#old men stevetony

[westernwoodblogs]

Just realized all these years later as I scrolled down memory lane that @mirthandstar never posted their truly gorgeous commission they did for me. I hope you're doing well out there. Thank you for my old men, I do infact look at them everyday.

[stevetonyweekly]

SteveTony Weekly - Jan 21st - Week 3

Here’s everything I read this week! I hope you find something you enjoy! 

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Hello. I've Been Waiting by j_gabrielle

Non-powered AU where Steve and Tony are in their late 20s and were high school sweethearts, married a year after their graduation - as Steve had wanted to save and then use his own money to buy Tony a ring. Though it hurt him to let Steve go to join the army, Tony knew it would have hurt both of them even more if Steve had stayed at home, miserable. They skype when they can, send emails (and the occasional letter because Steve is old fashioned that way - although Tony will never admit the amount of glee that fills him at seeing the physical envelope in his mailbox), and keep in touch as much as possible.

But there are still the long periods of time when there is no contact, and Tony can't help but worry and fret terribly about his husband overseas. One such period of time, Steve and Tony's friends (Bucky, Rhodey, the rest of the avengers, ya know), are surprised to get a group email from Steve - but happy at seeing that the reason: Steve is coming home early from his tour and wants to surprise Tony.

arei’s thoughts: I’m a sucker for Steve surprises Tony with a military homecoming. Short and sweet and lovely. 

A ghost for Christmas by gottalovev 

When she died, Peggy left Steve an old house in Connecticut. When he decides to spend Christmas there, Steve finds out that it's already inhabited... by a very handsome and kind of annoying ghost.

arei’s thoughts: this was so cute and the way that Rhodey came into it was really great. Loved it. 

Something On My Mind by Thahire

During a team game of Never Have I Ever, Tony finds out that Steve has done—some things with men.

Things spiral from there.

arei’s thoughts: tony finding out about steve’s sexual past in a game with the team is a pretty niche trope and one i absolutely adore. Loved this. 

Arrangements by Neverever 

Tony has a no-strings attached, no-personal information, all-sex relationship with Steve. But things can change, can't they?

arei’s thoughts: FWB that doesn’t stay FWB is always a lot of fun. 

Magical Moments by Becci_chan

It hadn’t been Steve’s best idea when he’d asked Tony to go with him to the Christmas market. Steve had only needed someone to keep him company, because sometimes crowded places still made him nervous. And because he liked Tony. A lot.

arei’s thoughts: it’s pure Christmas fluff. Plus, you know, Steve not knowing he’s head over heels for Tony is always fun. 

Teeny Tiny OctoTony by MountainRose

Tony finds something in a HYDRA base, and it's about four inches tall and has a goatee.

And tentacles.

arei’s thoughts: i’m a big fan of tony as a octopus. They’re so smart?? And this one’s telepathic-ish bond with his octo counterpart was adorable! 

All Roads Lead To by Anonymous

After Obadiah's betrayal, Tony hides in the depths of the Midwest to become a mechanic.

The Avengers come into his life anyway.

arei’s thoughts: I love the idea that some things are inevitable, and how this team came together was lovely. 

Beyond Imagination by nakurumok

Tony swears he is fine. Really.

Sure, he was injured in the battle (only slightly), his suit was shut down after he was hit by some magical beam, crashed into the ground and lost conscious for nearly a day. But he is fine. Totally. Unquestionably.

Except, if he would admit it, he feels like he had gone through a few rounds of boxing with Hulk, while without the suit. He feels dizzy, and the ground seems floating under his every step and his head hurts like hell. But despite all of these, he is fine.

… and has he mentioned he sees Captain America, who should only exist in the comics, standing in his kitchen?

arei’s thoughts: The way things came out slowly and then all at once was lovely. It was clear that something was wrong, but how it played out was just--so nice. 

we pick ourselves undone by laramara

It might appear that award-winning surgeon Tony Stark, the head of neurosurgery at Shield Hospital, well and truly has his life together. Now if he could only figure out how to tell people that his father, world class neurosurgeon Howard Stark, is locked away in a nursing home with Alzheimer’s, devise a way to get Chief Fury off his back for good, and work out what the hell he’s going to do about the weird on-again-off-again thing he has going with the head of cardio, he’d finally have everything sorted.

arei’s thoughts: I loved the setting of this and the softness between Tony and Steve in contrast to everything around them. So well done. 

[jake-and-amy-are-married]

11 14 20 for the ask game! 😈

🔥 choose violence ask game 🔥

11. number of fandom-related words you've filtered

insert _don't quote the old magic to me_ gif here. I was here when the stevetony vs stucky ugly fighting was happening lolololol. I was sent death threats, and violence threats, so it was SUPER FUN! I mean - you know, fun in a very sad way. Thankfully I never took any of it seriously - so most of the words I've filtered are anti-tony stark sentiments - I would say about 20/25 sentences?

14. that one thing you see in fics all the time

This is a true thing that really annoys me a lot - making the men into ken dolls - for example, they finally paired sam up with an AWESOME BADASS deaf actress and there was like no buzz? around them?! I've noticed that the subtle not so subtle misogyny is fandom across and fandom wide lol. Men with even good opposite sex pairs are usually made into ken dolls with that other dude in the show. Not that I say we shouldn't write MLM stories, but I think we should address it fandom wide.

22. part of canon you found tedious or boring - which fandom is this? I'll try to be more specific then?

[yanderefreud]

also i want you to rank the multiversal stevetonies: 1872, 616, ults, mcu, and any others you want to include ✨

OOOOO BOY. Okay

So number one is extremely unsurprisingly going to be 616. They're the ogs and absolutely no one does it like them. The slow burn, the extremely unresolved homoeroticism, and the angst (the ANGST!!!!!),, all of that is just unparalleled. None can compete with that much lore and all those moments of them just saying sappy gay shit like "you gave me a home" or "i'm not half as good at anything as i am when i'm doing it next to you", or absolutely heart-wrenching things like "it wasn't worth it" or "he loved you, and he admired you, even when you fought"

After some deliberation with my own self I have decided that 1610 (Marvel Ultimates) is my second favourite. I just love the dynamic A LOT. Imagine you're this repressed homosexual man who was transported a billion years into the future and you fall in love with the most obnoxious man ever and then you find out he's dying. The struggle of reconciling with your own self and then trying to pursue something with someone who might as well be dead. There are just so many possibilities

MCU is going to be a respectable third. I have a lot of fondness for it because it is what introduced me to stevetony (when I first saw the helicarrier scene all I remember was thinking "these guys have sexual tension and I want to be there when they resolve it"). One complaint I have is the initial hostility that they had, because I think A LOT of people got hung up on that lmao. I don't really watch marvel movies anymore, not even old ones bc they just make me sad :-(. Still, they have some absolutely incredible moments like "i'm home" or "do you trust me" "i do" and "i thought you and Tony were still gazing into each other's eyes (thanks natasha)"

1872... Oh 1872. I have a lot of feelings and not enough Canon content, and that's the only reason why it's so low on the list. I love how Steve was literally the CATALYST for Tony becoming Iron man like. That is so sick omg... He was so grief-stricken that he literally went mad. I also fucking love their interactions "I think you pulled enough corks for today, Stark. It ain't even noon" "oh why hello there sherif. I guess you have nothing better to do than infringe on my constitutionally guaranteed right to pursue happiness (can't argue w that ngl)"

Avengers Assemble!! I actually fucking love them ngl but the reason why they're number five is that there isn't enough angst. Where is the bloodshed and death and tears????? I need to see grown men crying and screaming in agony thanks. Other than that, I love their dynamic and how fucking domestic they are. They are so married they're making my parents look single omg like GET A ROOM GUYS. My favourite thing that Steve ever said in that show was "iron or not, you're still the man" hell yeah boy get that dick

Marvel's avengers 2020 (the video game!!). God. I did not play it myself but I have seen Stevetony scenes and they are so SICK. Tony being so fucking DEVASTATED at Steve's death is really entertaining and makes me very happy. He should continue being sad hehe >:-))

Other than that, I haven't seen any other universes w them in it. There's EMH, and I'm planning to watch it eventually (I'll let you know what I think!) and as for 3490, I think that needs a separate post in itself. I hope this answered your question hehe ty <33333

[agostobuwan]

give me all the domestic stevetony forever!!! slices of life are MY life source!!! i want to see them wake up in the light of the morning sun and talk and cuddle and make love!! i want coffee and bagels and sweet little kisses between bites!!! i want walks in the park and holding hands and feeding ducks like the old sweet men they are!!! i want to see them happy!! please!!!

[girlnic]

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#5

that feeling when you want to do the thing, but you don’t want to do the thing before the thing...yeah that

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#3

to myself

to my 5 year old self that did not know what it meant to be a girl who only knew that she had a sister and brother but not that she was a girl

to my 10 year old self that was given make-up and told she should be glad to have it and maybe lets do something with her face

to my 15 year old self that did not understand why she was called lazy for wearing a bun in her hair and sweatpants

to my 20 year old self that was pushed into the arms of men that she was told she should want

to my 25 year old self that was questioned and ridiculed for not having her life together that didn't have a man or child or home

from your 30 year old self I love you I love you I love you you were perfect

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My #1 post of 2022

Came home from a loooong day to this! @not-close-to-straight I’m so excited and I love the new covers and the book marks 🥰🥰🥰

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[lonesome-dreamsss]

okayokay, so i've been thinking about marvel and the witcher as i often do and while doing so, i have come to the conclusion that tony stark and jaskier would be best friends, mostly because both of them are fucking crackheads/ feral idiots who cannot function like normal human beings. and also because they can cry about their old and grumpy and emotionally constipated significant others and they will be understood. (like. you have an 100+ year old who fought in WWll and now saves the world from super villains and a god fucking knows how old witcher who has been making a living off of killing monsters since he was a fetus. and okay, steve rogers isn't as emotionally constipated as geralt, but he's definitely up there on the list.) and like i totally bet that geralt and steve try to be annoyed with them, but they just can't be because they are so whipped.

is this me just desperately hinting at someone to make a marvel/witcher crossover? yes, it is.

listen. i'll try and get a fic or two up with a crossover. but i need help.

people, join my cult and help me make these fanfics

[capfalcon]

love amongst thieves

(soft, sort of happy)

Tony has been a thief long enough to know when someone is following him. But that isn’t the reason why he isn’t surprised when a hand reaches out to gently hand him a warm cup of coffee. He’s been taught by the greatest thieves in the world, has stolen Picassos and Monets, has hung Rembrandts in his home, but that isn’t why he isn’t surprised by the blonde haired, soft spoken man standing next to him.

“I brought you coffee,” the man says, eyes staring forward, as if he isn’t talking to Tony at all. “Two sugars,” the man says softer, the wind blowing through his hair. It’s longer than Tony remembers it. “Just the way you like it.”

And then the man looks at him, and Tony knows that this is the reason why he’d felt the man’s presence before he’d even saw him, that this was the reason why he’d been comforted, rather than startled by him. You don’t really ever forget your husband, even if you haven’t slept in the same bed for 4 years.

“Steve Rogers,” Tony replies, taking the warm cup and wrapping his cold fingers around it, “How thoughtful of you.”

Steve glances down at him, for just a second, before re-adjusting his gaze to a faraway building. “You looked cold. You really should wear gloves, Tony.” 

“It’s my day off,” Tony says, staring out at the crowd of people bustling through the city, bundled up in scarves and hats, all desperate to escape the cold.

Steve smiles then, an unmistakable little thing, and Tony allows himself the luxury of looking at him. Steve’s eyes are just as blue, startlingly crystal clear, but his hair has grown longer, long enough to be blown by the wind. His profile is as handsome as it’s ever been, except this time, framed by the small wisps of snow and century old buildings, Tony thinks absentmindedly that he’s seen a lot of art; but nothing could compare to the way the sun shines through the clouds in order to rest on Steve’s eyelashes.

There were a few simple rules that good thieves follow, whether they like them or not. Don’t get cocky. Don’t con an honest man. Don’t underestimate a mark. But the one that Tony is reminded of while staring at his husband in the morning light of a city in England, is the one that hurts the most to be reminded of.

Don’t ever love something you can’t bear to lose.

And as Steve’s eyes glance down at him, as the wind blows through Tony, Tony knows, with absolute certainty, that no thief is ever supposed to love anything as much as he loves Steve.

“So,” Steve finally says, voice still low and serious, “Why are you here?”

“Why are you here?” Tony answers.

“What, I can’t visit my husband?”

Tony takes a sip of his coffee, choosing to ignore the way the words “my husband” cause his chest to clench tightly. “How’d you find me?”

Steve gives Tony a look, and Tony nods in concession. Steve always had a knack for finding him, even when he didn’t want to be found. Especially then.

“I wanted to see you,” Steve finally says, voice low as his eyes track the ground beneath them. “I miss you.”

“I’m here,” Tony says, as Steve lifts his head, a smile on his face, achingly sad.

“You’re here,” Steve agrees, quietly, and Tony knows that they’re both thinking the same thing. The things that neither of them can-or will say. That Tony is here, that they’re both here, that they sleep together sometimes, but that they go home to different places, that they’re married, but that neither of them wear rings, that they love each other, but that they can’t be together.

That Tony is here, but only to steal something; and once it’s stolen, he won’t be. 

“You have a tail,” Steve whispers, after what seems like eons of them staring stupidly into each other’s eyes. Tony knows, of course, has known, for days now, that Interpol has been following him, but he’s still surprised that Steve noticed. He shouldn’t be, after all, Steve was one of the greatest thieves in the world once. 

Once.

Tony doesn’t respond, instead choosing to grip the collar of Steve’s thick, woolen coat and pull him forward, into a soft, desperate sort of kiss that they rarely get to have. Steve’s lips are warm, and Tony feels a shiver run through him as he realizes just how cold he has been. As he remembers, like a fact that he’ll never forget, Steve is always warm.

That thought aches more than when Steve pulls away, his lips red, his golden eyelashes coated with snowflakes.

They stare at each other for a few more seconds before Steve gives Tony another sad, soft smile. “I miss you,” Steve repeats, and Tony knows what he actually means, knows that it’ll hurt too much to say-hurt both of them.

“Makes two of us,” Tony returns, and Steve’s smile turns a little softer. 

“Be careful,” Steve reminds, his hands falling away from Tony’s jacket. 

“Always am,” Tony replies, his trademark smirk on his face, except that he knows it’s softer this time, tinged by something real. Steve always did have that effect on him.

Steve smiles, and then leans in one last time, pressing a warm kiss to Tony’s lips, a warmth that seems to spread through Tony’s entire body, all the way down to his toes. 

“Be safe,” Steve whispers, and then he’s stepping away, his warmth quickly getting blown away by the wind and snow. Tony finds himself aching to reach forward and grab Steve’s hand, to stop him, to spend a day, a week, a month together in the city, like a real married couple, on vacation.

But instead, he tucks them into his pockets. He can’t have Steve.

Not now.

So, Tony holds his cup of coffee, and watches as Steve does exactly what he did 4 years ago, and walks away, his silhouette quickly fading into the crowd.

[incorrecttonyxeveryonequotes]

Bucky: [speaking of Tony] Did you mount him?

Steve: [embarrassed] Oh my god, Buck!

Bucky: Wait, wait. Has he got big thighs?

Steve: [thinking] No.

Bucky: No?! Then what's the problem?

[mandowh0re]

Possible angsty prompt: sam and bucky are at a super market in New York and someone tries to rob it but oh no no no you got two avengers there so that ain't happening but low and behold peter shows up because robbery, but sam and bucky still really don't like Peter. Maybe Peter takes a bullet for one of them?

I like this!! I changed it up a bit but I tried not to deviate too far from what you asked for. Hope you like it!! xoxo

P.S. I added SteveTony in here bc I’m a slut for that ship and I like to add it whenever I can.

Steve exits the small medical room and walks over to the waiting room where both Bucky and Sam had been instructed to wait.

Not that they were planning to go anywhere. Not until they knew Peter was okay.

The duo looks up as Steve enters and takes a seat across from them, leaning on his knees and clasping his hands together. He’s quiet for a moment, looking down at the floor before looking back up at his friends.

“Peter is going to be fine. The bullet was less than an centimeter from his carotid artery, but he’ll be fine now.”

Both waiting men let go of their collective breaths, relaxing slightly with the knowledge that no. They didn’t get the kid killed.

“You’re lucky Tony refuses to leave Peter’s side, or this would be a lot louder.”

Neither Sam nor Bucky answer him.

Steve sighs, leaning back in his chair, “Tell me what happened.”

Three hours earlier

There’s a clap on Bucky’s shoulder, and Sam is lucky that the older man heard him coming beforehand.

“You about done, old man? We gotta head back soon.”

Bucky signs a paper and takes a small envelope from the teller, giving her a small smile as a thanks.

“Yeah. Let’s go.” Bucky claps Sam’s shoulder harder, just enough to make the man stumble.

“Jackass.” He mumbles.

There’s suddenly an onslaught of bullets being shot into the ceiling, forcing everyone to the ground.

“Get on the ground! Face down! Don’t move or we’ll shoot!” One of the perpetrators yells as they walk farther into the bank.

Bucky and Sam drop with everyone else, a plan already formulating in their heads. Luckily, they dropped behind an island counter and can quietly communicate without the gunmen seeing.

Sam has a gun, but is a lot less skilled with it than Bucky. So Sam’s main goal is distraction and keeping the guns away from civilians while Bucky takes each gunman down.

Just as they move into position to kick off their plan, a familiar voice rings out.

“There’s a lot less violent ways to take out a loan. You guys know that, right?”

The two men exchange glances.

“You’ve got to be shitting-“ Sam’s complaints are cut off as bullets begin to rain hellfire once again.

Bucky takes the distraction to stand and shoot, taking down two gunmen before a third one is shot with web fluid, pinning him to the ground.

“Oh hi Mister Barnes!” Spider-Man calls, flipping over a fourth and webbing him too.

“This isn’t Queens, kid. What are you doing here?” Sam asks, already moving to help any injured hostages.

“I was close enough and caught the call on the police scanner. I figured-“

“Get outta here kid, we have it handled.” Bucky says, shooting the fifth guy who had hidden when Spider-Man appeared.

“Hey! I took down two of these guys. I just wanted to help. I didn’t even know you were here.”

“Well we are. So you can go now.” Says Sam, who is now leading people out of the building.

Spider-Man huffs, but his spider sense tingles and he turns, his surroundings moving in slow motion as he sees one of the men that Bucky had shot down roll over and lift his gun, pointing it at Bucky who was turned away from him.

Without thinking, Peter grabs Bucky’s shirt and throwing the man behind him, moving in the way of the bullet.

Now

Steve runs a hand down his face.

“So Peter stepped in between you and a bullet?”

Bucky rubs his hands together, eyes downcast.

“Yeah.”

“After you told him to leave.” He asks, his eyes moving to Sam.

“Yeah.” Sam answers quietly.

Steve stands and grabs his chair, swinging it closer to his friends. He sits.

“You two are my best friends. But Tony is my husband now. And Peter, for all intents and purposes, is his kid. Can you guys please try to get along with the kid? I know he��s a hyper kid but he took a bullet for you. Maybe cut him some slack?”

Bucky nods, rubbing his own face, “Yeah.”

“We can do that.” Sam adds.

“Good,” Steve smiles, “I’d avoid Tony for the rest of the night though.”

The next morning

Peter is sipping on some apple juice, sitting up with the help of his hospital bed.

Tony had left a few minutes ago, saying that he needed to shower now that the kid wasn’t in critical condition.

There’s a knock at the door, and Peter turns his attention to it. His whole torso has to turn with him so he doesn’t pull at the still healing wound.

“Come in.”

Much to his surprise, Sam and Bucky walk into his room, Sam holding a red gift bag with blue tissue paper.

“Uh, hi?” Peter says, putting his juice box down on the table next to his bed, “What’s up?”

The two men look at each other as if they have no idea what to do. Sam speaks up first.

“We want to apologize for what happened yesterday.”

“Oh! Why? You didn’t shoot me.” Peter says.

Bucky shakes his head, “I was so distracted by the fact that you were there that I didn’t notice that the guy was still alive. If I had been paying attention-“

“It’s fine guys, really-“

“No it’s not,” Sam interjects, “We made a mistake that almost got you killed. And that’s on us.”

Peter’s eyes move from Bucky to Sam.

“I’m sorry, Peter.” Sam says.

“I’m sorry.” Bucky adds, “And we, uh, brought you a gift.”

Sam steps forward and hands the bag to Peter, who smirks.

“Spider-Man colors?”

“Man, shut up and open it.” Sam chuckles.

Peter smiles and removes the blue tissue paper, pulling out a black hoodie that is way too big for him. On the front it says ‘Falcon and Winter Soldier are my favorite Avengers’.

It’s obvious they got it at one of those venders that can make just about whatever you want on clothing.

Peter let’s out a laugh and lowers the shirt, “Thanks guys. I love it.”

“That’s not it.” Sam says, and both he and Bucky unzip their jackets to reveal they are wearing matching red t-shirts that say ‘Spider-Man is my favorite Avenger’.

Peter let’s out a guttural laugh, struggling to catch his breath. When he finally does, he slips on his sweatshirt with help from Bucky.

“I think this is the best present I’ve ever gotten.”

Bucky rolls his eyes, “Eat it up, kid. Because we’re burning these once you get out of here.”

And that’s how Tony ends up with multiple copies of the three now friends making bunny ears behind each other’s heads, each wearing their corresponding shirts.

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[sea-owl]

Can someone please talk with me about old howling commandos shipping stevetony and sambucky.

Like I need fics of these old men playing match maker and the super soilders just being completely stuck in their pinning. While Tony and Sam are oblivious to the whole thing. Please, this would be so funny and full of shenanigans.

[in-a-cave-with]

what your favorite universe stevetony says about you

mcu - you are a firm believer in the inherent eroticism of a divorced couple learning to love each other again. you willingly choose to ignore every part of avengers: endgame that isn't a stevetony moment as an act of spite

616 - you are an Angst Hoe and you have cried multiple times over this absolute trainwreck of a dynamic. also you are a firm believer in the inherent eroticism of narrative foils that despite their differences cannot exist without the other

ults - you think the "repressed homophobe who is actually gay" trope is great actually if applied to steve rogers. you also think tony stark would be much more interesting if he was a lot more of a flamboyant chaotic bisexual

aa - you really liked the "old bickering married couple" thing from mcu but thought it would be better if they always managed to talk it out in the end. you think that avengers as family fanfic is far better than anything canon has to offer

emh - you really liked the "steve and tony being best friends/pining over each other" thing from 616 but also you are very tired of how comics always make them fight with each other and the tragedy that ensues

1872 - you really liked the heart shattering angst and tragedy from 616 but thought it would be better if that was literally the entire thing. the panel of tony calling the iron man suit his coffin lives rent free in your head

noir - you're so exhausted of marvel writers and canon in general that you just fucked off to sandbox land to make your OWN stevetony dynamic in the universe where steve doesn't exist and tony is indiana jones

3490 - you are either a) A Firm Believer In Men Getting Pegged or b) heterosexual

[yelenaisace]

Best way Steve and Tony find their way back to each other:

Forgiveness in a foxhole, as things get more dire and bleak, old grudges seem so silly to keep when comfort can be found together

or!

Time and space allow for growth, change, and the old adage of “I can’t miss you unless you go” is transformed into “I could only miss you when I got to be the one to walk away in anger, and then come back in peace”. The war is over, and time for all wounds to heal is now available.

or, other?

hi anon :) sorry it took me awhile to get to it! Honestly I was trying to phrase this answer in a coherent and cohesive manner bc it's such a good ask and I wanted to give it an answer that it deserves LOL. Also sorry this got long af

I think that both scenarios are pretty great, but I'm gonna go with the foxhole-ish (as I will elaborate below) type of situation just cause I personally think it's more in-character for them.

(P.S I'm going to talk in the context of mcu!stevetony characterisation and I'm gonna assume that this ask is regarding post-civil war)

Steve and Tony, although both great men, do have very obvious and big flaws (and I love that! I love characters who are 3 dimensional). And one that they share is that they are both stubborn (or maybe prideful is a better word) as hell, which leads to a lot of misunderstandings between them during and post-conflicts. That and the fact that they both don't communicate well with each other ded.

And so, I do feel that the way they would ever reconcile/find their way back to each other is really in a foxhole type of situation such as the world ending or an alien invasion etc where they are clearly facing something bigger than their own problems. Because as shown multiple times onscreen (and even in other universes), they have ALWAYS been great at communicating and working together on the battlefield. This sadly just doesn't really translate during "normal" times.

Therefore, I feel that they need a sort of "medium" for them to come back to each other because although Steve & Tony may not always have each other's backs, Captain America & Iron Man do. And so, it's only during these dire times are they truly able to communicate with each other properly. Communication that comes from talking about battlefield strategies eventually leads to communication on a more personal and deeper level, which eventually leads to them being able to understand each other better (and fall in love heh).

Sidetrack but I do believe that this is why mcu!stevetony pre-endgame never really found their footing with each other i.e. bc unlike other universes where the avengers live and fight alongside each other, mcu!avengers only came together when there is a need for them. And so, Steve & Tony (along with the other avengers) never really had the chance to be "proper" friends

That being said, I do think they are each other's heartworm

The thing I like most about stevetony is the fact that despite everything they did to each other, they always always come back to each other because they can never let that relationship rest. They are wildly obsessed with each other even when they're far apart lol. They just need something for them to come back to each other bc they're prideful men and so wouldn't go to the other on their own accord despite how much they obviously want to.

Okay this became more of a stevetony relationship study more than anything else, but I actually do enjoy this dynamic they have in canon and so I'm going to stick with that!

[s-horne]

how about b25 w stevetony? (+baby peter if youre up for it?)

honestly, I’m always up to write baby Peter. I also wrote SteveTony getting together and adult Peter, just to round it all off. 1300 words of superfamily, getting together, goats, and general softness...

Hold my hand 

Tony didn’t get nervous. He’d given enough speeches and headed enough conferences for nerves to be a thing of the past. However, the rapid beating of his heart and the sweat on his palms told a different story.

Although he tried to tell himself that there really wasn’t anything to be nervous about, it was useless.

In his defence, he was sitting opposite the World’s First SuperheroTM in what was unmistakably a romantic restaurant. He hadn’t expected it to be overt, with the low lighting and a bottle of champagne chilling in an ice bucket at the end of their candle-lit table.

“Not enjoying the steak?”

Tony looked down at the plate in front of him. If he’d have been asked before Steve had spoken, he doubted he’d have been able to recall what he’d ordered.

“Yeah,” he said belatedly. It looked nice enough. “I mean no. I am enjoying. How’s, how’s yours? Mussels, was it?”

Steve grinned. “Pea and mushroom risotto, but close enough. It’s good. At least I’ve eaten mine.”

Tony groaned and reached for his wine glass, stopping when he saw that it was empty. He groaned again. “Where is that waiter?” He looked around the restaurant, feeling an uncomfortable flush rising up his neck. “I’ll get the bill and we can go.”

“I don’t want to go.”

Tony’s head snapped round to look at Steve quickly. “What?”

“I don’t,” Steve said again. He lifted a forkful of risotto to his mouth and ate it, looking at Tony the whole time. “Why would I want to go?”

“Because this looks like a,” Tony dropped his voice and leant forward, “a date.”

“Well, of course. That’s what I’d hoped when I asked you out.”

He said it so simply, so carefree that Tony’s mouth dropped open. “You didn’t ask me out.”

“Yes, I did.” Steve took another bite of his meal, looking completely at ease.

“You asked me to go for dinner. To celebrate the battle.”

“Exactly.” Steve frowned. “Wow. You really are oblivious.”

“Rude,” Tony snapped back immediately, even though his heart wasn’t really in it with his attention focused on thinking back to when Steve had asked him. “Oh. Huh. Look at that.”

“Yup,” Steve said happily, “so, you want to eat your steak now?”

Tony smiled. “I think I might.”

They finished their meals in silence, sharing small smiles and soft glances. When their plates had been cleared and dessert ordered, Steve placed his hand on the table, palm facing upwards.

Tony stared at it for a moment and Steve chuckled gently.

“Hold my hand,” he said, smile wide and impossibly soft. “Make it a real date.”

And that sounded good to Tony.

 ////

 “You’re late.”

Tony grinned as he stepped onto the slight platform. “Traffic.”

Steve lifted an unimpressed eyebrow. “Traffic from the suite upstairs you stayed in last night?”

“Yup. Busy commute, I’m afraid.”

“You are the worst.”

“That’s me,” Tony said cheerfully, grin still wide, “but you’re the one standing at the altar waiting for him.”

“You’re in luck,” Steve answered with a straight face, “I was only going to give you five more minutes.”

“Liar. You’d wait for me forever.”

Steve sighed loudly, but a smile started to tug at the corner of his mouth. “Shut up and hold my hand.”

Laughing, Tony took Steve’s hand in his and linked their fingers together. “Always.”

 ////

 “Goats!”

Steve laughed loudly. “Yeah, kid. Goats. You excited?”

“Goats!” Peter squealed again, clapping his hands together and stamping his rain boot-clad feet on the floor. “Goats, goats, goats!”

“Alright, alright,” Tony said, slamming the car door shut and walking round to the trunk, laughing at Peter’s dance. “We get it, bud, we’re going to see the goats, I promise.”

“Wanna feed.”

“You’ll get to feed them,” Steve said, taking his coat from Tony with a quiet thanks and checking the lock on the trunk. “We just have to talk to the nice man on the desk and get some food.”

“Then feed?”

“Yeah, Petey, we’ll get to feed them soon.”

Obviously happy with that, Peter fell quiet, still bouncing on the spot.

“Come on, then. Goat time.”

Tony laughed, heaving their rucksack up onto his shoulder. “There’s a sentence I never expected from you.”

“One I never expected to say, either. But that’s what you do when you have a son who’s obsessed with goats.”

 *

 “Goats!”

“Yeah, babe, there’s the goats.”

Tony snorted and stepped forward, running his hand over Peter’s shoulder. “You excited, then, bud?”

“Scared, Papa.”

“You’re scared?” Steve knelt down until he was near enough level with Peter. “What’s the matter?”

Peter shrugged, shuffling back until he was leaning against Tony’s legs. “Just scared.”

“You don’t need to be scared, buddy,” Steve said, voice soft. He shook the small bag of goat food towards Peter. “They’re not going to hurt you. They just want a snacky-snack.”

“I like snackies,” Peter muttered, still pressed against Tony’s legs.

“Don’t we know it,” Tony said, smirking when Steve glared at him. Grimacing a little at the mud on the floor, Tony knelt down next to his husband. “Okay, okay. What’s up?”

“Don’t wanna bite me.”

“They’re not going to bite you,” Tony said, poking Peter in the stomach to coax a very small smile from him. “And even if they tried, Papa’s here. He’ll chase them away before they could get a good nibble in.”

A tiny giggle left Peter. “Okay. Goats now?”

Steve laughed and Tony grinned. “That’s my boy. Fearless. Come on, then, let’s follow Papa.”

“Don’t let them get me,” Peter said seriously as Steve and Tony stood up, his eyes following their movements.

“Never,” Steve vowed, smiling widely and stretching out his arm, wiggling his fingers in Peter’s face. “Hold my hand. I’ll protect you.”

 ////

 “I can’t do this.”

Steve laughed and Tony reached forward to smack him on the arm.

“I’m being serious! I can’t do this.”

“You don’t have to do anything,” Steve said, a smile still on his face as Tony glared at him. “You have to sit here and do nothing.”

“Which you know it impossible for me,” Tony snapped immediately, following Steve down the aisle between rows of seats, “but I was talking about the emotional side of things, Steve. It’s taking a toll on me.”

Chuckling, Steve drew to a halt and directed Tony to their seats. “It’s not like he’s going anywhere. He’s moving back in with us for the summer.”

“But he’s graduating,” Tony said, pouting far too much for a man of his age. He looked down at the program someone had pushed into his hands and tried not to think about when Peter was nothing but a baby in his arms. “He’s old.”

“He’s 22.”

“And that makes me old.”

“Well, that I can’t argue with.”

“Hey!” Tony smacked Steve again and Steve laughed loudly.

“Come on, sweetheart. Today’s a good day.”

“I know,” Tony said on a sigh. “I just don’t think I’m ready to have a child that’s graduated college.”

“I’m not sure I am, either,” Steve admitted with a grin. “But I don’t think we have much of a choice, do we?”

“Could interrupt the ceremony,” Tony mused, flicking through the program absentmindedly. There were an awful lot of names in it and Tony was hoping that Steve would agree to interrupting the ceremony if it would save him from boredom.

“Pretty sure Pete will still be an adult even if he doesn’t get to shake hands with the Dean.”

Tony huffed, but he couldn’t deny it. “I want to go home.”

As he let out another soft laugh, Steve rested his hand on Tony’s thigh. “I’m still here. Not going anywhere.”

Softening a little bit, Tony turned to look at him with a smile. “You just have a thing for older men.”

“You got me,” Steve said, leaning in and pressing a kiss to Tony’s lips. Turning his palm upwards in Tony’s lap, he tilted his head to the stage. “They’re starting. Hold my hand and please don’t cry.”

“No promises,” Tony said as he slid his hand into Steve’s and gripped it tight. Too tight, probably, but Steve didn’t complain. “Okay, let’s watch my baby make me old.”

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[ad1thi]

If your still doing fic recs, could u rec any soft stevetony ones?

absolutely!! this got pretty long so ive hidden most of it under a read-more so i don’t annoy people. a couple of authors feature more than once. ive tried to avoid that as much as possible, but if an author features more than once - take that as a sign that they have rly good stuff for soft stevetony

disclaimer: don’t forget to leave kudos and comments for every author!! (a disclaimer i regrettably forgot to add to previous fic rec lists but will be adding from now on)

soda pops: @starklysteve

If anybody asks, Steve would smile and say it was very romantic. Very Tony. Because if he went into any further detail, nobody would quite believe him.

Tony, on the other hand, would laugh and say that Steve’s in love with a man in a can. So, really, it wasn’t outside the natural progression of things.

me voy pa’l pueblo: @firebrands

two times steve walks away, and one time that tony walks with him.

/ or, my very fluffy take on my bingo card prompt "farewells." steve is on vacation when he meets tony.

fill for my stony bingo prompt: farewells; also for bookworminaslump on tumblr who asked for a tourist/knowledgeable local au!

Tumblr Ficlets:  @omg-just-peachy (this is 115 chapters of stevetony being soft!!)

A collection of enough tooth-rotting fluff to last a year, all in one place.

tender offerings: @omg-just-peachy

Five times Steve carried Tony to bed.

the best thing (is that it’s happening to you and me):  @captainstarkreportingforduty

Or, five times the team saw Steve Rogers and Tony Stark in love.

Sweet On You: @miniblackraven

It’s the 1940’s and Tony is working as a Donut Doll for the Red Cross. His job is to go around to various military bases and offer comfort food and conversation to homesick soldiers. He’s come to expect a lot of things in this job, but he doesn’t expect to fall in love with Captain America, the hottest most awkward soldier Tony has ever met.

Bespectacled Avengers Society (Membership of One):  @baffledkingcomposinghallelujah

Tony gets glasses. Glasses get a Tony. Steve loses his mind and walks into walls.

a flower crown for your love: @anthonyed

"There, there," Pepper cooed. "Tony likes flowers?" she said with a shred of doubt in her tone. But when Steve peered up, she's smiling her bright toothy smile. He squinted and she sighed, dropping her hand from his shoulder. "He does." she insisted. "Even more so than me."

if this was a movie: @omg-just-peachy

“One of our seniors is being generous with his time this year—by force of his own actions, but generous none the less—and he’d be happy to help you, I’m sure. Tony Stark? I’ll set something up for later this week. I think between the two of you you’ll be able to pull your average up enough to make it through to playoffs,” Coulson said, with that ever-hopeful lilt in his voice.

Or, Steve needs a calculus tutor, Tony is available, but how is Steve ever supposed to focus when he's been in love with Tony for ... his entire school life?

you take me higher than the rest (everybody else is second best): @firebrands

tumblr fill for adi & anthonydarling, who asked for "'Prank' war, but the kind to see who can make the other blush the most in public" from this prompt list

amore mio:  @brucewaynery

Tony has had it with Steve being dumb and reckless out in the field, he has a family to think about now, Steve promises him that he'll be with him, kingdom come.

(initially based on that one headcanon about Italian Tony yelling and gesticulating at Steve but Peter thinks he's doing some weird dance and tries to copy him, but it got very fluffy very quickly)

Lost My Mind in a Coffee Shop: @betheflame

“Boyo,” Bucky muttered to his best friend. “I swear to God that if you don’t ask that man for his number soon, I will create a Grindr profile for you and you will not like it.”

Steve rolled his eyes. “I am here to finish grading, not hit on men.”

“Can you not do both?” Natasha smirked. “Nearly tenured, historical genius, feels like something you should be able to multitask.”

&&&

In which Steve is a history professor and Tony's an engineering one and Bucky owns the joint where they have their meet cute.

AU-gust Chapter 7: @iam93percentstardust 

stevetony, childhood friends AU

Right Up The Road: @gottalovev

The day at the senate committee in Washington DC wasn't supposed to end with Tony and Steve transformed into animals by a baby witch. That said, the 350 miles trek back to the compound to get help promises to be quite an adventure too!

(or the adventures of Cat!Tony and Wolf!Steve - and how to readjust when you're back to human!)

i’ll take care of you: @elcorhamletlive

“Hi.”

Steve blinks. The sound of loud thunder roars outside, but he doesn’t jolt, too focused on the image in front of him to be startled by the noise.

He has no idea what to say, and he isn’t sure if the shock is because of Tony’s absolutely sodden state – his hair glued to his forehead, his clothes dripping with water, forming a small puddle in front of Steve’s door – or because he wasn’t expecting to see Tony for at least three more days.

“Hi?” he says, a little tentative, before his brain catches up to reality. In his defense, he was getting ready to sleep when Tony knocked. He looks at what Tony is holding – a wet mess that seems to have been a flower bouquet at some point. “What are you doing here?”

The Tally System:  @betheflame

Everyone on the team knew about the tally system.

Whenever Steve would save Tony - whether from a monster or from his own stupidity - he’d say, “tag”. Whenever Tony do the same, he’d say, “your turn”. Thor thought it was adorable, Clint thought it was ridiculous, Bruce refused to register an opinion.

Natasha thought it was something she could work with.

what’s mine is yours: @robertdowneyjjr

5 times Tony stole Steve’s clothes, and 1 time Steve returned the favor.

or

For a billionaire, Tony Stark really doesn't pay for a lot of what he wears.

I like Shiny Things But I’d Marry You With Paper Rings: @betheflame

Rhodey: I just confirmed with Sam that he’s going to make sure he cooks tonight and that his entire team is briefed. I’m heading over now to strategically arrange a fuck ton of ficus trees to block them from gen pop.

Pepper: They’re not getting engaged in a prison, Jimmy.

Rhodey: Tony Stark and Steve Rogers show up to Circe on a Saturday night in May and you watch every person in that restaurant turn into someone I’d rather arrest than eat with.

****

In which Tony and Steve get engaged, but they're kind of extra about it, because they are always themselves

the road to the stars: @shell-heads

Tony is seven years old when he sees the ballet for the first time and meets his future pas de deux partner.

His father is invited to sweet-talk politicians into a new weapons deal and explain his latest idea for their program, and his mom goes to catch up with old friends she hasn't seen in years, but Tony goes because his mom had smiled down at him and told him he would love it.

His mom's never wrong.

-

In which boy genius Tony Stark meets girl wonder Natasha Romanoff at the ballet, and they fit their broken little pieces together to make something beautiful on the dance floor.

Steve? He's just a dumb, awful, chaotic, extremely supportive older brother that really should just shut up and admit he likes Tony a lot more than he pretends, because Natasha only has five people in the world she likes; it only makes sense her two favorites would fall in love with one another.

They always were a little slow, though.

A Second Chance To Take it Slow: @omg-just-peachy

Tony loves his adopted son, Peter, but that doesn't stop him from wishing he had someone to do this whole parenting thing with. After a failed one night stand, Tony's parent-teacher conference with Mr. Rogers comes with quite the surprise.

Wake Up!: @randomstufffromotherblogs

Tony came home from a business trip and is woken up by his husband and their three-year old.

pull me closer to love:  @captainstakreportingforduty (part of a series)

“A Mother’s Day card? For... Tony?” Steve clarifies, and can’t help the smile on his face as six familiar little heads nod in response.

“But... guys, Tony’s not—“ he pauses and takes a breath, any explanation dying in his throat against the excited gleam in everyone’s eyes. “Why do you guys want to do that, hmm?"

compromises:  @robertpattisons (when i looked up OP on tumblr, this is the blog i was directed to - but i sincerely apologise if ive gotten it wrong)

Steve should have expected it, he really should have.

There were regulations that came with dating Tony Stark. Things that were clear and things that they needed to work through.

Things like how Steve always got strawberry ice cream, while Tony got rocky road. Or when Steve needed to get his homework done before he was down to make out - even though Tony always got his way.

Things like that were clear

all that you are is all that i’ll ever need: @natasharxmanov

Tony Stark and Steve Rogers announced their engagement on Good Morning America through Tony Stark’s previous secretary now CEO, Pepper Potts. And over this past weekend, I got the chance to sit down with them both, to visit their home and attend their gala, all to write this article about the most powerful couple in the world.

(Or, the fic in which Tony and Steve get married.)

(i won’t ever) trade my mistakes: @brucewaynery

Toddler Peter, painting a masterpiece with his dad.

aka: a dumb amount of family fluff to help you power through the week

[welcomingdisaster]

hi! for the fic meme: 6, 12, 21, 28 and 30 pls 💖

hi hi hi 💖💖 6: favorite au? oh this is so hard!! i really like canon divergent and role reveral aus, western (1872 my beloved), detective aus, magic aus, soulmates.... basically anything that's not mundane!au. i gotta say sci-fi, though, probably, if i'm picking one. 12: what fandom/pairing do you keep going back to? comfort pairing is definitely 616 stevetony!! but i will admit there are destiel fics from 2014 i still come back to on occasion lmao 21: what fandom/paring brings you comfort? 616 steve/tony!! so good. especially early canon. 28: are there popular ships that you cannot get into? oh, so many! i'm picky, LMAO. i used to be kind of into stucky (as my old ao3 history will reveal, lol) but something about it just stopped resonating for me once i got into the comics. stuckony, too -- that's one i've never been able to like. also frostiron and winteriron. and coulson/clint. nothing against these or creators who like them, though!! they're just not up my alley. 30: are there fics that changed your life? oh, man, i don't know. i'd have to say no, probably. but there are a lot of fics i come back to during some of the darker times of my life. woad's fool's gold and @sineala's mercy in you. also isozyme's least difficult of men.