#frayromantic

[sebcosmothetransguy]

i’ve been considering the label frayromantic lately (as well as other ones), and i’ve been looking for definitions/examples of it.

as i was going down that rabbit hole, i found that a lot of people seem to think that frayromantic is “liking the idea of the person and falling in love/being infatuated with that, and then those that love/infatuation once they get to know the person and find out they don’t like who they really are”.

THIS IS NOT TRUE.

frayromantic is being romantically attracted (liking a person/falling in love with a person/etc.) to a person before having a strong bond with them, and as they grow that bond with that person, even if they do like who the person is and that person is awesome and fulfills their needs and etc., they lose those romantic feelings.

i will highlight the very key parts if some of you don’t see the difference: frayromantic is being romantically attracted (liking a person/falling in love with a person/etc.) to a person before having a strong bond with them, and as they grow that bond with that person, even if they do like who the person is and that person is awesome and fulfills their needs and etc., they lose those romantic feelings/attraction. their losing of attraction/feelings is not due to the person’s personality, physical appearance, or anything else like that. it is simply how that works.

and it is NOT falling in love with the idea of them and losing that love when they get to know the person and the person is actually not so good/nice.

alright? does everybody get it now?

[acexualien]

Had fun making these today 😌

[genderstarbucks]

Okay new rule

Only aspec people can ship aspec characters until you allos learn to behave

[someoneq]

it's aro week!

happy aro-spec awareness week to all aro-specs including but not limited to:

aromantics

greyromantics

demiromantics

quoiromantics

frayromantics

cupioromantics

lithromantics/akoiromantics

recipromantics

apothiromantics

caedromantics

amicusromantics

vallisromantics

apexromantics

arospikes

arofluxes

alicoromantics/agnoromantics

platoniromantics

nebularomantics

aegoromantics

bellusromantics

idemromantics

requisromantics

non-sam aros and arospecs

non-partnering aros

aros in romantic relationship

aros in queerplatonic or alterous relationships

aplatonic aros

loveless aros

lovequeer aros

lovepunk aros

aroaces/acearos

aroallos/alloaros

aromids

romance repulsed aros

romance ambivalent aros

romance favourable aros

triple/quadruple a batteries (arospec acespec aplspec agenderspec)

anyone questioning if they are arospec or where they fit on it

anyone else whose arospec identity I missed

happy aro week to all <2

[greenteaandtattoos]

aphobes are just jealous. like, yeah, we live our lives outside the fundamental societal norm, even beyond the queer community. we're just that rad. you wish you could be like us. go throw a tantrum about it somewhere else.

[caiiaxteiie]

this one's for my arospec homies.

[its-kayyyy]

You are valid (:

[queerrambles]

I am arospec and dislike it, but I do like discount chocolate day lol

[demi-romantics]

Feel free to tag your gender identity if you would like or if I forgot to list it!

[aromantic-rage]

tw: eyestrain, flashing colors like bright colors n stuff

some animated arospec banners. slap em on your pinned post to assert aromance

hahaaa here we go again

(i did two for akoiromantic and lithromantic, and grayromantic and greyromantic because somehow both terms are accepted soo uhhhhh)

reminder to myself to figure out how to pull off this animation thingy with demiromantic, aegoromantic, arospike, apothiromantic because they are non stripey stripey but i hope i could do those too dear god i hope my laggy brain works

[aro-sora]

“Some aros feel romantic attraction”

Very true! Let’s not forget about the aros who do feel romantic attraction and still for whatever reason don’t want a romantic relationship

[twigstarpikachutroll22]

The thing about how when I tell people offline that I'm aroace they usually go "Oh, I didn't know that was a thing!" is like. It’s a good response, it’s good that the response I get generally isn’t outright aphobic, but it reminds me just how much they don't know. Like. The sheer range of the aro and ace spectrums and the experiences relating to attraction that I see people in those communities talk about, the amount of breaking down of attraction and relationships, the amount of discussion about ALLLLLLLLL the hecking nuance both of those can have, and like. So many people literally Do Not Know that even the words "aromantic" and "asexual" exist. And just "doesn't feel attraction" is the easiest and most basic thing here to understand. It’s the tip of the iceberg. It’s the tip of a really really freaking huge iceberg. And plenty of allos have a hard time wrapping their heads around even that, let alone all the many more identities and many many more kinds of experiences on these spectrums. So many people literally do not know that not feeling attraction the way they do is a thing. So many people, like, the VAST majority of the population, are entirely confined to this incredibly freaking limited ONE standard concept of how attraction and relationships can work that seems mandated for everycreature. So many people don't even know that anything outside of that exists. And SO MUCH outside of that can exist. It's some straight-up allegory of the cave junk.

[thefrogginbullfish]

"Over It"

[the-delta-quadrant]

*aromanticises your periodic table*

flags in order: aro, arospec, cupioromantic, frayromantic

[sh1ny-r0ckruff]

reminder

shout out to all Aroflux, Aegoromantic, Apothiromantic, Aromantic, Arospike, autoromantic,Bellusromantic, Caedromantic, Cupioromantics, Demiromantic, Fictoromantic, Frayromantic, Grayromantics,Lithromantic/Akoiromantics, Myrromantic, Quoiromantic, Recipromantic, Requisromantic + more people !!

u guys are so amazing and super valid /g /pos

[frazelforever]

Y’all. It’s 2022. I don’t need ace and aro discourse on my dash. Asexual can be used as an umbrella term for those on the spectrum. Same goes for aromantic. If you are questioning, identify as such if you want! Oh you’re demi? Of course you can use the flag! You’re some other label? Yeah, I’d love for you to use our flag! Don’t gatekeep our own community. Aromantic/asexual can define anyone who doesn’t experience romance/sex the same way allos do.