#Child Abuse TW

[professorcalculusstanaccount]

I decided to clean up an old comic of mine! A thirty something year old Tintin reflects on his childhood with Chang.

[the-library-alcove]

Cycles of abuse don't always look like "My parents beat me, so I'll beat my kids and rationalize it as good for them and a moral stance of being able to be cruel to be kind."

It can also look like, "While my siblings got beaten, I stood off to the side, frozen, and now I tell my kids and everyone else to never fight back or resist, and rationalize it as good for them and a moral stance of pacifism."

It can look like, "When I got beaten by my parents, I fawned over them in the aftermath, and now I fawn over my abuser as they beat our kids and tell them to do the same, and I rationalize this as good for them and a moral stance of appeasement."

But ultimately, none of these are moral stances--they're coping mechanisms for surviving domestic abuse.

[sayruq]

Palestinian children in the Israel military detention system face physical and emotional abuse, with four out of five (86%) of them being beaten, and 69% strip-searched, according to new research by Save the Children. Nearly half (42%) are injured at the point of arrest, including gunshot wounds and broken bones. Some report violence of a sexual nature and some are transferred to court or between detention centres in small cages, the child rights organisation said.

[howlingtothevoid]

I didn't realize your reasons and I didn't know your plans, until I became the same age you were back then and it horrifies me. I wish you had done more so I could prove the world I am right, and I wish you had done nothing to me at all. Isn't it weird how it works?

[star-anise]

I get how it's not actually paradoxical or surprising but it's eternally hilarious to me when the same people who say "But they're your FAMILY! You can't turn your back on the people who raised you!!!" also think it's a-ok to disown your children for the high crimes and misdemeanours of like. Smoking pot. Getting pregnant. Sucking dick.

[one-time-i-dreamt]

I feel like we need to be talking more about this book and Jennette McCurdy in general

[mysharona1987]

Scarier when you realise the IDF tend to consider any Palestinian male over the age of 10 a “man.”

[northstarscowboyhat]

Justice Family Cuddles ˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗

[anewgayeveryday]

Today's LGBT+ Character is;

Mitch Muller and Jonas Wagner from Long Exposure by Marsoid-Gay and Bisexual respectively

Read Long Exposure on Tapas here

Requested by anon (a long time ago)

TW For child abuse

Status: Alive (and Dating)

[pollyanna-nana]

I think it’s so interesting that Kui decided to show us how differences in lifespan affect tallmen and elf relationships from both angles with Kabru and Thistle and also how that reflects real-life abusive situations. And then goes on to deconstruct that by showing how genuine understanding and respect CAN exist between the races with other characters!

Kabru being raised by an elf (who is shown to only have a superficial respect for short-lived races, the same one might have for a pet in a lot of ways) and treated like a child even though he’s in his 20s. After all, a 20 year old elf would be a kindergartener, and Milsiril seems to have a rather toxic combination of overprotectiveness and dehumanizing tendencies that leads to perpetually seeing the children she raises as children, even well into adulthood for their race.

And yet, we see with characters like Otta that this doesn’t have to be true of EVERY elf (nor should it logically be, especially those who spend actual time around short-lived races.) For all the jokes made at her expense I actually think it’s really interesting that she’s also canonically queer since recognizing the agency and maturity of short-lived races is in itself a type of queerness in elf society from what we’ve seen. Senshi too, as funny as his misconstruing Chilchuck as a child is I think it’s really important that he realizes his mistake and rethinks his assumptions on short-lived races following his example. It doesn’t HAVE to be the way it is, but it will take work on each side to improve things.

Then on Thistle’s end… woof. Complete opposite of Kabru, it was difficult for the tallmen of the golden kingdom to comprehend how someone in their, like, 60s could still behave like a teenager and chalked that up to a personal and moral failing rather than literal differences in biology (kind of an autistic mood but that’s a conversation for later.) It’s just as disturbing as Milsiril’s treatment of the children she adopts really, since they explicitly didn’t want an adult that could exert their own agency and control over their situation. And the thing is it’s not like that’s totally uncalled for, the previous points show how a non-insignificant number of members of long-lived races do genuinely see short-lived races as inferior, or are otherwise ignorant, like with below.

It ended up working out just how they wanted, because Thistle’s child-like innocence and singleminded desire to make the only family he had happy meant he was never going to do anything he didn’t think would help them… which then backfired, because of course it would. It’s overcontrolling and manipulative parenting, but with the added spice of lifespan differences and magic. Kabru ended up detesting the elves that raised him and wanting nothing to do with them, and Thistle basically had a massive breakdown trying too hard to please everyone. Infantilization vs adultification, as some have said, with predictable results.

[nerves-nebula]

mikey makes the mistake of getting publicly excited within earshot of Splinter.

tmnt redline by @coffinpal & @0ddbugs, @tmntaucompetition

[dailyaoyagi]

TW: Abuse, child abuse

I'm going to repeat myself again because I'm tired of this goddamn fandom: let's NOT compare what Toya and Mafuyu went through and what their parents did to them. There's no reason whatsoever to try and measure which character had it worse or which parent is more abusive, they both suck and seriously traumatized their kids.

"Oh but Harumichi didn't manipulate Toya and is trying to do better" and that somehow makes the decade of mental and physical abuse and forced isolation he inflicted on Toya ok? Yes he's not attacking Toya anymore and yes Toya loves and forgives him but in what world would that suddenly redeem him for anything? He still abused his son and messed him up for life, just because he's not an active antagonist like Mafumom doesn't mean he's suddenly ok or a good parent.

And again, let's not compare what Mafuyu and Toya went through and try to see "who had it worse!" That's just gross and even feels like fetishizing what they went through. Both of them were abused. Both of them have abusive parents. You cannot compare what their parents did to them or say which one was better or worse. End of story.

Again thank you for reading, now take them being genuinely happy to go.

[pro-birth]

Abortion doesn't save children from abuse, it tells abusers that the only abuse they can legally get away with is killing their child in utero.

[star-anise]

The thing about "parents' rights" and "protect the children [from hearing that other ways of life than ours are possible and okay]" is that it is literally, in the purest sense of the word, patriarchy.

The word literally means "rule by the fathers". We're generally used to hearing it describe how adult women can be dominated by adult men. However, that's not where patriarchy ends; feminists have been less eager to address how within that system, women can exercise power and domination of their own through the traditional gender roles of motherhood. Their maternal rights to power and dominance may have traditionally been lesser than paternal ones, but they were never less than their minor children's. Even single-mother or female-only families can be, in this sense, patriarchal.

Patriarchal families are a complex system that grants parents complete legal and practical control over nearly every aspect of their children's lives. The patriarchal family controls where the child lives, who takes care of them, what rules they have to follow, how they are educated, who they associate with, what healthcare they receive, what religion they practice, and whether they can work or control any money they earn or that is given to or for them.

Normally discussions of patriarchy are a lot more abstract. But right now it's very concrete and real: we are fighting to limit the family's control over children on issues where we can observe that families sometimes tend to make decisions that are bad for the children's welfare or that disrespect their human rights.

Whether a minor child can get an abortion. Whether they can receive gender-affirming care. Whether it's okay to lie or coerce your child to ensure they follow your religion. Whether they deserve to be educated about factual histories or scientific theories that are necessary to understanding the world around them. Whether they deserve to learn accurate, age-appropriate information about consent, setting boundaries, how their bodies and the bodies of other people work, what a normal range of gender and sexual identities look like, what healthy or unhealthy relationships look like, and what sex is, how it works, what its positives and negatives are, and how they might navigate the world, whether or not they ever want to have it.

Hell, on some levels we're still arguing about whether it's okay to hit your kids, or whether children have the right, similar to the rights adults have, not to be assaulted or abused.

Because there are a LOT of people who say: No. Parents should have 100% control over any or all of those issues. If the parent says no, the child is not allowed to do or have any of those things, and nobody else should be allowed to interfere and provide them to the child without their parents' consent.

Pointing this out often results in parents saying, "Oh, so you want just ANYONE to be able to go up and talk sex with kids? You want kids to be able to decide to jump off cliffs with nobody stopping them???" As though parents are the single protective force in the universe, the only thing standing between their child and the ravages of absolute chaos.

On the contrary: most of the time the argument is for children to receive care and guidance from adults who are monitored to ensure they treat children in safe and appropriate ways, who have spent many years studying the best and most rigorously tested of our collective understanding of how to prepare children for happy, healthy lives.

And we are arguing against people who believe that the only important qualification needed to refuse children that kind of care is to be ranked above them in their family hierarchy.

In conclusion...

Fuck the patriarchy. Children have human rights too.

[one-time-i-dreamt]

Not a dream

Drake Bell is a victim and an abuser himself

Your heart can hurt for him but it should also hurt for his victims

The abuse he suffered is very real, and so is the hurt he himself caused

https://www.today.com/popculture/drake-bell-controversies-rcna143227

[mysharona1987]