#emotionally stunted

[zorosdimples]

stoic man who can’t articulate how much you mean to him, so he has to show you instead

[short-honey-badger]

Shore Leave

Summary! Captain Lasky orders the Master Chief a two week shore leave. Overwhelmed by his lack of armor and unused to the flow of civilian traffic, he parks himself on a bench and meets you.

Pairings! Master Chief x Reader

Set after the events of Halo 4 and influenced from my love of the game and how good season 2 of the TV series. I wanted to try my hand at something new. I hope you enjoy.

Part 2 -> HERE Part 3 -> HERE

Master Chief Petty Officer Sierra 117, or John to his friends - the few he had left, cautiously strode through the throngs of civilians. Captain Lasky had ordered him a full two weeks shore leave, no combat, no weapon, no MJOLNIR. Lasky had suggested he take some time to himself, grieve if he needed to after fighting for so long with little reprieve in between battles. To be honest, John wasn't sure what he should do with his time. Despite being one of the last of the original Spartans, the chief had hardly ever been completely alone.

Cortana. She'd always been there, a soft hum in the back of his mind, and John wasn't proud enough to admit that he felt a little lost without her.

Even though the armorless spartan towered above the crowd, he began to feel surrounded, overwhelmed with how densely packed the city was. He wasn't used to being out of his armor, and it made him feel naked, vulnerable in a way that John didn't like. Luckily, he spotted a bench not too much farther away, situated at the beginning of what looked like a small park. John sat heavily, back straight and blue eyes casting around as he took deep breaths to regulate his breathing.

No one bothered him, and John took the time to watch the hoards of civilians go to and fro. He watched couples hold hands, and families carefully guide their children along the sidewalks, each man and woman heading to whatever their destination may be. After a while, and now that John had been able to relax a little, he realized that he enjoyed watching the flow and allowed his mind to wander.

Could he ever have something like this? Such a mundane and easy life, never worrying if the next battle he faced would be his last. If he would ever see his brothers and sisters again? Would he ever live such a simple existence where his only fear is missing the train? The Master Chief doesn't think that he could, not when so much of himself has been lost to war and death. Not when it was his duty to protect the civilians here so that they could have that life.

“Sir, you've been sitting here a while now. Can I help you with anything?”

John is brought out of his thoughts by the soft voice. He turns his head and sees that you have somehow snuck up on him, and he silently berates himself for not noticing. However, you had asked him a question, and the Chief didn't want to come off as rude.

“No, ma'am. Just…watching,” He says slowly, and he feels his cheeks heat up a bit. Was that odd to say? John didn't know, but he felt reassured when he spots the smile that curled your lips.

“Well, good. I don't think I’d be strong enough to haul you anywhere if there was something wrong,” you say, and huff a little at your own words.

John doesn't know what to say to that. He doesn't have any kind of experience with civilians, not like this, anyway. He wracks his brain for something to say and wishes that Cortana was still here to walk him through this.

However, you don't seem to mind his silence. Instead, you sit back on the bench and look out at the busy stream of people. You are quiet for a while, but the spartan is prepared when you speak up again.

“I like to people watch too. Makes you feel a little less alone in the universe, ya know?” You say and grin again, suddenly scooting down the bench to sit beside the big man who seemed far too lonely when you'd seen him outside the café across the street.

John tenses, not expecting to have you so close, but he doesn't deny that feeling the heat from where your arm is pressed into his feels…nice. He nods slowly, agreeing with your quiet statement.

“It makes you realize that you aren't the only one out there having a hard time, or becoming successful, or even falling in love. We are all human, and even if it doesn't seem like it, we're all in this together,” you pause, and then your smile becomes a bit mischievous.

“And it's kind of fun to make up stories about them.”

John blinks, a bit confused about that. He turns and looks down at his guest, feeling his cheeks heat up again when he sees you looking right back, eyes cheerful and face far too close to his own. He looks away quickly and sits up straight from his slight slouch.

‘What do you mean?”

Bravely, you lean into his space and gesture subtly at an older couple that are walking down the sidewalk, a heated discussion going on between them. The man looks annoyed as his wife babbles on about who knows what, and you giggle softly and say.

“She's probably upset because her husband - they are definitely married, by the way - forgot to take out the trash. Look at him, he's heard this a thousand times.”

John takes in the look of fond exasperation that paints the older man's expression, squinting his eyes to try and see it the way you are. It doesn't make much sense to him, but he thinks he understands.

You poke your new friend in the arm and nod your head at a gaggle if girl's who are giggling and fawning over a data pad.

“They're probably looking at the cute boy who invited one of them to prom. Or maybe a famous celebrity crush.”

You point out a few other civilians, and one or two of your little stories get the stoic man to crack a tiny smile, and eventually relax again, even with you pressed so close to his side. It feels good to have someone near. Someone who can so easily take up the quiet space that he still isn't used to feeling. The Master Chief finds that he rather likes your company and would like to know more about you.

John finally speaks up again when there is a lul in the rather one-sided conversation, turning to face you completely.

“Do you think you could show me more?”

You take in the careful way he asks, the soft timbre of his voice, and you find yourself nodding easily, and you offer your hand, introducing yourself properly.

“I'd love to. My name is _.”

The Spartan carefully takes your offered hand and marvels at just how small it is compared to his own. He meets your gaze, his blue eyes striking in the city lights.

“My name is John.”

[justanotherstardrop]

this user is age stunted by trauma please be gentle

[arcalx]

♧ Say it with me...

I understand what you went through and the issues you have but that doesn't mean I deserved that too.

I understand what you went through and the issues you have but that doesn't mean I deserved that too.

I understand what you went through and the issues you have but that doesn't mean I deserved that too.

I understand what you went through and the issues you have but that doesn't mean I deserved that too.

I understand what you went through and the issues you have but that doesn't mean I deserved that too.

I understand what you went through and the issues you have but I was your child.

[husbandhoarder]

“You’re old enough to…”

“You’re at that age where…”

“Part of adulthood is…”

[afluria]

TL/DR: 37 yr old female never taught about makeup. Need advice or super easy tutorials

Hi i know this is an odd question and probably outside of what the groups about..and delete if it is please.

I am 37 years old and I have never worn much makeup (gloss, some spot coverage) because honestly I never had anyone in my life to show me. I’m super uncoordinated and honestly don’t catch on well. I also have sensitive skin. I’d love some tips for beginners or tutorials you may know of.

I’m kinda embarrassed about this to be honest…I feel really stupid, silly, and embarrassed by the fact that I can’t do a simple task like this.

[fretbored34]

Umm the best I can do is being emotionally stunted

[aj-theteenagecondition]

what if you and me kissed and it was you and me and you kissed me with your mouth on my mouth and we kissed

[xlounzrhot]

Gamzee's seems like the kind of guy who smashes things👊

Like he can only process his emotions through destruction 🧨😡💥 When he gets confused my something he has to have another pie or else he stars pulling his hair and pounding his head, grinding his teeth 😣😬The sopor destroys his insides but without it he's bashing his head against the wall and smashing mirrors, he's so emotionally stunted that even acknowledging his own rage scares him 😮 He's suddenly irrationally angry at anyone nearby and says things that he can't take back 🤬

He probably smashes things when he's excited too 🎊 Smashing a bottle over his head, kicking over a trashcan, fists tightened in excitement so tight that it leaves marks in his palms, whooping and cheering so loud it hurts his friend's ears 📣👂

Gamzee just seems like a rowdy kind of clown boy 🤡

[solarsavoy]

Now let’s try Stag for all the flavors

YES! Yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes..... So happy you asked! ☺

1 – Favorite color?

Brown. The color of… nevermind. 😉

2 – Hobbies?

Running, flirting, dancing, parties, orgies… (but that's a secret.) Improving his sword skills in creative ways.

3 – What are their strengths?

Hard worker. Gossip management. Lying. Intelligence recon. (had you going there for a second with gossip and lying, huh?) Good at making and maintaining habits. Even bad ones, unfortunately.

4 – What are their weaknesses?

Emotionally closed off. Opening up. Doesn't allow himself to grow emotionally. Avoids emotion. Look, he's got issues with feelings, okay? He lies to himself a lot.

5 – Favorite food(s)?

Stag is a carnivore. Hand him a slab of meat, medium rare or less, and he will devour it. I haven't made up the names of all the meats they have on Thera, but Earth equivalents are steak, pork, lamb, and any other ground creature. (Thera is kind of short on birds, but I'm sure he'd love chicken and turkey too. Also, Thera doesn't have fish. I don't know how he'd feel about fish.)

6 – Least favorite food(s)?

Due to a bad experience as a child, he has a severe food aversion to brazens. A brazen looks like a shrunken plumb and the taste is similar to cranberries, but less bitter. If it has the slightest bit of brazen in it, he will taste it and throw up. Can't do it. Hold the brazens, please.

7 – What would be their dream job?

Wandering swordsman. They do odd jobs and are basically self-employed. The system for getting paid is different on Thera, but as long as he's doing jobs, he gets access to food and inns and clubs (naturally because Stag).

8 – What is their DND alignment?

Chaotic Neutral with good tendencies. He follows his whims, but has decent morals and will turn things down if they don't align. However, he isn't afraid to do jobs for the bad guys. Again, as long as they don't directly go against his morals. (Examples include hunting, fetching, and exploring. Doesn't care what side he does it for because it doesn't directly hurt anyone.)

9 – What is their hidden talent?

He's a natural gymnast. If it were a thing on Thera, he'd be really good at it. Naturally agile and flexible. It helps with his speed and agility when sword fighting.

10 – List a personality quirk of this person.

He loves pranks. It's a socially acceptable way to be mean to someone. He doesn't ever go out of his way to hurt them in the process, but the bigger the reaction, the more likely he is to do it again.

11 – List something strange/weird/unexpected about this character that their loved ones probably don’t know about them.

He's constantly making lists and keeping secret counts. Some things that come up in the story: he has over 2000 reasons he's in love with person A. 27 reasons he's in love with person B. He's counted how many people he's been with, including how many were boys and how many were girls. (He tries to keep them even. It's a thing.) When he finally starts "dating" this one person, he keeps count of how many times they've had sex. All sorts of things. There are so many, but some of them are spoilers, so that's all I'll share for now. 😉

12 – What is their complex? (Sister, inferiority, etc) Explain.

Father complex. His father abandoned him and everything that happened between his mother dying and his father leaves him carrying a huge weight on his heart. More on that in damage.

13 – What is their main sin of the seven deadly ones?

GLUTTON. I originally thought lust, but the reason his sexual ventures are so many are because he tends to outdo everything. He obsesses and just does too much of it. His training. His fighting. His sex life. He always does it to the highest degree. It can be argued that it's actually pride, but while he is a cocky asshole at times, he never says something he can't follow through with, not if he can help it. So if he says he's going to win, he probably will, and he's just trying to warn you because he doesn't want to waste the time. He knows his level of skill and has worked his ass off to get it there. He knows EXACTLY what he's capable of, and he's generally a good judge of what's others can do. I mean, except in the case of Deshi. Deshi's kind of an outlier. 🙄

14 – How would they be as a parent?

Loving, caring, supportive, protective, reasonable, he'd be a very good parent. If/when he chooses to have kids, he will put them above all else. When they're older, he'll probably encourage prank wars with them. He'd make a very good stay at home dad, and prefer it even. He's a decent cook and like I mentioned above, he tends to overdo things so once he's a parent, he's gonna be the best damn parent anyone's ever known. 😆 Also, his sex life would become nearly nonexistent. He wouldn't want to taint them with it. (Besides, kids keep people too busy for that stuff. 😜)

15 – What is their main love language?

Words of Affirmation. He only has one word that triggers him, and anything that implies that word will also trigger him. Thanks, Dad. On the flipside, he's very chatty and never skips out on a chance to give someone the words they need for those he cares about. He knows just how much weight there is behind the words that people use, and thus uses them carefully when it's important. He can also be purposefully flippant about them too, and is great at lying, which helps his intelligence recon abilities.

16 – How do they act around a crush?

Starts a list of reasons they like them and holds every moment with them close to his heart while acting nonchalant and cool until he gets to his room where screams like a star crazed teenager.

17 – How do they act when they are in love?

Pre-relationship: Changes the list to reasons they love the person and pays extra attention to them. Everything they say is something he analyzes so he can understand their wants, desires, dreams, hopes, fears. He will also blabber on and on just to keep them around and keep talking to them.

In a relationship: Talks to them about everything. Given enough time, he'll open up, which is the biggest compliment he could give someone. He knows his heart's in a box, but when he loves someone enough, he'll hand it to them and hope they not only know what it means, but won't crush it in the process. He does take a little goading before he actually hands it over though, because it is also his greatest fear.

18 – How would they react to a confession of love?

He's very put off by it. He doesn't like attachments and unless it's someone he's already got a list for, he's not interested, and not afraid to say as much. His argument is "You knew I just wanted to have fun. I made it clear that this was just for fun. And now it's not fun. Bye!" But... if it were one of the people he already loves, before his character arc takes effect, he'd probably brush it off like it isn't such a serious thing. He'd say things like "you don't mean that" or "I'm sure you say that to all the handsome guys, thanks!" but he'd eventually turn into a pile of mush and just constantly daydream about them, hoping he didn't fuck it up with his nonchalance.

19 – How do they show their love/affection?

He's a very sexual person, and depending on what the other person is like, he would probably drag them out to many sexual excursions. He likes "hunting" at clubs and would take them with him to each one, let them pick, and then go with it. He would also want to be with them everywhere they go. To protect them, to experience life with them, and to just talk to them about everything. Especially if he can trust someone with his heart, he'll become an open book. He's actually not truly polyamorous. He would ideally be in an open relationship with that one special person always being there, and everything would always be centered around them. He would place them on a pedestal and "you and you and you and you are fun, but this person… they're so much more." He would make sure that person felt special, despite his... tendencies.

20 – What is their idea of a good time?

Hunting in a club.

21 – Describe their ideal date.

Going to a club, hunting with that person, having a multiple person orgy with them, and then waking up the next morning with breakfast and good conversation with just that one person, letting the others sleep.

22 – How do they handle drama?

Watching it with a bag of popcorn at hand. If it stems from him, he fans the flame like he's trying to set the world on fire. Explosions everywhere. It must all die! If it stems from someone else, he will say something cruel to get the person to stop so he can walk away. It's all or nothing with him.

23 – What is their sexual preference/sexuality?

Bisexual/Hyper sexual. (If you couldn't tell by now, lol.)

24 – What is their BDSM tag? (Brat, sub, Master, vanilla, etc)

It should surprise no one that he is very very kinky. The only things that ranked low on the BDSM archtype test were degrader/degradee and vanilla. The ones he scored 98% and higher on were Nonmonogamous, Predator, and Brat/Brat Tamer.

25 – What is their phobia or greatest fear?

See number 17, but basically, opening up beyond repair should something happen while he's vulnerable.

26 – What is their emotional damage?

When his mom died, he tried to stay strong for his dad but his dad never really recovered. He drank, he got angry, and never touched the kid, but Stag is words of affirmation. He didn't need to touch him for it to hurt. His dad pushed him to work hard because they "didn't need handouts" and to not act like you can't help yourself "because you're a man" and to not complain because "you're not allowed to be weak". Stag rose up to the challenge and actually did pretty well for himself, but then his uncle came to offer a refuge for Dad to get himself back up on his feet. And Dad didn't take Stag with him because "you aren't worth it".

Stag didn't have anywhere to go (and he was roughly 10 in Earth years) so he ran away instead of becoming a ward of the state (Earth terms "ward of the state", but to quickly explain, all of Thera's children are wanted so orphans are extremely rare, which apparently Stag is now.) Every issue he has stems from this, and Stag puts a lot of effort to be "worth someone's time", so when anyone implies he's not, they get a severe punch to the face.

(For those that read the book...) And that's why that happened. Yup, he totally deserved it.

27 – How do they handle emotional pain?

He keeps himself busy. He won't be chatty, won't interact with others more than he needs to, he may take it out on the dance floor or in the clubs, but he won't talk. He'll daze off into nowhere a lot.

28 – How do they handle physical pain?

Like an annoyance. He gets hurt a lot during sword training so it's like "Yeah, yeah, I'll go to Medical so Master Key can heal me..." grumble grumble, I hate getting hurt, so inconvenient... 😆 If he's out in the realm though, he's relatively knowledgeable about what he's supposed to do to stabilize the wound or what to do if he gets a concussion or something and how to get help if he needs. Because remember, he can do it by himself (minus the magic) and doesn't need "handouts". >.>

29 – What would bring them to kill someone?

I can see him getting the opportunity more often than others, but he knows it's something you can't come back from, so it would either take a lot to convince him to actually take a life, or he would have to be so incredibly blind with rage that doesn't stop himself at that critical moment. Continued below.

30 – How would they react or change after they’ve killed someone?

Usually he tends to stop himself, so he would feel incredibly guilty if the person died anyway due to his actions (like if he hurt them and let them go and then they got eaten by a cancer [very evil animal] because they were too weak.) If he did actually kill someone directly though, he'd be wracked with guilt despite the reason. He'd probably stop going to clubs and stop doing the things he loves and try to find a way to punish himself while helping others at the same time. (Literally working himself to death.) He'd disappear into the forest and live a hermit's life, all for the sake of punishing himself. And without outside intervention, he'd probably stay that way.

Sorry if the intense section was a little... intense, but Stag's a pretty serious guy when it comes down to it. Thanks for asking about my favorite person! I will love him til the end because he's one of those surprisingly deep people and once I dove into his personality, I just... love him so much. 💙 Thanks @heyhellohihowareyou for the ask!

[uruhead]

i have been thinking on this for a while, but some of the population that is claiming that they have autism aren't autistic, i believe that they're suffering/dealing with delayed emotional development.

I am emotionally stunted, I did not get the correct emotional care while growing up-- and therefore have things that look similar to autistic meltdowns, or stims, or problems with social situations, masking, etc because I don't know how to manage my emotions. i was not given a good template, nor an environment where i could safely pursue what those things are, what they mean, what is healthy. autism and delayed emotional development are not the same.

it is technically easier to lump all of that under autism, since they look pretty similar to autism, but it's definitely not. i want people who actually have autism to be able to get the help that they need! but being emotionally stunted/delayed emotional development can be grown out of with with effort! it takes work, and time, but you are able to work on yourself to be able to learn and actually develop those coping mechanisms so that you CAN live healthy lives.

[only1lorrie]

[i-dont-actualy-like-oatmeal]

what i say: thx ur awsome

what i mean: i actually love you with my whole heart our friendship is the most important thing to me the fact that you exist is a blessing

[opulence-is-decadence]

Emotionally, I am a teenager. That is so embarrassing, I am much closer to 30 than to 19.

[unlovablecreatureofsin]

in the Walmart girl’s toy section with my hands clasped behind my back like im at the fucking louvre

[crumb-crumblet-s-crumbington]

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