Can we all at least agree that the inability, unwillingness, and straight up refusal on the part of academia, politics and just the general public discourse, to even discuss the position of masculinity in 2023 is how we ended up with the RedPill and the Andrew Tates of the world filling the vacuum?
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Unhelpful unclepan is probably an upper-caste affliction but it does not necessarily have a gender or age group. Many of the domineering behaviours described by the women I interviewed were displayed by young men. Years of socialisation in patriarchy, self-doubt, age-based deference, and internalising a feudal structure that props up upper-caste privilege and pits women against each other for men’s affections, implies women are as likely to display the bigoted traits of uncledom as men. Many prominent supporters of abusive men’s rights groups are female. The corollary is that not all middle-aged men are unhelpful uncles. The biggest victims of unhelpful uncles are men they raise as sons or nurture as mentees at the workplace. One of the most moving pieces of media content churned out in 2022 was a brutally honest conversation on modern masculinity between podcaster Amit Varma and mental health activist Nikhil Taneja. Taneja highlighted how middle-class homes and institutions in India raise boys to believe that competitive achievement can singularly confer affection. Such a belief system invariably leads to lonely, angry and mentally unwell men. The fact is that the traits of an unhelpful uncle lurk in each one of us in positions of any power and economic privilege. Before we point fingers and outrage at others, defeating the pandemic of pettiness in our economy and polity will require us to defeat the tyranny of the insecure uncle within ourselves.
Sharanya Bhattacharya, ‘The tyranny of the Indian uncle’, Mint
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Title: Elevate Your Routine: Celebrating National Men's Grooming Day
National Men's Grooming Day is a celebration of self-care and confidence. It's a day to elevate your grooming routine, explore new products, and embrace the importance of looking and feeling your best.
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Men's Waxing: Breaking Stereotypes and Embracing Grooming for All
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Modern!Mizu and The Moment Mikio Betrayed Her
(((So I was writing this moment for something else when it got way too long and so I decide to make it an independent piece. This is set before Mizu meets Ringo/Akemi/Taigen.)))
When they got into the worst fight of their relationship at Mikio's apartment, it escalated to physical attack.
Maybe Mikio assumed she could take it since she was strong. Maybe there was something more brewing under that blank look he got when they worked out together and she was faster, lifted more than he expected, etc. etc.
He had slammed her into the wall, and years of training went autopilot and made her leg kick out to hook him behind the knee and yank him off his feet. Mikio slammed onto his back with a strangled cry. She pulled her pocket knife out of her back pocket so he would be forced to stay back and they could both just...calm down. Her hand had shaken the tiniest bit.
She didn’t step closer to him, she held the blade out so that she could back away herself. She tried to calm her racing heart, she tried to start speaking to deescalate the situation but the abhorrent look in his eyes as he stared up at her from the ground pierced her heart. He called her some choice things that brought tears to her eyes despite resistance.
And then he left the bedroom and slammed the door shut. She tried to follow him but he held it closed so she couldn’t get out no matter how much she started banging or trying to throw her weight into it in panic.
She heard him calling the police on the other side. Her heart sunk into her stomach as she sagged against the door. He knew she had a record from when she was a teenager, the darkest years of her life. If they came there, she was without a doubt going to be arrested and booked. She would lose her scholarship, she’d lose everything she was building at college toward her future. The image of Eiji's disappointed face as he has to bail her out was enough to have her heart jump back up into her throat.
So she frantically grabbed everything that was hers in Mikio’s bedroom, shoved it into her backpack, and proceeded to climb out the window and scale down the side of his fourth floor apartment.
Her hands and knees got scratched up to a bleeding state from the bricks, and on top of that she landed on her ankle badly. There may have been a popping noise, followed by cussing through a tear choked throat. Heart pounding, she limped as fast as she could away from the sight line of the apartment before he could realize she’s gone and chase her.
She wiped the blood from her hands off on the bottom of her shirt.
The familiar burn of anguished rage spread quickly in her chest with the tears coming down faster and faster. She sniffled wetly, and rubbed the underside of her nose with her sleeve.
Passing by the last row of parked cars in the apartment complex she did a double take. Right there in the middle is Mikio’s stupid 1998 Crown Vic’s car. A flash of him giving her her first kiss in the front seats warped through her tears, his warm hand wrapped around the back of her neck as he pulled her in. With clenched teeth her knife flashed out and stabbed the front left tire. There was a hiss, air rapidly leaking out.
The car started to slowly lilt to the side, and it wasn't enough. So she swung her arm back and put her elbow through his driver side window with a shatter that hurt her ears and set off the car alarm.
She cradled her injured elbow, violently being slammed between waves of intense grief and intense rage (and a touch of bitter fear that sat on her tongue despite how hard she tried to swallow it past her closed up throat). For the first time in her life she felt so much younger than she really was as she hurried down the road back to campus, wiping her eyes on her shoulders and flinching every time she set her left foot down wrong.
The next morning was filled with endless (unanswered) calls and texts apologizing and pleading for them to talk. Mizu stared numbly at her phone, before just letting it slip from her fingers into a trash can as she walked to class. She'll just tell the phone company it was stolen so she can get a new phone, and a new number. It's fine. She had Eiji's number memorized.
There's nothing important on that phone anyway.
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rant about the cod fandom, that i'm gonna continue talking about 'til people actually listen
if you baby könig or say stuff like, “he'd cry when he has to order”, “he needs a squishmallow to sleep” literally unfollow me, you guys are SO annoying its literally indescribable how pissed off i get at some of these fans. it's ridiculous, give me atleast three reasons why könig would do those things, and if you do think he would act like that, tell me why in my requests but i'm genuinely curious onto how stupid and weird you guys can actually be about a character that's portrayed as a cocky, confident killing machine with social anxiety.
and i don't even care about people's headcannons (it doesn't bother me if i don't agree with them), but the whole infantilizing shit that bothers me. if someone turned around and said ghost would cry if he didn't have a teddy bear with him, they'd get weird looks because it's so inaccurate. so explain why könig - a character super similar to ghost - would whine and babble and cry. he's not sensitive, infact he probably lacks sympathy since he's sensitised to this military stuff...
hoping this reaches those fans
and i know i always talk about this, but i have so much to say about them but i'd offend those weird cod fans so i just won't bother with that 😪😪
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Sanji, pulling out a cigarette and saying under their breath: ✨✨✨girl dinner✨✨✨
Sanji, before every cigarette : I deserve a little treat!
Sanji, when someone points out they actually smoked 6 cigarettes when they said it was 5: one of them was the last of an old pack so it doesn’t count. Girl math.
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