#this has lived in my head for months

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[egophiliac]

this is basically what happened, right?

(these guys are very lucky that everyone at NRC 1) has the combined intelligence of a sack of bricks, and 2) is easily distracted by shiny things.)

[vidkun]

[b1ttersweet-dreams]

ok ive decided - fuck it, v4v be upon ye this is my blog i do whatever i want around here additional v2 (& a bit of v1) sketches under cut bc well. favorite character

[moshaeu]

it has been a long eight hundred years

from kyasuu’s where dreams are laid to rest

[cherry-bomb-ships]

Cortex's stupid hologram head popping up in Crash 2 when Crash comes out of the first level without any crystals

[greghatecrimes]

House M.D. & Hands

5x24 "Both Sides Now", 4x15 "House's Head", 4x16 "Wilson's Heart", 3x15 "Half Wit", 1x11 "Detox", 1x21 "Three Stories", 5x20 "Simple Explanation", 8x19 "The C Word"

[iridescentoracle]

i am so obsessed with how like. taken as read the ot3 are at this point. like on the one hand it feels like they've been building up to this for ages but on the other hand it kind of feels like i blinked and we skipped right past some Major Turning Point where everything got spelled out and we're just already in firmly Established Relationship-land. obviously tarvek is too well-protected for anyone to assassinate openly, look how angry his boyfriend and girlfriend are at the idea of anyone threatening him. at this point i'm half-convinced agatha's just going to refer to her boyfriends in passing to someone else and no one's even going to comment on it until van finds out twenty pages later and immediately starts making everyone pay up

[bigshotautos]

THOUGHT GAINED: REGICIDE

[bakubunny]

i hate the fact that this exists but here we are. there’s more where this came from and if this goes over well, maybe i’ll do more and add the tag list next time to give all my tag gremlins direct delivery of the 🤡 you’re about to read.

thx for the brainrot encouragement @i-literally-cant-with-this @sluttyshigaraki @dcsiremc. 🙄

tw: daddy!bkg, f!reader, piss play, daddy kink, aged up characters, overuse of titles & pet names, pet names: princess, baby, babygirl, angel, pretty girl, little girl

you’re coping an attitude.

katsuki says, “you’re such a pissy little girl today.”

it makes you blush, and of course he notices. katsuki grins a little as he traps you against the counter with his towering frame. he leans down to kiss your neck. “is that what you need, princess? want me to make you feel special?”

your cheeks redden. “no. can you stop? i’m about to make your dinner, asshole.”

his hands are under your shirt (his shirt), groping your bare tits. “fuck dinner, it can wait. i know what you need.”

: ・ෆ・┈・┈・ᕱ⑅ᕱ・┈・┈・ෆ・ :

you end up on your knees, naked in front of him. every inch of you feels hot and embarrassed.

katsuki unzips his pants and frees his soft cock. “sit still, babygirl.”

you close your eyes just before a warm stream hits your face and it makes you whimper, heat rushing to your cunt as his piss runs down your face, your body, and onto the floor. it’s a lot; katsuki drinks a ton of water even on his days off, and you hate how wet your pussy is getting as the stream doesn’t stop. when he’s finally done, he pulls your head back by the hair and forces you to look at him. his crimson gaze is slightly mischievous and affectionate. katsuki grins when he sees your eyes all hazy with need. his cock comes to life in his hand as he strokes it.

katsuki slaps you face with his half hard dick. “look at you, daddy’s pissy little baby. you look so pretty, angel.”

“thank you, daddy,” you reply, a shiver running down your neck.

“you want daddy’s cock, baby?” he says

you nod eagerly. your cunt throbs looking up at him.

“that’s my girl. open up that pretty little mouth, princess.”

[applecidersstuff]

Yes, yes, Bianca is the older sister character, and no one can argue with that, but can I tell you who I see as thee eldest daughter character?

Clarrise La Rue.

Clarrise who was ares cabin counselor since she was 12-14 and was the eldest child of ares at that point.

Clarrise who tried her best at keeping her cabin intact while her brothers didn’t give a shit about her, her feelings and wellbeing.

Clarrise who went on a quest to please her father, but none of her brothers went with her and her father said that he would prefer they went on the quest instead of her.

Clarrise who desperately tries to keep Chris alive and at the border of sanity because he was the only person to actually care about her.

Clarrise who has exactly three people close to her.

Clarrise who looses two of them to war and her own pride.

Clarrise who’s so hostile that the only reason she’s friends with Beckendorf and Silena is Silena’s stubbornness.

Clarrise who hates Percy not because she dislikes him, but because she envies his relationship with his father.

Clarrise who has no relationship with her mother, and when she visits her in TTC is the first time she does it in years.

Clarrise who hates her father for neglecting her in favor of her brothers, but desperately tries to get his attention and praise at the same time.

Clarrise who’s forced to raise her siblings instead of her father and still getting nothing for it.

Clarrise who’s only childhood dream is to break free and leave camp behind, just to keep going back even after getting into college because she can’t live without those responsibilities even if she hates them.

[allthegothihopgirls]

i think it would have been funny if tim, after discovering his bisexuality and thinking that was the 'unique feature' he brought to his iteration of robin, mentioned this to the rest of batfam, only to find out they've all been some degree of queer this whole time.

[bambiswhitespots]

Me hearing the slightest mention of any of my obsessions

[zeawesomeness]

Imagine a fanfic where Future Leo has been living with present turtles for a good while, but some mystic shenanigans happen, and he's reverted back to the same age as present Leo. So, now you got two Leo's but also not really.

[sylvianightshade]

Cannot stop thinking about a season 5 byler kiss where they both pull back kinda breathless and Mike just involuntarily utters, “Wow.” And Will is about to start blushing and smiling but he doesn’t get the chance, because Mike floors him again with seven words: “That’s what it’s supposed to feel like.” 

[zishuge]

Fang Xiaobao... why do I remember somebody bidding me farewell and swearing never to talk to me again? Shut up and take the medicine. Mysterious Lotus Casebook (2023) | Ep. 19