#Build self-confidence

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“Light should be shared, not compressed” | Larry Vig, Awaken the Tools in You: How to Use Positive Self Talk to Reinvent Yourself And Build Self-Confidence |

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Self-Confidence To Success| Audiobook

Overcome Self-doubt and Improve Self-confidence https://author-jenniferjones.com/b/selfconfidence-to-success-audiobook Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can. — Paul Tournier Self-Confidence, happiness, Success. Overcome self-doubt and improve self-esteem. How do you face every day with confidence? Like most other skills in life, building self-confidence takes practice,…

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⋆˚࿔ a new canvas means a new you 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

a mini series on the art of becoming a better you

previous chapter

chapter two — THE ART OF SELF CONFIDENCE

i’ve touched on this topic before, but i wanted to do more of an in-depth deep dive into it! self confidence isn’t just about how you feel about your physical self, but it’s also about how you feel about your mental and emotional self; how you feel about your soul and the aura that surrounds you. self confidence can start at your physical self, like your looks, your style, etc. but reaching a true, deeper meaning of having confidence you have to dig deeper into your mind, heart, and soul.

references on self confidence:

“a guide to building confidence” - by me!

“study yourself to become confident” - thewizardliz

“the ultimate guide to becoming confident” - alessya farrugia

“rewiring your subconscious: guide to becoming your dreamiest self” - @glowettee

“building confidence” - @goddessinnerglow

ᥫ᭡. different types of confidence

in alessya farrguia’s youtube video, she discusses the 3 different types of self confidence: physical, social, and authentic confidence. i highly recommend watching her video! she makes really phenomenal points in her discussion!

i’d like to highlight some key points she made in her video:

physical confidence: “stop comparing your behind the scenes to everyone else’s highlights.”

social confidence: “confidence isn’t thinking ‘i know someone will like me’, it’s ‘i know it won’t bother me if they don’t’.”

authentic confidence: “true confidence means trusting yourself”

but i’d like to add mental & emotional confidence. the mentality that you have and how you feel about yourself plays a huge role in self confidence. having a mindset that makes you feel secure and having emotions toward yourself that are positive will help you become more confident. it also helps, immensely, to be in a headspace that makes you feel comfortable being you, that brings you joy, and that brings you peace. being able to have a good relationship with your own emotions can uplift you!

mental confidence:

destress & decompress — when your mind is weighed down by stress, you start to feel overwhelmed. that overwhelming feeling can cause your mind to break down and make you think that you won’t be capable of recovering from that stress. it’s important to manage your stress and remind yourself that you are capable of overcoming anything that’s causing you those feelings! stress is one of those things that make you feel like everything is impossible, but that’s only a feeling. it’s like having a bad dream, while you’re experiencing that dream it might feel too real and sometimes it may even be scary, but then you wake up and you realize that you’re safe. think of stress as just a bad dream, the feeling is only ever temporary and as soon as you manage it/overcome it you’ll be safe again. and, as a bonus, once you overcome that stress, you feel more secure within yourself and you’re reminded that, yes, everything is going to be okay and you are more than capable of overcoming those feelings!

practice mindfulness within yourself — “mindfulness is the practice of paying attention to the present moment without judgement.” with that being said, practice paying attention to yourself without any judgement. focus on how you’re feeling, what your current thoughts are; focus on you without judging yourself. learn to accept yourself as you are within that present moment and try to steer away from making quick, negative judgements about yourself. yes, you can judge yourself, but do so in a way that’s productive! judge your mental and emotional state, are you in a headspace that is ideal to you? judge your health, do you feel like there needs to be any changes in your lifestyle, diet, or activity level to better your body in a healthy manner? judge yourself, is there anything about yourself that you still need to work on or are there characteristics of yourself that you take pride in?

emotional confidence:

emotional intelligence — this is key to gaining emotional confidence. i recommend this video by The Glow Up Secrets Podcast on youtube! the host brings up so many wonderful and insightful points on becoming emotionally intelligent! being able to self-regulate and to understand exactly what you’re feeling can help you gain confidence in yourself. people will always pride themselves in their intelligence, so let being emotionally intelligent be the intelligence you pride yourself in!

ᥫ᭡. self-acceptance

people have this idea that self-acceptance is just settling for who you are, and well, that’s not really the case— at least in my eyes. learning to accept yourself as you are now will make it easier for you in your self improvement journey. we all want to become the “it-girl/person”, but a lot of us will look for quick fixes or even go towards trying unhealthy habits. allowing yourself to accept who you are right in this moment can be a first step towards becoming the person you strive to be.

accept your insecurities. accept your failures. accept your body as it is right now. accept your faults. then take all of that acceptance and turn it into a learning experience for yourself. learn that your insecurities only become insecurities because of that negative self-talk. learn that you cannot grow without any failures. learn what exactly it is that your body needs to become healthier and better for yourself.

accept yourself, then learn from yourself.

ᥫ᭡. manifestations & affirmations

we can make our dream selves become the reality. there’s so many amazing posts here on tumblr about manifesting, so go look into them! if we believe it, we can have it. you have to believe that you have confidence. you have to affirm yourself that you are confident. people, myself included, talk about “faking it til you make it”, but when you really think about it, the more you repeat these manifestations and affirmations the more it starts to feel true and real to yourself.

this also ties into positive self-talk. we have to speak to ourselves kindly, we have to uplift ourselves in a world that brings us down. talk to yourself with grace, gratitude, and genuine appreciation. you have gotten yourself through countless hardships. sure, there were probably people who helped you out on the way, but at the end of it, it was mostly your own doing that got you to a better place. so appreciate and love that about yourself!

grab a journal and write down all your manifestations and affirmations daily. writing it all down is like setting it in stone. be consistent, and soon enough all that you want for yourself— including self confidence— will come into fruition.

ᥫ᭡. take pride

think of it this way: no one can be you. people can try to imitate you, but they can never truly be you. take pride in how you look because no one has features like yours, take pride in your work because no one worked the way you did, take pride in your accomplishments because no one worked in the same way that you did to achieve those things; take pride in yourself. as cheesy and cliché as it all sounds, there’s literally no one else who is like you.

ᥫ᭡. find a deeper understanding for yourself

this point is heavily inspired by thewizardliz’s video “study yourself to become confident” (linked in the beginning of the chapter). i just want to reiterate her points and expand on them a little bit! her beginning statement includes: “once you know who you are, no one can tell you anything”.

i feel like we all understand ourselves to a certain degree. but understanding yourself on a deeper, more personal level will allow you to truly feel confident. in her video, liz talks about understanding and even studying ourselves to understand what we like/dislike, what we accept/don’t accept, etc. and i genuinely feel like she brings up a really great point in doing so!

we, as humans, feel like we know what we want for ourselves rather than actually knowing what we want for ourselves. we feel like certain people bring us joy, we feel like certain hobbies make us happy, we feel like we understand ourselves. but, in reality, most times we don’t actually know those things about ourselves.

people we surround ourselves with

we think that certain friends/partners bring us joy because we’re taught, sometimes unintentionally, to allow people to make us feel like we have to conform to them and their wants and needs. we don’t know that some of these people in our lives might actually be bringing us and our confidence down.

hobbies people partake in

we think that doing certain things, like drinking or hook-up culture, make us feel happy or satisfied with ourselves. but we don’t know or we’re not aware of how those hobbies, or even habits, might be destroying us physically, mentally, and even emotionally.

behaviors we accept

we think that if we accept certain behaviors that we’ll get more people to like us or get brownie points with a specific person, but we don’t know that accepting bad/poor behavior diminishes our strength and respect for ourself.

this all takes us back to chapter one: THE ART OF LETTING GO. the toxic people we surround ourselves with unknowingly, the hobbies we take part in unknowingly, the behaviors we accept unknowingly; that all needs to be let go of!

we have to truly understand ourselves and truly know exactly what we want for ourselves to gain the confidence we long for. without knowing yourself, you won’t understand how to find and feel genuine self confidence.

ᥫ᭡. final notes

at a certain point, confidence should feel like it comes naturally, but to even get to that point there’s a lot of work that needs to be put into ourselves. especially when a lot of us start off with almost no confidence at all, it can be extremely challenging to even wake up in the morning and think, “i can do this”. you have to be willing to put in the work for yourself. you have to be willing to have patience with yourself. you have to be willing to advocate for yourself. you have to be willing to do all of this for you, and you alone. you can be confident— and confidence will come to you! you’re more than capable of doing so, babe. believe in yourself like you would believe in someone you love and care for.

with lots of love, juno 🌷

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✧ why i believe in dressing up even when no one's watching ✧

hey lovelies! ✨

there's something almost magical about putting on your favorite outfit when you have absolutely nowhere to go. i know it might sound silly to some people, why bother getting dressed up if nobody's going to see you? but seriously? those are the moments when dressing up matters most to me.

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i remember last sunday morning, the rain tapping against my window, my plans completely canceled. instead of staying in my pajamas (which would have been the "logical" choice), i put on my favorite satin slip dress, did my makeup, and even added a little hair bow. my sister thought i was crazy, but there was something so powerful about choosing to look pretty just for myself.

the truth is, when we dress up only for others, we're giving away a little piece of our magic. we're saying that our beauty, our effort, our aesthetic only matters when someone else can validate it. and i don't believe that's true at all.

✧ the secret relationship with yourself ✧

when i put on a beautiful outfit just to read a book or make tea in my home, i'm nurturing the most important relationship in my life, the one with myself. it's like sending a little love letter to my soul that says, "you deserve pretty things even when no one is looking."

i've noticed that on days when i make the effort, my thoughts are different. i sit differently. i move through my space with more intention. my journal entries are more honest. my self-talk is kinder. it's like the outside beauty creates a little pathway for the inside beauty to shine through.

✧ the everyday as a special occasion ✧

we're always waiting for the "perfect moment" to wear that special dress or use the fancy perfume. but what if tuesday morning could be special too? what if making breakfast could be an occasion? what if simply existing in your body was reason enough to celebrate with your favorite clothes?

i keep a little list in my notes app of outfits that make me feel like the main character, and i've made it a personal rule not to "save" them only for special occasions. that silk blouse i love? perfect for a random wednesday. those pretty earrings i usually save for parties? they make doing laundry feel glamorous.

✧ the ripple effect of self-adornment ✧

there's this beautiful ripple effect that happens when you start dressing up for yourself. you begin to curate other parts of your life with the same loving attention. your morning routine becomes more sacred. your space becomes more intentional. you start to ask yourself, "what would make this moment feel special to me?" rather than "what's the bare minimum i need right now?"

i've found myself buying flowers more often, lighting candles on random afternoons, using the "good" dishes for ordinary meals. dressing up for no reason has taught me that everyday life deserves celebration too.

✧ a little secret between you and the universe ✧

there's something so intimate about being all dressed up with nowhere to go. it's like a little secret between you and the universe, a whispered promise that you don't need external validation to honor your own beauty.

sometimes i'll put on my favorite dress and red lipstick just to write in my journal or water my plants. nobody sees it except me (and maybe my cat), but it feels like a tiny rebellion against the idea that beauty needs an audience.

✧ the practice of showing up for yourself ✧

ultimately, dressing up when no one's watching is a practice in showing up for yourself. it's saying, "i am worth the effort, even when that effort goes unseen." it's recognizing that you are always worthy of your own attention and care.

so the next time you find yourself alone with a free afternoon, try putting on something that makes your heart flutter. not for instagram, not for compliments, just for the quiet joy of being exactly who you are, adorned exactly as you please.

you might be surprised how different your day feels when you're dressed for the occasion of simply being yourself.

xoxo, mindy

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delta might be having issues guys 🤕

Wasn’t sure how to draw beta, I might come up with a different design idk.. for now I’m gonna eep…

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Genuine question as I am curious — I know it’s pretty obvious with his expressions/ body language that Daniel seemed shy/insecure(?) about having his braces, but has he ever outright said anything about feeling that way with them? Just out of curiosity as I am new around here!

“I feel very different in terms of looks. Fortunately, experience also bought me better looks. I’m not really too fond of showing people photos of me when I was younger”

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𝑯𝑶𝑾 𝑻𝑶 𝑩𝑼𝑰𝑳𝑫 𝑼𝑵𝑺𝑻𝑶𝑷𝑷𝑨𝑩𝑳𝑬 𝑪𝑶𝑵𝑭𝑰𝑫𝑬𝑵𝑪𝑬

𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑖𝑠𝑛'𝑡 𝑜𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙- 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 𝑠𝑢𝑟𝑣𝑖𝑣𝑎𝑙. 𝑌𝑜𝑢 𝑐𝑎𝑛'𝑡 𝑒𝑥𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑙𝑑 𝑡𝑜 𝑡𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑢𝑠𝑙𝑦 𝑖𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑡𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑢𝑠𝑙𝑦. 𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑖𝑠𝑛'𝑡 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑤𝑎𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑡𝑜 ℎ𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑚𝑖𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑡𝑜 𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑒. 𝐼𝑡'𝑠 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑜𝑤𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑠𝑝𝑎𝑐𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑛𝑜 𝑎𝑝𝑜𝑙𝑜𝑔𝑖𝑒𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑖𝑡.

𝑆𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑙𝑜𝑜𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑟𝑡𝑐𝑢𝑡𝑠 𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢. 𝐼𝑡'𝑠 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑝 𝑢𝑝, 𝑡𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑡𝑟𝑜𝑙, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑏𝑢𝑖𝑙𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑑 𝑜𝑓 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒𝑠 𝑝𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑤𝑖𝑠ℎ 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦 𝑤𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢.

1. 𝑴𝑨𝑺𝑻𝑬𝑹 𝒀𝑶𝑼𝑹 𝑴𝑰𝑵𝑫𝑺𝑬𝑻

𝐻𝑒𝑟𝑒'𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑡𝑟𝑢𝑡ℎ: 𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑑 𝑖𝑠𝑛'𝑡 𝑖𝑛 𝑐ℎ𝑒𝑐𝑘, 𝑛𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑒𝑙𝑠𝑒 𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑠.

𝐴𝑓𝑓𝑖𝑟𝑚 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑃𝑜𝑤𝑒𝑟 :

𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑐𝑎𝑛'𝑡 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑛 ℎ𝑦𝑝𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑢𝑝, 𝑤ℎ𝑦 𝑤𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑 𝑎𝑛𝑦𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑒𝑙𝑠𝑒? 𝑅𝑒𝑝𝑒𝑎𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑠𝑒 𝑢𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑙 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑚 :

❥︎ "𝐼'𝑚 𝑛𝑜𝑡 ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠- 𝐼'𝑚 ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑞𝑢𝑒𝑟."

❥︎ "𝐼'𝑚 𝑐𝑎𝑝𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑒 𝑜𝑓 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑛 𝑎𝑛𝑦𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑔𝑖𝑣𝑒𝑠 𝑚𝑒 𝑐𝑟𝑒𝑑𝑖𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟, 𝑖𝑛𝑐𝑙𝑢𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑚𝑦𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓."

❥︎ "𝐼 𝑜𝑤𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑙𝑑 𝑛𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝑏𝑢𝑡 𝐼 𝑜𝑤𝑒 𝑚𝑦𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔."

𝑆𝑖𝑙𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑆𝑒𝑙𝑓-𝐷𝑜𝑢𝑏𝑡 :

𝑆𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡ℎ𝑒 "𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑖𝑓" 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑟. 𝐸𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑜𝑢𝑏𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓, 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑙𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑒𝑙𝑠𝑒 𝑤𝑖𝑛. 𝐹𝑙𝑖𝑝 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑛𝑎𝑟𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑒 : 𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒊𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖'𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒔𝒊𝒕𝒖𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏?

𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑤𝑠 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑒𝑥𝑐𝑢𝑠𝑒𝑠 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑡𝑎𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑝𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑖𝑏𝑖𝑙𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑔ℎ𝑡𝑠.

2. 𝑬𝑴𝑩𝑹𝑨𝑪𝑬 𝑨 𝑪𝑶𝑴𝑴𝑨𝑵𝑫𝑰𝑵𝑮 𝑺𝑻𝒀𝑳𝑬

𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑙𝑜𝑜𝑘 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒, 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑏𝑒 𝑠𝑢𝑟𝑝𝑟𝑖𝑠𝑒𝑑 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑛𝑜 𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑑𝑜𝑒𝑠. 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑖𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑓𝑖𝑟𝑠𝑡 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡- 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑖𝑡 𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑡.

𝐷𝑒𝑓𝑖𝑛𝑒 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝐿𝑜𝑜𝑘 :

𝑆𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑘 𝑡𝑜 𝑝𝑖𝑒𝑐𝑒𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑓𝑖𝑡 𝑤𝑒𝑙𝑙 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙 𝑟𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢.

𝐹𝑜𝑟𝑔𝑒𝑡 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑡𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑑𝑠 𝑢𝑛𝑙𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦 𝑎𝑙𝑖𝑔𝑛 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑒𝑛𝑒𝑟𝑔𝑦. 𝐷𝑎𝑟𝑘 𝑡𝑜𝑛𝑒𝑠 𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑚 𝑝𝑜𝑤𝑒𝑟 ; 𝑝𝑎𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑙𝑠? 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑠𝑜 𝑚𝑢𝑐ℎ.

𝐼𝑛𝑣𝑒𝑠𝑡 𝑖𝑛 𝐷𝑒𝑡𝑎𝑖𝑙𝑠 :

❥︎ 𝑃𝑜𝑙𝑖𝑠ℎ𝑒𝑑 𝑛𝑎𝑖𝑙𝑠, 𝑔𝑙𝑜𝑤𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑠𝑘𝑖𝑛, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑜𝑟𝑖𝑒𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑎𝑘 𝑡𝑜 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑒𝑙𝑒𝑣𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑦 𝑙𝑜𝑜𝑘.

❥︎ 𝑆ℎ𝑜𝑒𝑠 𝑐𝑎𝑛 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑜𝑟 𝑏𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢. 𝑊𝑒𝑎𝑟 𝑜𝑛𝑒𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑡𝑒𝑙𝑙 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑙𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑝𝑙𝑎𝑦.

❥︎ 𝐶𝑜𝑚𝑚𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑏𝑒𝑓𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑛 𝑜𝑝𝑒𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑜𝑢𝑡ℎ.

3. 𝑶𝑾𝑵 𝒀𝑶𝑼𝑹 𝑷𝑹𝑬𝑺𝑬𝑵𝑪𝑬

𝑁𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑚𝑠 𝑖𝑛𝑠𝑒𝑐𝑢𝑟𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑠ℎ𝑟𝑖𝑛𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑡𝑜 𝑓𝑖𝑡 𝑖𝑛. 𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡𝑎𝑙𝑙, 𝑎𝑐𝑡 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑜𝑛𝑔, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑎𝑝𝑜𝑙𝑜𝑔𝑖𝑧𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑒𝑥𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔.

❥︎ 𝑃𝑒𝑟𝑓𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑃𝑜𝑠𝑡𝑢𝑟𝑒 : 𝑆ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑𝑒𝑟𝑠 𝑏𝑎𝑐𝑘, 𝑐ℎ𝑖𝑛 𝑢𝑝. 𝑌𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎 𝑑𝑜𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑎𝑡.

❥︎ 𝑀𝑜𝑣𝑒 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑃𝑢𝑟𝑝𝑜𝑠𝑒 : 𝑆𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑔𝑒𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑛𝑑 ℎ𝑒𝑠𝑖𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔. 𝐸𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑝 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑 𝑠𝑎𝑦, "𝑊𝑎𝑡𝑐ℎ 𝑚𝑒."

❥︎ 𝑀𝑎𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝐸𝑦𝑒 𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑐𝑡 : 𝐼𝑓 𝑐𝑎𝑛'𝑡 ℎ𝑜𝑙𝑑 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒'𝑠 𝑔𝑎𝑧𝑒, 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦'𝑙𝑙 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑤𝑒𝑎𝑘. 𝐷𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑏𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑘 𝑓𝑖𝑟𝑠𝑡.

𝑂𝑤𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑠𝑝𝑎𝑐𝑒 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑏𝑖𝑟𝑡ℎ𝑟𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡- 𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑎𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑖𝑡 𝑖𝑠.

4. 𝑪𝑼𝑳𝑻𝑰𝑽𝑨𝑻𝑬 ��𝑵𝑵𝑬𝑹 𝑨𝑵𝑫 𝑶𝑼𝑻𝑬𝑹 𝑺𝑻𝑹𝑬𝑵𝑮𝑻𝑯

𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑝ℎ𝑦𝑠𝑖𝑐𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑜𝑟 𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑓𝑟𝑎𝑔𝑖𝑙𝑒, 𝑓𝑖𝑥 𝑖𝑡. 𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑑𝑜𝑒𝑠𝑛'𝑡 𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑤 𝑖𝑛 𝑤𝑒𝑎𝑘𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠.

𝑃ℎ𝑦𝑠𝑖𝑐𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑊𝑒𝑙𝑙𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠 :

❥︎ 𝐸𝑥𝑒𝑟𝑐𝑖𝑠𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑔𝑢𝑙𝑎𝑟𝑙𝑦 𝑡𝑜 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙 𝑠𝑡𝑟𝑜𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑒𝑛𝑒𝑟𝑔𝑖𝑧𝑒𝑑. 𝐹𝑜𝑐𝑢𝑠 𝑜𝑛 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑒𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑒𝑚𝑝𝑜𝑤𝑒𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢, 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑤𝑒𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝑦𝑜𝑔𝑎, 𝑜𝑟 𝑑𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒.

❥︎ 𝑃𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑟𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑧𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑡 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑛𝑢𝑡𝑟𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛. 𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑟𝑖𝑣𝑒𝑠 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑏𝑜𝑑𝑦 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙𝑠 𝑖𝑡𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑡.

𝑀𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑙 𝑅𝑒𝑠𝑖𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 :

❥︎ 𝑅𝑒𝑎𝑑, 𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑛, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑤. 𝐾𝑛𝑜𝑤𝑙𝑒𝑑𝑔𝑒 𝑏𝑢𝑖𝑙𝑑𝑠 𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓-𝑎𝑠𝑠𝑢𝑟𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒.

❥︎ 𝑃𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑒 𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑑𝑓𝑢𝑙𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑑 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑟𝑒𝑑𝑢𝑐𝑒 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔.

❥︎ 𝑇𝑟𝑢𝑒 𝑠𝑡𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑔𝑡ℎ 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑠 𝑓𝑟𝑜𝑚 𝑏𝑒𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑒𝑑 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑜𝑡ℎ 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑏𝑜𝑑𝑦.

5. 𝑺𝑷𝑬𝑨𝑲 𝑾𝑰𝑻𝑯 𝑷𝑼𝑹𝑷𝑶𝑺𝑬

𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑑𝑠 𝑟𝑒𝑓𝑙𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑣𝑎𝑙𝑢𝑒. 𝐶ℎ𝑜𝑜𝑠𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑚 𝑤𝑖𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑦.

❥︎ 𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑡𝑟𝑜𝑙 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑇𝑜𝑛𝑒 : 𝑆𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑠𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑢𝑛𝑠𝑢𝑟𝑒. 𝑆𝑝𝑒𝑎𝑘 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑚𝑒𝑎𝑛 𝑖𝑡, 𝑜𝑟 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑎𝑘 𝑎𝑡 𝑎𝑙𝑙.

❥︎ 𝐵𝑒 𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑐𝑖𝑠𝑒 : 𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑟𝑎𝑚𝑏𝑙𝑒, 𝑝𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑙𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔. 𝐺𝑒𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑝𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑡 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑖𝑡 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑝.

❥︎ 𝐿𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑛 𝑡𝑜 𝑆𝑎𝑦 𝑁𝑜 : 𝑆𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑎𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑑𝑟𝑎𝑖𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢. 𝐵𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑎𝑟𝑖𝑒𝑠 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑛-𝑛𝑒𝑔𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑒.

𝑾𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒌, 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒕'𝒔 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒉 𝒍𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐.

6. 𝑪𝑹𝑬𝑨𝑻𝑬 𝒀𝑶𝑼𝑹 𝑶𝑾𝑵 𝑬𝑵𝑬𝑹𝑮𝒀

𝑁𝑜𝑏𝑜𝑑𝑦 𝑜𝑤𝑒𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑔𝑜𝑜𝑑 𝑣𝑖𝑏𝑒𝑠- 𝑦𝑜𝑢 ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑐𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑚.

❥︎ 𝑃𝑟𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑆𝑝𝑎𝑐𝑒 : 𝐼𝑓 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒'𝑠 𝑑𝑟𝑎𝑔𝑔𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑜𝑤𝑛, 𝑐𝑢𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑚 𝑜𝑓𝑓. 𝑌𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑑𝑒𝑎𝑑 𝑤𝑒𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡.

❥︎ 𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑡𝑟𝑜𝑙 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑁𝑎𝑟𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑒 : 𝑆ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡. 𝑃𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑑𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑣𝑒 𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑜𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢.

❥︎ 𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑈𝑛𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑑𝑖𝑐𝑡𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑒 : 𝐾𝑒𝑒𝑝 𝑒𝑣𝑜𝑙𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔. 𝑇𝑟𝑦 𝑛𝑒𝑤 𝑠𝑡𝑦𝑙𝑒𝑠, ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡𝑠, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑡𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑑𝑦𝑛𝑎𝑚𝑖𝑐 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑟𝑖𝑔𝑢𝑖𝑛𝑔.

𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒓𝒈𝒚 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒔𝒆𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒅-𝒈𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒔, 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖.

7. 𝑬𝑴𝑩𝑹𝑨𝑪𝑬 𝑪𝑯𝑨𝑵𝑮𝑬 𝑨𝑵𝑫 𝑮𝑹𝑶𝑾𝑻𝑯

𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑒𝑣𝑜𝑙𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑔𝑛𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔. 𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑔𝑛𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑖𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑒𝑛𝑒𝑚𝑦 𝑜𝑓 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒.

❥︎ 𝑅𝑒𝑖𝑛𝑣𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 : 𝑁𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑏𝑒 𝑎𝑓𝑟𝑎𝑖𝑑 𝑡𝑜 𝑙𝑒𝑡 𝑔𝑜 𝑜𝑓 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑛𝑜 𝑙𝑜𝑛𝑔𝑒𝑟 𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑣𝑒𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢, 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 𝑎𝑛 𝑜𝑙𝑑 ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡, 𝑎 𝑡𝑜𝑥𝑖𝑐 𝑟𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑝𝑠, 𝑜𝑟 𝑎 𝑙𝑖𝑚𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑓. 𝐿𝑜𝑦𝑎𝑙𝑡𝑦 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑒𝑑𝑖𝑜𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑖𝑠 𝑤𝑒𝑎𝑘𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠.

❥︎ 𝑆𝑒𝑡 𝐵𝑜𝑙𝑑 𝐺𝑜𝑎𝑙𝑠 : 𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑟𝑖𝑣𝑒𝑠 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑐ℎ𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑜𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑔ℎ𝑡 𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑜𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑏𝑙𝑒. 𝐷𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑚 𝑏𝑖𝑔, 𝑝𝑙𝑎𝑛 𝑏𝑖𝑔𝑔𝑒𝑟, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑑𝑎𝑖𝑙𝑦.

❥︎ 𝐶𝑒𝑙𝑒𝑏𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑊𝑖𝑛𝑠 : 𝑆𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑏𝑟𝑢𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑓𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑠𝑢𝑐𝑐𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑒𝑠. 𝑂𝑤𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑚.

𝑮𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒕𝒉 𝒊𝒔 𝒑𝒂𝒊𝒏𝒇𝒖𝒍, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒚𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒎𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒔𝒆.

8. 𝑪𝑼𝑹𝑨𝑻𝑬 𝒀𝑶𝑼𝑹 𝑬𝑵𝑽𝑰𝑹𝑶𝑵𝑴𝑬𝑵𝑻

𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑠𝑢𝑟𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑎 𝑟𝑒𝑓𝑙𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑜𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢. 𝐼𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦'𝑟𝑒 𝑎 𝑚𝑒𝑠𝑠, 𝑓𝑖𝑥 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑚.

❥︎ 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑆𝑝𝑎𝑐𝑒 : 𝐶𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑛 𝑖𝑡. 𝑂𝑟𝑔𝑎𝑛𝑖𝑧𝑒 𝑖𝑡. 𝑀𝑎����𝑒 𝑖𝑡 𝑙𝑜𝑜𝑘 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑝𝑜𝑤𝑒𝑟𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑙𝑖𝑣𝑒𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒.

❥︎ 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝐷𝑖𝑔𝑖𝑡𝑎𝑙 𝑃𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 : 𝑈𝑛𝑓𝑜𝑙𝑙𝑜𝑤 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑝𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑒𝑛𝑜𝑢𝑔ℎ.

❥︎ 𝑃𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛. 𝐴𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑖𝑠𝑛'𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑔𝑜𝑎𝑙- 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑖𝑠.

𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒆𝒏𝒗𝒊𝒓𝒐𝒏𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒆𝒍𝒆𝒗𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖, 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒉𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌.

9. 𝑳𝑰𝑽𝑬 𝒀𝑶𝑼𝑹 𝑪𝑶𝑵𝑭𝑰𝑫𝑬𝑵𝑪𝑬 𝑫𝑨𝑰𝑳𝒀

𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑖𝑠 𝑎 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒𝑠𝑡𝑦𝑙𝑒. 𝐼𝑡'𝑠 𝑖𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑤𝑎𝑦 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑤𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑢𝑝, 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑤𝑎𝑦 𝑦𝑜𝑢 ℎ𝑎𝑛𝑑𝑙𝑒 𝑐ℎ𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑒𝑛𝑔𝑒𝑠, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑤𝑎𝑦 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑚𝑜𝑣𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑔ℎ 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑙𝑑.

❥︎ 𝑀𝑜𝑟𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑅𝑖𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑠 : 𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑑𝑎𝑦 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑎 𝑤𝑖𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑟. 𝐴𝑐𝑡 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑙𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑦 𝑠𝑢𝑐𝑐𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑓𝑢𝑙.

❥︎ 𝐸𝑣𝑒𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑅𝑒𝑓𝑙𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 : 𝐿𝑜𝑜𝑘 𝑏𝑎𝑐𝑘 𝑎𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑑𝑎𝑦 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑠𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓: 𝐷𝑖𝑑 𝐼 𝑚𝑜𝑣𝑒 𝑐𝑙𝑜𝑠𝑒𝑟 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑦 𝑔𝑜𝑎𝑙𝑠? 𝐼𝑓 𝑛𝑜𝑡, 𝑓𝑖𝑥 𝑖𝑡 𝑡𝑜𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑟𝑜𝑤.

❥︎ 𝑉𝑖𝑠𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑖𝑧𝑒 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑃𝑜𝑤𝑒𝑟 : 𝑆𝑒𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑡, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑢𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑙 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛.

𝑭𝑰𝑵𝑨𝑳 𝑻𝑯𝑶𝑼𝑮𝑯𝑻𝑺

𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑖𝑠𝑛'𝑡 ℎ𝑎𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑑 𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑓𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑙𝑦, 𝑦𝑜𝑢 ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑡𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑖𝑡. 𝐼𝑡'𝑠 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑤𝑎𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑓𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑚𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡. 𝐼𝑡'𝑠 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑐𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑖𝑡.

𝑆𝑡𝑜𝑝 𝑤𝑎𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑛𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑝𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑎𝑙. 𝐵𝑒 𝑠𝑜 𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑖𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦 𝑐𝑎𝑛'𝑡 𝑖𝑔𝑛𝑜𝑟e 𝑦𝑜𝑢. 𝑇ℎ𝑒 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑙𝑑 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑜𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑡ℎ𝑜𝑠𝑒 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝑤𝑎𝑙𝑘 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑖𝑡 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦 𝑜𝑤𝑛 𝑖𝑡.

𝑁𝑜𝑤, 𝑔𝑜. 𝐵𝑢𝑖𝑙𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑒𝑚𝑝𝑖𝑟𝑒.

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a virginity detecting sword isn’t even that weird of a thing to own all things considered. but why would you bring it to work with you

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Keep going

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₊˚⊹ ᰔ a guide to building confidence ᝰ.ᐟ

confidence doesn’t come easy when we live in a world full of standards that we feel like we have to follow and uphold. let go of those standards and focus on you and what you want for yourself.

let’s begin !!

ᝰ.ᐟ posture

your posture might be one of the first things people notice about you! so stand up straight, bring your shoulders back, and lift your head up high! having good posture isn’t just good for your back, but it’ll also make you feel more regal, classy, and come off as more confident.

people always tell me that they love how i hold myself, and part of that is thanks to my posture! i walk into any room with my head held high and standing tall because i want people to see that i hold myself to the highest standard and i want to feel that way too!

ᝰ.ᐟ maintain eye contact

this is a hard one, for me at least. it’s something i’m still practicing! but being able to maintain eye contact not only shows that you’re engaged in a conversation, but also shows that you aren’t afraid to communicate with whomever you’re speaking to!

i’m neurodivergent, so eye contact is not one of my strong suits, but what’s helped me in conversations is to look at the person who’s speaking while i listen and once it’s my turn to speak, i’ll maintain eye contact for short periods of time as i talk and then gradually continue to keep the eye contact going! it also helps if you look at one of the eyes of the person you’re speaking to and focusing on that rather than their entire face!

ᝰ.ᐟ speak up

for my soft spoken babes out there, you are allowed to get a little loud! if you’re someone who tends to hear “i’m sorry, what?” or “i can’t hear you” you gotta speak up! as someone who was told that all throughout my younger years in middle/high school, i got tired of it really quickly, so i started to raise my voice a bit whenever i spoke. now, i’m not saying you have to go out and start yelling at people, but just use a bigger voice whenever you talk!

it also helps to articulate your words more! mumbling can be a sign of anxiety or insecurity, so be clear with your words. speak with clarity!

ᝰ.ᐟ be, unapologetically, yourself

when you start doing things because you want to or because it makes you happy, you start feeling so much better about yourself. immerse yourself in things you enjoy rather than what people say you should enjoy. live for yourself, play by your own rules, and stop succumbing to what other people want from you!

get that hair cut, dye your hair that color, wear those clothes & accessories, do your makeup how you want to, get into the hobbies you’ve been dying to enjoy, listen to the music that makes you feel good! be your most authentic self!

ᝰ.ᐟ dress to impress yourself

to go off of that previous point, it’s important to wear what you feel the most comfortable in! wear what makes you feel good and makes you feel like the best version of yourself!

don’t dress for anyone else but you! you should be the only one you’re trying to impress! if you feel great in the clothes you decide to wear, then keep wearing them! find a style that you feel like you would absolutely devour in!

ᝰ.ᐟ learn to accept criticism

“but you just said-!” hold on, babe!!! i mean this in a professional sense! when it comes to your job, career, and/or your education, learn to accept that constructive criticism from your mentors/teachers/higher ups!

i used to dread being told that there was something i needed to improve on, but it turns out that that constructive criticism helped me grow in my field, in my schooling, and even as a person. learning to accept that kind of criticism will help you more than you think. it allows you to continue to grow, to see what exactly it is that still needs a little bit of work, and with that information you can hone and sharpen your skills, your knowledge, and yourself which will lead to more personal growth! and with that growth comes more achievements, and with more achievements, the more confidence you’ll have for yourself!

ᝰ.ᐟ stop the negative self-talk

if you don’t like being put down by others, why would you do that to yourself? continuously putting yourself down or talking poorly about yourself will only continue to bring down your own confidence. the insecurities will only take over even more if you keep bringing yourself down with negative self-talk.

be kind to yourself. you should love yourself as you love your friends, family, and partner(s). you deserve kindness, especially from yourself! make it a daily goal to look in the mirror and compliment yourself the way a loved one would!

𝜗𝜚 final notes 𝜗𝜚

building confidence isn’t an easy feat, a lot of this is so much easier said than done, but if you want to have personal growth you have to put in the work towards making yourself better, and make sure you’re making these changes and going through these growths for you and not anyone else. i know a lot of us want to be treated a certain way, so start with treating yourself that way!

live and love, babe.

sincerely, juno ⭑.ᐟ

[glowettee]

✧・゜ how to radiate confidence in social situations (even when you're screaming inside) ゜✧:・゜✧

hey lovelies! ✧

let's be honest - we've all been there. standing in a room full of people, smile plastered on, while our internal monologue is having a complete meltdown. that was literally me last weekend at this networking event where i knew absolutely no one and spent the first 15 minutes hiding in the bathroom (classic me behavior).

but over time i've collected some little tricks that help me appear confident even when my insides are doing gymnastics. thought i'd share in case any of you are fellow social anxiety girlies too!

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ the body language hack ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

our bodies can actually trick our minds into feeling confident. before entering any intimidating social situation, i find a private spot (usually the bathroom, let's be real) and stand in a "power pose" for two minutes. arms on hips, shoulders back, chin up. it feels silly but it genuinely changes my nervous system.

another tiny thing: keep your hands visible, not crossed or hidden in pockets. something about this signals confidence to others and eventually to yourself.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ prepare your conversation toolkit ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

nothing makes me panic more than awkward silence, so i always have a mental list of conversation starters ready. not just "what do you do?" but questions that actually lead somewhere interesting:

"what's been keeping you busy outside of work lately?"

"have you read/watched anything good recently?"

"what's something you're looking forward to this year?"

the secret is asking questions that you genuinely want to hear answers to. people can sense authentic curiosity, and it takes pressure off you to be "interesting" when you're focused on being interested.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ the "i belong here" mindset shift ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

this one changed everything for me. i used to walk into rooms thinking "i hope they like me" which immediately put me in a position of seeking approval. now i try to shift to "i wonder if i'll like them."

it's such a subtle change but it puts you in the position of the observer rather than the observed. suddenly you're not auditioning for acceptance - you're just seeing if this person/group is your vibe.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ embrace the awkward ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

the biggest confidence killer is trying to be perfect. there's actually something magnetic about someone who can laugh at themselves when they trip over a word or spill their drink.

i've started just naming the awkwardness when it happens: "well that came out completely wrong, let me try again!" people actually connect more with your humanity than your perfection.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ the 5-second reset ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

when i feel myself spiraling into overthinking, i use this tiny reset: i take a deep breath, count to 5, and remind myself that most people are too worried about themselves to be analyzing me.

seriously, the same insecurity that makes you worry about what others think is the exact thing that prevents others from thinking about you as much as you fear!

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ aftercare is essential ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

confidence isn't just about how you act in the moment - it's also about how you treat yourself after. i used to dissect every interaction, cringing at everything i said.

now i have a rule: no social autopsies. instead, i celebrate that i showed up at all. sometimes i'll even buy myself a little treat on the way home as a "well done for being brave" gift.

remember, true confidence isn't the absence of fear - it's just the decision that something else is more important than that fear. and with practice, those screaming-inside moments get quieter and less frequent.

what about you? any confidence hacks that help you in social situations?

xoxo, mindy 🤍