#it's just- I'm just rambling

[weirdcharacter]

Heartstoppers spoilers below

Weirdly enough (or not), the scenes that had me crying and/or feeling the most emotional in Heartstopper were the scenes involving parents.

Seeing how... Normal. They were. Charlie's dad clearly is ready to defend his son, always telling him "if you need anything, call me", "if any of these boys say or do something nasty, you call me", always trying to keep the dialogue open with Charlie and telling him it's okay, he's here for him.

We didn't see much of her mom, but she seems pretty chill about Charlie being gay and bringing over male friends (and in the graphic novel Charlie says all of his family is chill about him being gay so that's good too)

And even his sister is like, she's teasing and supporting him like a big sis, she's here for him and she makes it clear that she cares for him and his well-being.

As for Nick, his coming out scene to his mom had me crying. Because I also came out to my mom (mom only in the family) and while she was supportive and told me "you know we don't care if you like a girl or a boy, as long as you're happy" (and I am grateful for these words), I didn't get the full on "hug you and thank you and sorry" reaction Nick's mom had. (Again, i still am grateful for her reaction because she didn't dismiss my bisexuality and we even got to talk more about it and other things so it's cool)

I have a supportive mom, and I have other people who say they are supportive but the words and actions don't really follow the discourse, so yeah. Seeing how accepting Nick's mom was, it kind of reminded me I don't have this unconditional acceptance from some people.

What I'm trying to say is, this show is healing and painful, because it shows me and other people the experience of being queer, figuring things out, having to Google stuff like "am I gay" "what is bisexuality" "bisexual test", having to figure things out and overthink everything; it shows us, it shows me an experience that is similar to the one I had when I was a questioning teenager.

And it shows me what I could have had. What it could have been for me, if I had more queer people around me. If I had that one queer person who liked me and would have been here to support me and stuff.

I had to figure all of this on my own, alone behind my screens, scrolling through google and tumblr blogs and screenshots on pinterest; I had to read in that one "teenage book guide" I had, and had to take like a hundred online tests to make sure that yes, I am bi. I did most of that alone, and the only person who knew at the time was also figuring it out so we were just. Not really able to guide each other through that.

Heartstopper is great, because I relate to Nick's "figuring things out" story, to his bisexuality, to his journey toward accepting himself and how he feels. And I relate to Charlie, who probably had to figure things out by himself, who felt very isolated at times, who wonders if he's ever gonna find someone who loves him, truly.

Anyway, just to say that I love the parents in the show, and I overall love the adults (Art and Sport teachers, I see you). And I love the support the kids have and give to each other.

[lazylittledragon]

can't believe we're all adults being forced into the club penguin level of censorship in 2024

[midnight-coffee94]

No single line has ever wrecked me as hard as this one from the Good Place and I think about it constantly

[suburbanlegnd]

women's thighs. you agree. reblog.

[unforth]

Gentle reminder that very little fandom labor is automated, because I think people forget that a lot.

That blog with a tagging system you love? A person curates those tags by hand.

That rec blog with a great organization scheme and pretty graphics? Someone designed and implemented that organization scheme and made those graphics.

That network that posts a cool variety of stuff? People track down all that variety and queue it by hand, and other people made all the individual pieces.

That post with umpteen links to helpful resources, and information about them? Someone gathered those links, researched the sources, wrote up the information about them.

That graphic about fandom statistics? Someone compiled those statistics, analyzed them, organized them, figured out a useful way to convey the information to others, and made the post.

That event that you think looks neat? Someone wrote the rules, created the blogs and Discords, designed the graphics, did their best to promo the event so it'd succeed.

None of this was done automatically. None of it just appears whole out of the internet ether.

I think everyone realizes that fic writing and fanart creation are work, and at least some folks have got it through their heads that gif creation and graphics and moodboards take effort, and meta is usually respected for the effort that goes into it, at least as far as I've seen, but I feel like a lot of people don't really get how much labor goes into curation, too.

If people are creating resources, curating content, organizing the creations of others, gathering information, and doing other fandom activities that aren't necessarily the direct action of creation, they're doing a lot of fandom labor, and it's often largely unrecognized.

Celebrate fan work!

To folks doing this kind of labor: I see you, and I thank you. You are the backbones of our fandoms and I love you.

[imreallyonthishellsite]

People with siblings or know a pair of siblings I've got a question for you

the other day I had a conversation with a guy who said sibling friendships don't really count bc that's family and I'm just like, ??? yeah that's my family but I can also like my sister as a person and have a friendship with her. So I'm just curious to see what the general vibe here is.

btw the "it's complicated" option is for ppl who are either estranged siblings, parenting their siblings, or some other issue they've got going on not any weird freak shit(ifkyk)

Anyways choose your option and if want you can explain in the tags

[redlipstickandglitter]

i was thinking about how the only thing i didn't love in the full barbie trailer was ken in the real world hospital, telling a doctor that he should be able to do surgery because he's a man, and doesn't believe that's she's a doctor as a woman. it's very un-ken of him—ken was created exclusively to support barbie. he doesn't have a real job of his own! if anyone understands women having real jobs, it should be him.

so i was thinking there must be something else going on, like maybe traveling to the real world opens ken's eyes to the possibility of a patriarchy and men having more power (something that obviously doesn't exist in barbieland). then i read this quote from greta gerwig:

and i was like "hmm maybe barbieland is like the garden of eden and he gets tempted with the fruit of knowledge lol" and then i watched the trailer again and saw that at some point BARBIELAND becomes KENDOM:

and i'm putting some puzzle pieces together…obviously there's still much to be explored and i think greta gerwig is a genius so i'm sure there are even more layers than i think but i just wanted to put these thoughts down so i can refer back to them in july!

[malyen0retsev]

i wish everyone who made kit connor feel he had to come out a very merry FUCK YOU. you forced an eighteen year old into coming out publicly, before he was ready, when he stated many many times he wanted to keep it private. how many more times does this shit have to fucking happen before some of you fucking clock that YOU CANNOT QUEERBAIT IN REAL LIFE. this is the natural end to the discourse of ‘if somebody is in the public eye playing a queer person they owe us their sexuality’, and it’s DEEPLY FUCKED UP, they do NOT owe you an answer, and this mindset JUST FORCED AN EIGHTEEN YEAR OLD TO OUT HIMSELF BEFORE HE WAS READY TO

[narrayya]

💕

[foldingfittedsheets]

Before my beloved and I moved in together they were living with roommates in a place that didn't have a bathtub. Now, a reasonable person might conclude from this that baths would be out of the equation in a home with only one standing shower and no tub.

But these people weren't quitters. Naturopathic doctors and acupuncturists they were dedicated to treating their bodies well and one of the ways they liked to do that was hydrotherapy. Most people are familiar with this through things like polar bear plunges. You sit in a hot tub then jump in freezing water.

It's supposedly good for you and they were way into it. But again, no tub. They'd do hydro showers but it just wasn't the same. These people were not quitters, though. (One of them is the boob soap person, so it really isn't a surprise that she goes hard on everything). So they got what looked like two big metal old timey tubs but which were actually animal food troughs and set them up in the garage. They set up a water heater and god knows how they emptied the tub after, I think there was hoses involved? A pump maybe? I honestly can't remember. Anyway! Voila, hydrotherapy on demand.

I was not aware of this. So when I came over after a long day and my beloved said we should take a bath I was extremely puzzled. I only knew about the one shower. They showed me the garage tubs. I did want a bath and I wasn't really sure about the setup, but honestly I'll try anything once if only for the story, so I agreed.

Fun fact about me though. I haaaate being cold. I've been 0% body fat most of my life with skin barely keeping my bones enclosed. I'm always cold. My favorite activity at the time was sitting directly in front of space heaters. My shower temperatures turn me lobster red and make my beloved cringe. Willingly dunking myself into cold water is the antipathy of my entire deal.

On the night in question I happily submerged into the warm tank, pleasantly surprised by the big silly improvised tub. Which again was meant for livestock. My knees bumped companionably against my beloved as we soaked in the hot water. After a while they rose to go into the cold water. "You don't have to," they told me.

But I was haunted. I wouldn't be doing hydro if I just stayed in the warm tub. Maybe hydro was amazing. It has all these health benefits. I desperately didn't want to but I stood up with them. We were having this nice intimate evening in the garage, just us, I felt safe. I was gonna do it.

They stepped easily into the cold tub, dunking matter of factly into the frigid water. I went to step. I did. I really really tried. My foot went in and I started shrieking, my progress arrested by the total state of shock I entered when my warm toasty foot hit that smug arctic water tension. My beloved started laughing as my pitch ascended the deeper my foot went into the cold water.

I started loudly narrating my discomfort as my foot touched the bottom and I willed my other foot up to join it. "THIS IS VERY COLD," I yelled, "IT'S SO COLD I THINK I MIGHT DIE HOW ARE YOU JUST CASUALLY SITTING IN THIS FREEZING COLD WATER?! I'M DYING- I THINK I'M DYING! I'M DYING BUT WE'RE HERE, TOGETHER! I CAN DO THIS! I CAN DO THESE EVEN THOUGH IT'S SO COLD ALL MY MOLECULES HAVE COMPRESSED INTO A SOLID STATE!"

I ended up with both feet planted in the cold tub, water up to my shins, bellowing and panting while my beloved laughed so hard they couldn't breathe. I hunkered over the cold water, squatting like a frozen gargoyle.

My beloved was trying to psyche me up while I willed my body to obey me. In a sudden jerky drop like a puppet whose strings have been cut I plummeted my body into the cold and let out a shriek that I’m sure could have shattered glass and then leapt up out of the water at a speed relative to a rocket achieving space flight. I didn’t like it.

When we got back inside my beloved's roommates were collapsed on the ground with tears in the their eyes from how hard they'd been laughing. They and probably every neighbor down the block had heard my pterodactyl screeching and narration because the garage was not remotely soundproof.

[somnimagus]

My page for @sheikahzine; about Impaz's duty to her village, empty of people and full of memories.

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[mixmangosmangoverse]

If you ever needed to know the extent of how the I/P conflict is fandomized, there is a popular post going around with a Sailor moon sticker saying Free Palestine and all the comments are talking about how it's their aesthetic and they totally need to buy it

Because this doesn't matter to them, it's just the cool hip and trendy thing

[nikoisme]

The constant temptation and promise of everything and nothing in the odyssey. The sirens promise odysseus to know, and the lotus eaters promise him to forget. He could be an immortal, and he could be a beggar. Be known, and be a stranger. He could be alive, and he could be dead. He could be odysseus, and he could be nobody. And the man of many ways tries to be a little bit of everything.

[somegrumpynerd]

Thinking about how Nightmare has 4 mortals and 3 of them are so so bad at taking care of themselves

[ferretwhomst]

how people can hate ford is genuinely beyond me. look at him

[simplenefelibata]

as much as i love sam knowing about destiel before dean does, there's something about "i mean yeah my brother and his angel best friend are really weird about each other, live together, co-parent a kid, nearly kill themselves every time the other is gone, stand too close and stare at the other's mouth while they talk, but i mean to each their own i guess??" that's so special to me