#tw: enbyphobia

[theambivalentagender]

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TW: Mild transphobia/enbyphobia I guess? Every statement in the last panel is something I've actually been told to "accepting" people I've come out to in the past.

[redley-of-many-noodles]

Content Warning: Transphobia, Radical Feminism, etc.

Please do not interact with any of the tags mentioned here, or their sibling tags that fall within the same community. Just add them to your filter. It’ll be better for your mental health.

So, I just fell down an unfortunate rabbit hole.

Found a blog using Sylveon (the Pokémon) to represent anti-LGBTQ ideals. (Because the “For You” page thought I needed variety, I guess.) The logic was so fucked that I didn’t even understand it was meant as hate at first. I looked at their blog to try and understand, and quickly did. Started blocking them and the people who had interacted with them. A lot of pro-Israel stuff in their orbit too, unsurprisingly.

Then I noticed some of the tags. “Terfblr.” “Proud radfem.”

A TERF is a Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminist, for anyone who doesn’t know what the acronym means.

It confused me that people used these tags. Why would someone want to make exclusion a part of their identity? Why would anyone call themselves a radical feminist? Definitions 2-4 on Dictionary.com explicitly describe the word as being used in regards to extreme beliefs:

Not “extreme” like LGBTQIA+ people wanting to have basic human rights and self-determination, but “extreme” like Trump’s views on the place of blacks and immigrants in society. “Extreme” like toxic masculine views on where women belong. “Extreme” like the feminists who indiscriminately hate men. “Extreme” like Nazi Germany’s views on the place of the ‘lesser races’ in society.

Those are the kind of “extreme” views that the word ‘radical’ describes. Not the “extreme” of Palestinians wanting Israel to stop committing genocide against them. Not the “extreme” of black Americans that took measures to defend themselves from police brutality like the Black Panther Party. Not the “extreme” of the USSR’s satellite states wanting their autonomy.

It makes me think they’re of the mindset that they’re being called “extremists” as an attack on feminism and not that they’re being called extremists because the beliefs they propagate are actively harmful and inherently hateful in nature.

There were tons of posts like this I found. Where transgender people were being demonized as men seeking to prey on women — largely ignoring that transmascs even existed (probably seen as “traitors” or some other bs logic). Demonizing them as people trying to use self identification as a means to invade safe spaces. And they always referred to us exclusively as “transsexual” from what I saw. Because ‘my gender is not your costume,’ and everybody seemed to be firmly rooted in a gender-binary mindset. That our identity was irrevocably determined by the circumstances of our birth. I even saw one post saying how disgusted they were by drag, because it was “a man’s mockery of a woman’s image.”

They called us monsters. For existing. For trying to be happy. For occasionally finding happiness.

They made it out as though transgenders could only be happy at the expense of the safety of women and children.

I don’t have a “point” to make with this. I just… wanted to express this.

This hate.

Because I have discovered what it feels like to truly hate someone, having seen what these disgusting humans consider “progressive.”

I hate it.

I hate you.

I hate that I understand this feeling now.

TERFs, for teaching me hate, I will never forgive you.

I will never forgive how I have been warped by you.

How you have twisted me.

I HATE YOU.

And I’m getting off this hellsite for the day, for my own good.

Goodbye.

[q-soc-official]

trinders is crazy this year methinks

[grizzlyofthesea]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

You know how there's a stereotype about universities/colleges being super liberal and progressive?

Forget that.

On my way to class just now, I overheard some blatant enbyphobia. It was a conversation between three other students complaining about how nonbinary people should "just use Mr. or Mrs." instead of whatever titles or pronouns we actually feel comfortable with. They even tried to gender the word "professor" by creating a "female" counterpart: "professa." Not a real word, and "professor" is ALREADY GENDER-NEUTRAL. I bet they didn't realize they were walking right beside a nonbinary person since I'm not the stereotypical "blue hair and pronouns" enby. (There's nothing wrong if you do fit that stereotype. In fact, I think that aesthetic is pretty neat. I just happen to be pretty plain-looking.)

My campus is generally accepting of all different kinds of students, but idiots like these make me want to throw hands.

[theomnipotentleaf]

Yuck I was typing the tag “There are too many bots now” and it suggested “There are only two genders” FUCKINGG -

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

me watching cis women on twitter say shit like “cuntboys and theyfabs are fascist oppressor scum tme mra. they can all go to hell with their faux masculinity. all of them are sensitive invaders of the trans community god i fucking hate them. i’m not transphobic tho btw i support trans women!!!” and then be congratulated for what progressive allies they are

[umlewis]

lewis hamilton attends the gq creativity awards in new york city - april 11, 2024 📷 dimitrios kambouris / getty

[seal-berry]

real cool to see theyfab shit on my feed guys. I know that its an internet brain poison thing that irl has such little impact. I get that human nature is that when we are harmed we want to spitefully hit back where it hurts. but the lack of understanding/lack of caring that using the word theyfab WILL hurt others that you dont intend, especially on a site where the posts are the content and there is a large, mostly silent audience, sucks. It's so much the energy of like "I was bullied, and now I get to be the bully" as opposed to "I was hurt but I want to limit how that hurt affects others as I heal." And no, I'm not asking for people to be a perfect victim, but there are consequences for instigating and perpetuating hurt. People say the term only applies to those who weaponize their agab, and I find that argument weak considering I've already seen the term used against people literally the exact same way trender and tucute were and are. I think a lot of the use of the term is social posturing to feel good about being in the in-group. I get why, because many trans people are isolated and desperate for a place to belong, but doing it via throwing others under the bus makes things worse for everyone. The solution to transmisogyny will never be enbyphobia, idk what to tell you :/

[salad-juice-enjoyer]

/sarcasm

No dude you gotta trust me this VN is actualy good. Yes it was by channers to spite another VN that contains a non-binary MC. Yes the happy endings are the one where you successfully convince said MC to detransion and the ones where you don't are the school shooting ending and the future loser ending. But you gotta believe me bro, it was made with actual love and effort and stuff. /s

[bottlecapsandotherthings]

I might cry, possibly need a break from Tumblr to sleep off these awful feelings.

Just came across an extremely transphobic, TERF, enbyphobic account.

They tagged every post with the words "non binary is fake".

I am NOT fake....

[trans-enby-culture-is]

Enby culture is not being able to go a day without seeing enby-phobia from not only cishet transphobes but enby-phobic binary trans folk 🙁

#109

[enbyhyena]

Shame on you Cal. Shame on you.

It's not a "world view". It's the objective existence of an entire classification of people. You can't just say that black people don't exist because you don't agree with "their views"; it's the same for trans people. We exist whether or not you "believe" in us. And hiding behind your religion is a weak excuse. Fuck outta here.

Instead of giving Cal engagement, feel free to spread this post around. It's also useful in case they try to dirty delete or backtrack their statement. Don't say anything to them, just unfollow and block.

[queerasf4ck]

If you think lesbians can be attracted to nonbinary and multigender people but can’t be mspec, you’re transphobic. It’s pretty simple.

[raineofthedragons]

I don’t know why it’s so common for people to say that queer/trans characters are a political statement, that the writers are ‘going woke’, people being themselves and existing as themselves is not political. I’ve also seen this with real people, not just characters. People’s existence isn’t a grab for attention. Not everything has to have some secret ulterior motive. Just let people be themselves.

[mollyjimbly]

This is what you are doing transphobes, are you proud?

I fear for my dear siblings safety if this is what the world is like for my trans and enby friends. And you are actively making it worse everyday.

I will not give up though, it only makes me want to fight harder, makes me want to be a better ally. I have to be a better ally, not only for my sibling. But for all trans, enby and gnc folks across our planet.

Rest in Power Nex Benedict. ♡

[theinsomniacindian]

I went to the UK with my family and my father told me and my brother that 'the way we behave, speak and dress indicates our gender over here' and since we're 'binary' we have to be careful to act 'right' 😐