#Queer in the 90s

[songoftrillium]

I wanted to say that I really appreciated your share on that post about there being no trans folks before 2000. I resonated it with it a lot, as a millennial who didn't know nonbinary was even an option until much further into my adult years.

Thank you. And yeah that's exactly it. I remember other queer folk I grew up around. There was a degree of kinship we saw in each other, in our shared existential misery, but none of us had a name for what we were. We were always here but feeling existentially wrong in a world that wasn't built for us.

I remember when my daughter was born, holding her in the ward and feeling a profound sadness that it wasn't me on that bed. Even when I did learn about being trans, "well it's too bad you're not trans" I told myself for another decade. That weird existential anxiety was still there.

I've called it self-exclusion. Therapist calls it internalized transphobia. An auspice of self-resentment for not being able to conform. Now the self exclusion is there because I waited for so long to transition. There's a lot of bad stuff in the world and I never wanted to be the person to make it worse.

Bringing it back home, I am happy to report nearly all my friends that survived that time are now at-minimum queer. Some transitioned. Some didn't make it. Some got so far in the closet they're now homophobes. People forget the 90s was so casually homophobic you even had Bill and Ted calling each other 'fag' and 'queer' for the simple act of hugging.

[thequeensownketchup]

Wanting top surgery so I can sleep face down, shirtless in boxers like the lazy teenage boys at the start of 90s films

[arcadiabay]

CLEA DUVALL as GRAHAM BUT I'M A CHEERLEADER (1999)

[starnosedmoles]

Occasional Trouble Passing…

“What do you mean I can’t go in there? You can just suck my sock, buddy!”

found in “FTM Newsletter”, 1990s

[angstydiaz]

can i just say the weird standard people try and hold queer romcoms(and queer media but) in general is so weird

its always "its too juvenile" and "its too wholesome" but then its "this is too sexualised" and apparently queer ppl having sex scenes is automatically "fetishizing". Always "too corny" "too angsty" and dont get me started on people who act like something has to be bad representation just because they didn't like it

"its cringey" it is a fucking romcom bro. like half of the appeal of a romcom is the kinda cringey fun of it all . not your thing? fine go watch something that is,not being the audience for something is fine but god stop acting like one romcom is gonna dismantle the movement for queer rights.

[genderqueerdykes]

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[53v3nfrn5]

‘Close-Up’ (1990) dir. Abbas Kiarostami

[trans-temporial]

I love you Priscilla Queen of the Desert I love you But I’m A Cheerleader I love you Velvet Goldmine I love you To Wong Foo I love you Hedwig and the Angry Inch I love you queer movies from the 90s that are fun and camp and over the top with characters that are messy and loud and make mistakes. We’re getting fun movies back can we bring back these

[disease]

Photo from the AA Meat Market, a leather bar located on 2933 N Lincoln Ave until 1994.

[yourlocalabomination]

I am not immune to funny crackships.

+ Bonus

[fairweathermyth]

CLOCKWATCHERS, 1997 Parker Posey as Margaret Burre costume design by Edi Giguere

[commiepinkofag]

Outrage! sticker, 1991

[theesailorbride]

PJ Harvey, 1995

Ph. Simon Fowler

[yellowocaballero]

Trigun 98 really is the anime of all time. It did absolutely say "Here is the biggest idiot you've ever seen in your life. It's going to be four episodes until he does anything that is not blindingly moronic and it's going to be five before he says a sentence that is not a lie. We are now going to vaguely imply that he has a dead girlfriend and that's why he's sad. You will learn ten episodes later that the dead girlfriend is his mother. In episode nine a random man is going to call him depressed and they will spend the next three episodes doing absolutely nothing important but forming an unshakable bond of friendship, and we are also going to learn that they are in space."

What are we supposed to do with any of this. Insurance agents with fifty guns and one gigantic gun respectively are the only reason we have a plot at all. An entire episode's resolution only makes sense with information we are never told and barely implied. The main character is Jesus but also a deconstruction of Jesus. I feel like the show is giving me a rabid guinea pig and leaving me to wonder why this guinea pig is on crack before telling me three hours later that he's a robot guinea pig, answering no questions and raising so much more.

[starnosedmoles]

Bisexual Pride! 1990 🩷💜💙

[sunderwight]

Good Omens pulling the trigger on Aziracrow in actual factual live action canon while What We Do in the Shadows showrunners dither about the appropriateness of workplace relationships in their serial killer vampire orgy show is like watching Grandpa hit a button to activate nitros on his scooter and go whipping past the former street race champion to cross the finish line.