#demisexual positivity

[hoarder-of-stories-27]

Aspec people who use the label “queer”, you’re so important. I’m glad you exist.

Aspec people who would use the label but feel they can’t because of aphobia, I’m so sorry. I wish you safety and peace.

Aspec people in general, I hope you’re having a good day. You deserve a community that accepts you.

[debthedemi]

Keep doing what I'm doing? Say less.

[thecozyfrog]

Demisexual Pride Flag Knitted Headband/Earwarmer

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[safetaynet]

Happy Demisexuality Day!!

[queer-cosette]

Btw it took me exactly two sentences to explain the concept of demisexuality to my white catholic cishet male colleague in a way that made sense to him so the rest of you "oh but isn't that just everyone?? You just want to be a special snowflake" demons legit have no excuse.

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

I consider myself demisexual, but I can already find someone attractive after a few hours of knowing them. Every time I see someone defining demisexuality as "someone who only experiences sexual attraction when they have a strong bond" or smth similar I feel left out. I feel like I don't belong to the community, even though I literally can't find someone attractive without knowing them.

Oof anon, hope your doing okay now!

You are always valid is the best advice I can give you! You don’t have to fit into all the boxes of demisexual!! It sounds like you are demisexual, you feel like your demisexual and you identify as demisexual therefore you are demisexual!!

Congrats anon!!

Stay safe and remember you are always always valid <3 and it’s your box!!

( And remember it’s always okay to take new labels if you want to! )

[hyperesthesias]

Clone trooper Aces says Happy Pride! 🖤🤍💜

[twisting-echo]

Happy Pride, everyone! I know that I'm getting this out late, but "better late than never," right?

So here we have Bunny showing his pride as a Homoromantic Demisexual. Bunnymund is my favorite guardian, and I always saw him as romantically attracted to men and sexually attracted to someone he's emotionally close to.

[hyperfocuscentre]

demisexual isn’t ‘having boundaries’. demisexuals could have sex with strangers, the sexuality has nothing to do with having sex and everything to with sexual attraction. people have to learn that these are different things!! you don’t need to feel sexual attraction to have sex. demisexuals only feel sexually attracted to those who they have formed close bonds with.

[xxstrawberrybunxx]

Demisexuality is inheritntly queer actually, even if the demisexual person in question is cis and straight.

You don't get to dictate people's queerness.

You don't get to decide who is or isn't queer enough.

[demisexual-culture-is]

For a very long time i thought i was completely sex repulsed asexual. And then i got my girlfriend and we created a sort of strong emotional bond first and then physical too. That’s how i realized i was demisexual! So my point is it’s okay to identify as one thing and the nrealize you want to identify as another later <3

yeah! it's all just part of learning and growing!

[soundvikk]

[debthedemi]

I hope my baby demis are having a great January! Your sexuality is valid. Your lack of sexuality is valid. Your here today gone tomorrow sexuality is valid.

This axolotl agrees with me. That's all that matters.

[generalgri3vous]

DEMISEXUAL REPRESENT HERE! :D

[calamitydarcy]

shoutout to acespec and/or arospec people who still feel some amount of sexual/romantic attraction btw. shoutout to everyone who isn't fully aro/ace and isn't fully allo. shoutout to the aspecs who feel like they don't fully fit in aro/ace communities or allo communities because of it. i love you all i am baking you cookies

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

hey im(M25) really sorry if that comes out wrong but i just realized i might be in the ace espectrum(demissexual) and im at quite a bad spot doubting myself and stuff can you point me in the right direction to know if that might be the case?

im very receptive to it tho, i found the label conforting in a way. looking back i think i have only fallen and been able to have relationships with ace people(once got involved with an alo guy and had to sever the conection because i hated the idea of having sex with him since we had not taken it slow) and that was a little giveaway for me asfagahshs

love your blog kind internet frend

Hello there Anon! Of course I’ll give some hints but honestly it all comes down to your feelings on the matter! You are always valid!!

Demisexual is usually defined as experiencing sexual feelings and attraction only after developing a close emotional relationship and not on the basis of first impressions, physical characteristics, etc.

Though that’s a very blanket definition

Fandom wiki has a good page on demisexuality and along with a wiki page there are tones of resources out there for demisexual people and questioning!

Demisexual.org has been said to be a fantastic resource!

But in case you don’t have time to go through all those I’ll give you a quick play through!

According to an article here, here are 7 signs you may be demisexual

1- When you read about demisexuality you immediately think “isn’t that how everyone is?”

2- You’ve spent a lot of time wondering if you’ve felt or are feeling sexual attraction.

3- You don’t understand pornography.

4- The only times you’ve had sexual attraction it was when you were close to the person.

5- You don’t understand sexual attraction to strangers and celebrities.

6- Sex isn’t something you care that much about when you start dating someone new.

And 7: Finally: You’re reading this.

But remember you don’t have to fit into anyone’s box! You are always valid even if none of the above apply to you!!

Stay safe anon and remember you are always valid <3