#nonbinary problems

[kazbrekkerfast]

I love being non-binary but the amout of times I see a post I relate to but it's titled "girl ____" and I'm like well then. that's made me sad

or like "this is for the men" and im sat there sad because why is life so gendered all the time with such stupid things

[quotesfromthepolycule]

“Im a non binary polyamorous pansexual vers switch with abandonment issues, so maybe I am not the best person to be told ‘no you choose’”

“…babe are you okay we were talking about dinner choices”

[mossymossman]

being an agender person who like to were dresses and skirts sucks. Because I want to were skirts but I don’t want to be seen as feminine. It doesn’t help that I have long hair. Le sigh.

[starlitmothspectra]

Sometimes I wake up and I'm like "I'm a man, I will be masculine today" but then think "I want to dress up in frilly skirts and a cute coat and be cute" and then question if I'm actually trans/nonbinary and then realize that clothing and gender shouldn't affect each other

[histrionicscribbler]

love how the mere presence of nonbinary people sends some particular folks into sex essentialism fueled rants about how we cant just "ignore sex" as if nb people dont already know the immutable and important nature of sex bc it stares us in the face every day

ignore it? don't make me laugh. we can't ignore a damn thing if we tried.

i hate to break it to you, but WE ALL KNOW you cannot clock a nonbinary person from appearance alone. sometimes (not always) that is even the point. androgyny is not always the nb goal. androgyny also isn't always nb. divorce the two in your mind rn.

we are well aware that what we look and sound like directly influences what we are perceived as upon first impression. it is just the truth. a lot of us will never escape misgendering. but that is really not an excuse to refuse to change your language when you learn otherwise

if ur gonna become deaf when someone uses they/them (or any other non he/she pronoun) on somebody (out loud, multiple times, perhaps even correcting you), then do it about 9000 yards away from me, k?

[icy-hot-slut]

[queer-cosette]

"We need more weird-presenting nonbinary characters!!" You guys can't even be normal about nonbinary people who still present as their AGAB. Frankly I've seen you guys be iffy about nonbinary people with long hair. You guys freak out about fat nonbinary people and nonbinary people who don't bind their tits. You guys have repeatedly proved that you can barely handle cis people who like to fuck with gender presentation.

[cepheusgalaxy]

How can Alex Fierro tell his pronouns everytime so spontaneously, like, dam, I wish I could but I get nervous every fucking time and it's scary even though I want so much JUST SCREAM but i can't, like, HOW DOES ALEX FIERRO DO THIS I wanna be like him when I grow up. Idk, just genderfluid problems.

[phoenix-void]

Tw: Vent, gender dysphoria, being overwhelmed?

Sometimes I hate being trans/nonbinary so much. I am one of the lucky few that doesn’t experience dysphoria very often, mine mostly comes in waves but during that time it can be very overwhelming. My body doesn’t feel the way it should and when I look in the mirror my face doesn’t look like myself. (I don’t know how to describe it, it just doesn’t look like how I know my face is and it scares me sometimes)

It sucks because I don’t really have anything to help it? I’m not able to get any sort of binder as I’m asthmatic and find it would be a risk to my breathing, but my mother also won’t let me get trans tape because apparently it’s a risk of cancer? (I don’t understand her reasoning for that one) so I’m basically just left to wait it out until it temporarily goes away, while also trying to keep my anxiety in check as well.

It’s just shitty at the end of day, my thoughts tend to spiral more then usual during times like this and along with my anxiety and everything else, it just gets to the point that I want to scratch my skin off because I can feel my clothes on my skin and I’m too overwhelmed to deal with anything.

[andyinmiddleearth]

Being non-binary has been such an isolating experience for me

For me, being non-binary is being haunted by my quinceañera picture hanging on the wall, because I know I will never be “her”

How can you be someone when that “girl” never really existed? “She” was just a camouflage, for THEY were trying to be the perfect Mexican “daughter” everyone wanted

But at the same time I know I will never be “him” either, no matter how hard I try… and I tried! I forced myself to identify as a trans man for years because I felt like that was the only way I could be valid

I use they/he pronouns is because gender is a performance and I would rather be seen as a man than as a woman, but also because I’m holding on as tight as I can to that “he,” because people find that pronoun set more palatable than just they/them

I’m definitely not “her” but I’m not 100% “him” either… I’m just me… and just being me has never been enough for anyone

Being non-binary is so isolating because so many few people actually see me for who I am, both strangers and close ones alike

To this day I have not explicitly told my family I am non-binary since coming out as a trans man to them was hard enough, and I’m exhausted

I don’t fit in with the girls, and even though I am masculine presenting I don’t really fit in with the boys either, so where do I fit in? Do I even fit in ANYWHERE?

If women are from Venus and men are from Mars then I’m a lone star in the vastness of space, far away from my galaxy full of other nonbinary stars

I want to scream into a black hole because I am in pain, but how can a star scream when it has no mouth?

At least I hope I’m not the only star stranded far away in the Delta quadrant

My only hope is to either go supernova or be rescued by Captain Janeway… but Kathryn my beloved won’t get here until the 24th century so I guess I have to be patient and wait

[kazbrekkerfast]

I want to experience femininity the way boys do. The “binary breaking” act of a man wearing a skirt that i could only dream of experiencing. I constantly wonder what it would be like if I was a cis guy wearing a skirt, and feeling joy in breaking the conventions of society.

But at the same time I want to wear a suit the way a business woman can wear a suit in a room full of men who judge her every minute, but she keeps her head held high being happy with her femininity whilst wearing such a masculine item of clothing.

[waywardtyrantpirate]

Coming back from a huge flare up

[mossymossman]

I just desperately want to be a Creature. I want to be looooong, I want long arms with long fingers that reach the knees on my abnormally long legs. I want to be tall and gangly and hunch over. I want horns and moss and mushrooms and dirt and vines and frogs and rot and bugs. That’s gender euphoria right there.

[vexic929]

can a nice trans lady come take my boobs and uterus please? I'm so tired of having them

[anhedoniacity]

was thinking the other day about how even though i don’t really mind my own large chest most of the time, there aren’t any existing words for one’s chest that don’t make me uncomfortable to use for myself. the word choice that bothers me least is tiddy bc it sounds so comical but every time i say it my mom judges me. so i have decided to refer to my chest as “the curse” from now on.

[thatqueerbat]

turns out even if your entire flat chest with Nothing There At All is out people will still misgender you XD

cis people i swear