#you are your own person

[welcome-to-the-agender-agenda]

Women, if a guy sees sleeping with you as an achievement or a way of conquering you then dump his ass. You are not a prize. You are not a challenge. You cannot be won.

You're far better off being on your own then with someone who wants to own you.

[books-are-everything]

If anyone ever tries to stop you from doing what you want, or tries to control your decisions, just remember: You're the main character in your story, they are just there, insignificant side characters. They're disposable, replaceable so don't let such small pieces in the story change your mind. This is your story. Not my story. Not their story. Yours. Don't let them change your story. You get to write your path, they aren't the ones holding the pen, you are.

[turtletoria]

Palestine will be free in our lifetime 🇵🇸🍉🕊️ Don't look away, and let's keep supporting Palestine in any way we can.

[feypact]

public libraries in the usa offering free digital library cards to people not in their areas (as of october 2023):

brooklyn (13-21yo us residents)

seattle (13-26yo us residents)

boston (13-26yo us residents, EDIT: just commonly banned books)

los angeles (13-18yo california residents)

san diego (12-26yo us residents, not the whole collection just commonly banned books)

these books unbanned cards (unless otherwise stated) get you access to each library's complete libby/cloud library collection, no hoopla/kanopy/physical copies included.

ebook collections are expensive to maintain (many american libraries have annual fees for non-residents because of this) but because of an uptick in book banning (particularly brutal in mississippi last summer) larger libraries have opened their doors more, which is very kind of them!

i've used my seattle card for the last several months and their libby collection has about three times the books that my local library does, which is wonderful for accessing more niche titles or skipping a waiting list. would love to hear of similar ebook initiatives internationally!

i use library extension (firefox/chrome/edge compatible) to check all my collections (+ the internet archive) at once, works for several different countries highly recommend it.

spotify seems to be offering 15hrs/month of audiobook listening to premium subscribers and while that does seem useful if you're already paying and are after a new release with a long library waitlist, libraries are better for everything else.

[chittychittyyangyang]

Listen, you should never film strangers in public without their consent, but I swear there need to be fines or something for people who do that shit in some spaces. For example: I had to go to the ER last night, and some jerk filmed a woman who just came in and was clearly having an asthma attack. She immediately got to go back, and he was unhappy about that. Believe me, I get that it sucks having to wait when you're in pain, but you don't get to pick who deserves care when. The medical system in the US is a nightmare, and the ER could be the worst moment of someone's life. No one deserves to be recorded because some jack ass believes someone doesn't look like they need care.

This is fine to reblog. People who film strangers should be shamed if nothing else.

[notbrucewayne48]

"aphobia doesn't exist"

bitch literally not that long ago an aroace youtuber animator was insulted by almost half of its community for being it

[technofinch]

bro i swear we're not gonna do anything weird this time i just need you to meet me in the cemmy (<- new way to say cemetery)

[gayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy]

One thing I've learned about relationships and crushes in my short time of having them is just - don't give someone the power to be an obsession. You can love someone to the moon and back but that doesn't mean they aren't a person with their own flaws. You're putting so much pressure on both of you and when the cracks show - that fantasy of yours will be shattered. Love people for who they are - not the idolised pedestal version you have in your head.

[starplatinumnun]

can you infodump to me? (i love you) is this overwhelming? (i love you) is this the right texture? (i love you) is it ok to touch you? (i love you) do you want the subtitles on? (i love you) do you want to go somewhere less noisy? (i love you)

[isthoughts]

I need some people to have a big reality check

"the manipulated becomes the manipulator", "the broken becomes the breaker", "the heartbroken becomes the heart breaker"

shut the fuck up.

I've seen so many people on social media recently talking about how they're becoming a bad person after what was done to them, and they just can't help it. Which is an utter fucking bullshit.

The one thing in our lives we can control is our reaction. If you were hurt in the past, I'm sorry, no one deserves to be an object of anyone's cruelty. But that doesn't give you a pass to become an awful fucking human being. It doesn't mean you now cannot help who you are. wtf

People are not inherently good nor bad. That is what makes it possible to hold people accountable. NO ONE is destined to be a good or bad person. It's not a decision that is made for you. YOU make those decisions every day. And seeing so many people just trying to make someone else responsible for THEIR decisions is ridiculous.

If after being hurt you go on doing the same or similar things to other people, it's YOU doing it, not some divine force that you can't fight. Being hurt doesn't excuse you DECIDING to hurt other people.

Heal people. For fuck's sake. Break the cycle.

And if you do not, at least do not pretend that you can't/couldn't help what you did/do/are doing. Hold yourself accountable. If you are going to be a bad person, it's YOUR actions. Not someone else's. If you let the cycle continue, YOU let it continue.

It's your responsibility to get it together to the best of your abilities. I'm not saying it can't be hard, because it can, but it's not impossible.

For all the people that can't look at "the abused becomes the abuser" without feeling like they're going to fucking scream, it doesn't have to be true. It's up to you. And I know I might come off as a bit insensitive, but it can be the anchor too. So please try to look at it this way.

It's up to you. Who you are going to be is not decided by the harm you endured/are enduring. It's not decided. It's in your power. It just takes a lot of work.

[plounce]

why was bashir a closeted homosexual in the 23rd century? like dude it's fine you can relax. actually wait the tense here is kinda funny. i used past tense because ds9 is from the 90s and i watched it in 2021 so in both cases it's from the past in my view. but when talking about a text you speak in the present: why IS bashir a closeted homosexual in the 23rd century? but the statement is half about how ds9 takes place in the scifi future: why WILL bashir be a closeted homosexual in the 23rd century?

[stil-lindigo]

the machine.

a comic about being a 'creator' online.

creative notes:

[uncanny-tranny]

Basically, my philosophy around disability fakers is: I would rather a thousand people fake a disability than have one disabled person suffer without care, aids, compassion, or any help.

[pancake-loving-pandemi]

Is it

That fucking hard

to grasp the fact that transgender people deserve respect. Let alone the youth?

Y'know how the Jesus Fandom calls trans & enby people "things" or "delusional" or "poisoned souls"?

Yeah, how the fuck is believing in a cloud wizard that threatens to send you to a realm of torture for eating shrimp or not adding more poor, unfortunate souls to the already awfully high population of assholes, and who rewards you with paradise if you throw stones at your ex-wife until she is dead because she wanted a divorce, not delusional?

How is that not "poisoned"?

How does that not make you a disgusting excuse for a living being?

How the hell is a Transgender or Nonbinary person "delusional", when you need a man in the clouds to give you a reason to live?

I had that bottled up for a good while... Not apologizing, just explaining.

[starflungwaddledee]

happy birthday. you are so, so loved

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

i have a Scene - a Plot if you will - that backs this as context. y'all are gonna have to trust me on this one <3 or read the tags...