what's currently helping me with catastrophizing/worrying/analysis paralysis
one of the number one things that i just can't stop doing is worrying and catastrophizing and it's been getting in my way for eons now. it's extremely hard to push through, i end up procrastinating, doing things last minute (which means i can't do them as well as i otherwise would), and of course self-sabotaging.
i used to think that i only catastrophize with "big" decisions, but i noticed that it had crept into small day-to-day decisions as well. just coming up with my daily to-do-list was littered with extremely negative "what ifs" and it was agonizing.
so i tried to force myself to not think negatively, to be mindful and say "c'mon that won't happen..." etc... but it didn't help. my "brain" (or part) would just reject that and do it even worse. i also did the thing i read about where you're supposed to think the negative thought to it's conclusion, which should then help you snap out of it. it did not, in fact my brain is capable of coming up with some pretty gruesome stuff, so that just ended up being an exercise in just how bad things can get.
so then i had this idea: how about adding more options to the outcomes? so now i have a new rule, each time my brain chimes in with a catastrophizing thought, it has to add at least 2 or 3 (or more) good outcomes for the same situation. therefore i'm not left with just one horrible scenario, but two others where everything goes fine or even really good. this has helped me get out of analysis paralysis and tackle the things i need to get done, big and small, while still allowing my brain to "contribute" with warnings. it doesn't get to be the only and the loudest voice anymore, it is obliged to hand out the good scenarios it's been keeping from me as well, to balance things out a little. that way the negative outcome suddenly shrinks to it's appropriate size and it just one among many outcomes.
sure, that doesn't mean negative things won't ever happen, it just means that the idea of them having a chance of happening won't keep me from what i want/have to do. this method has really helped me in the last couple of days, i hope it can help others too.
Raging against the machine except it’s me trying to convince my nervous system/amygdala that feeling funny and being on the verge of death are not the same thing
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i’m especially recommending this for anyone struggling with putting their phone down because they are looking for a distraction, but don’t want to ingest hours of garbage on social media. not an ad, i’m not getting paid for this lol, just sharing something currently helping me. 😔 hopefully it can help others in some way.