#wavership

[gigglingauspice]

was having a conversation with a friend about what a “normal” amount of partners to have is. This is about any kind of committed partner— not just romantic or queer platonic, but sexual, alterous, wavership, and “undefined but my partner regardless.”

If you have more than nine partners, good god do I respect your time management.

[arology]

i think qprs are cool :) waverships are cool. People who call each other partner / girlfriend / arofriend / etc but don’t call it being “ in a relationship “ or dating are cool. People who aren’t blood-related and who call each other family because of the comfort they find in each other. People who don’t want to label their relationship in any way no matter what it looks like from the outside or feels like from the inside. People who don’t call the people in their friendships “ friends.” People who mix and match relationship words to describe each other and their relationship. People who use more personal , creative terms to describe friends and partners.

Because thats what a relationship is : how people relate to each other.

[lovesomesys]

Fight or flight I’d rather die than have to cry in front of you

Fight or flight I’d rather lie than tell you I’m in love with you

[flip-flopping-frede]

What about a frayromantic and a cupioromantic story. The cupioromantic would be fine dating or getting into some sort of QPR or QPP with any of their friends, however at the same time the cupioro feels insecure about getting into a relationship, partnership, wavership, or any kind of QPR/QPP without experiencing any kind of romo attrac at all to their potential partner.

The frayromantic and the cupioromantic both come into eachother’s lives. The frayromantic initally experiences the involuntary primary romo attrac to the cupioro. However, as the frayro and cupioro form a bond (emotional and friendship) the frayro’s romo feelings for the cupioro fade. Frayro knows how Cupioro feels about a potential relationship, however Frayro is struggling to accept themself and their fading romantic attraction. Frayro is struggling to accept their frayromanticsm and how they cannot keep their romantic attraction.

Cupioro and Frayro connect over how it’s ok to want a romantic relationship without experiencing romantic attraction, and how both of them accepted that *if* they were in a QPP of some sort, neither of them would require their partner experience romo attrac towards them, which is an amatonormative and arophobic standard anyway.

I see so much stuff about “cupioros and lithros” but what about frayros. Lithros and frayros both experience involuntary, primary romantic attraction, and then it goes away. Frayros don’t deserve to be left out of the conversation.

[idemromantic-culture-is]

Idemromantic culture is "If I didn't have [current significant other], I would totally date [best friend]. And if I didn't have either of them, I would probably date [second best friend]. And-

Me, but I'm also polyam so it's also like "But what if I dated both of them. But also it is a wavership 😳"

[manyminded]

headmates and their weird terms.

(empi and dc just came up with 'softsand' which is like. a soft wavership ig? like a version of softromo but for waverships. what does that even mean bestie)

-- pink addison

(also this post is like. /teasing and /affectionate. also not saying this isnt valid i just dont get it rlly)

[voiarc-draws]

Made some art of Me and Circle! Flag is wavership

// do not tag as kin, id, me, or f/o. we are fictives. //

[citnamora]

Happy Arospec Awareness Week! 🔆

[alterouslyinlove]

i love qprs. its just so anti rules. like we do what we want. we are best friends we are lovers we are all of it. i feel like platonic and romantic relationships are just so specific and rigid (it doesn’t have to be but it mainly is) so qprs being a thing is so freeing. one day we can be homeboys and the next we can be sitting in the candlelight with a nice meal. we do what we want. its pretty punk if you think about it.

[liuwithheadcanons]

Non aro and or ace ppl when you say qprs can be borderline romantic:

“that’s invalid,”

Can I strangle ?? Waverships exist lol (queerplatonic relations can/are a spectrum yall)

[local-yurei]

so many types of relationships not enough time to experience them smh /silly /nm

[gigglingauspice]

Been seeing some interesting answers on this poll... so, once again-- This is about any kind of committed partner— not just romantic or queer platonic, but sexual, alterous, wavership, and “undefined but my partner regardless." Any kind of serious, long term partner.

if you want nine or more partners-- good lord. good luck, and godspeed. if you want no partners, i wish you a very pleasant 'everyone leaves you alone about it'

[crow-collective15]

They call me gay but little do they know I’m in a straight wavership

[moontropy]

using tumblr as a journal fork found in kitchen etc

[heartless-aro]

Happy lesbian visibility week to aromantic lesbians! Y’all are cool as fuck.

Shoutout to allosexual aromantic lesbians! Your sexual attraction to women is beautiful and normal, and you aren’t bad or predatory for feeling that attraction, regardless of whether it’s accompanied by romantic attraction. Shoutout to aro lesbians who feel some romantic attraction! Your romantic attraction is just as lovely and as real as anyone else’s, even if you may experience yours differently or less often than an alloromantic person would. Shoutout to aroace lesbians. Whether your attraction to women is romantic, sexual, or something else that doesn’t fit neatly into either category, you are no less aroace for being a lesbian, and you are no less of a lesbian for being aroace.

Shoutout to aromantic lesbians who are relationship anarchists, aromantic lesbians who are nonpartnering or polyamorous, aromantic lesbians who are married, aromantic lesbians who have a zucchini/QPP or a foveo/FWB, and aromantic lesbians in soft romo relationships or waverships.

Y’all’re so wonderful, and I hope you have a splendid week!

[red-eclipse-proship]

Selfshippers with unconventional f/os deserve love.

Selfshippers with all kinds of relationship dynamics deserve acceptance.

Selfshippers within any fandom deserve respect.

Selfshippers who have f/os that are their OCs deserve acknowledgement.

Selfshippers that don't have s/is are just as valid.

Older selfshippers deserve recognition.

Aromantic and Asexual selfshippers deserve consideration.

Platonic/Familial/Queerplatonic/Wavership/etc selfshippers deserve appreciation.

Polyamorous selfshippers deserve support.

No matter who you are or how you selfship, you should be valued and welcome.