#this is a personal frustration

[skzhua]

Just wondering if i could be added to the min ho x reader tAglist! :)

Taking this as an opportunity to tell everyone that if you want to be in the taglist, go fill out the form in my bio please. I asked this in my masterlist already thinking people would do that but I get more asked on tumblr than in my google form. I get too many notifications so I would most likely miss it if you ask me on here. Y'all have no idea how much of a struggle it is to keep up when all the demands are scattered on so many posts or places in tumblr, it's hard to keep track with who I've already added or not.

(And of course I'll add you my dear, sorry I used your ask to rant 😭 Thank you for enjoying my work <3)

[kuuhaiyu]

i really can't emphasize how heartbreaking it is that the recent harassment campaign against @/90-ghost (among others; see: 1, 2, 3) has led to well-meaning people telling others not to listen to him. he is one of the most visible survivors of the genocide here on tumblr. his entire journey of escape is so well documented! and yet, it only took a few people confidently pointing fingers to create an entire witch hunt accusing him and other palestinians of being disreputable scammers and liars.

i can't help but feel like the reason why people were SO eager to believe those accusations, is because it was uncomfortable to see posts from palestinians every day asking for our time, attention, money, and support; so when someone presented the perfect excuse to ignore all those posts and asks while also taking the high ground, people just LEAPED onto it. they wanted to believe it, because it would be more comfortable.

honestly, i understand feeling overwhelmed by bad news, by the number of asks and messages in your inbox, and so on and so forth. i understand needing to set boundaries for yourself so you don't get burned out. i think this is really when you have to have a set of principles to fall back on, even when you're tired, uncomfortable, angry, and/or sad. so here's the one i suggest, which has been working for me best: don't make your discomfort with this situation into someone else's problem, and for god's sake don't make it a public problem.

if you hate seeing fundraiser posts or news about gaza, i can't emphasize this enough, JUST MOVE ON. KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT AND SCROLL PAST! all you have to do is absolutely nothing. which is what you were doing anyway, so it shouldn't be hard. if you don't have the heart to read, or reblog, or share, or donate, or support in other ways, at the very least, don't obstruct the efforts of people who ARE trying to make a difference. this is, quite literally, the least you can do.

[hinamie]

9 / 266

[stuckinapril]

guys i understand that i'm sounding like a broken record at this point, but notes on a fundraiser mean nothing if they don't translate into actual, tangible help for the family. my latest post about hani's fundraiser broke 4k notes, yet somehow we only managed to rack up a thousand today. that is too little. that literally means only 1/4th, at best, donated to the fundraiser. please donate as well as reblog. if you only reblog without so much as considering donating pocket change to the fundraiser, that puts into question if you care or if you're simply sharing it to absolve yourself of guilt. i understand some people genuinely can't afford it, but if you can please donate - however it may be. it helps. it makes a difference.

[juicedaloe]

original by @ crawfishcomic below cut

[stompandhollar]

reminding everyone that the in-universe problem with The Doctor and The Master isn’t “ooo horrible nasty enemies who hate each other and don’t get along and fight all the time but are also in love”

the problem is that they get along. the problem is that they can’t stop themselves from falling naturally into a rhythm of riffing off one another and enjoying the other’s company. THAT is the problem. the problem is that it works and that’s the thing that caused all their issues. they like one another. they just click.

[thebibliosphere]

I love having nieces and nephews under the age of four. Family dinner used to start at 6 p.m., and I'd be there until 9 or 10 p.m.

Now dinner is at 4 p.m. sharp, and everyone has to leave by 7 p.m. MAX to avoid disrupting bedtime, and my chronically ill, fatigued ass is like, say no more. I'm gone. I'm back in my bed by 8 with my dog and my safe foods and something quiet on the tv so I can recover.

Amazing. Incredible. No notes. Pass the potato chips and electrolytes.

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Heh...Literally nothing personal, kid.

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[crumb-crumblet-s-crumbington]

[castielsprostate]

once again i ask of you to please stop looking towards celebrities and influencers for political commentary and their takes on catastrophic and inhumane world events and to instead focus your attention on experts, journalists and world leaders

[jewreallythinkthat]

I've not seen a single person (other than my friend who has ties to Ukraine) talk about the fact Russia fucking killed 51 Ukrainians in an airstrike today (number from BBC) along with injuring 271 others. The airstrike also partially hit a hospital. Did it trend on Tumblr? No. Did a single person acknowledge Russia is literally an imperialist state with expansionist tendancies? No.

The war in Ukraine and attempted annihilation of Ukraine by Russia is still happening and once again the world (especially self proclaimed anti-war and anti-racists) are silent. It shouldn't be like this. I hate that people are not anti war when it doesn't make them look morally superior and hide their bigoted tendancies.

No Jews, No News.

[theotterpenguin]

it’s always “let aang swear” or “let zuko swear” but y’all are missing out on the comedic potential of katara being the one who has the dirtiest mouth. she swears like a sailor but is just better at hiding it than everyone else because she doesn't want to influence aang or toph, and tries to keep up pretenses of being proper.

after all the time they spent fighting each other as enemies and sparring as friends, zuko’s the only one that knows this about her but no one believes him.

(for those who question where katara could possibly learn to curse, i ask - have you ever assisted women through childbirth in a world where epidurals don't exist? katara has. like c'mon. she knows all the swear words).

[notbecauseofvictories]

I think the most terrifying part of any relationship is the ongoing awareness that you are going to have to trust someone when they appear to like or love you. There is no objective way to check your status with someone, no app that will say "they like you overall but are mad at you right now, specifically for x or y or a vague z thing that you didn't even clock when it was happening. But! if you send them a nice card and small gift, they will forget about it and return to base level affection"

instead, you have to just....keep having a relationship with that person, doing big and small things with or for them, and praying that you will both be brave and evolved enough to raise x/y/z as an issue if it genuinely is problem.

Mortifying ordeal of being known, down to your very gluons, and disliked.

[a-polite-melody]

Considering that there’s another post going around that lands on this conclusion, I think it deserves its own succinct post:

When transmascs share instances of positivity to remind each other that the way we are treated isn’t all bad, it’s then used as proof of the whole of transmasc experiences being this way, and that transmascs are not oppressed as a whole.

When transmascs share instances of harm done to transmascs to raise awareness that transmascs are harmed directly within our societies, it’s used as proof that we are taking up too much room in conversations because the harm we face “isn’t bad enough”.

When transmascs share instances of outright murder of members of our community to show that no, transmasc issues are not somehow “lesser” because “we aren’t dying” because we are dying, it’s used as proof that we are trauma dumping and trying to make other people feel sorry for us—look at these AFABs being whiny and hysterical and trying to portray themselves as victims. Or that it isn’t specific enough to us so we should shut up and let other people speak for us.

Transmascs cannot speak about our experiences without being touted as an example of why transmascs as a whole should shut up.

This is erasure.

[uncanny-tranny]

I recently had to do a project in one of my psych classes, and man, I knew that CBT was used for every little thing, but seeing over and over, "do CBT! CBT is the best for every mental illness!" was so jarring. I'm absolutely biased because of my own experiences, but I just don't think it's as universal a treatment model as it's touted.

If you didn't benefit from CBT, it's not because you're lazy or didn't try hard enough or lacked intelligence or foresight into your own needs. Frankly, it's a therapy model that (I think) shouldn't be the only readily-accessible model and among the only therapy models covered by insurance. Some of us should not be treated in a CBT model and that's okay. It's not a sign of poor character or unreasonable demands, and if you don't think it's a model that works for you, then it's your right to express that!

[notaplaceofhonour]

what is up with goyim talking about “tone” when you say something they did/said is antisemitic?

sometimes it’s “stop tone policing!” and sometimes it’s “oh maybe my tone was off” but I keep having people make it about tone, and I’m completely baffled by that.

genuinely I do not know how people are getting from point A to B here; what about “this narrative/trope/libel harms Jews” makes you think we’re criticizing your “tone”? is that what goyim think antisemitism is? a rude “tone”??