#trans non binary

[the-future-is-chrome]

i love maximalism

[fruitfulchaos]

A picture of me i found in some folder that i like

[vash-the-trans-catboy]

I made a little collage about masculinity, gender roles, gender stereotypes, and trans masculinity (specifically about nonbinary trans guys like me).

I wanted to send a message about how trans non-binary masculinity deviates from your typical cis masculinity. All the words are from a magazine that is targeted for men (specifically cis men). By rearranging the words found in this example of stereotypic masculinity I wanted to rewrite what masculinity can mean.

I see this as a way to explore non typical displays of masculinity. As a trans masc nonbinary person who does not pass well, it’s important that things like having a large chest, not binding, wearing lingerie, or being a bottom and/or sub does not degrade your masculinity. What you look like, how you dress, how you experience sexual attraction, or how you like to have sex does not make you any less masculine. This is the message I need to remember when I’m feeling dysphoric. Just because the way you express your masculinity is not in the typical cis male way that usually is expected, doesn’t mean it is any less masculine.

[zayc0re]

putting on my big girl panties (texting first)

[fuzzyspiderpawz]

Fnaf made me realize my gender identity

I just realized that fnaf indirectly helped me realize that I’m nonbinary back in 2020

I started listening to NateWantsToBattle because of FNAF (and Monster Prom but mostly FNAF cause I was into FNAF first) and while watching his music video for Phantom I realized that I’m nonbinary cause the power of men wearing makeup transformed me into something stronger

[sitting-in-the-kitchen-sink]

Considering putting myself on a vocal rest on my days in the office until my voice has dropped because i haven't told my colleagues i'm on t and i don't want to be in the middle of a really important conversation and then my voice crack 😅

[alistreinn]

also haven't posted this here yet but I'm one week on testosterone!!!! 💜🖤💛🤍

[answersfromzestual]

Weird question sorry. But idk where to ask. Isn't it awkward to have to stop in the middle of foreplay for like idk 20 seconds to pump up the internal device? I really enjoy instinctual spontaneous type stuff so :// idk if phallo would go w that

So actually my partner and I use it kinda of as foreplay. So my partner likes to pump me up, during our intimacy sessions. For example she likes to pump me as she goes down on me, it makes her feel like shes getting me hard, its fun for her. I like when she plays with my testicles, it feels good too, thats a new part of foreplay to experience. The pumping can also be done while you two are making out. It takes 15 seconds at the longest. Or you can go to the bathroom and pump half way and let your partner finish you. Honestly it makes your partner feel (imo) more involved and it makes them more into it. I don't think it will take away or make a bad sexual experience.

So I also do it gradually during foreplay sometimes, a couple pumps while making out, a couple before dry humping, finish your pumps for penetration. You can pump if you like to perform oral you can pump as you please your partner.

In my experience with spontaneous sessions even I haven't had an issue. Many people actually enjoy watching their partner, they want to see your arousal, and if they can be involved it could be even more of a turn on.

I believe that it can be enjoyable even spontaneously.

Cis men take time too, they don't have to pump but they still usually need some time to get fully erect as well.

Precaution: if you are being pumped by a partner don't let them suck during the pumping, meaning as the solution fills the tubes. My partner said to tell any of your partners that just suck, hold phallis in mouth, pump, after pumping suck again, repeat. You don't want affect the flow of the solution. And also gentle hand jobs during the pumping process. Do not penetrate until you are fully erect as per your device.

if any of this is confusing or doesn't make sense please let me know.

This question was actually really great, and I feel you brought up something important that not many people think about. Thank you for asking Anon

Stay Golden ✌️💙🩷

[turnipstewdios]

Trans healthcare is Bullsh*t

Long vent post, cause I'm mad and need to release the feelings back into their natural habitat. Had less than two weeks to go before the hysterectomy I've been trying to get for almost five years, and insurance has denied my appeal. Again. Very clearly for the last time. The rejection letter deemed the surgery "Not medically necessary" and with the context of past interactions I don't think I could have heard the "Fuck off looser" more clearly if someone had told me in person. My first appointment for this surgery was in June, and I had already been waiting for years at that point. I thought had been very careful to get everything set up, and get all my letters of referral and paperwork strait before hand. Except my insurance specifically apparently had a whole extra qualification for this surgery, that does not apply to anyone else in my state, and that no one told me about because the provider I've been going through for my care has never had anyone bring up that requirement before. That being that I needed to have been seeing a therapist specifically for my gender dysphoria for at least 12 months before hand. So. Had to cancel my appointment for that. The new surgery date I got moved things for enough out that my two letters of referral for reproductive surgery, which have to be less than a year old, expired. For the third time. But that gave me a chance to try and fudge the therapist thing. I went back to the same therapists who gave me the letters last year, exactly one year after my last appointment, and they signed off that I'd been seeing them for 12 months. So we turned that in and filed an appeal. That's where it started getting really, really obvious that my insurance was bullshitting us. I currently make just barely too much money to qualify for my state's government insurance plan. (which sucks because Oregon state insurance actually covers transgender care.) But I don't have enough money to pay for my own insurance. I've been on a family plan from my parents. In fact I specifically moved back in with my parents so I would be covered by it. But I age out on my next birthday, which is January 10th. So it's become increasingly obvious over the last few months that insurance was just stalling for time until they didn't have to deal with me anymore. After I turned in the appeal with evidence that I'd been seeing a mental health provider for 12 months, along with my new letters of referral, I didn't hear back from them. Got to within a week of surgery. Contacted surgery scheduling, and they said I hadn't been approved. Contacted my rep. Apparently, they had never received any appeal letters. That was bull crap, btw, because when we re-scheduled things again, and me, my provider, and my rep all made absolutely sure to send things through the proper channels, the exact same thing happened a second time. And at that point it was late October, and the next appointment was Dec 4th. So we re-appealed. Again. My rep sent stuff up the chain directly, and made sure it got to the people who needed to see it. I was assured that I would have an answer within the week. Three weeks ago. Yesterday, I called my rep to check on things, and she read out my final rejection letter. So. Even if I had time to reschedule again before I age out in a month and a half, it's clearly just not happening on this plan. I'd already started looking for other insurance, but even if I find one I can afford that covers trans care, it will take long enough I'll have to renew all my letters again. The thing that really makes me mad about this is the wording of the rejection. "Not medically necessary." Because I've already had top surgery.

My insurance paid for the large, expensive, invasive, purely cosmetic breast surgery with high risk of complications without throwing a single wrench in things. But a minimally invasive reproductive surgery? When I have a history of painful cramping, irregular periods every 10 to 20 days, and bleeding so heavy and so often I suffer from mild blood loss if my weight dips below 175? When I am literally choosing not to loose weight so I don't constantly pass out, and have been doing so since my mid teens? When I have a family history of cervical or uterine cancer? Oh noooo. We cant have that. It's not medically necessary.

[inlove-and-healing]

gotta say, my new favorite hobby is saying “transition goals” to anything (mostly images of sopping wet animals)

[the-future-is-chrome]

*traces your top surgery scars*

"who... who did this to you...?"

[fruitfulchaos]

still thinking about that time i wrestled with my friend and she was genuinely so taken aback by my strength she just kept mentioning "i didnt know they were so strong, i wanted to move but I couldn't". it did wonders for my dysphoria riddled brain tbh...

[vash-the-trans-catboy]

I hate dating apps as a non binary person so much. The amount of times I’ve seen people that are like “I want a woman”. Like why the fuck did you choose to also see non binary people if you want a woman. We aren’t fucking woman+. It’s so disheartening to see people constantly talking about how much they want to date a woman and how they will inevitably group non binary people into that. Like if you really only want to date women please set your preferences to that. Non binary are people are not just basically women. And it hurts to see everyone come up saying how much they are looking for a girlfriend

[zayc0re]

i came out as trans 5 years ago today!

[sitting-in-the-kitchen-sink]

Trans people have existed for longer than society's need for the binary, we are not going anywhere, we will not cease to exist just because you don't like us.