#toxic work environment

[capybarasatwork]

[sleepy-bebby]

If anything, this drama confirms Buzzfeed must be one of the worst places to work.

It’s one thing for people who use to watch Buzzfeed/Tryguys to comment, because we don’t know these people irl. But so many ex-employees and ex-coworkers show themselves to be a bunch of snakes ready to jump on the clout train saying “ooh we’re not surprised” “ooh we been knew”.

Imagine being Ariel and seeing all these people you knew saying they knew. The highschool mentality never left these people. They’re like the people who cry about being bullied but would’ve jumped at the opportunity to be the bully.

Kristin making jokes about how she’s reconnecting with all her ex-coworkers and Devin talking about “wife guys” shows that Safiya was right to leave Ladylike. Stay classy ladies.

And let’s not forget this person who very much wanted to join the drama by dropping this bomb on Zach but also ensured she put a “oh but remember this happened A BILLION YEARS AGO” like adding the “lol but that’s just my opinion” at the end of a sentence so that if people call her out she can just pretend she might have misremembered and not take responsibility.

Bonus for all the batshit “fans” trying to get gossip and acting nuts on the profiles of people who aren’t even employed with the try guys anymore.

[mattsmemes]

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: How To Reset From A Toxic Work Environment

Give yourself ample time to reset and indulge in basic self-care. Get a full night's sleep every night, eat a balanced & nutritious diet (most of the time) with meals you enjoy, incorporate daily movement & a consistent exercise routine into your week, read books, listen to music and podcasts that inspire you, hang out with loved ones/people who energize you, indulge in beauty routines/"spa" days and movies/TV shows you love

Once you feel recharged/not burned out anymore, take a step back and reflect on what your values are, your interests, desired lifestyle/workplace environment that best suits your personality and work style. Consider what you want out of your next opportunity instead of letting hiring managers decide for you once your interviewing processes begin. Remember, a job at a company should feel like a mutual fit. Decide to work as an employee, not a corporate slave.

Reassess and decide on your future workplace boundaries ahead of time. Once you're more emotionally distant from your current toxic work environment, allow yourself to act as a neutral observer of the interpersonal dynamics that played out while you were working in your (soon-to-be previous) toxic work environment. Consider any warning signs/red flags you might've ignored early on or certain ways you allowed yourself to be a pushover/people-pleaser to keep the peace while getting to know your co-workers. Looking back, how would you have handled these situations if you had the clarity and self-confidence you have now? Use your answer to this question as a roadmap to decide how you can show up as your best self before/while working in your next role.

Determine ways you can forge workplace connections early on in your next role. Embrace the "new job, new you" mentality here and decide how you want to show up as a sociable co-worker from your first week onward. Greet your team in the morning, engage in some small talk over a break to get to know each other better – try to find mutual interest/express interest in what they're saying, make it a priority to schedule one-on-ones with all team members/close collaborators within your company over the first month, invite co-workers to get coffee/lunch with you a couple of days per week, etc.

[faramirsonofgondor]

I honestly just need a fic where someone calls literally everyone out on their bullshit. And by their bullshit I mean the way they treat Jamie. Because everyone in that show has wrong him at least once. I’d argue that the people who wronged him the least were Pep, Nate, Higgins, Trent, and maybe Keeley but that’s a little debatable still. Like maybe it can be Dr. Fieldstone or maybe it can just be an outsider. But I just need it to happen.

The way people treat him in season 2 & 3 ( and even in some scenes in season 1) is just NOT RIGHT. Like they literally just walk all over him half the time??? Don’t get me wrong, the team and the others CAN be supportive and kind to Jamie, but sometimes they’re just straight up toxic dicks too. Even in season 1, half of the time Jamie was being “a prick” he was really just on the defensive ?? Like Roy also does some pretty fucked up shit but nobody calls him out on it because he’s the team captain. Like he literally fucking head butted Colin and could’ve given him a really bad concussion, but since Colin was being a prick first that just makes it okay???? Roy instigates and escalates multiple fights with Jamie, yet Jamie gets benched for being a dick to Sam ( which might’ve been deserved, but then Roy should’ve been benched as well).

Then in season 2, we see the team get incredibly angry with Jamie once he comes back. Which is just??? It seems like Ted just let them stew in their anger towards Jamie instead of actually talking to them about it. Like the fact that they’re upset about stuff that happened before he left, even though they didn’t seem angry at him right before he left. Like where was this anger towards Jamie before? I honestly think they were just using any excuse to take their negative emotions out in Jamie. Like you’re seriously telling me that Bumbercatch was upset about Jamie flirting with his mom when that happened probably months before? That Richard was so angry he had to talk in French because Jamie cupped a fart and put it in face? That Colin was pissed about an insult Jamie made that sounded like a 3rd grader came up with?? Isaac pretty much hit the nail on the head when he blamed Jamie for getting them relegated, because that’s what they were all actually angry about. Additionally, I think it’s very telling that Sam, who was the one Jamie picked on the most, was silent throughout that whole thing. I honestly think that Sam was the only one who was at least a little curious about whether Jamie had truly changed, and who actually wanted to give him a chance. But he wanted Jamie to work for it, which is fair all things considered.

I think the person who treats him the worst in season 2 ( besides his father) is probably Ted because of much he ignores Jamie’s issues with his father, and he fails to see the influence he’s had on Jamie and his self esteem. Like the way Ted doesn’t even tell Jamie that he didn’t send him away??? He could’ve at least cleared up that Jamie wasn’t send away cause of his attitude or whatever.

Anyways, I’ve already spoken on the teams many fuck ups with Jamie season 3 before so I’ll keep this short. The entire Zava situation was creating a toxic work environment and everyone except Jamie was feeding into that toxicity. Nobody speaks up for Jamie when Roy is a dick to him all the time. Nobody apologizes. They yell at him for stupid shit. They fail to notice how much he’s struggling until he spells it out for them. Roy and his whole macho dick fight with Keeley.

Anyways, they’ve been pretty shit to Jamie and deserve to have someone point that out to them.

[turtlesoup1990]

Michael Bay gave us fans two underrated great Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles movies and then he ruined it by overworking, underpaying and treating the actors terribly.

[bitchesgetriches]

How Abusive Workplaces Mirror Abusive Relationships

Earlier this year, Piggy and I delivered a speech on the subject of burnout. That there’s an appetite for advice on this subject among women’s professional associations will, perhaps, not shock you?

As I was researching the impact that burnout has on the body, I got an eerie feeling that the symptoms seemed familiar. I wondered if I’d already written something on this topic and forgotten. (We’ve written several hundred articles apiece, so it happens!)

But no! What was tripping my extremely faulty memory triggers wasn’t a past article about burnout.

It was a past article on domestic violence.

This really got me thinking about all the stories I’ve heard from you, our readers, about burnout. And I started noticing disturbing patterns in the ways those stories were told. As a result, I’ve come to a stronger opinion about the overlap between the psychology of abusive workplaces and abusive relationships.

… Which is that they’re functionally identical.

Keep reading.

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[yellow-lemon-lime]

I am feeling particularly murderous today, but since murder isn't legal, here are some memes instead

[whatacaitastrophe]

detouring a little bit from my usual content (okay, a lot), but all i've been able to think about for the last week is the fact that i spent the last six months getting absolutely gaslit into thinking i’m fucking terrible at a career i’ve otherwise excelled at, and there’s a pretty good chance someone else needs to hear this too:

crying at work is not normal.

going to bed on sunday evenings dreading monday morning is not normal.

being expected to be on call and available 24/7 for a job that DOES NOT require you to be on call is not normal.

you are not lazy, or a bad employee, or a bad coworker because you didn’t take your work laptop with you on vacation, and being made to feel guilty about being unavailable whilst on vacation is not normal.

being made to feel guilty about how much higher your salary is than your less experienced coworkers, and how unfair it is that they make less than you, when you make a mistake is not normal.

being expected to be in a leadership position when that isn’t in your job description, and without the title and the salary to go with it, is not normal.

being expected to understand the scope of a job and to perform that job successfully when you don’t have all the tools (training, a full list of tasks you are supposed to be performing), despite repeatedly asking for the tools, is not normal.

being blamed and called lazy because others are “doing your job for you” when your BOSS was the one who asked them to do tasks that should have been assigned to you, is not normal.

also, if you find yourself sitting at your desk with nothing to do, and everyone else is complaining about how busy they are, chances are your boss is delegating your work to someone else instead of you, and that's not normal-- ESPECIALLY if you ask your boss if they have anything they need you to work on and they say "no."

if a company doesn't have a local HR person, and HR has absolutely NO IDEA why you got let go / what your "performance issues" were that led to you being let go, because they were not looped in until your boss emailed them to tell them you were being let go? that is NOT. NORMAL.

if any of the above has happened to you at work, RUN. run as fast as you fucking can.

[attorney-anon]

Just found out my former boss has apparently told multiple people (including recently) that she wants to beat me up for leaving the firm back in January.

And I hope she does! Suing her for assault & battery would be so much fun for me.

[djdangerlove]

Not my toxic boss sending an email today that he’s retiring and his last day is March 14th!!! March 14th is the gift that keeps on giving.

He was actually going to get fired and chose this instead.

[capybarasatwork]

[nando161mando]

I constantly get accused of making trouble by bringing up pay discrepancies and not doing enough work. These have made an appearance all over my workplace.

[duskycervitaur]

Having the wrong kind of people in positions of power such as something as simple as assistant manager in a gas station, can seriously fuck up any kind of good employee you had that is now under that thumb of power. I used to love my job, some days I still do when said people aren’t around for a couple of days. But gosh..when they’re back and saying ugly shit about you and your work ethic..it makes you want to give them the only kind of employee they so wrongly expect out of you. Leaving me feeling incomplete in my work that supplies my means of living…I want out. I just want to be appreciated for the hard work I do that leaves my already aching young body broken at home. Is that too much to ask?

[faramirsonofgondor]

I was rewatching 2x03 Do the Right-est Thing, and I do find it a little concerning how Ted just doesn’t actually step in for Jamie when they’re all ganging up on him?? Like he does his whole Led Tasso thing but I still feel like he should’ve spoken up before that. Especially when Sam sent him flying. Like I can understand that it’s training and that being injured is part of the sport but he fell so hard he flipped over??? Like he could’ve actually broken his collarbone or arm from landing like that. And then both Sam and Colin just sat there, taunted him, and walked away??? Like when Jamie is a dick to his teammates when they’re possibly injured, he gets benched. But when he two of his teammates taunt him when he could’ve been injured too, Ted literally says nothing??? And while in both situations, neither Sam nor Jamie were actually hurt, it seems so hypocritical to me?? Like Ted just constantly has double standards for Jamie.

I also feel like Sam tackling Jamie wasn’t the only time the team was overly aggressive with him during that training session. It kinda seems that they were taking out all their frustration on him until they reasonably couldn’t anymore (when Jamie stepped in and told Ted to knock it off). And I do understand Jamie was a complete dick in season 1 and does deserve to have some consequences for that but this is simply not it. Like half of the people who were mad at him were the people who were also behaving like dicks or siding with him in season 1. And even if they didn’t, it’s so fucking stupid for them to treat him the same way he treated him. Honestly giving people “ a taste of their own medicine” just comes off as immature and hypocritical to me most of the time. There are some instances where it actually makes sense but this isn’t one of them. Like you’re mad at him because he was a prick and a bully, so when he’s put in a position where he can’t push back at you, you decide to be a prick to him instead?

And while, yes, I do think that a lot of the responsibility of this comes down to the individuals on the team themselves, Ted (and the other coaches) had a responsibility to ensure that Jamie’s integration back on the team went smoothly. And they didn’t really try and do anything until the problems already started happening??? They should’ve had a talk with the team about Jamie coming back, and how it might be hard for them to do so, but they need to get it over it and be professionals. They didn’t to be nice to Jamie, they didn’t even need to talk to Jamie outside of training, but they decided to be pricks to him instead. I can understand having mixed feelings and being angry and resentful towards Jamie, but it shouldn’t be impacting their workplace relationship to the extent it did. I really hate how non confrontational Ted is when it comes to most problems, because he never actually gets to the root of the issue.

I’m not trying villainize any of the characters but sometimes they just do things and I want to grab them by the shoulders and shake them so hard.

Also side note but now I kinda want to read a fic where Jamie actually does get hurt from the tackle thing Sam does. It would be so interesting to see. There’s not enough fics out there written about the beginning of season 2 and all the dynamic between Jamie & the team before the Dubai Air protest.