#Self-Improvement Books

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Explore 'Ikigai' by Hector Garcia: Discover the Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life #TBRChallenge #bookchatter @Blogchatter

Living Longer and Happier: Unveiling the Japanese Secret of Ikigai In the quest for longevity and happiness, many cultures have explored various paths, but few have developed as compelling an approach as the Japanese concept of ikigai. Translating roughly to “a reason for being,” ikigai is a philosophy that intertwines one’s passion, mission, vocation, and profession, suggesting that the…

[amethystamaris]

2024's Must-Have Reads: Discover the Latest in Physical Books – Updated Pricing!The Physical Books 2024!

Why These Books Are a Must-Have This Year: Our 2024 collection, featuring “STORM,” “The Vibrational Cure,” and “The Birth of a Genre,” is curated to provide not just reading material but immersive journeys. Whether you seek a transformative personal experience with “The Vibrational Cure,” an artistic and cultural exploration in “The Birth of a Genre,” or a creative coloring adventure in “STORM,”…

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25 Laws of power for women

Conceal your goals especially the ones that are appealing. Losing weight, reinventing yourself, marrying wealthy. Instead talk about your altruistic goals - to help children, invest in education, this will chase insecure people with vile intentions.

Do not give anyone your source of power: Was is a book that changed your life? a mentor? a movie? Never give up your secret to success. If forced to do say allude to God, the universe, the a random phenomenon

Use the patriarchy to your favor; we live in a world that is, only associate with men who have power, use that power for good.

Never appear too perfect but be selectively vulnerable when needed. Only share something that you will be comfortable saying. You might say “I forget my keys all the time,” “I don’t know how to perfectly park a car “. But never disclose something you are not comfortable with just because you are afraid of being perfect.

Maintain distance in relationships. Friends are the best and you need them. But if you feel that they are becoming too dependent, see them at your own will. But also the reverse could be the case. Your friend may keep a distance, and that is the way of life. You have got to move on from it.

Develop your own style that makes you unique, beautiful, and elegant. Avoid trying to fit in the crowd of people who claim to care less about their style yet have too many opinions about other women’s style

Avoid male friends at all cost, you will have male colleagues, male bosses, male acquaintances, business partners. Keep it that way. You do not want a Truman Capote divulging your secrets to the world. Do not keep a man who does not fit your standard.

You do not have to win at every game. Pick and choose what is best for you and leave room for others. And step down if you have attained that level of success, do not let the society do it for you.

Trust people but remember that we are all humans. So trust with discretion!

Confuse people with kindness; people are not always comfortable with beautiful and intelligent women. That power is too intimidating so confuse them by being genuinely generous, curious, kind, and passionate.

Keep your strong opinions to yourself.. if you support a movement, a way of life, do so silently.

We all have dirty laundry, wash them privately, don’t expose yourself. Remain silent when people try to attack you or shame you. Whatever is not confirmed is not true. You are the only one who knows all the truth about you.

Don’t attract pity or praise: People who pity you do not help you, in fact they might think that you are weak and could mock you at their annual gossipping meeting. And if you are doing things for the sake of praise you are wasting your time.

Choose yourself all the time; never put any one’s feelings above yours.

Trust your own intuition if you feel someone is being malicious towards you, giving you back handed compliments then you should let them go

Never speak bad of another woman. Do not lazy around gossipping. Keep your hands clean and your conscience clear.

Avoid women with low self esteem they will bring you down. For some reason they do not like seeing other women who are doing better than them

Be careful who you seek validation from. Not everyone needs to be pleased. If they are in no way capable of contributing to your life in the ways you prefer, then don’t ask them for their opinions or please them.

Do not compete with other women, if you do you are only putting them on a pedestal. You are making the the standard by which you measure your progress. If you do compete, begin digging your grave.

Do not give unsolicited advice, do not share the inner workings of your mind, If your mouth is very charitable you better start journaling.

Be well-rounded and interesting. It attracts people. It also keeps you busy because you are continually improving and learning. An idle mind is an easily subdued one.

Avoid women who want to live vicariously through you; they want to know who you know, shop where you shop, befriend who you befriend, wear what you wear.

Pay attention to the source of your discomfort; get rid of them. You tell them your dreams and they remind you of all your hindrances. They ask why are you dressed so fancy as though fancy isn’t subjective. They undermine you interests and goals. They will also be quick to bring you down because they are afraid of your potential.

Do not fear power or please power. When we see powerful people we try to hard to befriend them, to be close to them but you need to be comfortable without them. Don’t push yourself in the name of friendship, do not try too hard to be in their inner circle. Your independence of mind is the most important. Instead become a powerful woman, aloof to the presence of power but aware of its importance. Be an ingenious and intelligent and use your creativity to uplift yourself. When you do so it will be hard to ignore you. Even the powerful will become an ally.

Enjoy moments of solitude. Use that time to develop yourself, improve your body, learn new skills, create with your mind, read widely, become more elegant, then launch yourself.

Remember the most powerful women are the most intelligent. Inspired by Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power. Use at your discretion.

[counselorssoapbox]

Suggested self-help and self-improvement books

Suggested self-help and self-improvement books By David Joel Miller, MS, Licensed Therapist & Counselor. Adding bibliotherapy to counseling. I often recommend books to my counseling and coaching clients. Here is a short list of some of the books I frequently recommend. I hope you will find some of them helpful. All of these would make a great gift for someone on your holiday list or for yourself…

[ivemanifest]

Your perspective can change everything.

[theambitiouswoman]

11 Lessons from the book Atomic Habits 🌟

"Atomic Habits" focuses on incorporating small, consistent habits into our lives to bring about significant change over time. The book introduces a four-step model for building habits, emphasizing cues, cravings, responses, and rewards. It also guides you in overcoming bad habits and self-limiting beliefs, demonstrating how simple habits can lead to substantial progress toward our goals.

Lesson 1: Habits Over Hobbies: You are not inherently bad at your hobbies. Instead, it's the lack of consistent habits that has held you back.

Lesson 2: Identity Matters: Our self-image greatly influences our habits. While it's important, you shouldn't let it hinder your growth.

Lesson 3: Stacking Habits: The concept of habit stacking involves adding a new behavior to an existing habit, which can help you build a more effective morning routine.

Lesson 4: Embrace the System: Rather than solely focusing on goals, it's important to love the process—the journey itself. It's about embracing the system that leads to progress.

Lesson 5: Something is Better Than Nothing: Even small efforts are valuable. The "Two-Minute Rule" encourages starting new habits that take less than two minutes.

Lesson 6: Overcoming Boredom: Staying motivated in habits requires keeping them interesting and within the right level of challenge. "The Goldilocks Rule" emphasizes that tasks on the edge of our abilities are most motivating. Habits won't always be exciting, and that's okay.

Lesson 7: Bouncing Back from Misses: Missing a habit occasionally is normal, but missing it twice can turn into a new habit. The key is to rebound quickly, maintaining the compound gains from previous good days.

Lesson 8: Shaping Your Potential: Our genes affect what we're good at and the chances we get. Instead of feeling stuck by genes, we should use our strengths. Special traits are like superpowers. Questions in the chapter help us find what we care about. Quotes remind us to focus on self-improvement, not comparing. Genes alone don't bring success; effort matters. Genes give hints, but we shape our success by using our strengths.

Lesson 9: Creating a Supportive Environment: Our surroundings are important. If we change our environment to match the habits we want, we're more likely to succeed. By setting up our space to help our habits, we can make good habits easier. People often limit themselves by thinking they can't do better. He also says that just luck doesn't explain success – hard work does. Whether it's moving stuff around or using visual reminders, these changes can really help us succeed in the long run.

Lesson 10: Creating or Breaking Habits: The Four Steps

These four steps are the foundation upon which many of his ideas are built. They are not only applicable to creating positive habits but also to breaking negative ones.

Cue: This is the trigger that initiates a behavior. It can be a specific time, location, emotional state, or preceding action that prompts your brain to start a habit.

Craving: Craving is the motivation or desire behind a habit. It's the feeling that drives you to engage in the behavior triggered by the cue. It's important to understand the underlying craving to effectively change a habit.

Response: Response refers to the actual behavior that you perform as a result of the cue and craving. This is the action that you take in response to the trigger and motivation.

Reward: Rewards are the positive outcomes or feelings that you associate with completing the habit. They reinforce the habit loop by making you more likely to repeat the behavior in the future.

He explains that these four steps form a habit loop, where each step is interconnected. The loop starts with a cue, followed by craving, which leads to a response, and ultimately ends with a reward. If any part of this loop isn't satisfying, the habit is less likely to stick.

Lesson 11: Success is a product of daily habits and overnight success is not overnight:

Success is not a result of overnight transformations but is instead rooted in the daily habits we cultivate. By recognizing the power of consistent, incremental actions, we can build a solid foundation for lasting success. This perspective challenges the allure of instant success and encourages us to focus on the journey of continuous improvement through daily habits.

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[financeprincess]

Gaining & Maintaining Power: A Reading List

Power & Manipulation

48 Laws of Power by Robert Green

The Prince by Machiavelli

Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis by Eric Berne

The Dictator's Handbook: Why Bad Behavior is Almost Always Good Politics by Bruce Bueno de Mesquita

Power: Why Some People Have It - And Others Don't by Jeffrey Pfeffer

The Wisdom of Psychopaths: What Saints, Spies, and Serial Killers Can Teach Us About Success by Kevin Dutton

Charisma & Social Skills

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson

How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships by Leil Lowndes

The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism by Olivia Fox Cabane

Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People by Vanessa Van Edwards

Never Eat Alone, And the Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time by Keith Ferrazzi

The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over by Jack Schafer

Persuasion

The Art of Seduction by Robert Green

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini

Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don't Matter by Scott Adams

Pre-Suasion: Channeling Attention for Change by Robert Cialdini

Win Your Case: How to Present, Persuade, and Prevail, Every Place, Every Time by Gerry Spence

Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness by Richard Thaler

Methods of Persuasion: How to Use Psychology to Influence Human Behavior by Nick Kolenda

You Can Read Anyone: Never Be Fooled, Lied to, or Taken Advantage of Again by David Lieberman

Influencer: The New Science of Leading Change by Kerry Patterson

Psychology

Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman

The Art of Choosing by Sheena Iyengar

Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel Pink

Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions by Dan Ariely

Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman

The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Green

Philosophy and Mindset

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius

Letters from a Stoic by Seneca

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

Mastery by Robert Green

The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill

Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder by Nassim Taleb

The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday

Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life by Hector Garcia

Public Speaking, Rhetoric, and Debating

Rhetoric by Aristotle

How to Argue & Win Every Time by Gerry Spence

The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking by Dale Carnegie

The Art of Public Speaking by Dale Carnegie

Talk Like TED: The 9 Public Speaking Secrets of the World's Top Minds by Carmine Gallo

Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion by George Thompson, PhD

Thank You for Arguing by Jay Heinrichs

p.s. a lot of these can be found on z-library.

xoxo ❤️

[isbahstudio]

🌸 Commonplace Notebook

A commonplace a notebook, is a notebook where you can document everything. It is a singular notebook that acts a companion.

You can take it anywhere and write anything in it. There are no limitations and it is not meant to be perfect.

A commonplace notebook is an extemporaneous dialogue between you and the notebook.

Oftentimes, we designate specific notebooks to specific categories. For example, we may have a bullet journal for planning, a diary for reflections, a small notepad for ideas, and so forth. 

A commonplace notebook aims to combine all categories while releasing perfectionism. It is meant to be a notebook that encapsulates your life at that moment in time, what you were doing, what you were planning, what you were thinking or feeling.

What To Write In A Commonplace Notebook

🟣 Daily Reflections

🟣 Weekly Planning

🟣 To-Do Lists

🟣 Book & Movie Reviews

🟣 Daily Mood Tracker

🟣 Ideas for projects

🟣 Moodboards with pictures

🟣 Shopping lists

🟣 Goals set & Goals achieved

🟣 Manifestation

🟣 Favorite quotes & poetry

🟣 Current favorite songs

🟣 Current favorite foods

🟣 Written accounts about travel

🟣 Deeper thoughts & ideas

[jaideepkhanduja]

Explore 'Ikigai' by Hector Garcia: Discover the Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life #TBRChallenge #bookchatter @Blogchatter

Living Longer and Happier: Unveiling the Japanese Secret of Ikigai In the quest for longevity and happiness, many cultures have explored various paths, but few have developed as compelling an approach as the Japanese concept of ikigai. Translating roughly to “a reason for being,” ikigai is a philosophy that intertwines one’s passion, mission, vocation, and profession, suggesting that the…

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I have heard many men say that they want an "intelligent woman" in their life. I would encourage them to think well.

Girls and intelligent women make their own decisions, have their own desires and set boundaries. You will never be the center of her life because she revolves around them. An intelligent woman will not allow you to manipulate or blackmail her. She is responsible for her actions.

Intelligent girls doubt, analyze, debate, displease, progress. These women had a life before you appeared in their lives, and will continue to have it even when you leave their lives. Such women report, do not ask permission. They are not looking for a leader to follow, a father who solved their life, or a child to save themselves by guiding them. They do not want to follow you, nor are they willing to show the right way to others.

Intelligent girls know that living without violence is a right, not a luxury or a privilege. They express nervousness, sadness, pleasure and fear in the same way, because they know that fear does not make them look weak, nor does nervousness make them look "masculine". These two emotions, but also the others, all together, make it look humane and that's enough.

An intelligent woman is free because she has fought for her freedom. But she is not a victim, she is a survivor. Do not try to limit her, because she will know how to escape. An intelligent woman knows that her value does not lie in the physical aspect. Think twice before judging her age, height, weight or sexual behavior because this is emotional violence and she understands it.

So before you say you want an "intelligent woman" in your life, ask yourself if you are really ready to be a part of her life.

— Gabriel Garcia Marquez

[the-joy-of-knowledge]

Common Sense for women in their 20s

Define your raison d'être

Journal regularly, in fact daily

Figure out the right hairstyle for you

Buy clothes that fit your body type

Learn to do you own makeup if you'd like to wear it

Observe, observe, observe

Try to participate in the society

Know that not everything is within your control

Do not live in fantasy or fear, they are distractions

Read books

Learn to form you own opinion

Do not force friendships

Do not stress the small stuff

Spend time getting to know your self

Know women's history & History and use it to your advantage

Have some intellectual rigor

Create your own community

Find a third space

Take your vitamins

Your wellbeing and wellness should be your priority

Have role models for every area of your life

Have discretion

Do not be quick to anger

Have mentors and be a mentor to others

Your social skills will take you far

Be responsible, the world is not so forgiving to women

Know when to stand out

Know when to fit in

Curate your life to fit your goals and desires

Understand strategy and how best to use it to your advantage

Get acquainted with what maks the world go round

You have to climb socially

You need allies in areas where you want to win

Be kind

Be content with what you have, otherwise you will pay the price

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[ivemanifest]

So much fucking opportunities are existing right now in this moment for you

[theambitiouswoman]

Another book recommendation. Read this if you want to stop caring what people think, put yourself first and create the life you want. Once you stop putting other people before you by worrying about their criticism or approval, it opens you up to a lot of possibilities. It opens you up to you living your true life as your actual self. It takes courage to be your self, to choose happiness and it’s probably what you are missing that could change your whole life 🤍

[femmefatalevibe]

What are some finance books you recommend? Love your blog <3

Hi love – thank you so much! These books come to mind:

The Intelligent Investor by Benjamin Graham

The Little Book of Common Sense Investing by John C. Bogle 

The Psychology of Money: Timeless Lessons on Wealth, Greed, and Happiness by Morgan Housel

Rich As F*ck: More Money Than You Know What to Do With by Amanda Frances 

Rich Bitch  by Nicole Lapin 

Get Good with Money: Ten Simple Steps to Becoming Financially Whole by Tiffany “The Budgetnista” Aliche

Die With Zero: Getting All You Can from Your Money and Your Life by Bill Perkins 

Smart Women Finish Rich by David Bach 

Hope this helps xx