#LGBT friendly for sure!

[linked-universe-discord]

is this the official server? Just wondering, since I've been wanting to join, and I'm worried about falling into a weird conservative one o-o;;

We don’t want to say “official” because there are lots of servers, but we are definitely the biggest and the first! We welcome everyone :)

[cosmicredcadet]

"This fandom is so queer friendly!" This fandom literally hates, bisexual, trans, nonbinary, and aspec people but ok.

[javert]

i am perpetually kinda pissy about this but so many ~community events fail to get gay men to come which is pretty dire state of things lol. i truly do not understand how some ostensibly full-community lgbt orgs fail so badly at outreach

[eeunwoo]

damn yknow when u can kinda sense an entire person’s demeanour change when they figure out what you’re being treated for 😩

[blorboresidue]

of all the Situations I've put these blorbos in, "trans guy who needs to find prenatal care in the 1980s" sure is one of them

[sinistersuns]

i’ve gone from buying women’s pants bc it was what i was “supposed to do” -> buying men’s pants when i began my transition bc it was what i was “supposed to do” -> back to buying women’s pants because i like them better. it’s liberating but now i’m also getting anxiety abt being a (vast majority of the time) cis-passing guy in the women’s section bc i’m worried ppl are gonna think i’m a creep. bro this is a WILD feeling—i never considered that the stigma against GNC cis men and trans fems shopping in the women’s section could apply to a trans man too

[rodeodeparis]

decolonizepalestine has a great article on pinkwashing (and other types of washing)

Pride month is in four days and heres a reminder not to fall for pinkwashing

QUEERS FOR PALESTINE

OUR SOLIDARITY IS STRONGER THAN THEIR BIGOTRY

[stonedopossums]

alsooo i didn't realize how much casual transphobia i was dealing with at my last job til i started at my current one and i haven't been misgendered ONCE in the two weeks ive been working. what was up with them lol

[fight-nights-at-freddys]

I think it's genuinely concerning how sex-negative we, as a society, are becoming. (This post brought to you by a few tweets I saw)

Does no one else think it's genuinely worrying how if you even find a fictional character attractive, you're called a gooner, or a degenerate, or some other pejorative to indicate that being sexual in any way is gross and nasty and yucky? Why does art suddenly lack artistic value because it's sexual in nature? Why are we so obsessed with associating a core feature of the human condition with shame and guilt?

Even more concerning is that it isn't just some niche little group of people on the internet, it's rampant. Every nook and cranny of the internet has these people, ready and raring to call you names if you dare speak anything slightly not-safe-for-work.

Like the people on twitter openly calling trans women degenerates and freaks for having an incest/rape kink (I've seen this one A LOT), because how can you claim to be an ally, or lgbt-friendly, or a feminist, but get mad at a woman expressing her sexuality? Why does sexuality gross you out to the point you feel the need to demean people over it?

And where does it end? Are we going to start calling women who dress a little too revealing 'sluts' again? Are we going to ban sex scenes in movies? Start preaching abstinence, say sex outside of marriage is bad, that lust is immoral, and being gay is a sin?

I'm sure that a large part of the problem is that these people are generally children, and still in the "sex is gross" phase, but I know that's not the case with all of them. I'm just worried for the future, because all the people saying these things are just reinventing conservatism under the guise of progressivism, and are (intentionally or unintentionally, I'm not sure) causing more harm than good.

I know we talk about puritanism and stuff all the time, but in my opinion, it's gotten to a point even the actual puritans didn't get to.

[bwafficial]

soft ferret stimboard !! ✿

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we do have channels for sensitive littles, but we also acknowledge that every agere server is already catered to sensitive littles. age regression is not a monolithic experience. here's to the tinies and tots that swear, like horror, and don't mind a dirty joke or two.

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[the-meme-monarch]

telling this to you because you’re the only one who likes the human characters in dandy’s world. but

Sam (sprout’s handler) is the only non-binary character in all of dandy’s world. which had to be weird for them! considering the time it takes place I doubt they were out. with your headcanons of Delilah being loveless aro & Arthur being aro it makes me think that maybe there were a lot of lgbt workers there. maybe they attracted each other to work in this nice place where there’s less judgment. idk I’m thinking

i’d like to start off with this post of mine before i start my damn Dissertation HDHSJSN

and yeah i think working at gardenview was very generally very nice ! i just like to think arthur is very kind, he wanted to make a good kids show that teaches good lessons. and like, assuming the universe of dandys world is otherwise realistic to real life; he’s a black man born maybe the 60s, growing up in the 70s and 80s. he would have witnessed discrimination or had it enacted on him, and Certainly not saying racism just Doesn’t Exist Any More, but he would’ve grown up while segregation was still very prevalent and racism was. louder. in the general -especially white- population. and then w my headcanon of him using mobility aids he would’ve likely dealt with a lot of ableism. and being aroace(though likely just identifying as asexual, as it seems aromantic wasn’t coined until 2005? according to google at least) likely dealing with amatonormativity/allonormativity/heteronormativity/aphobia/or even homophobia bc Well If You’re Not Straight You Must Be Gay. also while he maybe wouldn’t have had direct experience to the aids crisis, he was still Around For It. and then also my hc of him being mixed race. and then All the ways these things intersect with each other. i think he’s shaped by his experiences and just wants Better and to create positive change !

i also have a little headcanon that he used to be a teacher’s aide ! i think he’s always been into drawing and making characters, and so this job is where he decided he wanted to do children’s edutainment :’] my sibling and i have talked about what we think the cartoon may have been like, and i think we figured “somewhere between animaniacs and bluey”

delilah ofc would’ve dealt with sexism, and amatonormativity/etc and shitty comments about how she acts or doesn’t really care to make friends, “being a loner”, or not being “lady-like enough” or god forbid being friends with a black kid. i think she would be queer friendly maybe more because more plainly “what difference does it make/why should that bother me, they’re not hurting anybody” but also bc “they’re still people too” ! I think it’s very likely both her and arthur were raised christian, arthur probably still identifies with it, but i don’t think delilah does. i think she thinks her religious upbringing was a prison NDNSJSNSJ

sam may not have come out to either of them, but i think they felt safe there that maybe they could to at least the other main toon’s handlers <:] and also with them being presumably irish, with their last name being mclaughlin, they would’ve been dealing with bigot shit for that alone i wouldn’t fault them in the slightest for not coming out to anyone ever. regardless i think arthur and delilah try to make sure that gardenview is a welcoming and kind environment that doesn’t tolerate That Shit. i can only imagine the smear campaigns the show wouldve gotten for having a rainbow flower boy protagonist.

also iirc sam is Stated to be nonbinary and using they/them, while looey and teagan we don’t know the specifics of their gender labels but we do know they use he/they and she/they respectively, and i do picture them deciding on those pronouns was a later development, and not a since-creation thing. idk if they would’ve come out to anybody either, or if they did I don’t think they would’ve even thought it was a big deal at all. i think toons in general are sorta just inherently silly little guys that don’t really adhere to human strictures, they think bigotry is stupid they don’t Get how someone could actually think that way

[tttabii]

FRIENDLY RIVALRY

SE-MI X FEMALE READER

note: inspired by friendly rivalry. and lesbians if ure against lgbt get out

YOU AND SE-MI HAD ALWAYS contended with each other. Not in a hateful way, but in a way that pushed each of you to the limit. If you scored well, she had to score better. If she won a game, you had to train harder to win the next one. It was a constant competition, full of glances, quips, and begrudging respect. But today, there was a change in the rivalry. 

In a game—whether it was in sport, sparring, or recklessness of some sort—Se-mi got hurt. Not enough to take her out, but enough for you to catch the wince when she thought no one was looking. 

Naturally, you were looking.

After the match, you were sure she would tough it out as usual, but she grabbed your wrist and, without explanation, pulled you along with her. You didn't have time to think before you went from next to her to standing in front of a rather ostentatious home.

"Wait—this is your house?" you asked, staring at the sheer size of the place.

Se-mi smiled, and unlocked the door. "What, did you think I lived under a bridge?"

You rolled your eyes and went inside. From the little you could tell, it was sleek, modern, and you could admit that it was kind of intimidating.

Before you even had time to take in the expensive-looking furniture, Se-mi pulled off her shirt like it was the most casual thing in the world.  Your brain short-circuited. "Wh—what are you doing?" you asked, quickly looking away.

She scoffed, clearly amused. "Relax. You're the one who insisted I needed to get patched up."

You forced yourself to turn back, eyes reluctantly landing on the wound across her stomach. It wasn't deep, but it needed some cleaning, and you couldn't help but notice how distracting it was to be so close to her well defined, toned abs and warm skin.

Oh God, was this some kind of test?

Se-mi sat comfortable on her couch, lazy legs spread out in front of her as she leaned back, appearing completely unfazed. But, as soon as she noticed you hesitating, she reached forward and grabbed your chin so that you wouldn't have a choice but to look at her. 

"Look at me," she said softly, her voice quiet, lower. 

You took a deep breath as you pressed the antiseptic-soaked cloth to her wound even though your hands were slightly shaking and you were trying not to concentrate on how warm her skin was under your fingertips. 

Se-mi watched you the entire time and smirked a little. "Getting shy now? What happened to the confidence of earlier when we were fighting?"

 You huffed. "Shut up." 

She chuckled, but didn't say anything else. The air between you was thick with something unspoken, something that had always been there but neither of you had ever acknowledged.

But as your fingers brushed against her skin, you had to wonder—was this still a rivalry? Or was it something else entirely?

Once you finished dressing her injured arm, you thought you could put everything behind you. Return home, act like this never happened. The tension and drama of earlier would slip back into whatever battlefield you usually fought the cold war on.

But Se-mi had something else planned.

"You're staying here tonight," she said, completely nonchalant, as if she wasn't dropping a bomb on you.

You stared back. "What?"

"You heard me." She stretched, rolling her shoulders around as if she was not making your heart race. "You're not going home this late. Besides, I have a spare bed."

A lie. A complete lie. There was no guest room, no extra bed. Just hers.

And now you were stuck with reality: you'd be sleeping next to her. Se-mi allowed you to shower before her, but not before watching you intently as you pulled the tie from your hair, letting it cascade down past your shoulders. Her eyes followed your every move like a predator sizing up its prey. You could feel the weight of her stare even as you closed the bathroom door behind you.

Inwardly, you exhaled a breath that you hadn't been aware that you had been holding. As you rinsed, the fragrance of Se-mi's shampoo wafted all about you in the air, enveloping you in something so purely hers.

The scent was powerful and intoxicating, and you had the unsettling feeling that she had planned it, that she had intended for you to carry both the musky, sweet aroma of her hair products and that she wanted to mark you in a way that you could be associated with her

When you finished showering, you quickly noticed an entirely new dilemma—it suddenly hit you that you hadn't brought any clothing. You hesitated before swinging the door open slightly.

You peeked your head out from the bathroom. "Uh, Se-mi... I don't have any clothes." 

She was reclined on the bed in complete leisure position, one arm over her head, and she flipped her eyes up to you the second your head showed. Her eyes leisurely traveled across the damp points of your hair, down your shoulder, and lower, and finally stopping on the towel wrapped tightly around your body.

You thought you saw something pass her expression that was imperceptibly deep; before you knew it, she had stood up and walked toward you. She said nothing, just pulled a oversized shirt from her dresser and a pair of shorts and underwear, giving them to you. But before you could shut the door again, she leaned in slightly, her voice low.

"Careful," she murmured. "You're making it real hard for me to be a good host right now."

Your breath hitched. She smirked, clearly enjoying your reaction, before turning away and flopping back onto the bed as if nothing had happened.

God. How were you supposed to survive this night?

The next morning arrived way too quickly. You found yourself tangled in Se-mi's blankets, the scent of her shampoo wafting through the air, sunlight seeping through the curtains. A loud alarm made you startled awake, and as you slowly blinked your eyes open, you found Se-mi already dressed in her school uniform and looking effortlessly put together. 

"Morning sleepyhead," she smirked while she buttoned her blazer cuffs. "Didn't realize you were such a deep sleeper."

You quickly freshened up and put on your uniform; instinctively your fingers reached for a hair tie at the back of your dresser for your ponytail, but Se-mi's hand was already there snatching the hair tie out of your reach. "You look better with your hair down."

She said it so simply, but your heart almost stopped. And then she combed your bangs down with her fingers before walking off, leaving you flustered beyond belief.

What was she doing to your heart? 

At school everything seemed to fall back into place. The rivalries, the joking comments, the competitive spirit. But one thing did stand out: your hair tie was still tight around Se-mi's wrist.

She never returned it. While she wouldn't outright say it, you knew. She didn't want you to tie your hair up. She liked it this way.

That afternoon some guys from class invited some girls, including you, to a club for that same night. Clubs were far from your scene, but for one reason or another, the night felt rebellious, free, and you agreed. Since Se-mi was busy at the canteen, she didn't find out you were going.

It wasn't until later that she was invited, and she agreed without thinking much of it.

She didn't expect to see you there.

Certainly wouldn't expect to see you with a guy on either shoulder. Certainly wouldn't expect to see either guy's hands resting too comfortably on your skin. Or the way they laughed and whispered into your ear as you giggled, clearly tipsy from the drinks.

One of them reached out, caressing your cheek with a smirk.

Se-mi saw red.

Before she even knew it, she was already pulling you away from them. The guys didn't really care when she claimed she wanted to drink with you instead. They assumed it was just her usual pushy behavior.

But she had no intention of keeping you in the club.

Next thing you knew, you were back at her place.

In her bathtub.

Both of you were naked, sitting in warm water and foamy bubbles. The fact that you were naked together made the air feel thick and almost dense. Se-mi was sitting behind you, running her hands through your wet hair, carefully rinsing off any alcohol and smoke from the night.

"You shouldn't really let them touch you like that," she murmured quietly into your ear.

Your breath hitched. "Why? Jealous?"

She didn't answer.

Instead, her fingers moved softly down your shoulder. They barely touched your shoulder but told you maybe not enough to not make you shiver as your skin was left covered in goosebumps.

"You smell like alcohol," she finally said, "I gotta fix that."

She pumped some shampoo into her hand and added it to your scalp, rubbing it in with surprising softness. You could smell the shampoo in her hand again, it filled you with something that was undeniably her.

As the conditioner was absorbed into your hair, the bathroom sank into a cozy silence, broken only by the soft dripping of water and the hum of the heater. Your gaze turned upwards to Se-mi, and she looked at you.

What was in her stare—heavy, unreadable, and fully smoldering in a way that made your stomach flip. The dim light cast soft shadows on her face and emphasized the angles of her jaw, the slight parting of her lips as if she hesitated.

You could barely register what had happened before she leaned in; the space between you closed nearly in the blink of an eye. Her lips met yours with an intensity—intense like she was demanding it but intoxicatingly soft.

A sharp inhale escaped your lips as her hand climbed up to your bare arm and gripped you—a gentle possessiveness, as if she was concerned you'd somehow vanish. You didn't pull back. Instead, you melted into her, your hands squeezing around her shoulders as the kiss deepened and grew more hungry and desperate. 

The water rippled around you as she pulled you closer, the warmth of her body against yours sending a dizzying heat straight to your core. Her tongue grazed your bottom lip, and you sighed as you opened your lips and pushed into a deeper kiss.

It was intoxicating—her taste, her smell, her fingers all tangled in your wet hair, pulling just enough that you gasped against her mouth. She smirked at that, leaving your mouth and licking along your jaw, trailing soft kisses down your neck teasingly.

"You're mine," she murmured against your skin, voice husky and breathy, causing your body to shiver.

You should have felt embarrassed, being this exposed and vulnerable in her arms, but all you could think about was how nice she felt, how nice it was that your body and hers fit perfectly together.

[agaypsychicrat]

You can save Russian queers from genocide

A week ago the Russian Supreme Court made a ruling declaring LGBT community an extremist organization. The precise contents of the ruling, as well as the process, were made secret, so there’s no official information on what is being banned, but if we take into account previous cases of Russia using this tactic (Like with Navalny’s Anti-Corruption Foundation), any kind of support, from saying things on the internet to financial support, or dissemination of information about LGBT is banned. It also basically criminalizes queer people’s existence. The sentences are up to 12 years in prison - harsher than for murder.

This has already led to majority of Russian LGBT organizations dissolving and evacuating or going into crisis mode and cutting offline support. A number of previously friendly endocrinologists have stopped working with trans people for self-preservation, even if they already changed the documents - a situation especially dangerous for trans masculine people, as while trans women can get HRT without a prescription or from gray market, testosterone is a heavily regulated substance. The entire support system is headed for collapse, it’s hard to predict what will happen when prosecutions begin. It’s important to notice that conversion therapy is legal in Russia, and the Russian Ministry of Internal Affairs has a database of transpeople who have changed their documents.

In light of this, a German queer organization Quarteera has launched a petition which will have to be considered by German government if it reaches 50 k signatures, regarding easing the asylum process for Russian LGBT people, particularly issuing humanitarian visas and residence permits not just for activists. While everything is in German, anyone from around the world can sign the petition, not only German citizens. The petition is here - http://quarteera.de/petition

Here’s the instruction in English: https://imgur.com/a/Fgi9yIh

Update the petition expired a few days ago so im not sure if you can still vote

I copied the post from r/196 https://www.reddit.com/r/196/s/qcersiwxh1

[littleoldrachel]

trans lives are more precious than ever

i've spent the last couple of days feeling truly sickened and hopeless, and i haven't yet figured out what it all means for my place in fandom. it has felt like there hasn't been anything i could add to the conversations taking place as someone with almost no platform, and at a time when voices far more eloquent and important than mine were already having an impact.

however, more than ever the events of the last few days have shown me how important it is to speak up, even in my tiny corner of the world, even if it's clumsy, even if I cannot see the visible impact. this should not - and cannot - be the burden for trans people to speak about alone, and i am ashamed it took me so long to say something.

trans women are women and trans rights are human rights and the world is a better place with you in it.

if you are reading this and you are trans: i love you. i love you and your life is precious and you deserve the entire world. you are a miracle. please know my inbox is always open if you ever need a place to just be Heard. i love you 🫂🫂🫂

this list is as much for me as for anyone - when i feel overwhelmed and helpless like this, it helps to know what steps i can take to make it slightly more manageable. i hope it helps 🤍

for support:

Mermaids: 0808 801 0400 or webchat (open mon-fri 1pm-8:30pm), supporting trans people under 20 and their loved ones. also runs local support groups!

Gendered Intelligence: 0800 640 8046, WhatsApp 07592 650 496, email supportline@genderedintelligence.co.uk for people over 18. also runs local/online support groups, residentials, workshops, etc. etc.!

A list of trans-friendly therapists/counsellors (accredited by GI)

LGBT Switchboard: 0800 0119 100 or webchat

AKT: supporting LGBTQ+ people aged 16-25 experiencing homelessness

for solidarity:

if you have the funds to do so, donate to support any of the charities linked above. donate to a trans person's gender affirming (life-saving) care.

reach out to your trans loved ones and make sure they know how loved, precious and vital their lives are, how tight you are holding them, and how hard you are going to fight for them.

follow TransActual's steps for taking action.

write to your local MP.

attend the emergency demonstration at Parliament Square (London) on Saturday 19th April, 1pm.

leave a message of love and solidarity on the TransPride wall of hope.

i am a therapist irl and i cannot recommend Gendered Intelligence's training on Working with Trans clients enough if you are also in this field!

for fandom:

do not look away. listen and engage and stay educated. be vocal about the harm jkr has done/is doing, have those conversations with others if you can, both irl and online, and do not leave the labour of this task to those most impacted by its harm.

dearest heart messrsrobyn (on tiktok) has put together some truly incredible resources on ethical fandom engagement, including his podcast.

idk how much longer i will be in this space, but however long it ends up being, i intend to be loud about this. trans folks are too important not to be.

*I'm happy to add to/remove links on here as needed.

[separatetheyolk]

I need need neeeeeed headcanons of a trans!reader and Lewis Hamilton featuring Isack Hadjar, they’re little selfie moment is living rent free in my head rn

Lewis Hamilton X Trans!Driver!Reader

ʚɞfeaturing: Lewis Hamilton & Isack Hadjar

ʚɞ Trans!Driver!Reader headcannons

ʚɞ contents: mentions of needles, surgery, media, dysphoria obvs

ʚɞ word count: 1,135

ʚɞ note: trans man reader intended. He/him pronouns used.

✰ Coming out:

He was a little blind sighted at first

Initially, you took that as he was against the whole thing

He quickly cleared that up

If over text/phone call, he'd go over the very basics with you. Name, pronouns, if there were any plans on coming out publicly, who knew, how should he address you to others, that kinda thing

He'd save the more in depth topics to talk about in person. Whether that would be in a few hours or a few weeks

Transition goals, coming out to the public/family/friends if you haven't by the time he's home, things he can do to make your life easier, how he should address transphobia, so on so forth

This man would RESEARCH

Like im talking what would usually be a minimalist phone/laptop with about 4 tabs open at any one time would turn into an absolute shambles of about thrity tabs and 4 separate notes

Would absolutely buy a new notebook JUST for writing down what he's learnt

If you learnt about this he would turn into a blushing, stuttering mess

Would absolutely help you come out to the rest of the drivers/crews if you needed. Would tell them for you if you decide that's best

Would absolutely drive home his support for the LGBT community, support/fund charities, create spaces for them in racing, stand out against injustices

✰ Transition:

The first thing that would be discussed in regards to your transition would be what would you want done

He'd make a list

Though obviously would leave it open for you to add or take away things

Take things at your pace

With your permission, he'd probably take care of the forms side of things such as name changes, gender markers, new passports, visas, paddock passes

Would help you to plan your transition around the F1 seasons

For the sake of easiness on my part we'll say you want top surgery and testoseterone a short haircut and all the things that come with a social transition

Would help you find a barber you like and would make sure they're LGBT friendly and do home visits. Partly for your comfortablility with not wanting to be stared at by other clients but also because media, fans, photos, big nono

Would help you gain your diagnosis of gender dysphoria

Then would help you with getting testosterone

Obviously, because of going on testosterone, the question of kids/egg freezing would come up

Essentially, it came down to Lewis is 40 now, you're both focusing on careers, but you never know so best to just freeze them. Just incase

If you don't use them? Eh, oh well.

If he's afraid of needles (?? The guy shits himself at the sight of an onion but drives f1 cars and scares tigers so i really dont know?? He also has tattoos? But so do I and i'm still scared of them so??) he'd get over them to help you with T shots

Sit there and massage your thigh if it started to hurt after the shot/if your nerves start to get shot from the injections. Would not stop unless you say your uncomfortable or the pain dies down

Would wait on you hand and foot after your top surgery.

Absolutely advocate for you medically if you needed him to. "He's struggling to keep down food" "He said he's in pain. Can you up the pain medication or no?" "Hey, just calling to ask if we can loosen the bandages at all? He say's the drains feel like they're cutting his skin"

Bad dysphoria day? "Here babe, take my hoodie" "You need some privacy?" "Come on, lets get you away from these cameras" "I know you don't like wearing the race suit but you can't race in your binder" "Lazy day? Sure, we can do that"

If and when you're comfortable, he'd 100% worship your body. He might not 100% understand why you dislike it, but damn he's gonna help you to like it even if it's just for an hour

He'd either stand in front of wind to block it or direct you out the way of it to stop it from showing your waist and chest because he can't have you feeling uncomfortable :(

Just small things like that. Things that most probably wouldn't even think of but he does

✰ Fashion:

He would defo help you explore mens fashion

I mean, this is Sir Lewis Hamilton afterall

He'd keep mental notes of what styles you liked, the different cuts, the fabrics, even ones you'd shown intrest in but too scared to try on

He'd also probably take mental notes of what shirts you liked but didn't want to buy due to lack of top surgery

And then would buy them for you after you've had it and healed

Ofc, lots of baggy clothing and hoodies on standby too

Would probably start wearing them more often for you incase you ever needed it

If he's not wearing one it's probably in a bag

Would teach you how to layer clothes to hide your waist

Notices how your jeans are too long length wise but fit your waist so offers to get them tailored

Quickly learns what colours hide shadows of your chest better

When bad dysphoria days fall on hot days and you're wearing thick clothing, this man is reminding you to drink more than a race engineer

Would sneak off to help you put your binder on before any podium celebrations regardless on weather your up there or not

Because sweaty, binder sticks, get stuck if you attempt to put it on alone

Eventually FIA had to stop fining you for being late after your team and fans threw the word "discrimination" around

Defo have like 5 different binders

✰ Media:

Lewis isn't typically one for confrontation in public. Though would absolutely stand by you in boycotting from races in *cough*certain*cough* countries.

If you're in a photo and you decide you don't like it, photo will immediately be deleted and another will be taken without you in it if thats what you want. Zero questions asked

More recently the selfie with Isack. He knew immediately you hated it. He prompted Isack to delete it then encouraged him to take a new selfie without you in it

He was a little confused

Lewis let you explain in private

Say no more, first photo deleted

Doesn’t take a single "joke" photo of you, doesn’t post any photos online with you in them without your permission. Even if you're barely recognisable in the background and it's on his private accounts

Honestly, Isack would be an absolute sweetheart about it all

Lewis would block you from cameras if needed

Tbh most of the grid would do that

Basically, the guy would be your absolute rock.

[letters-to-lgbt-kids]

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

If you consume a certain type of online content about friendship (often in the form of “10 signs of a fake friend” and similar), you may almost get to the conclusion that anyone who is not your best friend is your enemy - or at the very least, that any friend who doesn’t know *everything* about you is entirely worthless to your life and you would be better off cutting them out.

That’s a pretty radical view of human relationships, and it would ultimately cost you a lot of joyful social interactions if you strictly adhered to it. 

Unless you barricade yourself in your room and never leave it (which would be pretty awful for your mental health), you will end up in situations where you have regular interactions with people who are not your best friend ever. The ability to be friendly to those people, to enjoy those connections, isn’t ���fake” or “toxic”. It’s an important source of positive social interactions and a valuable tool to fight loneliness.

If you have a constant social circle, these may be the friends (or partners, family members etc) of your friends, those “I’m not directly friends with Rose but I’m friends with Lisa and Lisa is friends with Rose” situations. But even if you do not have a circle like that (because you don’t make friends easily, you have social anxiety etc.), there will most likely be some “casually friendly” people in your life, as these are often simply the people who happen to be at the same place at the same time as you: colleagues, classmates, neighbors, people at places you frequent (employees in stores, patients in group therapy etc.), or even just the guy who waits for the same bus as you do every Monday morning. 

These people wouldn’t be the first one you’d call if you need help with a potentially life changing decision. They don’t know all your deepest secrets, fears and desires, they may not even be able to name your favorite color (or hey, maybe not even your name), and they certainly won’t be able to list all your identity labels, political beliefs, medical diagnoses, traumatic experiences and sexual fantasies - but they don’t need to. 

It’s wonderful if you have a best friend (or another close relationship) who fulfills that role of being someone you’d trust blindly, someone who knows you inside and out. But not everyone you are friendly with needs to be that for you. There’s enough other roles. Acquaintances, work friends, casual friends, small-talk friends… those roles aren’t worthless. They won’t be the one you call at 3 am after a breakup, but they can inject a bit of joy in your everyday life. They can offer friendly interactions that come with no pressure to go beyond the surface (something that’s valuable in itself! It would be very exhausting if everyone already knew everything about you and every conversation had to be deep and philosophical). 

Plus, only knowing each other in one context has its advantages: your best friend may not know anything about the printer issue in your office but your office friend sure does! And if you met someone in a crime novel forum and all you ever talk about is crime novels, is that really negative? Isn’t it beautiful to know someone who shares your passion for that genre and is always happy to talk about it? 

Of course an office friend or a crime novel friend can also become a best friend over the years. There are plenty of people who meet in a specific context, bond in that context and gradually develop a relationship out of that context as well. But one-context friends still enrich your life. 

Even if that context is purely “we say hi when we see each other at the bus stop”, it’s a positive social interaction - and those will bring color and joy into both of your lives. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad