#spontaneity

[crimson-and-clover-1717]

The Art of Fuckery is Ed’s journey from believing he cannot be with Stede, in fact must kill him, to understanding there might be a chance at a different future.

Ed frames the situation as a ‘mess’. He is too close to Stede, and with that has made a complete hash of his masculinity apparently, becoming too ‘soft’; according to Izzy and the boys, that just won’t do.

The opposite of mess might be order, neatness, rigidity, but those are the very things that are killing Ed. The boredom and predictability of it all. Unfortunately, that’s what Izzy thrives upon - the rules. This is how it’s done - life, masculinity, power. Don’t stray from the path or else.

But it’s ‘mess’ that saves things in the end. Ed breaking down and becoming a mess in the bathtub allows emotional truths to be spoken between Ed and Stede, deepens their bond, possibly saves Stede’s life. And Izzy’s rigidity during the duel, as opposed to Stede’s flex and spontaneity, is what helps Stede win, again saving him.

The show is about mess, really. Risk, chance, things not going to plan, and still knowing tomorrow might work out. Mess can be a negative idea, but it can be about letting go of the rules, allowing yourself to be in free-fall, and believing in a better future which is yet unknown.

Ed doesn’t have to mend or destroy the mess, he needs to embrace and love it within himself and Stede.

[robson-gurl]

this is your daily reminder that you have free will.

you can literally do whatever you want.

you can eat whatever you want. you can dance around like an idiot in the park. you can have cereal for dinner or jump in the pool at night time. you can wake up at 5:00am and watch the sun rise with a warm coffee.

stop taking life so seriously and just forget the stupid rules that we’ve been accustomed to follow.

this is your own life. your one single life. go live it however you desire <3

[memingoapp]

We all have that friend whose fun needs to be calendared

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for spontaneous systems!

Some folks may find that plurality finds them, and they become a system randomly, suddenly, or otherwise spontaneously! Spontaneous systems are absolutely valid and cherished members of the plural community. This post is for all the spontaneous systems out there!

🌲 Shoutout to those who just woke up one day with headmates or other system members!

🌿 Shoutout to systems who became plural due to imaginary friends suddenly and inexplicably gaining agency and autonomy!

🕊 Shoutout to systems with daemons that arrived in their system with little to no effort!

🍂 Shoutout to gateway systems who became plural due to visitors walking in to their headspace one day!

🤎 Shoutout to spiritual systems who had deities, spirits, or other supernatural entities join their system!

🌲 Shoutout to systems who aren’t sure how or why their system formed, or who do not have system origins at all!

🌿 Shoutout to systems who liken their plurality to spring buds and shoots, stormy squalls, supernovas, or some other natural event that happens suddenly and without warning!

🕊 Shoutout to systems who became plural after interacting with a certain media, writing a story, creating an OC, or engaging with characters in some other way!

🍂 Shoutout to systems who became plural themselves after learning more about plurality and doing some plural research!

🤎 Shoutout to spontaneous systems who love being plural, are bothered by it, or feel indifferent about it!

🌲 Shoutout to mixed origins systems with spontaneous headmates, or headmates who are both spontaneous and something else!

🌿 Shoutout to spontaneous systems who love talking about their system and how their headmates came to be!

Spontaneous systems, your plurality is brilliant and your system shines just as bright. You are integral members of the plural community, and we feel honored to be able to share our spaces with you! Being a system may not always be easy, but we hope that you are able to find peace, joy, and acceptance in your plurality just the way it is. Know that we care about you, we’re rooting for you, and we’re wishing you the very best in all that you do! Thanks so much for reading, and take care!

[hrh-writes]

[cliffside]

well?

why don’t you do something?

                        don’t let the fear of falling

            keep you from reaching the ocean.

H.R.H.

[trailofleaves]

"I would love to live Like a river flows, Carried by the surprise Of its own unfolding." — John O'Donohue

[metamorphicmuse]

Catch me if you can!

[random-xpressions]

Spontaneity is the key. It is the most evident sign that you're fully alive, awake and present in the moment. Each breath demands a certain newness from us, a certain course of action, a certain redirection. To remain open to every single opportunity and to flow along with the winds of time is precisely what alters our destinies. When its time to make a dive, hesitate not for a second - take that plunge!

Random Xpressions

[pumpkin-the-girlie-girl-vixen]

This text dialogue showcases a sweet interaction between a couple where the man is considering what to bring home for dinner. He expresses a desire to cook for the woman, but she suggests that getting fast food would be a nice treat since they haven't eaten out in a while. Her playful response to being surprised adds a fun dynamic to the conversation. It highlights both the man's thoughtful approach and the woman's appreciation for his cooking while also wanting a change. In relationships, such dialogues can be a way to show care and affection.

The dialogue indicates a strong and affectionate relationship between the couple. The man's willingness to cook for the woman shows that he cares about her preferences and enjoys making her happy. His offer to use his limited budget thoughtfully reflects consideration and love.

On the other hand, the woman's response indicates appreciation for his cooking, as well as a desire for variety, suggesting she values both his efforts and spontaneity. The playful tone in her messages implies comfort and intimacy, hinting that they communicate openly and share a fun bond. Overall, it portrays a relationship characterized by mutual respect, affection, and a playful connection.

Several qualities can be identified in their dialogue that strengthen their relationship:

1. **Communication**: They express their preferences and desires openly, allowing each other to understand what the other wants.

2. **Consideration**: The man is thoughtful about his partner's feelings and enjoys making her happy by offering to cook or treat her to fast food.

3. **Affection**: The use of affectionate language and emojis indicates a warm emotional connection.

4. **Playfulness**: The playful banter adds joy and lightness to their interactions, fostering a fun atmosphere in the relationship.

5. **Support**: Both partners support each other's needs—whether it's a break from cooking or enjoying a meal together.

6. **Flexibility**: The woman's suggestion to be surprised shows her willingness to embrace spontaneity, enhancing their experiences together.

These qualities contribute to a healthy and fulfilling relationship, allowing both partners to feel valued and connected.

Woman’s Feelings 🩷

"I feel so appreciated and loved after our conversation. When he offered to cook for me, it made me smile because it shows how much he cares about my happiness. But honestly, the idea of grabbing fast food feels like such a fun treat, especially since we haven't done that in a while! I love the playful vibe we have; it always makes me feel comfortable to share my thoughts. When I suggested that he could use a break from the kitchen, I felt a sense of pride knowing that I'm supporting him too. It’s important to me that he feels valued and can take a breather. When I told him to surprise me, I felt a little thrill—it's nice to let him take the lead sometimes. Overall, this little exchange made me feel really special, and I can't wait to see what he brings home!"

Man’s Feelings 🩵

"I really enjoyed our conversation—it felt light and fun. When I offered to cook for her, it made me happy because I love making her meals and seeing her enjoy them. But when she suggested getting fast food instead, I felt a sense of relief. We haven't treated ourselves to that in a while, and it would definitely be a nice change.

Her saying I could use a break from cooking means a lot to me. It shows she understands how hard I work in the kitchen and that she cares about my well-being too. I appreciate that she wants me to take a step back and relax for a moment. When she told me to surprise her, I felt excited; it gives me the chance to be playful and spontaneous with her. Overall, this whole exchange made me feel closer to her, and I can't wait to bring home something she’ll love!"

Dialogue script of the man and woman discussing their feelings and appreciation for each other face to face:

**Setting**: A cozy living room, with the couple sitting on the couch, sharing a meal together.

**Man**: (smiling) I’ve been thinking about our text conversation earlier. I just wanted to say how much I appreciate that you love it when I cook for you.

**Woman**: (grinning) Of course! Your cooking is one of my favorite things. It makes me feel special.

**Man**: I’m glad to hear that! But when you suggested getting fast food instead, I felt relieved. It’s nice to switch things up sometimes.

**Woman**: Really? I thought you might feel bad about not cooking.

**Man**: Not at all! It means a lot that you recognized I could use a break. It shows how much you care about me.

**Woman**: (blushing) Well, you work hard in the kitchen, and I want you to have some time to relax too. Plus, it’s fun to treat ourselves!

**Man**: Exactly! And when you told me to surprise you, I felt excited. It gives me the chance to be a little spontaneous.

**Woman**: (playfully) I love surprises! You always know how to make things fun.

**Man**: (leaning in closer) I just want you to feel happy. Your appreciation means the world to me, and it motivates me to keep trying to make you smile.

**Woman**: (smiling warmly) And you do! I feel so lucky to have you in my life. Thank you for being you.

**Man**: (taking her hand) And thank you for being you. Let’s keep supporting each other like this; it makes our relationship stronger.

**Woman**: Absolutely! I love how we can communicate and share our thoughts. It really brings us closer.

**Man**: (nodding) I agree. Here’s to more fun surprises and shared meals, whatever they may be!

**Woman**: (laughing) Cheers to that!

*They smile at each other, feeling a deeper connection as they continue enjoying their meal together.*

@bigmikeyde

[tammyblackday]

Routines.

I despise routines.

They're boring and repetitive. I do not believe we were intended to live out the exact same day of our lives every day. This it what routines feel like to me. It's kind of like the opening to Dexter; same thing every time with the shaving, getting dressed, and making breakfast; same foods. It's so boring.

I need routines.

I do. I hate to admit it but I do so well when I have routines. It requires less of my brain power to have routines, which gives me more thinking time for writing and schooling and teaching. Routines help me stay healthy and grounded. I thrive whenever I stick to my routines. It's so healing.

Still.

I don't think we're supposed to live each day, our whole lives, doing the same exact things. In fact, I know we're not. Otherwise, we would still be swaddled in diapers, relying on others to change and feed us. Doing things differently helps us to learn and grow. It helps us experience new things to learn about ourselves; what we like and don't like.

Diversity in action is the process of being alive!

It's like how in the movie Groundhog's Day (watch it!) when our main character realizes he's waking up in the same day; doing the same things. Spoiler alert- he starts to get depressed until he realizes the opportunities in each day to learn new things, expand his mind, help others. And, not to make everyone else happy or like him. He does these things for the joy of learning and growing; he becomes a better version of himself by doing things differently each day. Here's the catch....

Routines ground us.

In the movie, he still creates routines such as saving a boy falling from a tree; however, he makes time throughout his day in these routines to explore his interests and enjoy the process of learning. The movie is a profound example of how routines and spontaneity coexist in a beautiful dynamic, allowing us to unfold our great potential. For the past three weeks, I've been doing a routine each morning where I wake up between 4:30am-5am, sit in my dark office with only the glow of my Himalayan salt lamp, journal for 15 minutes with a small cup of coffee, say two prayers (adapted version of Mother Theresa's morning prayer and the actual translation of the lord's prayer) and five pages of belief code affirmations to embrace new thought processes in my life, walk 1/2 mile to our local recreation center, do water aerobics for 30-40 minutes, walk 1/2 mile home, visit with my husband for 15 minutes, do 20-30 minutes of yoga, shower and get ready for my day, start my day by 9am, fast until noon, eat lunch and dinner, start fasting at 6pm, go to bed by 8am, and then I fall asleep by 9pm. On the days I don't do water aerobics, I often write in my blog or do extra walking or longer yoga sessions. I rest on Sundays.

Here's the thing about this routine, although I despise routines, I feel better, I've lost 10 lbs, I'm not having as many sensory meltdowns, and I manage all the other things in life so much better with a clear mind and calm disposition. I know these routines are helping me become a better version of myself. I'm learning how to move my body differently. I have more energy to do house work and keep up with my 18 mos. old grandson.

I'm happier.

I simply have to remind myself every single day that I choose these routines centered around my personal wellness and growth because it helps me be who I want to be; a calm and joyful person able to help others and create healthy boundaries with family, friends, school and work. Typically, by week three, I'm starting to think about all the ways in which I'm going to break the routines once my 30 Challenge is over. However, this time, I'm thinking about extending my challenge to a lifestyle change, and I've been considering all the ways in which I can uphold these routines to be the foundation that helps me create and manifest greater things in my life; to fully and audaciously live my life out loud!

[icedteadelimao]

graphite powder activities

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[93cnicole]

"Mirror, Mirror"

Who's the fairest of them all? (4.19.24)

[angelanimedesaray]

Im either about to get a shitton of writing done or no writing at all.

Unplanned impromptu tag along on a trip across the country to go visit my grandpa with my dad.

The travel there and back ALONE is going to be 4 days playing passenger princess 🥰

So we'll see what happens.

I'll either do SO MUCH WRITING in the car, or none at all, there shall be no in-between.

[darklingvd]

Simon on the Subway by Nan Goldin, 1998.

[wolveswithblackpearls]

fruity season day 18: Haechan & spontaneity

Over-planning kills magic.

~by Admin J

[trailofleaves]

"I was an ascetic, until you made me a singer. You made me the life of the party, and a lover of wine. I used to sit with dignity on the prayer rug. Then you made me a toy for children of the neighborhood."

— Rumi, The Gift of Rumi | Translated by Emily Jane O'Dell