#narcissist people are very lovely

[thelonelyelysium]

I wish anyone who uses the term “narc abuse” “narcissistic abuse” a very bad holidays and I hope your tree burns for you being ableist. And if you don’t celebrate Christmas I hope your oven catches fire like in the sims

[mostdefinitelyahumanperson]

im so sick of all the anti-cluster B hate narcissists arent inherently abusive borderlines arent inherently manipulative histrionics arent inherently selfish antisocials arent inherently violent there isnt a single diagnosis that makes someone a bad person. some diagnosis might mean you have to work harder to be healthy towards yourself and others. that just means your goodness is even more admirable. this account fully supports people being their best selves while living with a cluster B diagnosis. i love yall

[foolishnpd]

am I aplatonic or am I just incredibly narcissistic with the tendency to view the vast majority of people as a waste of time and not up to my level to even consider being friends with

[sparkles-oflight]

Stop calling me Kris, I'm begging you

[the-sage-libriomancer]

my take on Ayame is that he's unapologetically himself and knows exactly what he wants out of life, the universe, and everything, but he's also not very good at thinking about other people's points of view. he only knows what he likes and what he would want in a given situation, and he projects that onto other people because he's never had any need to connect with them - they've always flocked around him, no effort to connect needed.

probably the biggest example of this mindset is when Shigure and Hatori urge Ayame to be more open and honest with Yuki, and he decides to do this by...telling Yuki he's a bottom. i'm sure in Ayame's mind, this is a huge sign of trust since it's personal information that you don't hand out to just anyone, but obviously Yuki doesn't see it like that - it just weirds him out. it would weird anyone out honestly, what kind of thing is that to tell someone just out of the blue?

and it makes yet another interesting juxtaposition between Ayame and Yuki, because it's an example of how personality traits can be a double-edged sword. we know a big difference between the brothers is that Yuki never shares his true opinions while Ayame always does, but on the other side of the coin, Yuki is well-versed in interacting with others at their level and Ayame really really isn't. he's always done what he wanted, talking at people rather than to them, and now that he has to actually put in an effort to form a relationship with someone who doesn't think like him, he's fumbling.

Ayame and Yuki are extremely different in a multitude of ways, but one similarity they do share is having the same problem for completely opposite reasons: Yuki can't connect with people because he never shares his true self, and Ayame can't connect with people because he shares too much of his true self without letting them share back.

[cluster-b-culture-is]

Npd culture is seeing those triggering videos popping up like "can narcissists even love?" and then thered just some misinformed rando overconfidently answering no. Like boohoo, you piece of shit, i guess all the people i love must not fucking exist then, do you even know what npd is?

(but inwardly, seething at how much hate there is towards us. like at this point we deserve the nice things they say we're trying to steal)

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[what-shitfuckery-is-this-ew]

I want people to read their scientific articles before sending them to me. Like actually read the entire thing or at least read the conclusion. Reading the first line and thinking that that means you understand the entire topic is very inaccurate, and it makes you look like a joke when i actually read it and find that it contradicts your point.

[aprofessionalwithoutstandards]

some demo and/or pyro potrayals in fic really make me want to grab the writer by the shoulders, shake them and yell at them to for the love of god be normal about these mercs

TBH and while I have the mic a lot of Medic portrayals too. As I always say there's generally an overall trend of like, a lot of fanfic not being particularly Good and having kinda flat, boring, flanderized, or otherwise out-of-character characterization, which is to be expected. It's mostly written for fun by not necessarily experienced writers and I ultimately don't really care about any of that. But when the trait someone is flanderizing or the highlight of their angst fic or whatever is mental illness or disability or addition or race it can become really really shitty really really fast, in ways that like actually affect real people. The ways people choose to represent these stupid joke characters who mean nothing in their own right usually represents more than just what they think abt the characters, it also shows how they think abt similar people who actually exist in real life. And when your portrayal of a nonverbal person with delusions is "stupid child and/or animal who is unable to make any of their own adult decisions" and your portrayal of an alcoholic black guy is "stupid and lazy and aggressive and violent", especially when neither are particularly adherent to how they are actually portrayed (actually quite contradictory, imo) it kind of sucks a little, yknow

[mellodiies]

[leatherbookmark]

an interesting thing abt jgy antis is like. where is the source of their, shall we say, negative opinion of jgy? like, 1. jgy is a villain, he does horrible things with no remorse, he’s willing to do everything to achieve his selfish, egotistical goals. --> 2. the source of this claim: this, this and this scene. --> 3. alright, but to me -- says someone who’s not an anti -- this reads differently. that he did all those things, and did them on purpose and without remorse, is not that obvious to me. why do you think that? --> 4. well, obviously because he’s a villain and does horrible things with no remorse.

like... he’s evil because he does bad things, and he does bad things because he’s evil. i’m interested in how antis came by those opinions, but a, unfortunately i have them all blocked, and b, even if i or someone else made a poll, it wouldn’t be authentic because no sane anti is going to say “well, people hated him and wrote all those things about him on twt, so i started hating him as well”, or “i only care about wgxn, you could sell me anything about other characters if your arguments were convincing enough because i zoned out during the parts when wgxn weren’t on screen/pages of the book”. it’s all “written in the book/shown in the show” and “logical arguments you’d agree with if only you could read”.

[thelonelyelysium]

"Narc" Abuse = Emotional Abuse

It's funny seeing something so relatable to you on instagram regarding family trauma or relationship drama in general then you look at the tags to see it is tagged under "Narcissistic abuse" AND "Emotional abuse". FYI they are the same thing, one is an incorrect and ableist version while the other is the correct version.

Then you get to the comments and it is so MUCH worse, especially when someone is trying to educate these people who refuse to educate themselves and trauma dump to justify their ableist views and why they use narc abuse as a term to describe an abuser.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stems from trauma that causes an emotional imbalance, which causes unwanted out-lashes towards those they love and are close to. This is why ACCOUNTABILITY is important for the person with NPD (or really any disorder that has horrible symptoms that one cannot control), it is also important for the other person to understand that the person with NPD cannot control their symptoms. You can be hurt because it is an emotion that will happen regardless, but you cannot use ableistic terms on them especially if they are trying to heal and trying to do better

Narc Abuse DOES NOT EXIST and if you believe it does your are an extremely horrible and disgusting person who needs more therapy than people with NPD do. Don't use terms that aren't for you to use and don't just water the term down because you gained the wrong information and choose to believe it instead of listening to those who struggle with the stigma every single day

[shiftyarchfey]

I‘ve been feeling a bit lonely recently, I suppose.

The weird mix of knowing I am not good to be in a relationship with somebody, feeling like I can never properly express my feelings, the knowledge that I am aromantic and all of this combined with my relationship experience… I want to be loved, I guess but it is not fair because I cannot fully love back the same way I want to be loved. It’s not fair to expect a person to give so much effort into a relationship where their romantic needs cannot be reciprocated.

Yet, I am jealous of those who can be in a relationship, who feel romantic love and who have a person or persons they can feel loved and accepted by. Idk if I just haven’t found „my person/persons“ yet, if I ever will or if this is just something I have to accept and move on from. I have people who love me, I am aware and it has been a journey to even accept that as a possibility (like the fact that even if I have a problem liking myself, people actually want to be in my company and have a good time? Wild lmao).

Yet idk, I am just. Lonely.

[loadsofcats]

Reading a book rn and flippin out because some guy just has like, part of his vibe and powers like Balor and I’m aaaaaaaa

[lesbianuhaulindustrialcomplex]

I did something recently that hurt my mom's feelings and the world has come to a fucking halt about it. Everyone keeps reaching out to me to be like "hey you hurt your mom's feelings idk if you know" even though she and I have extensively talked about it and I've given multiple genuine apologies because she keeps going to everyone who will still talk to her in our family (not very many people) and complaining about me and I'm just like. Genuinely I am very remorseful that I hurt my mother but like. Where the fuck was all this energy when she was hurting her fucking children for 30+ years?

[r029]

https://www.tumblr.com/benzosandbpd/727826303185813504

This is why there’s stigma. Stop.

Omg I didn't say I was engaging in anything. Like when it personally happens to me that is how I perceive it, After things ending with whichever person with a personality disorder. I don't expect anyone to agree with that, because I realize how fucked up it is. That's why I put it in #. And you have to understand that it is romanticized, no matter how hard you try, personality disorders will be. It's not surprising I think shit like that like? I thought that was a normal perception to have to be honest.

[barnbridges]

i think being autistic is like. i dont even have an attachment style. i dont even have attachments bro.