#love is all we need

[awareness-and-healing]

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[ashotasfireandasdeepastheocean1]

"How calm, how solemn it grows to ascend the atmosphere of lovers."

aRt by Walt Whitman

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[akindplace]

I really don't wanna be too sappy and silly but whenever I hear the Beatles say "love is all you need", I have to agree, it makes my life so much better and happier and I believe that loving everyone and accepting them can help save the world and I refuse to give up on life because some nihilistic dude thinks life sucks and there is no reason to try. This dude needs some tea and a fresh warm cake and maybe when he sees the love someone puts into baking something he will understand that love is sustenance.

[zoereeb]

Being delusional by thinking LOVE is real and it's the most important thing in my whole life. Nothing's beautiful and more important than love. Ay, leaving everything and turning myself into a romantic fool who sees love, gives love, wants to receive love, thinks about love, and wants to improve love skills only.

Yes, being delulu is a real solulu.

~zoereeb//

[findingpeaceinconnection-blog]

Happy Anniversary

when i was a teenager i cried myself to sleep because i had this gaping hole in my heart where love was supposed to go. I couldn't feel love. I didn't know what love was meant to feel like. I was autistic, i couldn't understand the metaphors of what love was meant to feel like. i didn't know the feeling and i was dying from not understanding it.

I still can't describe it now. I look back at that teenager and i want to give her a description that will make it all make sense. Say it's ok because love feels like...

Love feels like this. I can't put it into words. Now i understand why the poets and the lyricists use every metaphor they can imagine cause it really is indescribable. Love is a feeling of safety and home, and contentment but its more than that and it's not a feeling. it is a certainty, a knowledge and a promise.

I don't know what love feels like, but I know it is us right now.

I love you darling. Someday I hope to put it into words

[unabashedqueenfury]

Reign 2013-2017

Mary and Francis

Happy Valentine's Day

[faceshopping25]

Everytime, every single time something bad happens to me, i look at this picture and relax. I know that i’ll have a chance tomorrow and the day after tomorrow. And for the rest of my life and more . forever . Forever young and beautiful

[stuckinapril]

Honestly the cliche advice is true. If you fill your life w things you’re passionate about, if you challenge yourself every day, if you give your own opinion of yourself more weight than you do other people’s opinions of you, you will actually thrive. Like no one can tell u anything

[marshh-com]

cause maybe today will become tomorrow and time will pass and even if we can’t change it we can exist and love and eat pasta and drink really cold water

[awareness-and-healing]

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[ashotasfireandasdeepastheocean1]

...a mix of ♈️.♋️.♎️.💕

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[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[uncanny-tranny]

Amatonormativity has destroyed so many people's understanding and acceptance of themselves, and it's heartbreaking.

Yes, it is normal to be in your 20s, 30s, or older and not have lost your virginity, had a first kiss, or a partner. It is normal to say that you aren't ready for those things, too! It is normal if your life doesn't follow the "college graduate -> engagement -> buying a home -> 2.5 kids and a dog" trajectory that so many people have idealized.

So many people associate maturity with losing your virginity, or having a first kiss, or a serious relationship, and I think that's a dangerous association. Maturity isn't gained through those things, and you don't have to have those experiences to be considered "mature" or "grown." It is not a bad thing to go at your pace. Nobody else can live your life but you. If you end up having those experiences, that's great! But it should be done because you want to experience them, not because you feel "broken" and "immature" without them.

[myrkulitescourge]

the way that one line from the new epilogue in an astarion romance is going to HAUNT me

just. what a profoundly intense thing to confess to someone.

like, just these six months of newfound happiness with you exerts a force on his heart equal and in direct opposition to two centuries of endless torment, the gnawing hunger and exploitation. this flashbulb-bright fraction of his long life holds the same gravity to him as years upon years of darkness and suffering.

in all likelihood, he hasn’t even known his lover for as long as his worst memory lasted, that year sealed away to go mad from starvation and sensory deprivation, yet he still tells them this brief time has been so fundamentally and powerfully important that the weight of even that unimaginable hell is vanishingly small compared to this present he has now and the future ahead of them both.

how am i supposed to act normal about this.

[katnissandpeetamellark]

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[theoldkyokodied]

One wedding and three funerals

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