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Idk why people get sooo mad when a word applies to something they think it doesn’t. Like. I’m diagnosed as being mildly intellectually disabled (because I am severely dyspraxic), it is medically and legally in black and white and there is Thorough ass paperwork that goes into detail as to how. (I won’t get too specific here but I’m categorized as “severely impaired” in the areas of motor speed and coordination, rapid mental flexibility, and spatial perception and orientation.)
Quantitatively and qualitatively doctors have tested and retested to figure out that objectively i fit the criteria, and therefore am officially categorized as such. That’s not a political statement or something I *want* to be true or false, it’s just fact. Not as in my ✨lived experience✨ but as in science. There’s not a secret other definition that doesn’t apply to me, just because an acquaintance is uncomfortable with it for whatever reason. You don’t know more about intellectual disability than neurologists do just because you have a tumblr account
#was reading abt the problems w IQ for school and remembered when I got diagnosed and everyone was like BUT YOUR IQ#first of all my IQ is also in the mildly intellectually disabled range but also that’s irrelevant bc IQ is bullshit#people love to double down about this and for WHAT what threatens you about my diagnosis#if you don’t know Anything abt the systems intellectually disabled ppl interact w you don’t get to act like an authority#people think they know the MOST and then the most basic aspects of me being categorized this way are like. breaking news to them#if ur the expert on me and my condition why is everything abt it such a shocker#i just. dunno what it is abt this term that bothers people so much#is it that it sounds too severe to apply to me? have u just only heard it applied to a few things so new info is hard to adjust to?#is it bc the one time you’ve heard of (mild) dyspraxia it was talked abt in different words? (which don’t have to contradict)#I just. genuinely don’t understand why this is an argument ppl want to win lol#it’s not even an argument bc it’s not even My viewpoint it’s just true#i shouldnt have to pull out my 10 page document full of numbers u won’t understand just bc You decided several doctors used a word wrong#and like. idk why it irks me so much bc it’s not smth i view as positive or negative to me. it just is#it’s not like for example when ppl tell me I’m not bi and ur denying smth I feel proud of#if u disagree about what medical terminology applies to me it’s not like I’m attached to the words themselves bc they’re just. true#i think it has more to do w ppl like. openly knowing nothing abt certain kinds of disabilities n still thinking they know more ..#.. than the ppl who have them or their doctors. like do u think ppl with these disabilities can’t be trusted or can’t understand#bc that’s. how you say. ableist#mine#txt#dyspraxia
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There's so much wrong with "everyone is a little bit autistic"
Yes, allistic people might know a lot of facts about the things they like. Yes, allistic people might get a bit overwhelmed or underwhelmed sometimes. Yes, allistic people might not get an expression sometimes, mostly if it's the first time they hear it.
That doesn't make them autistic.
Those traits only make someone autistic when they become disabling. Because, big shock, autism is a disability. Yeah, even if someone is low support needs, because that doesn't mean they don't need any support at all.
Saying "everyone is a little bit autistic" is like saying "everyone struggles with this, so suck it up, you have no right to need help". Which is just pure ableist bullshit. It denies the fact that autistic people have higher support needs than NTs, no matter where in the autistic spectrum they are. We're not "neurospicy", we're disabled, and denying this fact is denying us the right to get the help we need, we deserve, to have a good life.
(yes, this rant is just because I made the awful decision of listening to "neurospicy (interlude)" by Jax. honestly I'd rather be called a slur than listen to that shit again.)
#for this disability pride month burn an ableist person's house#that's what makes you a true disability ally trust#btw with nts i mean mostly abled nts but i didnt know how to word it ;w;#and before anyone says anything im just fine with people calling themselves neurospicy#what i have a problem with is when NTs use it as a way to invalidate neurodivergent people's struggles#or to infantilise nds#or both#autism#actually autistic#neurodivergent#neurodiversity#neurodiverse stuff#autistic#neurodivergency#autistic experiences#autistic things#actually autism#ableism#ableist language cw#tw ableist language#tw ableism#neurospicy (interlude)#disabled pride month#disability pride month#wrath month#(<-just tagging that bc it's accurate since im currently pretty pissed off)
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thinking about how. MORE than one old white woman presiding over me during my master's program in some capacity,,, has gently (unprompted) insinuated to me that accommodations are available, academic or otherwise
like i've had classmates undergo the same meetings, the same presentations for the same prof, etc and they do Not get the same gentle "oh you poor little thing. is this so hard for you? do you need help?"
and it's like. on one hand cool, thanks, glad that's available. i am, however, legit fine and chilling and doing better than ever in a classroom environment because i Stopped Masking in my mid-twenties and i sit cross-legged and play with my spiky ball sometimes and i'm vibing
glad accommodations exist. none of them would do anything helpful for me specifically. but if me being visible is what it takes for you to ? ? feel like you're Helping students who need/use accommodations ? to assuage your Guilt idk lol ? then ok white woman i will continue to exist within eyesight
(wish you'd respect the accommodations of students who actually require them, instead of giving platitudes to me who is i guess more Visibly 'other' to you)
#refers to a lot of specifics that i won't get into lol#WILD to have an ableist prof who is so so so gentle with you and ur like.#huh ??? ur so rude to the students who need accommodations ?#you REFUSE to cooperate with the accessibility centre?#like. my friend sat for her presentation. got a note abt how that's 'unprofessional'#i sat. i took off my goddamn boots and sat cross legged for my presentation.#my notes said 'i know presenting can be hard!!!' MAAM ?#and the like. job advisor lady#told my friend 'oh u don't have a lot of extra curriculars... were u too busy?'#and told My Ass (minimal extra currs. i don't do anything.) 'accommodations are available xoxoxo'#maam i didn't ask#i love that accommodations are available. they're not for me. but thanks. i guess.#(i did take the accommodations for job shit admittedly bc job interviews are ass)#anyway. here's an entry from my diary abt my thoughts !#lmao...#hurgle says things
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The feeling of coming across a httyd fic that actually handles Hiccup's disability casually and well is akin to how I imagine a dehydrated and brittle frog would being spritzed with a revitalizing spray bottle would feel
#like a starved rat in an alleyway scrounging for scraps fr#you cant claim to like hiccup then ignore a vital part of him dawg 😭🙏#i have soooo much more to say abt how his disability (or lack thereof bc its so often ignored???)#is written in a way by fans that comes off as like. borderline ableist#httyd fans that dont actually gaf abt disabled people (clear from their treatment of disabled characters) consider yourselves my no.1 opp#httyd#httyd fanfiction#httyd fandom#hiccup haddock#canon disabled character#moth.txt#deyas dragons
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as someone who doesn't even personally use audiobooks, i will die on the hill that they count as real reading. and i'm willing to kill on this hill too
#i personally think it's super ableist to say it doesn't count as reading#and it's also ableist to say it only counts IF you have a disability that make reading physical books impossible#especially bc the latter opens up the perfect shit storm of forcing people to have to disclose their disability(ies) in order to#not he harassed by assholes#and honestly why do people get some fucking judgemental about how someone consumed a book?#it's the same exact story my guy. same words. same world. same characters. get over yourself#also in case it comes into question: i don't read via audiobooks bc they just don't personally work for me#i have a hard time retaining information that's been given verbally#text post
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re: last post: i think some of you are conflating correlation with causation tbh. like there’s a lot of neurodivergent gifted kids but gifted kids are not inherently neurodivergent, its a different phenomenon
#tbh its giving ‘’autism is NOT a disability and youre ableist to autistics if you say that’’#or like. idk i notice that a lot of nd people that are low needs are pretty shitty to nd people who have high needs#like as if to go ‘’oh THOSE people dont REPRESENT the community. we’re the REAL community because we can talk normal hehe <3’’#and i dont think thats what those people specifically are doing but idk#echoed voice#the most bizarre interactions ive had are when i mention the ableism around autism#and people go ‘’???? why on EARTH would anyone hate an autistic person? theyre so smart! id love to hang with one!’’#and im like oh you do not live on the same plane of existence as me wtf#bonus points: later that same person interacts with an autistic person and freaks out and gets pissed off#so trying to go ‘’oh Being Smart counts as being neurodivergent!’’ sets off red flags to me#bc my automatic question is just. ok how do you act around nd people that you deem ‘’stupid’’
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bcs i'm aware of how i automatically percieve people, i earnestly try to give the benefit of the doubt a lot. i tend to believe people are Actually Just That Dumb™ when they're joking about something, so i try to get ahead of that & tell myself people are joking when they say something stupid, so that i don't look stupid
all i've learnt in doing that, is most of the time, people aren't joking. they actually did mean what they say, & i made the situation 10× worse by laughing at what they said.
not only does it reinforce the idea in my head that people are Dumb so i need to take the reins on literally Everything, but it also leads people to believe i'm making fun of them for saying something silly & talking to me less, when, if i knew it were a genuine thing they thought, i would have gladly explained it without judgement
but i don't really know how to stop treating them as jokes, because what if they ARE joking so they laugh at me for how Stupid i am for taking the bait? i can't handle being made a fool of, i think i'd rather die
#this is in part bcs my father was like this all the time i believe#i'd talk abt one of my special interests & he'd deliberately say something stupid about it#so that he could laugh at me whenever i explained how it actually worked#a lotta ppl in my family tend to pretend to be dumb around me actually. so i gave up on talking abt science special interests#i do have personal gripes with words like “stupid” & “dumb” so know in my head i Know they're toxic & have ableist connotations#but my automatic kneejerk reaction to things is to think Stupid even if i don't say it bcs of the constantly devaluing of everyone around me#everything's a competition. don't lose or show your hand and things will be better for you.#don't give people a reason to think you're incompetent. isolation is better than risking danger & ridicule so long if it's isolation because#you're on a higher plane than everybody else.#or something like that#it's not that deep#npd#narcissistic personality disorder#cluster b#autism#bcs i cant with tones#i guess this may be a fine way of looking at things on the internet with strangers bcs bait is rlly annoying#however when it comes to interpersonal relationships irl and online it's a problem. especially when logically you KNOW your circle doesn't#rlly have anyone who pretends to be stupid to you so they can laugh at you. i think they will anyways.#if anything *i* tend to be like that to people i like less. i pretend to be stupid abt something so they can mansplain it to me & i get#silent supply off so easily having control over what they're feeling towards me & what they're doing even if they think They have the reins#in the discussion. tho i won't view it as making ppl take the bait & i won't openly mock people#i'm a hypocrite
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i have a hot take with zero proof and it’s that people who think bloodraven is a hero are not disabled bc if they were they’d understand that the way he lies to & lures bran north with the promise of a miracle cure just to pull the rug out from under him is an evil, cruel thing to do to a disabled child and nothing justifies it, no not even saving the world
#bran stark#me as bran’s lawyer: as you can see the defendant is clearly in breech of contract and also a dick#getting on my soap box#also i’m not saying it’s ableist to like br. i’m saying that u miss how evil that is bc u don’t know what being disabled is like!#if someone did that to me when my body started failing i would have killed myself and i’m so serious#bran is so strong for not just giving up and making hodor throw him off a cliff.#bc that’s what i would have done. given the chance to have my life back only to be fooled? nah u musty bitch#i’m about to change the trajectories of both our lives forever by killing myself in front of you actually.#disability in asoiaf
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like guys i promise im aware blossomfall is meant to be a glass child. i just think she’s a poorly written one lmao
#tbh thats why my feelings on her are so strong. its a delicate topic for kids but time and time again#its been handled extremely poorly and just used as an excuse to hate disabled people#i think my exhaustion with these stories is bc they were sorta shoved down my throat by the school board growing up#because they heard ‘’wow you got TWO autistic brothers??? your life must SUCK ASS AND BALLS have this book abt how autism ruins families’’#wow cool i feel so much better guys. both about the ableism my family faces in general and about my undiagnosed autism#if i had to think. and i havent read this in forever so i could be misremembering. i think a decent example of a glass child trope#is the sister from ‘’wonder’’ (the book. idk what the movie did)#because while she’s an important character who struggles with internalized ableism#the focus is still on auggie and HIS struggles with his own disability and the ableism he faces as a result#and the sister isnt demonized for her feelings but she does still have to grapple with them#and accept her situation and that no one is at fault or anything. its just a consequence of an ableist society more than anything#again. been forever and ever since i read that book and iirc it does still have iffy shit like the one chapter on genetics#like to this day that sticks out as an uncomfortable chapter and idk if i can say its fantastic rep bc of that#but idk. i remember liking it fine as a kid#i always appreciated books that tried to get into multiple perspectives on the issues#also this is just me and ik it goes against the definition of the term#but man. kinda wish we’d get a glass child character thats also disabled and their disability is undiagnosed or ignored#for the sake of only prioritizing their sibling and bc they have to be ‘’the perfect abled child’’#because thats my story lol#wasnt allowed to be disabled or imperfect or need help because being a third disabled kid wouldve been too much
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i think ppl can and should project onto fictional characters. that's kind of what they're for a lot of the time. even if in the story they dont have the exact same experiences the audience can still find similarities with them and it's empowering to headcanon that, because of these similarities, the character has a similar identity to you. a lot of writers purposely give their characters experiences similar to marginalized groups to make those groups feel seen.
that being said, if you project your own experiences onto your blorbos you HAVE to be able to tell when the story is purposely making the character a metaphor for your experiences and when the story is. not doing that. just because you personally relate to a character doesn't mean the character literally is your marginalized identity. and it definitely doesn't mean that the writers hate your marginalized identity, specifically, if they don't do what you want them to do with that character.
#shut up pandora#this is about a post i say talking about how belos owlhouse has traits that if you squint could be seen as him having schizophrenia#and bc op thinks the show fumbled his character#specifically bc hes a Bad Guy who Does Bad Things and Is Bad#the shows creator is literally ableist and is a fake ally for otherwise depicting other instances of neurodivergence positively#the evidence btw is:#belos seeing hallucinations of the golden guards to represent his repressed guilt which is a trope that everyone on this green earth uses#and the fact that papa titan refers to belos as having 'delusions'#which in this context isn't being used medically but colloquially bc guess what! words can have different meanings depending on the context#and in this context he isnt talking about a medical delusion hes talking about belos's denial of his mistakes#which isnt a mental illness thing its an asshole thing which he is. thats the appeal of his character#the show has problems in general and belos character definitely has problems but this aint it chief#methinks someone was looking for a reason to hate on the queer show hmm i wonder why#even if they werent trying to do that op projected too hard on a character who the writers didnt expect them to project onto so hard#that they forgot that not everything isnt about them so when they didnt like where they went with belos's character#they decided that dana terrace just hated ppl like them specifically#terminally online bullshit#anyway moral of the story is not everything is about you#also dont try to look for this post or anything i dont want ppl to shit talk op to their face#im vagueing for a reason im not trying to start stuff#but anyway even if you talk about how the hallucination trope is universally harmful which i dont think it is depending on how you use it#and even if you think the word delusional shouldnt be used colloquially due to its association with a mental illness#there are so many other pieces of media that use that trope#and there are so many other instances where that word is used and all of its so much more offensive than fucking owl house#youre standing naked in a river in winter and complaining that your soup is lukewarm#oh how i wish that cartoon fans can get as angry about shit like south park as they do about shit like the owl house
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Thinking about how Fei and Saru both have hero complexes always make me think that the reason they were the two leading figures of Feida is because they grew up enabling these complexes on each other. So much that the passion they had for doing what's right (for fighting for SSC's right to live) leaked out to the others. The other SSC chose to follow Saryuu Evan who was vocal about what they deserved and would make direct actions for the cause and they looked up to Fei Rune who would sacrifice everything that he had for them just to give them what they deserved.
Hero complexes can easily turn into charisma when focused and endowed with actions. Honestly, if the SSC did not have the knowledge that their time in the world is limited and that they can't even be given the same treatment as everybody else given that small time they have, I don't think destroying some buildings would even be part of their movement. Theyre kids who just wanted to live and be accepted, lead by a pair who had had enough of the neglect and possibly abuse that the world inflicted on them.
#i still hate what theyre trying to say in the show abt how removing their powers would save them. LIKE. WHAT IF I KILL YOU#cant have a non ableist show in this house#i dont care abt el dorado. hope they explode#if you think my opinion on this is highly political. youre not going to be ready w my takes on fifth sector & the kind of shitshow it is#-> honestly im not ready either. bcs that would be a long essay that i prob wont finish. just like the kageyama one#ive been writing the kageyama one since i joined the fandom months ago & im still not done. theres a lot to cover#i'll be back later. i hate adulting sm. cant even enjoy my sunday#inazuma eleven chrono stone#inazuma eleven#fei rune#saryuu evan#simeon ayp
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im so tired
#its exhausting living here#im the bad guy in every situation#every time i dont accomodate her stupid bullshit whims im evil and creating conflict#dean you arent allowed to get lunch for yourself bc she wants to do a baking project &youre too Disgusting to be in the same room as her fo#*food#dean you arent allowed to listen to music out loud in your room but she can play her music in the living room while you have a migraine#dean you have to ask her what food she wants from town bc she doesnt feel like texting mom herself#dean you have to stop laughing because she thinks your laugh is annoying#dean you arent allowed to eat the bread that was bought for you because she decided she wanted it#dean you arent allowed to wear the one piece of mens clothing youve ever gotten to buy apart from plaid shirts bc she thinks youre too fat#dean you arent allowed to correct her when she says things about you that are objectively untrue#dean she wants to hang out in the living room go back to your room so she doesnt have to be around you#dean she wants a book for english class you have to give her one of yours#dean you arent allowed to be angry at her for ripping the cover off one of your favorite books & nrver apologizing that was years ago#dean you arent allowed to make plans with your friends this weekend bc she might want to hang out w her friends & wants to keep moms schedul#schedule open to drive her#dean you arent allowed to eat until she serves herself#dean if youre making food & she refuses to eat bc you were in the kitchen thats your fault#dean how dare you say her hair looks like sam winchesters#dean you cant be angry when she calls you fat & ugly & disgusting & tells you to kill yourself you shouldnt let it get to you#sui mention#dean you cant get new pants bc she wants to buy this dress that she’ll never wear#dean its not a big deal when she misgenders you she waa just joking#dean shes not ableist bc youre the only autistic person she thinks is faking it for attention#im just so goddamn tired
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jsyk . if you ever get mad at traumatised people engaging with a completely sfw , non-k!nk / fe.tis.h related coping mechanism that sprouts from childhood abuse / neglect or just general stress, and label them a freak or bully them or anything along that lines, you're ableist, a complete cunt and i dont like you. this goes double for if you completely REFUSE to understand the concept of what the coping mech is and why its helpful. traumatised people dont owe you normalcy and we sure as fuck dont owe you an explanation 👍 and if you disagree w/ me you can piss off
#the captain's rambles#mental health#actually ptsd#this is about a very particular coping mechanism i have that i dont bring up on THIS blog for a friend's sake but i have a sideblog 4 it#im starting to really open up about it bc its not something i should be ashamed of . it's me taking care of myself#i dont care about what others say anymore . it's not gross to heal your inner child#i dont talk about my mental health here often except in passing when im discussing how my adhd and autism affect my life#but there's more than Just those two. im adhdtistic + have bpd ptsd and osdd (the specifics im not sure of but we Are plural)#anyways this is me firing shots to keep the rent down bc i just gave some1 i follow reassurance and i want to reiterate the msg here#ableists are Not fucking welcome here. leave your hatred at the fucking door and if you cant get with the times then get out#you dont even have to understand me to just be kind. it costs 0 dollars#im just praying this reaches the actual target audience#and that the people who engage with media in a way that actively trigger my flashbacks Dont grab ahold of this post#theyre on my dni. for a reason .
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personally I think nanowrimo would have been much better off if they'd said "technically we can't stop you from using generative AI" instead of a weird social justice perspective thing that doesn't make sense in the context they used said language in but nano had already lost my respect since last year when they took forever to respond to the reports of that one moderator being a groomer
#the thing with the whole being anti generative ai thing being ableist is like#okay yeah there are some circumstances where ai can genuinely improve accessibility#such as papers being written solely in academic terms so the common person cannot understand them without researching#individual vocabulary words and foing that for an entire paper#most lose patience very quickly there#that and also materials being translated into languages theyre not often translated to!! yes human translators should be paid#but the common person cant go to a human translator on fiverr every time they want something done#these are VERY specific and rare instances#but for an event where you SELF REPORT how many words youve written#i think saying being anti ai is classist is bullshit and what they need to say is just#“uhhhhhhh we dont care bc we cant stop you”#but i dont think anti ai people would have liked that answer very much either
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If O N E more person is condescending to me when I talk about being chronically ill in the context of media that is Canonically about chronic illness I will fucking kill someone and I'm not kidding
#hit an ableist with a chair week#'oh that's such a beautiful interpretation :)'#bitch it's not ~interpretation~ the character is LITERALLY SICK#'oh its so beautiful how you interpret the world around you in a different way bc of ur illness <3'#I don't though??? I just Make Observation and live my life. There's nothing different about it!!#We both see that this establishment doesn't have a ramp.#i am not 'seeing the world through a different lens' by pointing it out.#i'm stating fact you stupid cunt.#i swear to god you can't say anything to healthy people without them infantilizing you.#one time i told someone about the scalp pain i have bc of my chemo drug and they literally went 'well your hair is beautiful'#it was the weirdest thing to say to someone ngl.#like. 'I am in active pain!' 'oh well you're beautiful sweetie :)' like WHAT#chronic illness#chronic pain#vent
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ppl, especially low/no-empathy ppl, who talk to ableist anti-pd cluster b abuse believers with the upmost patience & understanding are so crazy (/pos) for that because what
how do y'all sit there and level w/ them just. so much.
i know it's kind of necessary bcs even if they don't listen to us anyways, they're only gonna think we're 10× worse if we don't walk them through the spiel w/ hands held (which we're not even owed to do anyways) but like i can hardly see myself doing it
so like
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#y'all should be honoured y'all got My respect specifically .... /silly#cluster b#tw ableism#npd#bpd#aspd#hpd#narcissistic personality disorder#borderline personality disorder#antisocial personality disorder#histrionic personality disorder#low empathy#no empathy#narc abuse#obligatory Is Not Real#maybe i could do it ?? i tried to level before when explaining it to ppl on a different app but even then i was still kinda pointed#but it'd be exhausting.#i'm gonna be honest i think most of these sorta posts or replies are mostly for Our community anyways since#i don't think i've Ever seen anyone change their stance on this no matter how it's conveyed#so i'm sure people go into these discussions knowing that too#i mean if anyone does have any examples feel free to tell. Curious#but yea i guess a lotta ableists have those same self-insulated type of beliefs as your average conspiracy#“anyone who tells you otherwise is wrong for x y & z reasons. if they say literally anything contrary to this they're trying to team up &#manipulate you. these people whom you have never interacted with in your life prior to this. they're in kahoots w ur abuser to validate the#abuse. just trust me on this bro“ type stuff#“don't trust pw/pds bcs they're pw/pds” circular reasoning#didn't mean to basically type something that could be a whole new post in the tags but like whatevs
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