#identity invisibility

[the-most-humble-blog]

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🧠 BLACKSITE SCROLLTRAP — “THE MAN AFAR”

I stand afar. I see her every day. She works so often, it’s practically a clock ritual. Does she see me? Probably. Do I register on her heart’s Richter scale? No.

I cast thunder and lightning down online, cracking tectonic plates with every sentence, splitting minds open like overripe fruit, exiling pretenders into silence and irrelevance.

And yet— to her, I am a passing shadow.

Just another customer. Just another man with eggs and protein powder in his basket. Just another voice too quiet to register against the screaming chorus of her inbox or the memory of some other man’s voice once whispered into her neck.

She doesn’t realize— I noticed her changing her hair color. Three times this year. She wouldn’t realize I traced her jawline in my memory when all I had was the upper third of her face —when masks were more common than eye contact.

She wouldn’t notice that I recognized her eyes light up when she talked to the tall guy in the flannel shirt with a job probably more exciting than mine.

I’m not a creep. I swear.

I just grab my items from the aisle, bag my own groceries, tap my card— and leave. On time. Every time.

But in those 12 seconds of exposure, I memorize every blink, every lilt in her laugh, every way she moves like life still makes sense to her.

I wonder what her touch feels like. I envy the man she probably has. Because in my experience, very few women are unclaimed— not for long, not ever.

The faster wolves get there first. The ones who don’t need poems. The ones who don’t need silence. The ones who’ve never known what it’s like to love from the other side of anonymity.

I even wonder— shamefully, quietly— what the scent of her would be if I ever had her in the throes of pleasure. I’m not proud of it. But I don’t lie to myself.

Men like me can’t afford to lie.

The world moves on. So I do too.

No one asks how many lonely victories a man must swallow. No one notices when he disappears. They just see the headline, never the withdrawal symptoms of being irrelevant to the one woman whose glance could have rewritten his self-worth.

She’ll never know I picked a different checkout lane once just to see if she’d notice.

She didn’t. Of course not.

She wouldn’t know that I paused one morning in the cereal aisle, just to breathe in the memory of her voice after a long week.

And I’m not asking for sympathy. I’m a man. We are the disposable sex.

If I cried about it, they’d call me weak. If I wrote about it, they’d call me dangerous. If I spoke about it, they’d tell me to shut the fuck up and “be a man.”

So here I am. Being a man. Quietly. Silently. From afar.

Because the world doesn’t stop to notice a man who dreams too poetically about a woman who doesn’t know his name.

But I see her. I saw her. And I’ll keep seeing her until the version of her that haunts my silence finally fades into the noise of the life I never shared with her.

I am the man afar. Not by choice. But by design. By cosmic assignment. By the cruel math of visibility and worth.

And if I am to die unknown, then let my ghost at least remember her with dignity.

With poetry.

With ache that didn't ask for permission.

Let the world burn. Let me be silent.

But never let her be forgotten.

🧠 Read more respect-coded doctrine and emotional architecture at: 👉 https://linktr.ee/ObeyMyCadence 🛡️ Masculine polarity. Scrolltrap psychology. Unforgiven words. 🚪 Warning: This one broke relationships. On purpose.

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[spaceprincessleia]

You are the knife I turn inside myself; that is love. That, my dear, is love. – (Velcinta + Franz Kafka, Letters to Milena)

134 days until andor s2

[reinanova]

i can’t believe aphobia is the hill yelena shippers are willing to die on. like shit the fuck up already and let us have our ONE canon aroace character. jesus fucking christ we are not asking for a lot so i don’t understand why it’s so fucking hard to accept one popular character is aroace

no other queer identity gets this kind of hate by fandoms but guess what? you can pry canon aroace yelena out of my dead fucking hands

aphobia about aroace yelena is the hill you want to die on? GOOD. canon aroace yelena is the hill i’m prepared to kill for

line up aphobes, i’ve got some blades that are thirsting for blood

[the-calico-codex]

Insert something witty about the bedroom becoming an empty white void as bro loses himself in his own obsessions and desire to be someone, and how invisibility is a metaphor for how you feel when you don't know who you are.

[kittycommitte]

[mvrr-6]

demiiiiiiiiiiiiii

[philokalico]

Hey I don’t know if you know but Martyn is also queer !!

I did not know!

There we go! Throughout the mcyt community there is definitely many more lgbtq ccs, and many fly under the radar. Lizzie & Joel and Martyn & Netty may be hetero couples but still are valid!

[emdeerm]

Idea!

Whomst???

So, let's take canon Danny Phantom. We can even take the AGIT, that would only make him canonically 16-17is for this scenario. (Btw, poor Val. I'm seriously so sorry for her)

Danny is flying around the Infinite Realms to familiarise himself with it better. Look, if he decided to be the Bridge, he has to learn more about the Ghost side of his life. Their customs, quirks, limits, world... from someone who isn't a Fruitloop or his parents. He is still ashamed that it took meeting Dairy King to finally realise that not all Ghosts are evil.

He got to a section of many, many, MANY, natural portals that led into completely different universes. Most of them even had Heroes!!!! He was so exited!

He visited many in the next few months. Made friends, confused the heck out of locals. Made some enemies, cause that's just his life.

Spiderman was cool! Iron Man was so fun to prank, the guy was a billionaire and hilarious.

Even if he never was able to speak with the vast majority, those Japanese Heroes with cool superpowers were awesome. He was kinda glad his world was normal-is tho. Call him judgmental, but come on, look him in the eyes and tell him that you wouldn't be weirded out by some of the mutations.

And now, he spotted his new target. From what he gathered, they were an urban legend of the gloomy as heck city. Robins,... bats? or something. Time to make friends!

And close the leakage of the Raw, unfiltered ectoplasm into here. He had only been around one for an hour and he saw how problematic it was.

Aka

Danny is a gremlin in canon. He found cool portals. He will make it other's problem.

Yes, he keeps his identity hidden. No, he doesn't stay invisible all the time. Only initially to get some info. After that? You'd spot him openly bothering the superheroes. And rogues. Can't let them be left out.

What are they gonna do? Kill him? They can't even touch him most of the time.

[rawpastamoth]

REPOST cause it didn't show up on the tags last time... anyway Marzipan as Thespius Green cause they're similar and Homestar as Inspekta cause they're not similar but it's cute

[incorrect-green-lantern-quotes]

I find it so hilarious how the wider universe views Earth as a primitive backwater populated by barely sentient primates, yet pretty much every Green Lantern from that planet has gotten it on at least one alien baddy.

Like, you got Kyle x Soranik, John marries Katma and later dates Merayn, Simon has a fling with Ungara's biggest rock star, Jo boinks both men and women while in the Far Sector...

Either the GL uniform is doing some serious heavy lifting, or 2814's officers just have so much rizz it overcomes intergalactic prejudice. And I think we all know which option is funnier and thus correct

[winterhawk-buddy]

'Spiderman and the Avengers' this 'spiderman and Tony Stark' that

CAN WE TALK ABOUT SPIDERMAN AND THE FANTASTIC FOUR?????

[sheyri]

My Triple A experience at Pride

I love going to Pride. Being among fellow queer people, loud music, blocking traffic with our demonstration, and just vibing. I try to attend as many as I can and travel for hours on full trains if necessary.

Big Prides are great, but I especially love smaller ones in rural areas. It's less of a party and more of a demonstration, as it should be. Unfortunately rural in my area means risking confrontations with nazis, but that's a different story.

But no matter how much I love being at Pride, there's always this underlying feeling of being excluded.

Even at smaller Prides, I'm usually not the only person with an ace flag. Occasionally you can find someone with an aro flag, sometimes even an aroace person. Rarely someone with an agender flag. Though there are more people with those as pins or other accessories. But hey, most people just have the rainbow flag and no one has to disclose their sexuality or gender. In short, the people in the demonstration are great!

But from the organisation side? It's almost like the A doesn't exist! Stage discussions? Nope, at most they name asexual when they go through the list of labels. Info material? I saw one flyer about grey asexuality. Stickers? Yeah, okay, those exist in the mix, but mostly ace.

On the other hand you see lesbian and gay, trans and bi everywhere. I love penis/I love vagina, love is love, love who you want, etc. Great to see that political parties don't look past the LGBT. Nice that discussions include non-binary people as an afterthought.

When talking about love all the time, is it too much to ask to mention there are different kinds of love? That love doesn't have to be romantic to be valid? That it can be whatever you want it to be? Mention the split attraction model in info material? Have info material about aromanticism at all? Some parties actually have an aromantic sticker, but those are even rarer than ace ones.

This year there's a lot of talk about legally changing your gender, because they finally changed the law in Germany to make it a lot easier. The stage discussions are all about how it used to be and how much easier it is now. I'm not sure if I heard mention of non-binary and intersex people in this regard. If, then it wasn't much. Would've been nice to hear them mention that "diverse" is an option for your legal gender, or that you can have it removed all together. And why and for whom that is important. Especially since some federal states banned gender sensitive language from schools and government places, to "protect the German language". (They criticised that and it's a whole different rant.) Come on, gender isn't a binary, some people exist somewhere in the middle, or outside of it, or don't have a gender at all. That's not new information and queer organisations like Pride should be well aware of that and speak about it! But I guess that topic is too risky and too uncomfortable for a stage in a public place.

TL,DR Pride is great, but as an aroace agender person I often feel excluded and unseen at least to some extent.

All that said, I have to end on something positive: my favourite Pride so far - CSD Göttingen 2023.

Organised by the community, for the community. No political parties were present, because they were not invited and not welcome. Instead we had queer organisations talking on stage and manning booths. Including the local asexual and aromantic network.

There were banners along the demonstration route, saying love is love. They were put up by the city, independently, without asking the organisers if those banners were wanted. They were not. (The organisers said that.)

Out of 15 Prides I went to so far, this one was the one where I felt most at home. Unfortunately it's quite far from where I live and this year it shares a date with another Pride I want to attend, so I can't go there again. Hopefully next year. And hopefully they can keep going like this. Independent from politicians.

[flame-ofairweather]

(pic unrelated I just loved this line and don't know when else to post it)

Still being lazy and not starting the Hickman run, but I did watch the movie! It was really solid but I don't have a lot to say? Idk. Chris Evans was perfect as Johnny just like I thought. A lot of their interactions with each other from the beginning were pretty perfect. Doom felt a little silly maybe but still insanely cool, I hope he's even better when he comes back.

I'm also going to a convention soon and I just bought my Fantastic Four suit!! I have long blonde hair that looks a ton like classic Sue's so I was gonna go as her, but I just love Jonathan too much. And it was like, either dress as "Sue" but it's just me in the suit going "Hi I'm Sue."

OR

It's me in the suit with a leather jacket and shades and my hair slicked all cool and I get to be Johnny Storm except in real life 🤯 And flirt with the Spider-Men,,,

So yeah by the end of the month I'll be dressed as Johnny I'm so excited, I hope I do it justice. Should I post it here?

[ghetto-omega]

I identify with humanity in like a job way. Like you're only a worker when you're at work. I am only a human when I am with humans y'know? Like my humanity is not completely gone, but it's normally an inconvenience and a necessary evil.

[vicetrevni]

I really wanna make a character with D.I.D., but I don't want to fuck it up by making it seem like I'm just pulling from common stereotypes. So I'm scared to make one.

Anyone out there who has D.I.D., maybe give me some pointers on how to bring your disorder into fiction without it diminishing the reality of those of you whom have it and what you go through???

This is specifically for a fantasy/modern setting, which is why I want to be *very* careful on this.

(( I know that I can do my own research but I'd rather hear from those who actually suffer from D.I.D. - I want to do this right, and Google won't help me much aside from giving me the legal definition and bare-bones description of the disorder. ))

[lena-in-a-red-dress]

It occurs to me, that if we had a bottle episode, where Lena has a concussion or near death experience, and hallucinated people from her life that represent aspects of her character, I know who would represent the (perceived) death of her optimism/ turly good intentions. And honestly, I would love to see it, and see how together they could explore that side of her post-finale and maybe find a way to revive it.

It would be Adam.

(And after she wakes up, since its post finale and post crisis, she goes to the coffee shop and bumps into the real and very alive Adam who doesn't even know who she is. And Lena is okay with that.)