#support seeking

[ed-recovery-affirmations]

I hope you find the people who make you feel safe to talk about how you're doing, honestly. I hope you find the people who want to support you where they can. I hope you find the people who, when they are unable to help, tell you so kindly without putting the blame on you for needing help. I hope you find your community, your people, your circle of love.

[dollbotthing]

an enormous part of my life has been having the things i cared about used against me as ammunition and then when i try to seek support for those things being used against me getting told that if i cared about them so much i should take being hurt over them when it inevitably happens and that its “my fault” for caring and that “if i just didn’t care it wouldn’t hurt so much” and then getting told that what i cared about was always stupid and worth hurting me over and frankly deserved it and so now i dont care about anything anymore and you all can just back off with the “oh but this is what you wanted” shit okay because no it fucking isn’t. stop saying shit like this. i am putting up defenses so that nothing can get to me in the first place. there is no winning here. we can never go back. no matter what you say or do, this is not something i asked for or consented to

[kenapiece-main]

Can you believe I'm having to make this meme even after successfully finishing up taxes and applying to job

[secondbeatsongs]

"I don't like saying it/its for a person, it feels dehumanizing" okay, but have you considered: pretend we're all playing tag

[cyanbeetle]

My Wonder Woman and friends

[mh-girly]

I don’t think Im meant to be in control

Like everything just feels better when a man takes over. I feel calm. I feel small. I feel good.

Being told Im pretty and soft and made to be touched, it does something to me

I like knowing Im made to please

That Im good at it

That I don’t need to think, just be what he wants

Feels right. Feels like what I’m for

[equalperson]

the animosity I see between antisocials and narcissists (on both sides) is absolutely bizarre to Me. how are you advocating for the acceptance of people with egocentric hypoempath disorder #1, just to look at people with egocentric hypoempath disorder #2 and go "yeah. these people are repulsive and should be tortured actually."

[palatinewolfsblog]

9 Tips in times of trouble and turmoil.

Seek out and connect with people who:

Contribute positively to your mental emotional and physical health.

Do not make you feel constantly guilty.

Encourage self-confidence and do not make you question your worth.

Allow you to be yourself.

Make you feel safe and secure.

Respect your values and needs.

Support your personal growth.

Want to see you succeed.

Celebrate your achievements.

[bunabi]

just bummed that this is overwhelmingly a story that revolves around Solas and not the main hero or our world states

the small connections to past decisions & ability to at least shape our heroes personalities made DA special to me in ways other games weren't

it rarely matters in the scope of the game, that I agree, but to say it's a negligible part of DA's identity or unimportant to players is silly and to hear that here of all places is nuts

on every DA-lover's blog is a beautifully answered ask about what their Heroes of Thedas decided and how they felt about it and how those scenes impacted them as a player

you cant fool me I saw youuu I literally saw you caring for 10 years

[ed-recovery-affirmations]

sometimes it feels like I was not, am not, and never will be sick enough to actually talk about certain habits like actually have an eating disorder. obviously, I recognize that I use to be a lot worse than I am now, but because of that it's like all my support backed off as soon as they saw I was relatively better.

don't get me wrong, I'm so thankful for all their love that they gave me when I was worse and reallyyy needed it, but now it kind of feels as if I need to be that bad again for anyone to care. for example,

I don't restrict as much like I use to.

I don't have as many bad habits (weighing myself, harming places where I felt I was fat, etc)

working out excessively

and more

but the thoughts and voices and urges just keep coming back. sometimes I act on them and then I'm guilty, so I eat, but then I'm even more guilty, so I don't, and the whole cycle continues. I'm scared that if I tell my support I feel as though I'm about to seriously relapse, they won't take it seriously enough.

I don't want to be as sick as I was several years ago for anyone to start to care.

I'm sorry you feel this way. You're definitely not alone. Eating disorders often come with a lot of shame as well as a "competitive side" for who can be the sickest. If something's telling you you're not "sick enough" in your eating disorder, consider that it could be your disorder itself talking. And I'm sorry your supports stopped as soon as you seemed surface-level well again.

While this may make you feel alone, I think people don't mean to leave you unsupported. Sometimes people get overwhelmed or busy and they overlook all but the most obvious signs of unwellness. I wonder if you could help people support you better by saying "hey, things aren't as bad as they once were, but if you're able, I feel like I could still use a few supports." Perhaps you could make a list in advance of what supports for you might look like at this stage. Perhaps focus on things that are not eating-disorder-related that make you feel cared about and included, so that you feel less of that "I need to be sick to be cared about" urge.

I don't necessarily think it's that people don't care, but more that they may not be adept at noticing what you need when signs are subtle. What would be a healthy way of seeking this connection? That's something to think about. Often people want to be helpful but may not know how when it's not spelled out for them, since each individual is so unique in their needs.

I mean, it's important to know that you're not alone in this struggle. Lots of people who are well into ED recovery still feel urges to relapse (including me.) This counts as a symptom and you are allowed to acknowledge about it, and talk about it to your supports. In fact, I think this is beneficial. From the way you worded this it sounds like you already know this, but I think it bears repeating to affirm: you don't need to be "sick enough" to deserve help. You are worthy and deserving of prevention. You don't have to earn this by showing sickness. You don't have to put yourself through the ordeal of getting worse. You count.

[sunfire-shield]

Miyana’s appeal to Karim is so fascinating and heartbreaking when you think about how much she gave up to try and realise Karim’s dream. Like, she was one of the Six Horns: a general, trusted and respected by all, and whilst she shared some of Karim’s attitudes, she wouldn’t have acted in the rash way he did and didn’t quite share his zeal, but she brought him the Sunseed anyway and lost all that she had to her name. Then she’s telling him, my dreams have changed: my dream is that our child should grow healthy and happy and loved. And she wanted him to support her in that dream, share that dream. After all she had done and given up for him, she wanted him to do this for her, to support her and their child, stay alive for them; accept a simple dream. he doesn’t. instead he pursues his legend, to his final detriment

[shyrule]

guys can you reblog to give me a hug i need hugs.

[randomness-is-my-order]

the thing about jiang cheng’s relationship with jin ling is that it is not the sugar-coated caretaking film which people wish to see it through and this is besides the fact that jiang cheng was physically abusive towards jin ling. jc was not interested in imparting good values to jin ling or partaking in his upbringing in any meaningful manner. what he taught jin ling was violence and anger and his own abrasive and entitled world views. he exposed jin ling to his treatment of demonic cultivators for a substantial enough time for jin ling to have been desensitised to it in some capacity. his lessons to jin ling were about being indiscriminately ruthless to anyone who he perceived to practice demonic cultivation. jiang cheng wasn’t “raising” jin ling to be a good, upstanding individual but moulding him with his worst impulses and never once reflecting over what that meant for jin ling and his future. people citing jiang cheng’s displays of overprotectiveness (which themselves are a detriment to jin ling’s progress) as proof of jiang cheng being this caring, kind uncle is an oversight of how utterly careless jiang cheng is with jin ling. jiang cheng wielded his influence over his nephew quite callously and he did jin ling damage by trying to make him another wheel in his vehicle of violence and that is unrefutable.

[be-it-so]

It is so dear to me how Penelope here is resting upon their olive tree when she is depressed and scared for Telemachus.

[bodty]

Hey guys, I haven't been active lately because I’ve been admitted to the hospital for the past few months and my medical bills are piling up.. I’ve received letters from the hospital to pay off my debt but I’m still trying to find a full-time job. My only source of income comes from doing art commissions and ko-fi donations. If anyone is feeling generous, every cent would be a big help and I would greatly appreciate any form of support possible.. 🙏❤️‍🩹

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