I've honestly been feeling the exact same way as you about the SMFS vid!
I feel like FOB's vids generally follow one of two threads: The most over-the-top, silliest self-roast possible, so they just have an excuse to be as ridiculous as they can (ie Uma Thurman, Irresistible, Wilson (Expensive Mistakes)), or a study in loneliness, and finding community again after you've been made to feel like you don't belong (ie Sugar We're Goin' Down, The Youngblood Chronicles, Young and Menace, What A Catch, Donnie).
SMFS manages to walk the fine line between the two pretty well, I think, and the more I think about it, the more endeared I am by it!
yes!! And I think over the last 20 years, Pete has become so used to being a spectacle, he’s started to just—put true things in plain sight under that thin gauze of silliness, knowing he’ll be dismissed and there’s no risk of being understood. the SMFS video feels like one of those thin-gauze moments.
and working with Jimmy, who came under media scrutiny for his emo look last year, amid rumors about his sexuality—receiving the pw treatment, in a way—while showing us something so soft and open, the see-through identity of the invisible man… well. this has ended me!
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struck down by the mental image of an android laying down to "sleep" on a mattress shaped charging pad. oof. im experiencing the Emotions. rest well and recharge you dear little electric angel
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Apparently this needs to be said so
Forgetting things is morally neutral! Memory issues are morally neutral!
You're not a bad person if you...
forget things quickly
forget people
can't remember entire stages of your life
can't remember important things
can remember some things very well and forget other things all the time
can't remember things (or anything!) about your interests
forget to eat, sleep, go to the bathroom, etc
forget to reply to texts
remember things and immediately forget them again
can't remember birthdays, events, etc
frequently answer 'I forgot' to questions
can't retain new information
forget things you used to know
only remember things when it's too late
have vague, distorted and/or unreliable memories
depend on others to know how an event you were in played out
have other symptoms that are worsened by memory issues and vice versa
... and anything else I might have missed!
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“When I first heard it, from a dog trainer who knew her behavioral science, it was a stunning moment. I remember where I was standing, what block of Brooklyn’s streets. It was like holding a piece of polished obsidian in the hand, feeling its weight and irreducibility. And its fathomless blackness. Punishment is reinforcing to the punisher. Of course. It fit the science, and it also fit the hidden memories stored in a deeply buried, rusty lockbox inside me. The people who walked down the street arbitrarily compressing their dogs’ tracheas, to which the poor beasts could only submit in uncomprehending misery; the parents who slapped their crying toddlers for the crime of being tired or hungry: These were not aberrantly malevolent villains. They were not doing what they did because they thought it was right, or even because it worked very well. They were simply caught in the same feedback loop in which all behavior is made. Their spasms of delivering small torments relieved their frustration and gave the impression of momentum toward a solution. Most potently, it immediately stopped the behavior. No matter that the effect probably won’t last: the reinforcer—the silence or the cessation of the annoyance—was exquisitely timed. Now. Boy does that feel good.”
— Melissa Holbrook Pierson, The Secret History of Kindness (2015)
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