention of doing?

There is are strong social and cultural messages which use the development of sexual thoughts, sexual relationships and having children as markers of age and maturity. It can be difficult to express a lack of sexual desire without being invalidated or challenged by the people around you or your own built in expectation that sex is fundamental to being human. Are you medically or psychologically unwell? Are you repressed? Broken? Prudish? A late bloomer? Will this “all make sense” when I meet “the right person”?

While most identities on the LGBTIQAP+ spectrum are becoming better protected from medicalisation and psychiatric diagnosis - Asexuality has a long way to go.

It is still very common for people who are questioning or on the Asexuality spectrum to be offered medical testing and treatment aimed at curing their Asexuality. Most GPs still routinely recommend blood tests to check hormone levels, assessment for depression or other mental illnesses, recommend counselling or prescribe medication to boost libido.

.

♠️Celibacy Vs Asexuality♠️

Celibacy is like being on a diet. You still want to have sex and have sexual thoughts about others but are choosing not to act on them at that time. Whether it’s based on your beliefs or availability of a suitable partner varies but that desire is still present even if intentionally suppressed.

Asexuality is like not experiencing hunger because you’re already eaten enough. You don’t have sexual thoughts about others or feel compelled to act on them.

💜Attraction Vs Libido💜

Libido is typically the amount that you think about sex and how much you want to engage in sexual activities either partnered or solo. Libido is on a spectrum for people of all sexual orientations. They normally range from high to low. Libido can fluctuate and change over the lifespan and it can be influenced by hormone levels as well as some medications.

Attraction is usually whether your libido is directed at a particular person or type of person. Attraction can also be seen as the extent to which you want to act on sexual thoughts about a particular person.

Asexual people can and do experience a range of libidos from high to low. However they do not experience sexual attraction, therefore are less likely to feel compelled to act on it and rarely associate it with a specific person.

♠️Attitudes towards Sex♠️

Asexuality is a wide spectrum, individual wants and needs vary but all are valid and normal.

In broad terms: Some asexuals are sex favourable, they may not experience sexual attraction but still get pleasure out doing sexual intimate acts with others. Some asexuals are ambivalent towards sex, it’s something they can take or leave. Some asexuals are completely or partially repelled by the idea of personally participating in sexual activity with a partner.

Resources:

Asexuality Visability & Education Network (AVEN) www.Asexuality.org

‘Finding Asexuality in the Archives’ by Michael Waters (Article on the history of Asexuality)

‘Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex’ by Angela Chen (Nonfiction book) http://www.angelachen.org/ace.html

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker (Nonfiction Book)

A-Ok Podcast (30-60 min interviews with people on the Asexual &/or Aromantic Spectrums) https://www.aokpod.com

There are a lot of fictional books for adults and teens with asexual characters & if anyone is interested I can provide links 😊

[creaturebeeing]

Introduction

Image Description One: A Digital Drawing of the black silhouette of a corvid standing sideways facing to the left with its head facing the right, surrounded by a circle border of the original xenogender flag on a white background. End of Description.

Image Description Two: A Digital Drawing of an arrow facing to the right with a black border with internal borders on the body and triangle in white separating the two parts. An arospec flag is in the white border of the rectangle meeting the black separating border and the aromantic flag in the white border of the triangle meeting the black separating border. The image is on a white background. End of Description.

Image Description Three: A Digital Drawing of the black silhouette of a corvid facing to the front slightly tilted to the right. Its head is facing the right with an open beak in a smile with its wings and tail spread out and up, white lines in between the head and the left wing and connecting the right wing to the body. Its balanced on the right leg while the left is in the air facing to the left. The corvid is surrounded by a circle border of a recolored variant of the xenogender flag on a white background. End of Description.

Made a New Icon :^)

Link to the Recolored Xenogender Flag Used:

Multi-Named, Multi-Pronoun Individual who makes digital + traditional art, animation, poetry + fictional stories

Main Names

Theo

Thei

E

Daniel

Main Pronouns

He/Him

It/Its

They/Them

Ze/Zeir

Ey/Em

BYF (Before You Interact)

(Primarily) White

Singlet

(Unalined) Christian

Neurodivergent

Therian

Multigendered

Complex Romantic Orientation

Asexual + Quoisexual

I use +s instead of &/and (Unless in image descriptions + written stories)

I will put the number and write out the number in parentheses alongside

I have issues with tone, and doubt personal judgement on tone quite often, most posts + asks will be read as genuine unless specified otherwise

I use the words queer, transsexual, dyke + fag in reference to myself

I have multiple sideblogs

Moral + Political

Transmisogyny, Transandrophobia, Transmultiphobia, + Exorsexism are all real, inter-connected, + need to be talked about

Transphobia is directly tied to Intersexism

Intersexism needs to be talked about in general + alongside all forms of transphobia

Aphobia + Anti-Polyam rhetoric is deeply ingrained + enforced in society but is ultimately ignored by the larger populace/ seen as less severe as other prejudices

There are many forms of racism + all are different but enforce a belief of 'others are bad/ not ok'

All forms of racism need to be talked about + dissected

Racism is taught

Contradictory queer labels are fine

There is no way one can 'get rid of' religion w/o some form of racism/ genocide

Using religion to justify hatred + othering people is despicaple

Queer Religious folk are not enemies regardless of anything else

There are no inherently evil disorders/ disabilities

Neither Visible/ Invisible disabilities are treated better in society, the forms of abliesm faced are different

Fatphobia is very real + shouldn't be excused for any reason

Classism is enforced + Homelessness can affect anyone

Judgement of others is bad

Using beauty as a metric of acceptability is flawed + will hurt others regardless of intent

Body shaming of any sort is inexcusable

Suicide Baiting + other forms of harassment wishing harm upon another by them/ you/ s/o else of any sort is inexcusable

Fiction does not equal reality + Fiction affects reality in the same amount

Sex work is real work + should have a union

All work should have a union

Antisemitism is real + is an under-talked/ under-stated problem especially within leftist spaces

Ageism is real + attacks/ denies the autonomy of the target

All Bigotry is incidious

Everyone is taught bigotry of some form + everyone needs to unlearn bigotry

This is not an exhaustive list of my viewpoints by any means + will be edited in the near future w/ more clarity + definition/ reduced to main viewpoints

Tags

Mine (Original Post)

Reblog

TW _ (Possible Triggers)

Art

Any relevant Tags

What I Make + Consume

Whump

RPF (Real Person Fiction)

SCP (Secure Contain Protect)

Xenogenders

Picrews

FanFiction, FanArt + FanEdits

Original Stories + Original Art

Main Fandoms

TOH (The Owl House)

Amphibia

The Ghost and Molly McGee

ROTTMNT (Rise of the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles) + TMNT (Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles)

Watcher Content + Related Buzzfeed Content i.e. BUN (Buzzfeed Unsolved), Worth it + Test Friends

Gravity Falls

Pokemon

Yugioh

MHA (My Hero Academy)

Sailor Moon

Treasure Island 1988 Kievnack Films

Treasure Planet

HLVRAI

A:TLA (Avatar: The Last Airbender), LoK (Legends of Korra) + Related Media

WoC (World of Cars)

Httyd (How to Train Your Dragon) DreamWorks Variant + Original Books

This may be Revised

I hope this is adequate for the moment :^)

[lizardgoats]

[S]ome asexual fans tend to appreciate television shows and other media works that center around characters who aren’t consistently motivated by sex or are rumored to be asexual. Some examples at the time of this writing are the television shows The Big Bang Theory, Sherlock, and Doctor Who.

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality, by Julie Sondra Decker

[hoolequinn]

I was tagged by @geekymoviemom ! 😀

Three ships:

Steve/Tony (Marvel)

Spock/McCoy (Star Trek)

Kirk/Spock/McCoy (Star Trek)

First ever ship:

Spock/Uhura (Star Trek)

Last song:

I Don’t Care Anymore - Phil Collins

Last film:

The Nightmare Before Christmas (at home)

Lightyear (in theaters)

Currently reading:

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

Currently watching:

Avengers Assemble (the animated series!)

Currently consuming:

Breakfast!

Currently craving:

I don’t think I’m craving anything at the moment lol

I tag @airlocksandaviaries, @itsmaybitheway, @perlmutt-perl, and @valenicedavereaux if you want to, no pressure! :)

[imagine-your-love-story]

Hi! First of all, I hope you're having a lovely day! Second of all, in one of your recent replies to an anon you mentioned a book written by an assxual, aromantic woman that was incredibly informational and I was wondering if by chance, you remember the name of it and the author? If it's not too much trouble ofc! If you don't know, that's totally fine too, but I figured it was worth asking. 💗

Hello darling!! No trouble at all! :)

It's The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker.

It's super comprehensive, relatable, and easy to read. Before reading her book, I'd done a little research online and joined some forums, but Decker's explanation of the spectrum was A+ and really helped me figure out if I was even on the spectrum at all, let alone where I felt most comfortable.

She has this really down-to-earth, no bullshit way of looking at asexuality and how it fits into everyday life that's so refreshing.

Whenever I hear someone questioning whether or not they're asexual, I always recommend this book because it was a fantastic read and it really helped clear away any cobwebs for me! :)

[bookcub]

114!

one of the few non fiction books I read this year.

the invisible orientation is a good overview and introduction to asexuality, which is what it claims to be. I found it to be drier then I like my nonfiction and at times incredibly repetitive, however I do think it is a good recommendation for those who are new to learning about asexuality. some of the terms were a little out dated due to how quickly queer language changes. I thought it was an interesting choice to write about the debate about aces being included in the queer community, however as someone who firmly believes all aspec people are queer, I did not enjoy when she referred to lgbt aces separate than aces.

basically an extensive Ted talk with a long list of resources I plan to explore I the future.

send me a number between 1-114!!

[extra-magichours]

I loved The Invisible Orientation by Julie Sondra Decker. It describes what asexuality is and isn’t and explains asexual experiences and myths. In her introduction, Julie writes:

“This book is for people who are on the asexual spectrum, people who think  they might be asexual, friends and family and partners of people who have come out as asexual, curious parties, and those looking for information on the subject for their school papers, sexuality studies, and alternative sexuality sources.

And it’s for people who think asexuality doesn’t exist.”

Happy Asexual Awareness Week!

[bibliophilicwitch]

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker [nonfiction; read]

Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen [nonfiction]

Let's Talk About Love by Claire Kann [YA romance; read]

Eliza and Her Monsters by Francesca Zappia [YA contemporary; read]

Upside Down by NR Walker [adult romance; read]

Play It Again by Aidan Wayne [adult romance; read]

Loveless by Alice Oseman [YA contemporary]

Coffee Cake by Michaela Grey [adult romance]

Perfect Rhythm by Jae [adult romance; read]

Elatsoa by Darcie Little Badger [YA fantasy; read]

The Perfect Assassin by KA Doore [adult fantasy]

How to Be a Normal Person by TJ Klune [adult romance]

Tash Hearts Tolstoy by Kathryn Ormsbee [YA romance; read]

Beneath the Citadel by Destiny Soria [YA fantasy]

Beyond the Black Door by AM Strickland [YA fantasy]

In the Ravenous Dark by AM Strickland [NA fantasy]

From Under the Mountain by CM Spivey [fantasy; currently not in print]

Soft on Soft by Mina Waheed [romance; currently not in print]

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Hi! I wonder if you could recommend some theory-leaning books on aspec identities? Thanks!

I'm aware of two books that are about ace identities/ace theory:

Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julia Sondra Decker

I haven't read them but they're both supposed to be really good. Angela Chen's book is more recent.

I'm not aware of any books on aro theory unfortunately. The best resources though for aro identities though is probably the Aromantic Wiki and the LGBTA Wiki.

All the best!

[asexual-library]

Asexual Nonfiction

Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen

How To Be Ace: A Memoir of Growing Up Asexual by Rebecca Burgess

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker

(will keep updating)