bro nobody ever talks about the duality of dating oikawa tooru because yes he is loving and caring and cutely nerdy and will dote over you and hold you in highest esteem but he will also be insecure and prideful and want to always prove something and be stubborn on this
yes he would be the most attentive and always try to do cutesy thoughtful gestures and give warm hugs but he would also most likely dislike being apart from you for long periods of time and always compare himself to other people
yes he would absolutely do anything he could to make you feel loved and appreciated but he will also be super emotional at times and find it difficult to consider your feelings if he's really toughing something out
like with any relationship, there are always going to be pros and cons, but I assure you that tooru is definitely one of the bfs who would listen to anything you have to say and better himself <3
I was mildly complaining about how the characters in this series are 16 and how I would not trust them with military decisions and then my sister in law says, "Could you imagine [your nephew] leading a military?" and that was how it clicked for me that my nephew is the same age as these protagonists.
I'm getting so sick of major female characters in historical media being incredibly feisty, outspoken and public defenders of women's rights with little to no realistic repercussions. Yes it feels like pandering, yes it's unrealistic and takes me out of the story, yes the dialogue almost always rings false - but beyond all that I think it does such a disservice to the women who lived during those periods. I'm not embarrassed of the women in history who didn't use every chance they had to Stick It To The Man. I'm not ashamed of women who were resigned to or enjoyed their lot in life. They weren't letting the side down by not having and representing modern gender ideals. It says a lot about how you view average ordinary women if the idea of one of your main characters behaving like one makes them seem lame and uninteresting to you.
Bird identification is so fucked up in a really fun way you can’t understand until you get into it. For example, there is a type of goose called the cackling goose that looks exactly like a Canada goose except smaller and “cuter”. The cackling goose is way, way, more rare in most places than its relatively common cousin, so it’s on tons of birders life lists. Everyone wants to see a cackling (look in any bird ID group to see lots of hopeful people posting petite Canada geese). The two species regularly commingle, so sometimes a flock of those common parking lot birds will have the equivalent of a Pokémon shiny just hanging out in the middle of them.
How ridiculous and fun is that? I can never look at a big group of Canada geese without scrutinizing their ranks for an adorable little extremely rare cutie pie cackling goose. It reminds me a bit of mushroom harvesting minus the risk of death if you get it wrong