#you're on punishment

[flannelepicurean]

bought myself one a those glowing moon globe night light lamps, because i needed a bedside lamp, and WHY NOT GET A MOON

we've been together less than an afternoon, and i've already taken to calling it moon-moon, because of its silly behavior.

"no! moon-moon, what?! why?! why are you red?! moon-moon...moon-moon, come on! oh, you're a touch lamp, i see now. okay. WHY ARE YOU FLASHING?! GET IT TOGETHER, MOON-MOON! stahp! go off! go off! NOT LIKE THAT! moon-moon, srsly?"

i feel like moon-moon is gonna lose bedside privileges IMMEDIATELY.

[blueboyluca]

“When I first heard it, from a dog trainer who knew her behavioral science, it was a stunning moment. I remember where I was standing, what block of Brooklyn’s streets. It was like holding a piece of polished obsidian in the hand, feeling its weight and irreducibility. And its fathomless blackness. Punishment is reinforcing to the punisher. Of course. It fit the science, and it also fit the hidden memories stored in a deeply buried, rusty lockbox inside me. The people who walked down the street arbitrarily compressing their dogs’ tracheas, to which the poor beasts could only submit in uncomprehending misery; the parents who slapped their crying toddlers for the crime of being tired or hungry: These were not aberrantly malevolent villains. They were not doing what they did because they thought it was right, or even because it worked very well. They were simply caught in the same feedback loop in which all behavior is made. Their spasms of delivering small torments relieved their frustration and gave the impression of momentum toward a solution. Most potently, it immediately stopped the behavior. No matter that the effect probably won’t last: the reinforcer—the silence or the cessation of the annoyance—was exquisitely timed. Now. Boy does that feel good.”

— Melissa Holbrook Pierson, The Secret History of Kindness (2015)

[shotmrmiller]

anyway id been thinking of "maid" reader who is honestly just the friendly neighborhood college student who cleans homes because your caffeine addiction cannot fund itself and you end up with the (mis) fortune of cleaning simon's home which is sparse of personal belongings, only the practical home furniture about. it looks like no one's stays in the place because the armrests to chairs have a thin layer of dust on it, the dinner table still has its gleaming polish as if brand new.

it's all fine and dandy, even pays you with a thick wad of crumpled cash that's always meticulously placed on the counter.

until it's not because somewhere down the line he shows up and now you're being accused of theft (in this economy? you'd only be stealing food from grocery stores thank you) but you've a reputation to keep so now he's telling you to let him eat you out, give him 7 back to back orgasms "'nd we'll be square, birdie."

[inkskinned]

he says i hate everyone except you and that is addictive and that is kind of romantic and beautiful because you're young and you're kind of a sarcastic asshole too and you don't like bad boys, per say, but you don't really like good ones either. and you like that you were the exception, it felt like winning.

except life is not a romance book, and he was kind of being honest. he doesn't learn to be nice to your friends. he only tolerates your family. you have to beg him to come with you to birthday parties, he complains the whole time. you want to go on a date but - people are often there, wherever you're going. he's just so angry. about everything, is the thing. in the romance book, doesn't he eventually soften? can't you teach him, through your own sense of whimsy and comfort?

at first - you know introverts often need smaller friend groups, and honestly, you're fine staying at home too. you like the small, tidy life you occupy. you're not going to punish him for his personality type.

except: he really does hate everyone but you. which means he doesn't get along with his therapist. which means he has no one to talk to except for you. which means you take care of him constantly, since he otherwise has no one. which means you sometimes have to apologize for him. which means he keeps you home from seeing your friends because he hates them. you're the single exception.

about a decade from this experience, you'll type into google: how to know if a relationship is codependent.

he wraps an arm around you. i hate everyone except you. these days, you're learning what he's actually confessing is i have very little practice being kind.

[divineandmajesticinone]

4 MINUTES (2024) I 1.03 "I didn't think you were like this. Like what? Like this..."

[saccharinescorpion]

Eleanor Vance should NOT have been at the club (she should have been at her little cottage with her white cat and her oleanders) (and her stone lions) (and her cup of stars)

[ahsokatanos-lightsabertechnique]

Edwin: "Don't worry I can handle this" Cat King: "My kingdom is all about want" *leans suggestively* "and pleasure" *waggles eyebrows* Edwin: 404 Error Page Not Found

[leupagus]

On Voting in America

So one of the most profound comments on routine chores that I've ever encountered was, hilariously, the Pickle Rick episode of "Rick & Morty," where (after a lot of shenanigans have already ensued) this therapist absolutely lays Rick out:

"I have no doubt that you would be bored senseless by therapy, the same way I'm bored when I brush my teeth and wipe my ass. Because the thing about repairing, maintaining, and cleaning is: it's not an adventure. There's no way to do it so wrong you might die. It's just work. And the bottom line is some people are okay going to work and some people, well, some people would rather die. Each of us gets to choose."

I think about this at least once a week — usually while I'm doing my laundry or sweeping or some other task that needs doing and won't get me anything more than clean clothing or a dog-hair-free floor. There's no Pulitzer for wiping down your microwave or scrubbing your toilet; no one's awarding you for getting all the dishes out of the sink. At best you have the satisfaction of crossing it off your list.

Voting is very much the same (and I'm talking about the US here, as an American). Sure, you sometimes get a sticker; but nobody's going to cheer for you. There's no adventure here, no potential for anything more than crossing something off of a list. It's a chore, something that needs doing in order to repair, maintain, and yes even clean. So I get why people don't like doing it.

And I've decided I don't give a shit.

Do it anyway. Your country takes astonishingly little from you — taxes, the once-in-a-blue-moon jury duty, and a theoretical draft that hasn't been used in over half a century and likely will never be again — but it asks you (asks! not requires! not demands!) to vote once a year. It's not always easy; especially in conservative states, the impediments to vote can be ridiculous. But it is once a year and unlike in our nation's all-too-recent past, you will not die if you do it.

In fact, the worst outcome from voting these days is that the person or issue that you vote for loses — but you won't know if they lose until after the election. Polls are less accurate now, for a whole host of reasons; you cannot know until after the election who or what will win. This makes your vote more valuable than possibly ever before.

Use that power. Not because it's exciting or even rewarding, but because your vote is what keeps our country's metaphorical teeth from falling out and our metaphorical ass from stinking.

Brush, wipe, vote.

[cozylittleartblog]

here comes the boy ~ hello boy ✨

cleaned up a couple of the vash doodles i did while learning to draw him :)

[annonir]

Glass onion script team really said "we've hidden the meaning of the film under several layers of plot, but yes. the message is just as obvious as the title indicates. all you really need to see is that powerful billionnaires don't deserve shit and CAN be taken down by force" and it's very direct action of them

[furiousgoldfish]

abusers: you should resolve everything peacefully with understanding and patience. nobody needs to be violent or argumentative. peace and love at all times.

except whEN I DECIDE I WANT VIOLENCE, THEN I WILL INFLICT VIOLENCE there will be as Much Violence as I want and I will get my fucking way by force every single time!!!!

but as soon as thats over and I'm satisfied, hey you should be peaceful! why are you being insane and emotional? why are you not being peaceful about this? what are you talking about, it was a funny joke! haha, don't be silly, you're imagining things. You should not argue or raise your voice or it might trigger more violence ;) and it would be your fault. I decide when violence will happen and I can do as much of it as I want, you should not argue if I want peace. Now calm down and remember you are evil if you do not forgive and forget immediately though I will not apologize or acknowledge I did anything. Peace and love forever!

[warrior-cats-rewritten]

Literally go fuck yourself.

https://archive.ph/2019.12.27-222825/https://erinhunter.katecary.co.uk/the-blazing-star-spoiler-page/comment-page-10/%23comments for if you wanna go read this for yourself and see.

[captainofthetidesbreath]

sometimes I look out across the theatre and stage of fandom with my opera glasses and spot someone making angry bitter seething post after angry bitter seething post, and I quietly wonder if they're having fun, like I'm having fun, often the people they're vaguing are having fun, some of us are having fun, many of us even

[casuallydyinginthecorner]

Just because your body isn't where you want it to be doesn't mean you shouldn't take care of it

[worstloki]

there is a difference between being born to a throne, maliciously vying for a throne, stealing a throne, and having a throne thrust upon you when you are already in the midst of an identity crisis. And I fear Loki's place in the line of succession has people unable to differentiate between any of these

[covertblizzard]

Something so funny to me about the fact that for some reason Wonder Woman isn't here, but Superman and Green Lantern are (and Aquaman but at least he has more reason to be here). Also the way that Superman looks like he is pointing at Robin (because he and Batman are co-parenting) and Green Lantern is in-between Kid Flash and Speedy (because he's their honorary uncle) is very fun to me!