How to get the confidence to dress alternative in public: LONG POST {from a scene king!!}
I hear a lot of young teens online saying things along the lines of, “I would love to dress like that but I’m scared”. We’ve all been there, it takes bravery to step outside the box. Since 2020, there has been an uptick in alternative fashion, which makes things a little better, but it doesn’t mitigate the fear some people feel.
As someone who has been dressing alternative all throughout highschool and who I’d like to think has some 17 year old wisdom, this is how you can get the confidence to dress how you want. This can apply to other alternative fashion types like decora, punk, goth ect ect.
This post goes with a youtube video!! You can just watch it if you dont wanna read
Realize why you’re scared: Is it because you’re afraid of being different or picked on? Are you afraid of change? Do you think your friends/peers won’t care about you anymore? These are all valid reasons, and once you know why, you can start to tackle it. Change isn’t bad, everyone changes, change is natural. Look around at nature, seasons change, we grow and age, animals migrate and go through metamorphosis. You don’t have to be confined to one thing forever just because you weren’t born that way. As for the fear of being picked on, fuck those people. Do you know why people tease others? It’s because they’re insecure. Hurt people hurt people. When people see you being yourself and they wish they could do that, they take it out on you because in their heart, they’re jealous. You’re not the problem, they are. (If you’re afraid of being physically hurt, that is completely different and I would not advise putting your safety in jeopardy)
Start slow. While you’re still building your wardrobe, you can start slowly stepping out with small accessories and such. Add some kandi to your outfit or a tattoo choker. This is mainly to ease yourself into it. Big changes can be pretty scary and jarring, so easing into it can help you.
Have some role models. By this I mean, have people you look up to, people that are inspiration to you. Me? Some of mine here on tumblr are @xx-may4-malic3-xx , @xx-k1tsun3-k1d-xx , @xxdespairfactionashtonxx , @cigsnvalentines to name a few. Theres also some old scene queens, musicians, ect. Find whoever you want. I’m reccomending this, because when you see other people doing the same as you, it makes you go “if they can do it, so can I”. Most people probably wont even mind if you send them an ask about specific things (ik i dont, i love them).
Kinda the same point, but build a community. We have a pretty good community here on tumblr. Community is the backbone to everything. Ideally it would be someone irl, but not everyone is lucky enough to have cool irl friendz.
Fake it till you make it. Nobody has to know you’re scared but you. I’m not saying get super extroverted if you’re introverted and go around exuding confidence like a lazar beam. Dance in your mirror, hype yourself up. Take cool pictures and edit them, even if you don’t post them online. Learn to walk with your head up, again SLOWLY. As you start introducing more alternative elements into your wardrobe, wear them with pride.
Be the change you want to see. What I mean is if you want people to be kinder, you be kinder. Try to compliment someone every day. People actually aren’t as rude as you think, maybe I’m an optimist, but I think the average person isn’t terrible. Complimenting other people also makes you feel good, try it. Piggybacking off this point, don’t take things so personally. I know if can be easier to harp on the negative looks and comments you got versus the good ones, but you have to look past this. There are gonna be bad apples always, but their misdeeds can blind you from the people who think you’re pretty cool. Don’t let one bad apple ruin the bunch.
Lastly, realize being cringe is okay. Not just realize it, but internalize it. What even is cringe? Define cringe… Weird? Different? Everyone is different, everyone is weird about something. As I said earlier, some people are just too scared to be themselves. In 80 years when you’re old and looking back on your life, would you rather regret not being your authentic self, or think of all the fond memories of your life? Regret is one of the worse things in life, it’s terrible. There is nobody you can be but yourself. You’re you, so be you.
Remember that this is something that can take months or years. I feel like this past year and a half I have become fully confident in my fashion. I have been dressing alternative for 5 years for reference. I hope this could help someone.
If I wasnt clear on anything, feel free to send me an ask! Im more than happy to help!!
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Could you imagine how bad the Campers' survivor's guilt must be? Like sure, a lot of people that were killed on the islands were bad people who frankly deserved it, but they also saw so many innocent people die, ntm I'm sure they saw all the news articles with death counts from Nublar (Death counts that may possibly be lower than what they are due to the fact that we all know they weren't able to retrieve every body).
Yet here they are, six random kids that managed to survive everything against all odds, despite not only dinosaurs but also grown adults wanting them killed on multiple occassions. They all went through things that realistically SHOULD have killed them, I mean, even the fall off the zipine in s1 was a lot. Ben on the monorail, Sammy with the Scorpious, plus everything else was realistically way too much for a group of 6 CHILDREN to survive, yet they somehow did.
But so many people didn't.
So many innocent people, workers, guests, adults, other children, all met their untimely fate simply because they needed a job or they wanted to have a good time with their family, meanwhile these 6 kids, some of which didn't even WANT to be there, somehow made it. They don't know how, or what they did to deserve it that the other's didn't, but they made it.
I dunno, I've just been thinking about that lately.
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Calling Emo/Scene Artists!
I know a few of us are into Paganism, witchcraft, the occult and divination and I just had a thought.
What if a bunch of us worked on a free to print tarot card set with a style similar to the 2000s? Think like;
What do y’all think? Think it could be a worthwhile idea/project? (If there’s a good level of response, I’ll begin planning/organising.)
UPDATE: Project is launched! Check this post here (https://www.tumblr.com/curs3d-d1v1n3/746147431961509888/cursed-divine-artist-sign-up-form?source=share) for more information. Can't wait to work with you all!
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this is super long-overdue, but i recently made a shrimpshipping fankid!! it's been a while since i made a fan character, but i was so inspired by the yugioh oc community on insta that i wanted to try my hand at making one!
there's more info about her under the cut if you're interested ^^
around 20 years after the events of yugioh duel monsters, maizey raptor-underwood was born through surrogacy. with two animal-lovers for parents, maizey grew to love the outdoors, and believes that animals are superior to humans in just about every way.
fun facts:
her name is a reference to a maize weevil. if she was born a boy she might have been named mosey, like mosasaurus.
she eventually attends duel academy, and would be a slifer red.
her outfit's pawprint motif with three toepads represents the three members of her family.
finally, some design tidbits!
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