#protect trans men

[queer-questions-and-polls]

How do you differentiate being aro/ace from being scared of intimacy/dysphoric/ being not being attracted to a specific gender

And also

What do you think the differences between qpr and allo relationships are?

Like Qpr's can still have kissing and sex and everything right?

(sorry, this is coming from a really, REALLY confused transmasc person who's trying to figure out how I identify)

I'm going to be honest dude, I'm going to try to answer this but I'm in the same boat as you.

Now, for your first question, I'm not actually sure? Because for me I have a mix. I'm demi aroace, which basically means: I can't fall in love or have sexual intimacy with a person without a long established friendship first. And i really only diffracte it because I'm in a relationship.

Like I'm having a sexualty crisis because maybe I'm actually bi and not straight??? So yeah idk with the first one either bro.

Now, #2 the difference? Would be romantic feeling which honestly from what I learned the best way to difference platonic vs romantic is to listen to a love song and imagine it's you directing it at them.

Ok, #3 absolutely they can still have sex, kissing, snuggling all that jazz, I'd say the difference is romantic feelings but again I'm not that knowledgeable on that topic.

(Sorry if this was really long and for taking a while to get to it)

[spacepiratecaptainsexy]

Protect Trans Men

Bonus:

That's the first tag we get. Now this:

Protect trans men isn't even a tag on this site. I'm sick and tired of trans men being excluded and ignored in every community. Look at trans men. Protect trans men or you're transphobic period. You only love trans women because of your fetishes. Support trans men too or you're literally a transphobe even if you say you love trans women.

[torimidori2-blog]

Can we please stop preventing ourselves from saying "not all men"? I honestly don't get people who are trying to stop targeted transphobia to transmasc people, yet still say that they're not trying to say "not all men". Trans men are men, right? Not all trans men are terrible right? We also have cis male feminists and allies, right? Are they helping us? So they aren't bad people? Hm.... Well if you said yes to all of these things, lemme tell you something that may surprise you... I know it's gonna be really absurd and you might just freak out about it, but uh... not. all. men.

There. I said it! Not all men! We can't generalize anything about all men, because if we do, trans men will be in that generalization! Then we'll get people posting shit like "omg men are trash especially trans men lmaooo" We shouldn't be blaming men for the way people perceive gendered norms. If we can have a cishet man waving a rainbow flag to support his friends at pride, we can also have women who say that women should stay in the kitchen and live life like a 1900s housewife. People are pretending that the moralities are associated with gender and is black and white, when that isn't the fucking case at all. How about we blame our main offenders: Misogynists? Misogyny can come in many different forms and can be spewed by many different people, even trans people! If we fight against those people instead of blaming one gender for all our problems, we could actually have a chance at making a change and making people have revelations about the reason why they think men are trash. It's like even people within the LGBTQ++ community have a "Girls rule boys drool" attitude towards gender. Damn...

And for the record, I understand why those generalizations are made, because masculine cishet men are the most accepted people in society and their social pressures aren't as bad as everyone else's because men are the ones who made those gendered standards in the first place which caused them to oppress those who were different from them, but times are different and men are being encouraged not to hide how they express or how they feel even if they're cis. Masculinity in society is always expected to be as thick as an eyelash, but men are starting to realize what masculinity means to them on their own without letting society dictate that. Please give those people a chance, and stop making generalizations about them, that way, those stereotypes against them being aggressive, degenerates, airheaded, and egotistical won't be translated into the trans community towards trans men.

[finleyforevermore]

Dear Nex,

You're never going to see this. I know. I felt the need to write this for you anyway.

Maybe my input isn't needed because I'm cis, but I hope you and everyone else who sees this knows in spite of my gender identity and the privilege I have as a cis male that I'm aware that I have, I mean every word that I say. I never wanted to be privileged. I don't want to be privileged. I'm so incredibly sorry that I'm privileged. I know it's not right. I know it's not fair. If my input isn't needed, so be it. But I'm going to share it anyway.

My sorrow and rage and pain has not at all subsided since February 20, when I learned of your death. You've been in the back of my mind ever since. The grief and anger hasn't gone away. What your friends said about you and your family as well, shows that you were such a wonderful person. I wonder if you had social media. I would've loved to be your friend if you had Tumblr.

I find myself enjoying sunny weather and thinking "Nex would've liked this". I look at my friends' pet cats and think about Zeus. When listening to rock I wonder if you liked the song I listen to.

You were mistreated by your peers in life, because of your laugh, which I'm sure was wonderful, and the way you dressed. Being yourself cost you your life. And now even in death people refuse to respect you. Transphobes running rampant, calling you your deadname, someone here on Tumblr celebrating your death, labeled as filth. And now? Now your cause of death has been labeled as suicide. Even though absolutely none of it makes sense, and nothing adds up. It just doesn't make sense. And even if somehow you did commit suicide, the day before you did you were physically assaulted by your peers for getting fed up with being mocked. You were bullied before that too. Bullied relentlessly and mercilessly just for being you. The blood is still on their hands.

I'm utterly disgusted by the medical examiner, the state of Oklahoma, the transphobes, even myself sometimes for being so privileged because of my gender identity. I shouldn't be privileged for being cis. We should all be accepted and treated fairly and with care and love and respect. If only things were that ideal..

I'm crying now even as I write this. I so desperately wish that everything was different. That you weren't killed. That you could continue to hang out with your friends and be a kid. Making new recipes. Playing with Zeus. Playing your favorite songs. Making music, if you liked doing that.

Recently my faith and belief in God has been tested. But if there's an afterlife, a Heaven up there, I hope you're having fun and enjoying yourself up there. When I die and reach Heaven, I'll be sure to visit you.

On the other hand, if there's not a Heaven, I hope you're enjoying your eternal rest. Whatever being dead is like without an afterlife, I hope you're ok.

But until then I'm going to try my damndest to ensure your memory stays alive. Posting about you on social media and reblogging posts about you like wildfire so people never forget. I'm not going to let anyone forget you, Nex. I promise you. Me and all of the other people grieving here on Tumblr will continue to say your name, whether our shouts fall on deaf ears or not. We're never going to be silenced.

I raise my cup to you, Nex. You will be avenged. Justice will be served.

I didn't know you and I never will. You never knew me and you never will. But all the same, even if we're eternally strangers, I love you, Nex Benedict. I'm sorry the school failed you, I'm sorry the ambulance failed you, I'm sorry Oklahoma failed you, I'm sorry the world failed you. And perhaps I failed you somehow. And I'm so unbelievably sorry if I did. But I hope keeping your memory alive, and saying your name, and seeking justice can make up for it.

Until we're angels in Heaven once more.

Love, truly,

Finley

[pinkpetalbee]

[incessantscreech2000]

The Wizard Bunny has Spoken

[eagans-world]

I am so scared of looking like my father when I go on T

And it's not because haha I don't want look like my parents it's because Looking like my abuser scares me so much, it's the only reason I'm hesitant about T

Cause rn I'm lucky, I got mabye only two features from him. (Excluding all the health issues he gave me)

I look unbelievably like my mum & my grandfather from her side

Can any fellow trans mascs help me?

[capaldofilcumbergirl]

Hi! I am a writer and I am looking for trans man (or men) to consult on a character I have planned. If there is anyone out there who would be interested in me asking few questions about your day to day life, so I know what's the common struggles and experiences for you guys.

I know that it's not same for everyone, but I am trying to do enough research so I can do my best in writing. This character is crucial for the story we're crafting and I also want to do things right.

Thanks in advance!

[hedgehology]

All my solidarity to the trans community on trans visibility day. To celebrate these stickers are 10% off until Monday. 🏳️‍⚧️❤️

[spacepiratecaptainsexy]

If you say you love and protect trans women while still ignoring the existence of trans men, you're transphobic.

[torimidori2-blog]

Transmasc people experience misogyny

Surprise! You thought that just because sometimes we identify as men, wear masculine clothes, use he/him/his pronouns, take testosterone, or pass as male socially means that we're immune to that bullshit? Listen to yourselves talk for just a second and pay attention to what you're saying because believing this is not really helping anyone's case. We were literally born into this world assigned female at birth and we had to experience misogyny ever since that point. It's instilled in us that we are girls because of what genitals we're born with, and because of that, people feel like they're entitled to treat us a certain way, whether we were taught that by our mothers who want to protect us from misogynists or the misogynists themselves. Just because we identify as trans, doesn't mean that any of that shit is ever gonna go away, because misogynists will always believe no matter who we identify as, no matter what we say, and no matter how we express ourselves, that we are crazy women who need to be kept in their place. I'm not trying to say that transmascs suffer more than transfemmes. Far from that actually, since misogyny is also targeted towards them too. Transfemmes experience the same misogyny slathered in a blue coat of paint. Misogynistic cishet men see femininity as a weakness, and they also see having a penis as a sign of masculinity, strength and power, so when they see an amab person express femininity in any way, shape or form, their brains explode because they can't picture anything else but "bIg StRoNg MaN wItH pEe PeE gEt LaId PrEtTy GuRl AnD gEt MoNeY", which they use as a means to justify harassing, maiming, and killing transfemmes everywhere. It's the same fucking thing in a different fucking format, but it ends in the suffering of all trans people. Stop making trans suffering a pissing contest. We don't need that now. We need to stick together and try to get rid of the problem at hand, instead of fighting about how transfemmes suffer more than transmascs because blah blah blah blah... It's just like if me and someone I knew got kidnapped and tortured by the same guy and instead of focusing on calling for help or finding a way to escape, we argue about who got tortured the worst. It doesn't solve anything, it undermines the suffering of the person I'm arguing with, it's a waste of time, and in certain circumstances it can make things worse. Can we please focus on our needs as the trans community without being exclusionary? I'm sick and tired of our suffering being invalidated by the same fucking community that we're supposed to be a part of. Also, to all the non-binary people who are androgynous, gender neutral, genderfluid, agender, ect: You are affected by misgyny too. We're all in this shitstorm together.

[eye-scream-girls]

Oh boy. Someone I trusted just hit me with an absolute slew of transphobic 'opinions' and I have the worst emotional whiplash and disgust.

I will never look at her the same. She had the audacity to say that she's still a trans ally, and still wants to go to Pride with me and just... girl, we aren't even in the same library.

What the actual fuck.

[climbingbitch]

the only irreversible damage threatening our young girls is unplanned pregnancy

[flannelepicurean]

🎵🎶 I want all of them fucken anti trans laws to go-o-oooo, cuz I would like to stay here.

🎵🎶 Shut the fuck up and protect the drag shows. I kinda wanna stay here.

🎵🎶 Don't talk about Seattle, it's fucking cold in Maine! Hell, the cost of living in the Triangle's insane!

🎵🎶 I know I hate the summer here but something's gotta change, oh VO-O-O-O-OTE!!!🎶🎵

[wolftheghost]

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