#questions to ask your partner

[biigsaad]

Questions to dive into deeper emotional territories so you can understand each other's perspectives and feelings on a more profound level.

That will help you get deep

1. Is there a part of your past you've never shared with me because you think I wouldn't understand?

2. What's the biggest sacrifice you've made for our relationship that you haven't told me about?

3. If you could change one thing about our relationship, no matter how small or big, what would it be?

[soyvirgo]

15 MORE deep questions to ask bae! [En/Es]

My post 15 deep questions to ask your husband was a bit popular so I decided to make an updated version with 15 MORE deep questions to get closer to your husband/ long term partner! It’s been 5 years since the last time I asked him such deep questions for the blog. Last time I made this post, I posted it on his bday. Today I’m doing it again on his big 30th! wow i can finally say IM WITH A 30…

[ssaraexposs]

THIS IS THE FIRST TIME THEY'RE ACTUALLY TALKING, WITHOUT FIGHTING EACH OTHER OR SCREAMING INSULTS

[morganbritton132]

On the day of Corroded Coffin’s cancelled meet-and-greet, Jeff and his wife hosted the entire band at their house. Everybody’s having a good time. They’re eating good food. They’re drinking a little more than that should and Eddie posts a Tiktok.

He’s all smiles into the camera as Steve, who is further passed tipsy than Eddie is and practically in his lap, rambles on like. “-just sad that you wouldn’t think I was hot if I was a girl. Wait! Would you have even married me if I was a girl?!”

Eddie: Stevie, baby. Sweetheart, if you were a girl than you would have married Robin

Steve:

Steve: I forgot Robin was a lesbian

Steve: I have to apologize

Robin, the next morning, wordlessly stitches the video with a Tiktok where the background is a screenshot of her last text conversation with ‘Dingus.’ The last text says ‘Sorry you’re a lesbian.’

[zizzy-rie]

Another AU by @bog-in-a-well /@bogswell-kampilan that has never seen the light of day :D (Bog I have let your lil meow meow loose)

It has elements of the Danny Phantom show. MK is uhhh half dead?? Dead??? So uhm he can turn ghost.

Mihou here is a wukong-obsessed murderous lunatic who wants to eat MK. His backstory is very different from the canon so he has no emotional relations to wukong whatsoever. He is however, obsessed with emotionally torturing and killing the other monkey so there's that.

[thepoisonroom]

i know modern dating is a hell because i once went on a date with this lady and when we were about to kiss i pulled back and went "oh sorry i thought we were a vase for a second" and she didn't like that in the least

[ctrl-lupin]

looking at this shot reminds me of how the animator for Mob Psycho 100’s first ED apparently went around the BONES office asking “hey what’s a sexy way to light a cigarette”

[transingthoseformers]

Valveplug idea: Rodimus rails Megatron over the desk as Megatron fills out paperwork :3

Or if you're feeling in the mood for some Megatits: Rodimus sitting in Megatron's lap and just going to town on those pouches and nozzles. All while Megatron reads a datapad.

(Okay I'm just into the kink of the person being fucked acting like it's not happening. Or you could just blame it on Megatron being a workaholic.)

I feel like this is 100% while their off shift in Megatron's bullshit levels of empty habsuite

Both options are quite lovely, Megs has those librarian reading glasses with the chain because #MegatronWithGlasses

I'm exactly blaming it on Megatron either being a workaholic or him needing to do ~something~ at all times (such as reading some classical literature?)

I feel like in both situations we should include Megatits tbh? Y'all seem pretty interested in them

if we're going with the first idea, mags is gonna be getting reports that are more disorganized than what he typically gets from Megs.

[twentyfivemiceinatrenchcoat]

ari !! ari i hope u are doing so so amazing n vibing and living ur best life, i feel like i haven’t been interacting as much these days so i wanted to stop by n say hi!! :] and hmmm ive yet to read your best friend’s brother fic but it made me wanna think of an unrequited love between best friend!satoru and you where satoru is the one down horrendous instead (and perhaps you’re already spoken for.. mayb with sugu…. this is totally not ari-specific bait) i would love to hear your thoughts on our special little loverboy not being loved back in the ways he wants so bad )): 🫶🏼 side note if i think abt this pining bestie!gojo too much i get so sad i fear he’d never get over that crush on you even if you were already married to someone else… 💔💔💔💔

LOGAN !!!!! ^ this is me @ you rn……. i am kissing you and biting you gently <33333

I’M DOING PRETTY WELL… flowers r starting to bloom over here which is so nice !!! i’m just kind of waiting for summer ….. i have so many fic ideas that i wanna get to but not enough time :’3 not to mention my neglected tbr………

bUT overall i’m doing well!!! i hope it’s the same for you!!!!! it’s so sweet of u to drop by sniffle…. but pls don’t ever feel pressured to !! i saw that post you made a couple days ago n pls just know there’s never any pressure or obligation for you to interact often and stuff!!!! i’m always happy to speak to you whenever, so there’s never any rush <33 (i totally get it too… i’m pretty sure i have the online status thing turned off which takes off a lot of that pressure so!! i recommend doing that if you haven’t already <33)

BUT OKOK. onto the good stuff!!!! logan…. this probably doesn’t come as too much of a surprise considering the fic i posted but . i rlly love the unrequited love trope!!! >:3 i used to be the biggest sucker for hanahaki aus…. still am……. i need to write smth on it at some point bc i think it’s one of the best things ever created (and it’s perfect for toru let’s be real… the flower symbolism)….. SO. scenarios like this are very appealing to me!! and with bestie!satoru too…….. i have many thoughts >:33 let’s see how long i manage to stay coherent hehe

FIRST OF ALL. the ari specific bait…… you little weasel (affectionate) OK BUT . the fact that it’s Suguru in Particular changes a lot i think. i’ll circle back to that later tho trust 🙏

okay so. overall!! and i’d love to know your thoughts on this logan….. i firmly believe that satoru is the type to love one single person for the rest of his life. he never moves on from them. once someone has earned his love and nestled their way into his heart they’re there to stay. (and i’d argue that it’s kinda supported by canon yk… satoru hanging on to his memories of youth/suguru no matter how much time passes :’3)… so!! yeah!!! i definitely think he’d stay in love with his bestie forever, even if he knew fully well his feelings wouldn’t be returned. that’s just my take though!!!

i thinkkkk the tricky part is just. how satoru feels about it. a part of me wants to say that he handles it decently, that he’s happy just to be around you… but i think it’s also natural for him to feel a little empty about it all. bc he truly is!! a loverboy!!! deep down he yearns so badly for intimacy :(((( satoru is just such a pro at isolating himself and i think it gets worse in this kind of scenario. he loves you but does keep a certain distance i think…. to make it easier for himself and also so he doesn’t mess anything up for you. but he can never keep himself away for too long……

ok so we’re circling back to sugu now. i think satoru would handle the situation a lot better if suguru and you were together. my stsg-infested brain just can’t imagine an au where he isn’t at least a little bit in love with suguru…. and i think seeing two people he loves and trusts with all his heart be together doesn’t bother him nearly as much as it would have if you were with a random third party. there’s this One quote i like from . um….. a voice actor. of a character. in… ohshc 👉👈 AND I JUST THINK IT FITS IN THIS SCENARIO OK…….. :’3

I think Kyoya is very much in love with Tamaki and with Haruhi. He’s very much in love with the both of them. And I think it matures to a point where he would much prefer to see the both of them together than him with either one. Because they make more sense together than he makes with anybody else.

i think that’s sort of how he’d feel!!! there’s a kind of maturity there that satoru has imo. and since he’s so close to both of you, he doesn’t have to worry about being pushed out of your life (which might be his biggest worry in a scenario where you’re together with a random third party)…… so. yeah!!! would it be angsty? yes ofc. but i rlly do see satoru as a mature character, and also often selfless!!! he just respects you and your choices so much :(((

……….. what i will say. is that if you happened to get together with someone who didn’t treat you well. he would Shut That Shit Down instantly <3333 we love angry protective satoru !!!!!!!!

[uncanny-tranny]

Hi, I have a question I hope it's okay to ask here. I'm a ciswoman dating a transgender man. I know that there are a few things that he finds still difficult about being trans (but I don't know everything yet as we've only been dating for a few months). Lately I've noticed him saying some things that make me wonder whether maybe he wants some confirmation that I really see him as a man. Of course I want to do this for him, but I'm not entirely sure how. Do you have any tips?

I think so much of it boils down to being compassionate and direct. There's so much pressure on people in relationships to just "know" through divine interpretation of how to best love their partner, and there is almost no thought given about the idea of offering love being a continuous conversation.

I'm not sure what will "work" best for your partner to show that you see him and not a warped perception, so I really think asking questions about where he is at might be more beneficial, since you'll be hearing direct feedback. I know it can be hard to navigate through something you're unfamiliar with right now, so that makes it even more important that you navigate through it with the person in question.

Trans manhood looks different for... literally all of us, which is why I don't have a direct answer for how you can help your partner feel loved and seen as a man. Since it looks different for each of us, the things that affirm us and help us will all look different, as well as the things that make us feel less understood and hurt.

[mcybree]

Ok ok ok I'm not Tryna start discourse but bluestars prophecy was my first ever warriors book and bluestar will always be my favourite so I'm gonna make some counterpoints to you about her being a Smajor character

bluestar has always been led by an intense loyalty and dedication to those she loves and cares for - this includes her mum, her sister, her clan, eventually Firepaw when he joins the clan, and she has a VERY strong moral compass when it comes to doing the right thing - when she sees thistleclaw teaching tigerpaw to hurt a then baby scourge she very much discourages it and is against it

Afaik scott is Not like that, he doesn't have an emotional or love-driven moral code, he does things because they're smart decisions in the long term or because he wants to. Granted I havent seen a ton of his stuff but I have seen his limited life and 3rd life perspectives and he is very much a singular team player there, there to look after himself and well if people align with him that's great he's got allies (jimmy and Martyn) but he won't go out of his way to care for them

Bluestars defiance of starclan in the first series is BECAUSE she gave herself to them and what the warrior code demanded so much - yes she broke clan rules by having kids with crookedstar but she did everything in her power to make sure they'd have a happy life and felt terrible that thrushpelt was willing to say they were his to save her reputation. She didn't do it out of a selfish want, she only ever wanted to help her clan and those she loved, and her becoming clan leader is emblematic of that want. When she rejects starclan so wholeheartedly in the first series it's because THINGS KEEP GOING WRONG WHEN SHES TRIED SO HARD TO STOP THEM FROM DOING THAT - starclan has never cared about the sacrifices she made to keep her loved ones and clan safe, she lost her mother, her sister, her kits, her mate, literally everything, and things STILL KEEP GETTING WORSE. it's not a demand that she deserves to have everything good, it's a cry for help that shouldn't something go right after she's tried so hard???

C!Scott isn't like that. He puts himself above others and inherently believes he will get the best if he just plays his cards right, and he is good at it, he's very competent at lasting a long time in life series and getting what he wants - the ruthlessness of gem driven by desperation kills him in secret life, Martyn's complete fucking about face kills him in limited life, and I'm pretty sure it's etho who gets him out in 3rd life by luck. He doesn't plan to look after the ones he cares about, because he cares about himself first and foremost. Yeah you can argue when he doesn't get what he wants he gets annoyed, but his is less of a 'why don't I get this don't I deserve it' and more of a 'oh fuck this didn't work. Ok new plan double down on getting what I want by appeasing to people cos they're easy to read and therefore account for'

I don't doubt Scott would make a bluestar adjacent character if he made a warrior cats oc BUT his character would honestly be closer to darktail or ashfur than bluestar and that's that on that.

(sorry you activated 13 year old me's unskippable cutscene sjdjsjsjja this isnt meant to be a serious argument I just love bluestar a lot and love talking about her)

OKAY 1. this is fucking awesome thank you 2. i am going to do something new and exciting (advocate for scott instead of beating him to death with sticks) because unfortunately this bluestar info has only made me believe she is a smajor character even more.

As a general note when I talk about smajor characters as a collective here I’m referring to characters more in the realm of esmp/traffic/rats/pirates/etc, less vampire scott or necromancer scott who are intended to be villainous.

Scott characters tend to operate under a “If I am not a Good Person I may as well die” rule, and consequently abide by a strict moral code to keep themselves feeling clean. For instance: traffic Scott will never go back on his word, he will avoid dishonesty, and he won’t take from others unless he is sure that he can repay them. He will never betray his seasonal primary ally (even when they betray him first), and will often give people things just because they asked him nicely. He stakes a lot of his own identity on this, because it is through being a “good person” that he justifies his superiority (and, by extension, his own existence); in his mind he deserves the best and *is* the best because he is such a good person. When things don’t go his way, he thinks he doesn’t deserve it because he has been nothing but good, so he tries to place a reason. He often assumes that somebody must “have a vendetta” against him, even if this somebody is the world (see: him asking if limlife episode 1 boogeyman is some kind of joke played on him for not giving in to the boogey curse in Last Life.) which is very Bluestar to me, convinced that her misfortunes are a divine punishment.

This is all to say that Scott does have a strict moral code and deep sense of loyalty. Being a “good person” and devoted partner in the ways he understands it are so ingrained into what he is that I think he definitely has the capacity to be a Bluestar if he were raised being taught clan values, even if his internal systems are often built around never letting gross emotions be fully felt rather than what those emotions compel him to do.

[void-botanist]

Sheri: A Powerpoint Intro

It is here! A tiny bit of background: Sheri is sort of a companion to Triad, in the sense that it shows some of what happened to the other ex-heir to the Navaren throne, but it takes place after it (by at least 3 months). Also maybe someday I'll come up with a better title for it.

Anyway please enjoy this introduction to fantasy disaster gays.

[dizzybevvie]

boy how do you reblog such great things

been cultivating my dash for years. i also found most of them in my drafts

[kthulhu42]

any opinions on Asexual/Aromantic people?

Hmmm so I have a few hot takes on asexual and aromantic people that could get me crucified so let's go:

I think a lot of people see the over sexualised, violence saturated media that is promoted - primarily in porn but also in films, video games- and think "This doesn't arouse me/this upsets or disgusts me, I *must* be asexual" and it isn't necessarily true. We live in a world where sex is commodified and is used for shock value. A lot of women especially, can look at a "sexy" video with a horrific title like "BIG BUSTY ASIAN TEEN CRYING" and think "If this is what people are aroused by, and I'm not aroused, I can't be sexually normal". It can take a while to understand that sex isn't like that, and love and romance isn't like that. Like I thought I was demisexual - until I talked to some older people and they were like... "You've been taking on way too much love-at-first-sight media. Those stories exist because of pacing pressure to keep a reader/viewer invested. Real life doesn't work the same way, there is no director, there is no viewer."

There are illnesses and medications that screw with your libido. My depression medication absolutely destroyed my libido, and made me actively disgusted by sex. Coming off the medication and getting my hormones checked, and I was back to my normal state within a few weeks. I'm not medicalising asexuality (one of the main complaints of acephobia) but it is a possibility, and if it affects your libido, it could be affecting other parts of your life too. Look into the differences between hyposexuality and asexuality.

There's nothing wrong with being asexual or aromantic. If you don't feel these things, you should never force it. But I do believe our current social issues are having a massive effect on our ability to feel love and sexual arousal. We dealt with a lot of people in the women's crisis groups who felt like they were asexual/aromantic after abuse or sexual assault. That's an extreme situation, and of course that would have an effect on how you feel, but the constant, low-level media we consume all day, every day, it also has an effect. We have no idea the long-term issues that constant sexual advertising can do to a developing mind.

[shadowxamyweek]

Shadow, I swear this is a question from a friend-

Do you think Amy would make a good 'hot goth gf'?

Shadow: W-what? ლ(¯ロ¯"ლ) What is that suppose to mean? And- why would you want her to change? ლ(`Д´#ლ) She's fine as is! ୧(◣益◢#୧)

[lem-argentum]

if you're aware of them, what do each of you think of your individual tag name? "#🎼 prelude to love <3" and all?

🎼: Ah, Prelude to Love!!!! That’s my favorite drink! It’s made from pink melons and strawberries, and has a very strong sweet and sour taste to it. I suppose Cos thought the name was fitting for me too? And I wouldn’t be able to think of a better option myself! <3

🍂: …well, okay. ruby rings. i asked him once what his favorite gemstone was and he said rubies. they were for, uhh… rings. that i was making for us. to represent our bond, or whatever. makes for a nice phrase, ‘n it’s got the alliteration thing goin’ on… (later he told me he doesn’t actually have any preference, ‘n that he just said rubies because they remind him of me. …TYPICAL cos behavior.)

📸: song from a band he introduced me to!! said the instruments sounded like me, or something? he’s shown me a lot of songs; my playlist’s gotten way bigger since meeting him, haha. he says the music in this album reminds him most of me, butttt i don’t think any of them’d work better!

🔌: electrical plug. makes sense. we’ve got a ~spark~ goin’ on and all. really is about time i got a full tag though. someone tell ‘im to get on that already.