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Love the pfp and… if you can, (sorry 🙏🏻 I’m just really desperate to know how I feel towards this person online…)

queerplatonic vs alterous vs alteraffectis

Thank you! And that's totally fine, I'll explain my interpretation of the difference between these labels. Hopefully this helps.

Alterous and queerplatonic are very similar and due to this are sometimes used interchangeably. The way that I understand the difference is this:

Alterous attraction is a desire for emotional closeness that is not necessarily platonic nor romantic in nature. It could be as simple as a desire for more exclusivity or responsibility/recognition than what is expected in a casual platonic relationship (such as being BFFs, becoming someone's confidant/support system or being found family (but not feeling familial attraction towards them)), or as complex as wanting an emotionally intimate relationship with someone but excluding certain behaviors/titles that feel traditionally romantic. It's very broad this way, but if you experience alterous attraction with someone, sometimes being in a queerplatonic relationship is the best solution for you to have your needs met, sometimes its not. Because of this, I actually see queerplatonic as a subset of alterous.

Queerplatonic attraction, on the other hand, is the specific desire for that emotionally-intimate (and sometimes other kinds of intimate) relationship with someone. Not as a compromise or anything, that's just exactly what you want with someone in particular. One example: wanting to be in a labeled, "official" relationship with someone, such as their spouse/partner/soulmate etc, or have some priority/exclusivity in their attention/time/decision-making but not actually having a desire to do anything different or "extra" compared to how you've interacted with them platonically. Another example (which is equally as common in my experience): Desiring to do traditionally romantic or intimate things with someone, but not wanting to be/not feeling comfortable being labeled as their spouse/partner/soulmate etc, despite feeling like you wouldn't want to do those same things with those you only have platonic attraction towards. These examples are, technically, exact opposites but both apply equally to queerplatonic attraction. The common denominator that I've seen is the desire for certain levels of exclusivity and priority in someone's life, and reciprocating that intensity, but having no desire to be in a "traditional" partnership with that person. Please note: exclusivity does not equal being monogamous; plenty of people experience this in terms of polyfidelity or wanting to be in an open or polyaffectionate QPR. Some people experience this in place of romantic attraction, most commonly a-spec folks, but anyone can feel it and/or be in a QPR (queerplatonic relationship).

Alteraffectis attraction is the outlier here; this attraction doesn't feel platonic or romantic in nature because those are human concepts, and wouldn't apply to any other species. While you don't have to be otherkin, therian, a pet regressor or anything similar to feel alteraffectis attraction, it's actually a lot easier to understand if you think of it as they would. Alternatively, I find it easier to describe this attraction as the "xenogender of attractions", it's not actually this relationship between you and the person you're attracted to but it is most emotionally similar to your relation/attraction to this person. Example: As humans, we have no way of knowing how a dog experiences attraction towards their owner, but we know how they express attraction towards their owner! It's clear from how they act when their owner comes home that they're excited, they enjoy their company, they want to spend time together, they feel grateful for their owners presence because they give them joy, toys, food, enrichment, and care for their health, they want to protect their owner, they feel like their owner would protect them, etc etc etc etc etc. We do not have a name for this attraction, scientifically, but it's assumed that it wouldn't be a one-to-one comparison with platonic attraction because "friends", as humans understand the concept, doesn't really translate in the animal kingdom. The same with romantic attraction, animals don't date or marry in the same context that humans do, but they do experience intense social bonds that could be similar to it; ie. animals pair-bonding or keeping one mate throughout their life (even in cases where actual mating is not a possibility or ever initiated). The examples go on, since technically alteraffectis doesn't have to be positive at all, given the definition. As much as everyone focuses on the good, alteraffectis attraction could also include "the way that a predator feels towards prey that they are hunting" or something equally troubling when put into a human context. Regardless, because these aren't platonic or romantic feelings but are clearly distinct, important, and recognizable, they must be something else entirely. And from that point, we interpret those emotions to the best of our understanding and label them as Alteraffectis. The easiest examples are with house-pets, since people are generally aware of them or can very easily search them and their behavior up online for context, but it can apply to ANY being that is not human. Just as we can't make an exact human-to-animal comparison of emotions, we wouldn't be able to equate the direct emotions of aliens, biblical entities, celestial bodies, thematic archetypes, etc etc etc. It can feel spiritual, natural, mechanical, artificial, or anything in between really. Possibly even a combination of them.

Alteraffectis attraction is very hard to make concise while including any amount of nuance, so sorry about that.

Buuut yeah, I hope that helped even a little bit. Thanks for the opportunity to talk at length about queer attractions ^-^

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Petaffectis

Petaffectis is a subset of Alteraffectis which describes how a domesticated pet would feel affection towards their owner(s) or human caretakers.

This term was coined with alterhumans, otherkin, pet regressors, copinglinkers and similar in mind.

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[ID: A rectangular flag with 7 equally-sized horizontal lines. Colors are in this order: cream, tan, brown, off-white, black, dark pink, peachy-pink. in the center of the flag is a white circle featuring a brown Alteraffectis symbol. The symbol is a diamond with a small circle centered vertically, slightly above where it would be if it was centered horizontally. Below and connected to the circle is a vertical line. Intersecting slightly above the end of the vertical line is a mirrored number 2, appearing correct on the left side but flipped on the right side. End ID]

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Queeriandromasc

A queerian (QLQ) orientation where one has a preference for androgynous and masculine presenting individuals.

This could be used for any form of attraction.

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Androvixenix

Androvixenix is a gender that has genderless, male, androgyne and xeno aligned aspects. These alignments can be simultaneous, fluid, and/or fluctuate in intensity. This may manifest as identifying only partially as male, androgynous and/or xenine genders. This term is intended for those who feel simultaneously connected and disconnected from these alignments, as well as those who have difficulty distinguishing their alignment from their gender.

Summarized description: A nixic gender that is nixangi, nixvir, and nixenic, simultaneously.

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Achillefluid / Fluachillean

A term for someone who is both Achilleangender and Genderfluid.

More broadly, this term is for any genderfluid individual who feels that their genders are intertwined with, or heavily influenced by, being achillean. For some, they may also feel like their fluidity "range" is limited to those which could fall within the realm of being achillean.

The users of this label may or may not identify with more specific genderfluidity labels, such as boyfluid, gendertulip, afluid, etc. Prefixes/suffixes are welcome to be added, as preferred.

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Nephilaffectis

A subset of Alteraffectis (nonhuman tertiary) attraction that describes how an Angel who has Fallen due to love for humans, or a Nephilim whose the spawn of a Fallen Angel and a human, would feel towards the humans they watch over.

This term is exclusive to Divinekin individuals.

This was made with Fallen Angels and Nephilim in mind primarily, but Angelkin, Deitykin, etc. may also use it if they feel it most accurately describes their attraction or potential attraction to humans (ie. one may not have felt attraction to humans before but on reflection, realize this is due to it feeling taboo or like they would then be tainted/become a fallen entity by pursuing them).

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[ID: A rectangular flag with 7 equally-sized horizontal lines. Colors are in this order: off-white, pale yellow, peach, nearly black deep blue, desaturated plum purple, desaturated red, and pale reddish-orange. in the center of the flag is a black circle featuring a blood red Alteraffectis symbol. The symbol is a diamond with a small circle centered vertically, slightly above where it would be if it was centered horizontally. Below and connected to the circle is a vertical line. Intersecting slightly above the end of the vertical line is a mirrored number 2, appearing correct on the left side but flipped on the right side. On top of the outer circle holding the symbol, are two red devil horns. On the bottom of the outer circle, not overlapping, are two off-white angel wings. End ID]

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Andromale

An identity for when an individual is both androgyne and male. This could be used to describe a person's gender, body or both.

There are many ways to identify with this term, such as:

feeling more male than female in your androgyne identity and wanting to reflect that

feeling like you are separately androgyne and male, either fluidly or simultaneously

feeling like you are androgyne mentally/physically but you wish to be perceived as male by others, for any reason

and many more...

There is NO wrong way to identify with this term.

I adjusted some coloring on a previous version of the androgyne flag, I take no credit for the flag itself. The only thing I've coined is the specific label.

Original flag made by: ST✩RBOT

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Angled Opalian + Oriented Opalian

AroAce + Opalian combo flags!

Angled Opalian

Someone who is a mlm, mlnb, nblm, and nblnb, meaning someone who is non-binary and a man who is attracted to men and non-binary individuals, while also being both ace-spec and aro-spec.

Oriented Opalian

An aromantic asexual (aroace) individual that is non-binary and a man who experiences a form of tertiary attraction towards men and non-binary individuals that they feel is significant enough to warrant a place alongside their aroace orientation.

The flags were made by combining existing flags. Credit for the original flags that inspired these go to: Angled aroace flag by black-aros, oriented aroace flag by @biaroace, and opalian flag by @nlmgalaxy.

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Arosxenoboy

Someone who is agender, rosboy and xenoboy, either simultaneously or fluidly; or, someone who is a feminine and xenine agender boy/man/male.

Regarding the second definition, there is a not a specific way one must feel in relation to being a boy, man, or male.

Potentially this could mean that the individual is boy/man aligned/related, that they're male aligned/related, that they simply prefer being referred to as a boy or with traditionally masculine pronouns, or many other options!

Use this term in whatever way is most comfortable for you!

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Cupio-Queerotic

Cupioqueerotic defines someone who has/desires a queerotic relationship, usually while having little to no sexual attraction.

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I've been feeling so much more content and confident since I found the term queerotic, even though I don't experience sexual attraction. The term alone works fine for me, but I love making flags and if someone wanted the clear distinction to be included, I wanted them to have that option as well.

The symbol came from me combining aspects of the cupioromantic and cupiosexual symbols found on LGBTA - while this isn't a cupioromantic orientation in itself, I thought combining the symbols to show that romantic attraction is not a focal point of this relationship, there are still levels of deep affection shown by the yellow cupid arrows.

Anyone is able to use this flag and add a different symbol if preferred, I just made one that I liked and thought fit. Blank symbol below.

Queerotic was coined by @variant-archive

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There has been a concerning amount of cannibalism posts on my dash today, specifically gay cannibalism posts

And I just wanna say

Keep them fucking coming. You get it.

Be weird, be queer and enjoy you and your queer partner(s) having a happy gay cannibalistic bacchanal for the start of pride! Bon appetit!

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i am just

i am too tired to be having this revelation right now, my eyes are starting to hurt from looking at screens all day

but i might have just found a deeper connection i have to fallen angels than i originally thought

been passively referring to my past self as a "watcher" as it was the most correct term that i had when putting pieces together

and what do you know

while i was looking at different perspectives of theistic luciferianism *dun dun* there are apparently "watchers" in various biblical texts

(context note, neither i or my family have ever been inside of a church, let alone heard anything from any bible outside of cultural osmosis and common phrases/references)

i dont have enough energy or want to share my entire experience of deciphering the feelings i have for my past self, but needless to say, once i wake up i will have a /ton/ of soul searching to do, discovering what resonates with what ive already found

wish me luck

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Is it normal for anyone else to feel like they are agender, but get dysphoria from the term "genderless"?

Like "NO, I have a gender! It's just... nothing. But I have one, it's not just not there!"

Like idk how else to describe this feeling. I know that I'm libraflux (re-figuring out the details but yeah) but even when I feel 100% agender, the term genderless just doesn't feel okay..

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Some new pronouns I'm trying out...

With me embracing my androgyne side and really finding myself, I decided that I need to test out some more pronouns to see what feels good. She/her is still entirely off the table, my dysphoria spikes from it, but finding like a middle ground of it? Might work?

For now there's two sets I'm thinking of but can't decide which I like more.

First one: Hy/Hyr https://en.pronouns.page/hy/hyr/hyr/hyrs/hyrself

Second one: He/Hir https://en.pronouns.page/he/hir/hir/his/hirself

Both are pronounced he / heer but the second one has his the same as binary male pronouns, instead of a neopronoun. I think the second one is closer to what I'm going for, since it has a more even mix of masc/fem-adjacent pronouns?

Want to hear opinions on what others think of the spelling and such, does it look like they sound the way that I noted? Or do they look like people would mispronounce them a lot?