My mom’s death date is in 8 days. I am. Going to get through it but i’m just. Whew. Yeah. I miss her a lot. Probably another reason why i’m not doing the best rn. But i will get through it and be gentle with myself about it.
In 2024 i’m going to start treating myself better. It’s what my mom would have wanted. It’s what I want too.
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"I'm remembering the busts in the bars in Canada. Packed in the police vans, all the Saturday-night butches giggled and tried to fluff p their hair and switch clothing so they could get thrown in the tank with the feminine women- said it would be like "dyin' and going' to heaven."
We never switched clothing. Neither did our drag queen sisters. We knew, and so did you, what was coming. We needed our sleeves rolled up, our hair sliked back, to live through it. Our hands were cuffed tight behind our backs. Yours were cuffed in front. You loosened my tie, unbuttoned my collar, and touched my face. I saw the pain and fear for me in your face, and I whispered it would be all right. We knew it wouldn't be.
I never told you what they did to us down there - queens in one tank, stone butches in the next- but you knew. One at a time they would drag our brothers out of the cells, slapping and punching them locking the bars behind them fast in case we lost control and tried to stop them- as if we could.
They'd handcuff a brother's wrists to his ankles or chain him, face against the bars. They made us watch.
Sometimes we'd catch the eyes of the terrorized victim, or the soon-to-be, caught in the vise of torture, and we'd say gently, "I'm with you, honey, look at me, stay with me, we'll take you home."
We never cried in front of the cops. We knew we were next.
The next time the cell door opens it will be me they drag out and chain spread eagled to the bars.
Did I survive? I guess I did. But only because I knew I might get home to you.
They let us out, one at a time on Monday morning. No charges. Too late to call in sick to work, no money, hitchhiking, crossing the border on foot, in rumpled clothes, bloody, needing a shower, hurt, scared.
I knew you'd be home if I could get there.
You ran a bath for me with sweet-smelling bubbles. You always laid out a fresh pair fo white BVDs and a t-shirt for me and left me alone to wash off the first layer of shame.
I remember it was always the same. I would put on the briefs, and then I'd just get the t-shirt over my head and you would find some reason to come into the bathroom, to get something or put something away. In a glance you would memorize the wounds on my body like a road map- the gashes, bruises, cigarette burns.
Later, in bed, you held me gently, touching me everywhere, the tenderest touches reserved for the places I was hurt, knowing each and every sore place- inside and out.
You didn't flirt with me right away, knowing I wasn't feeling confident enough to be sexy. But later you coaxed my pride back out again, showing me how much you wanted me. You knew melting the stone again would take you weeks."
-”Letter to a fifties femme from a stone butch" Leslie Feinberg, The Persistent Desire, (Edited by Joan Nestle) (1992)
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MOONSTONE
prey on my downfall like a starving beast
you kick me while I'm down and tell me it's my fault for being underfoot
when it's a one way street and I'm too small to see
teeth on my throat, row after row after row of pointed bone sinking into my skin
i'd scream if it would make you let up
but every strangled whimper and groan strains its way out of my mouth and shoots its intoxicating graze down your spine
and oh, you've made me bleed
that's fine, of course it is
why on earth would i deny you a sweet metallic tang on your sweet melodic tongue?
salt on my cheeks and a grin on your face
you never ask, you only fucking take
i'm dizzy and lightheaded, a scattering of stars in my eyes
millions of miles away from me
distant lights i know are already dead
with the way you're ripping my skin apart, i wouldn't be surprised if i joined them
i can't feel my legs anymore
that's probably for the best, i mean
if i could, there's no doubt i'd be screaming
neither of us want that
i'd prefer you let me keep my tongue, so i'll keep my ugly little mouth nice and shut
just the way it was meant to be
distant lights i know are already dead
in such beautiful colors
red and yellow and blue and
white.
there's a white light now
it's so much larger than all of the rest and it doesn't burn like they do
you'd be so angry if it took me away from you
but this isn't a tunnel, it's a pit
plummeting down and i can't control my fall
there's blood rushing to my head and out of my body
and the stars are brighter
and brighter
and brighter
and they're gone
stars and moonstone and blood
and quiet
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Its absolutely no coincidence that the people being sent baseless sexual assault accusations against predstrogen have, from what I've seen, been young transmascs.
The terfs behind the harassment campaign are so brazenly trying to prey on anybody they reckon might have any transmisogynist tendencies and are trying to use that to sow discord in the trans community. They see transmasculine people as potential avenues for recruitment (and eventual detransition) and it's extremely fucking important that the people being sent these anons do not fall headfirst for the bait. They want you to go 'uh oh, guess trans women are sex pests after all' and that to stick with you and fester, and turn that seed of prejudice into the continued harm of transfem people.
If you want to be a meaningful ally to transfem people right now you have to be vigilant for this shit, and correct it where you see it. If you think being used as an angle of recruitment by bigoted harassment is gross, imagine how it would feel to be the damn focus of the harassment.
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