I literally do not know where to look, what are the signs or symptoms of a narc crash? Stuff you usually feel or do during it?
hi! it varies depending on the person but some signs and symptoms i tend to see are sudden feelings of jealousy, distancing, tone change, loss of or lack of interest specifically in topics or people you'd typically be more into, and even lashing out.
i wrote a bit about my crashes in this book and if there isnt already a chapter about how to recognise a crash in the other book i will definetly add one.
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person uses trading center to advertise that theyre looking for something. i have that thing so im like ok ill send them a message ab it and also tell them theyre using the trading center wrong. "theres nothing in the code of conduct against LF/ISO trades, nd thats not what im looking for". ok smart ass thats not a proper LF/ISO trade bc if it was you wouldnt have to say 'read description' in the title and 'pm me' in the description. consider the trade reported xoxo
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ok this is my list so far-
NPD:
chosen person (CHP)
equal person (EP)
worthy person (WP) <- coined by Belladonna the Narc anon
respected person (RP) <- coined by @wittness
higher person (someone above equal person; less common)
favourite person (FP)
Ego person / supply person (person who helps with crashes and provides a boost)
BPD:
favourite person (FP)
fixated person
supply person
focused person
PPD:
safe person (SP)
trusted person (TP)
ASPD:
chosen person (CHP)
exception person (EP/ECP)
partner in crime (PIC)
Social person/circle
HPD:
attention person (AP/ATP)
attentive person
AVPD:
safe person (SP)
indulgent person (coined by an anon and their friend)
DPD:
depended person (DP)
reliant/relied person
SZPD:
interest person (IP)
safe person
OCPD:
Obsession Person
Compulsed person (when one is the subject of their compulsory thoughts)
STPD:
Familiar person
Trustable person (TBP)
Any PD can use:
Partner in crime (PIC)
Favourite Person (FP)
Grounded/grounding person
Comfort person
Attentive person
Attention person
Protected/protection/protective person
Connected person (similar to grounded or could be social)
Stable person (similar to grounded)
safe person
special person
love person or special love person (from anon)
Protected person (im, mod weeping, coining this one. Someone you would do anything to protect)
Protective person (i, weeping, am also coining this. Someone you’re very protective of or someone who is protective of you or both)
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*if you've heard a couple songs but don't really know much about them, or haven't listened in a long while, you can play!
update: the highest votes went to gudetama. but was it correct? here are the full titles and albums.
❌ "put your hand inside the puppet head" - they might be giants
the opening verse makes reference to leaving one's job and how "it's sad to say, you will romanticise all the things you've known before. it was not, not, not so great". according to flansburgh, "the lyric revolves around the idea that looking back on anything colors it in sentimentality".
❌ "I'll sink manhattan" - they'll need a crane (ep)/miscellaneous T
this is a flansburgh song, but linnell explained its meaning in a 1989 interview with NME as "a song about a guy who somehow figures out how to sink the island of manhattan just to kill his ex-lover, so it's his apology to the other people he's gonna kill in between. he's just gotta do it!"
❌ "meet james ensor" - john henry
it's about james ensor (belgium's famous painter).
❌ "wicked little critta" - mink car
from the tmbg unlimited collection: "forged in the crucible of an eastern massachusetts junior high, this song expresses the dreams, fears and hopes of a new england young adult" the lyrics seem to suggest said young adult fantasising about being a sports star alongside bobby orr and john havlicek while goofing off outside.
❌ "working undercover for the man" - mink car
from flansburgh: "it's more a meditation on the "mod squad" [a 1968 crime series about cool undercover detectives] than anything else. the idea of the narc just seems... like, those episodes of "dragnet" where they have the young undercover dress in a hippie suit."
✔️ "talent is an asset" - kimono my house
the lyrics illustrate an overly-cautious family shielding their very gifted child from others, to keep him studious and soak in all the glory, and is heavily implied to be little albert einstein through puns on relatives and relativity. it's not by them, tho. it's by the band sparks. it came 2nd, so I think many of you recognised it (or really wanted to see the results!)
❌ "bee of the bird of the moth" - the else
"this is a song about a creature called a hummingbird moth, which imitates another creature, which imitates yet another creature. it's completely fucked up, and can only be explained in song!" so they did.
❌ "2082" - join us
thewrap's review of the album describes this song as, "a science-fiction short story (...) a protagonist who travels into the future, finds himself hobbled but still unhappily alive all the way into the next millennium, and travels back to the title year to smother himself with a pillow in a mercy killing". fun!
❌ "call you mom" - nanobots
referred to by linnell as an "oedipus pan" song, the lyrics follow an unfortunate young man beginning a relationship with a woman, getting dumped due to his behaviour of treating her like a mother figure, then infantilising a possibly younger woman in a different relationship and in turn leaving her, who goes on to experience the same issues. fun! (altho, the final chorus actually still refers to her Mom leaving, not her dad, I got the details wrong there in the poll).
❌ "gudetama's busy days" - dial-a-song / my murdered remains
yes, that's a real song. quote flansburgh: "(...) it is really just about feeling isolated from the world, even if you are in a crowded place and manically trying to keep up with your life. the character of gudetama appealed to me because he is such a mopey sad sack."
❌ "marty beller mask" - album raises new and troubling questions
this is real, too! it's just about how marty beller was actually an alter ego of whitney houston the whole time. he's not, but wouldn't that be interesting. the song name-checks multiple of her own in the lyrics. it was temporarily retired out of respect following houston's death (4 months after its release), returning to live performances ten years later in 2022.
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I slowly build supply with a partially understood pre-planned crash. Maybe I should stop doing it because it's adjacent to sh but it's consistent and familiar. I like being in control of what I want and even how I fail. I've been wondering what it's like to not fail, though.
i get that
it definitely isnt healthy to cause yourself to crash but i understand the comfort in the familiarity and control you have over it. it sure as hell is easier to crash than it is to not.
i cant really offer any alternative at the moment, i can tell you to focus less on crashing in order to achieve a supply but thats way easier said than done especially when its already a routine you have.
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