#WHOEVER DISAGREES DONT HAVE GOOD OPINIONS

[sir-meows-a-lot]

WHAT do you guys know about my boy Frank Sinatra !!!

[the1975attheirverybest]

my god i respect you so much. it always makes me so sad when people blindly support someone whether it be Taylor Swift or Harry Styles or whoever. refusing to allow space for criticism is so incredibly unhealthy and scary. in my opinion it actually dilutes your love for that person and makes you seem a lot less genuine. I love Matty to death but im not afraid to disagree with or be disappointed in him. When i support him its cause I mean it. also this women is literally an eco-terrorist and her fans dgaf i dont get it are they all conservatives or is the cognitive dissonance that severe? anyways Bisan should’ve been person of the year

AWWW BESTIE! That means a lot coming from you! A shy enjoyer of your blog. Lmao.

Yeah, I will say, this is starting to increasingly apply to Harry Styles for me as well. Like, Mr. Treat People With Kindness has nothing to say about genocide? Just wants to sell disgusting smelling perfume and capitalize off the girlies projecting a perfection version of their fantasies onto him. Yall know im a Harry Stan. But lost respect for him fr.

Yes, I think that maybe the 1975 has ruined pop music for me. Because with Matty, I know I can have good faith arguments with his stance. Whether I agree or disagree. Whether he’s done something shitty or iconic I know that he believes in it and he did it because he was taking a stand and there’s substance behind it. Idk, but the older i get, the more important this kind of thing is for me in the art that I consume.

[yourbittertarottruth]

honestly i agree about going for money in life cause rich ppl get to do so much but us average folk are like too average to have a lavish lifestyle as theirs. heck id even do music if i had any talent not just for money but the things these groups get to do nowadays versus what life was like before social media came about is a huge difference. sometimes its just a matter of being either too old or not young enough to do something like that nowadays as most music groups seem to sadly be getting younger and younger, i also feel like for those who have actual talent honestly id just go for it but theres always smth like age or different circumatances or perhaps not getting the right opportunities either or being somewhat limited in options. i do think life gets to a point where theres fewer options the older you are as its best to learn from a young age in order to succeed and gain that money. idk these are just my opinions you can disagree if you want.

so many folk fretting about fs and whatnot when they really never tried being single like theres not much responsibility besides whoever else is in your life and again honestly i do not think it matters if we do or dont date an fs. i think people were fretting about jungkooks fs so much lately bc they didnt want to be single or wanted jk for themselves and even if idols do date it would never make their fans happy for their idols which is sad

the fact its even called a dating scandal in korea shows how narrow minded it still is like what do people expect idols to be doing? dating rocks? no one? but i also think there would be some uproar regardless bc of who they are or their title as idols. like they can date a normal non idol but their fans still going to be upset that it isnt themselves. ahh well they cant win :( hence why in a way im glad im not an idols fs lol thered still be many cons or in general consequences. i do think idols are a bit more open minded in terms of other cultures and what they might want in their fs but their fans should accept its just never going to be them

sorry for my rambling and sorry for your loss too hope u feel better soon <3 ^^

Hello! So, I don't remember when I said "going for rich people is a good plan" or whatever but I mean there's points to both sides. To accumulate that wealth you need to be willing to put the hard work in, even if you marry into it. If you're a child of a wealthy family, you need to put in the work to maintain that wealth and legacy. It's a chain of hard work - I personally think you can do anything whether you're old, young, etc. It's just a matter of your mindset and how much work you're willing to put in! These days, it's mainly more about the connections you have and the hard work you put in. Social media can make you famous/popular, but it cannot single-handedly generate millions unless your life goal is to be an influencer doing TikTok dances 5 times a day for a living. I think learning certain skills (e.g. budgeting) are important and can help you establish that wealth earlier on, but you can always teach yourself. I have no prior experience owning a business, but the skills I learned throughout daily tasks over the course of my life have helped me to reach a point where an idea is starting to blossom into an actual product. And I agree, being single gives you more time to work on yourself to allow people to enter your life without the situation feeling forced. You get to become more comfortable with yourself, you make life-long connections/friendships, you develop hobbies, stories to tell your future friends, etc. It's a time to establish yourself and experience personal growth when you're single, not stress over finding a new relationship!! I think each relationship, friendship, etc brings a life lesson alongside it - so it doesn't matter whether that person is the person you intend to marry or not. Just enjoy the present without panicking about the future, that's the best advice I can think to tell everyone as well as my past self <33 It is quite sad, a lot of idols seem lonely. Jackson Wang is a prime example of this, he's expressed this loneliness a lot. Idols have the right to be happy without their "fans" criticising them for wanting a future where they have a family or just aren't dancing on stage anymore. That is quite narrow-minded, I think it'd be better if netizens and delusional international fans took a break from Kpop content for a month and got some hobbies, worked on themselves and enjoyed life for a bit. To an extent, I do pity some idols FS that I read for. They seem very closed off/introverted and would not do well if the relationship were to get leaked to the media, especially if their information is also leaked and they are a non-idol. I just hope they will be alright and fans will be more accepting sooner or later ! Idols ideal types may not always be the kind of people they'll marry - but they do definitely know what they like in a person. Fans do need to accept that the most likely case is that it is not them! However, the industry thrives off of parasocial relationships. It's fine, no worries! This discussion has certainly been interesting, feel free to respond to this via another ask if you would like to. And thank you so much :] <3

[rogdona]

I have been thinking about our ocs mainly about which ocs of mine would be friends with your ocs and the idea of it is stuck in my head

i feel like Elias and Rogdona with Erick and Philip maybe

Oh and Ullula would probably get along with mother of all or the red moon

i don't know, what do you think?

who would get along with who in your opinion

YESSSS SAMEEE ITS BEEN IN MY HEAD THE WHOLE TIME I LOVE ITTTT💕💕💕💕

however im so sorry to say u chose the worst and most complicated ppl to be friends with 😭😭😭

the thing w the first two is that it is VERY hard to get them to like u, however i think w some (A LOT OF) persistence u could maybe get them to begrudgingly admit u may be friends

the main conflict w those two however would b their morality and it clashing w ur characters...

i hateee putting characters on 'good guy' and 'bad guy' boxes but these two would definitely be badddd...

they go killing ppl and it isnt a 'noble' reasoning like killing horrible ppl they just get whoever they can kill without getting caught..if a kid wanders a lil too far....well 🤷

ur not gonna catch em crying either, neither feels bad ab it. elias is v goal oriented and justifies himself w that and rogdona.....well hes himself thats like a hobby to him 😵‍💫

elias is also veryyyy mistrustful so if ur character disagrees a lot w him hell be suspicious, and if they always agree w him hell also be suspicious AND if they also kill ppl hes not gonna trust em at all, ullula forbid they turn on him🙃🙃 despite all their time together he still doesnt truly trust rogdona

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ULLULA AND THE OTHER GUYS HOWEVER!! i think they could b friends!!

i dont remember much ab mother of all (i rlly gotta reread the lore 😭😭) but u said the red moon was a god!!

i think ullula could get along w most god characters

u see, shes meant to be humanitys guide and protector, so if ur character is a force of pure good or evil she may not like them very much at first but she recognizes that conflict is necessary for guidance and protection to be needed, and peace is necessary for there to be a conclusion

ullula is also v skittish and tends to disappear at any sign of trouble thats out of her hands, but if they can deal with that im sure shell appreciate it and be a good friend

[legendofthephoenixsblog]

!! SPOILERS FOR SPACE BABIES AND THE DEVILS CHORD AHEAD!!

This is my personal views on the first two episodes of Doctor Who.

Space Babies

At first I was worried about this episode being the first episode. I had been thinking how could babies be controlling a space ship with a monster apparently hunting them down in their own ship. I was also wondering what was Russel thinking of this being a story, but I kept an open mind before I watched it.

This episode was a different direction to previous episodes of Doctor Who. While I was watching this episode there was a few things that did erk me a few times. One of the things was that the Doctor kept saying babies, babies. Space babies. He could have just said that one time and that was enough for it. There was also a few times that I felt that it was hard to understand Ncutis's accent but I think that was just his accent coming through, other than that he and Millie were excellent together in this episode. I didn't realise that the babies talked with their own voices, I had thought that their prams had a telepathic circuit that let them talk.

For the boogeyman, the creature design was alright but it might be me having a certain view of what the Bogeyman should look like. Then again the Bogeyman look will change depend on where you grew up and what your culture is like. It being made out of snot I did find funny. As for how the Bogeyman came to be it was all because of a computer glitches and it saw that children needed a monster to be scared off so it created a creature, but a computer does not have imagination like humans so it took the boogies out of Bogeyman.

The plot for Space Babies, it was alright for being Ruby's first adventure with the Doctor. It was not a ground breaking episode, but it was not an awful episode it was alright. That is if you dont think to hard into.

The episode did go over that when the crew abandoned ship they left the machine that created the new babies on as a part of the companies regulations. This plays deeply into the issue of when human life begins, but I felt that it was cruel that these babies were essentially left to die in a space craft because a company didn't want to switch off a machine that would create more life. I know there will be people who will disagree with me on this, but it brought up the thoughts as I write this that did the company think what would happen to the babies that were already on board or was it just them trying to look good on not switching the machine on.

So moving on from the machine to Ruby and the Doctor. They were amazing in this episode. Ruby asked the right questions to the Doctor that allowed him to explain what the Tardis is and who he is to her (and the new audience). I did like how we got something new from the Church scene that led to the Doctor saying he can't go there on her birthday to see who her mother (or whoever dropped her there) was. On hearing that I thought of Father's Day that had the Reapers in. I would love to see them back. Mainly because they look like dragons and need to come back in my opinion.

The Devils Chord

This episode from the get go felt like Doctor Who to me. There was a menace in Mastero. I was worried about them as a character but when it was revealed that they were a child of the Toymaker a few things made sense to me. They are a interdimensal being a god the Doctor called them so in essence they could be anything.

This episode from the get go was chaotic but I think that was the purpose of it as this seems to be the direct episode after The Giggle, which the Doctor refrences in the episode.

In this episode I had thought that the Doctor was going to be beat. I had also thought that it was going to be Ruby who would find the last chord to send them back to where Mastro came from.

When Mastro had captured Ruby they had said that there was another song deep in her heart. That got me thinking that Ruby is not all she appears to be. Yeah this series will see us finding out who she is and who her parents are. I have a feeling that her parents can either be the one who is waiting or even something releated to the Toymaker, like he has created a companion for the Doctor so that the Doctor can see how much his life has changed because of the Toymakers meddling.

Overall

The first two episodes were alright. There was a few cringy moments in them. The last song in the Devils Chord felt out of place but I am playing it up to that Meastros magic or influence was still in the area and that was the way for the characters to get music back into the world.

I do hope that we find out who Ruby is, but not the Doctor. I want his past to remain a mystery. Maybe grt new villains or allies from their Devision times involved that can expand on that story. I felt like the Timeless Child from what I have seen was rushed and not thought out well. To me it felt like a rushed idea that Chris had come up. It is a good idea and hopefully with Russel having more time to play around with it he can develop it a bit more.

Again I have a few theories forming for both Ruby and the Doctor for this series. But I will wait until more of the series in uploaded into BBC iplayer before I see if I'm right or not.

Again these were just my thoughts and personal review on the first two episodes. I know people will disagree with me but that's alright

[baguantte]

HELLOHELLO!!!

I JUST SAW UR AMAZING HANAMAKI AMD ISSEI BABY ART AND IM DYINGGGG

tbh I thought it was sakusa at first lmao

SOOO I WAS WONDERING IF U COULD DO SAKUSA AND ATSUMU WITH THEIR PRECIOUS BABY???

PLEASE ANS THANK YOU

ITS ALWAYS AN HONOR TO REQUEST YOUR DUTIES HEHE

this will be very long and just my brief opinion on sakuatsu. if you disagree or don't want to read thats fine.

first off i'd like to say neither my requests or commissions are open so sorry about that. but more over this response is really just an excuse to air out my opinions on sakuatsu as a ship.

i dont think sakuatsu would ever have a baby. even though I know its popular for people to draw them with a baby i personally would never draw them having one and see it as out of character. i drew matsuhana with a baby because i find it believable as they both have ordinary jobs (or lack of one).

tbh i very much dislike how most sakuatsu is portrayed in the fandom. i think it works as a ship, but i find my opinions of how they operate much different than the common sakuatsu fanworks. i don't see much sakuatsu works, in fact i actually i avoid most, so maybe its a little skewed to say its different then common depictions as i don't see them enough to decide whats common. what im trying to get at is that i find most sakuatsu works i come across as ooc, such as sakuatsu having a baby.

they both are professional athletes who spend all their time thinking or practicing volleyball. they would not have time to tend to a baby nor would whoever you want to mpreg (if thats the route you chose for them having a baby) have time to be pregnant. i also think its a bit of a misread of atsumu as his entire character is loving volleyball more than anything. for him to give that up wouldn't make sense without it having to be ooc. when it comes to sakuatsu as a whole i feel as though people forget that sometimes someones true love doesnt have to be a person nor do peoples romantic relationships have to be the sappy lovey-dovey kind. sakuatsu to me would be a relationship rooted in understanding that both of them come second in each other life, with volleyball coming first. (well in atsumus case, sakusa just does things to feel satisfied and in this instance its to be good in volleyball.)

if you enjoy ooc works and creatations i wont stop you nor am i going to say its inherently wrong to enjoy yourself. but for me its hard for me to really appreciate those kinds of works because to me it's sort of erasing what made a character so charming in the first place.

[ot3]

hi miss ot3 im going through a dilemma and you seem really smart so id appreciate your opinion. i and some people i know are deciding on an important managerial position but the main candidate is completely unqualified for the role. i tried to suggest other candidates but the main reason theyre giving it to her is because shell feel bad otherwise. her partner is the main person supporting her and no one really wants to disagree with him because everyones friends. can i do anything or am i stuck?

well as a warning in advance im not qualified to answer this question At All on the grounds of anything but common sense. however with that caveat on the table i think you pretty obviously can't let this happen. i dont know entirely what you're working on here but i'm going to assume it is at least decently formal/official and of some consequence.

There's essentially no scenario in which hiring this woman doesn't blow up later, and if I had to guess it'd end up being much worse than whatever sort of blowout you stand to have with her and her boyfriend. For starters, whoever actually is qualified for this position that gets passed over will be rightfully bitter, if its someone you end up bringing on for this job/project at all. everyone having to work underneath her will be rightfully bitter, because there's nothing worse than having to take instructions from someone who doesn't know what theyre doing. in fact, id argue that you run a serious risk of your most competent workers walking out entirely, because the more skilled you are at something the more demeaning it is to be told to do it poorly, and the easier it is to find similar or better work/experience elsewhere.

It also threatens the integrity of whatever project you're working on that needs managing. managing is like a critical thing to Not Fuck Up if you want something done successfully and smoothly. i've actually got two very close family members who do project management for a living - my aunt who works for the bank of america, and my dad who works for the CDC - and it seems like the critical thing for managing people is to understand the collective skillset and capacity of your team well enough to let them do what they're good at. and frankly if this is a person who will make a big stink if theyre being told they don't have the skillset you're looking for, then this is probably something they lack the ability to do. Additionally, if someone is the kind of person who would make a huge stink about getting passed up for someone more qualified, they don't really seem like the kind of person you'd want to be working together with in the first place? it's just a one way ticket to having a subpar final product, if you're too afraid to critique them or their work for fear of backlash.

additionally if she really truly is incompetent, eventually at some point that will become so much of an issue that you can't keep her in this position anymore, which brings you back to square one. so really going through with this is just delaying and worsening the exact situation you're trying to avoid

if the other people who are making this decision with you agree that this woman is incompetent + want the work to succeed, then hopefully they'll come around to this line of reasoning. if they don't agree or aren't that invested in the final project, then it seems like you guys might have some irreconcilable differences regarding the subject in question.

[wprowers]

i want to talk about sonic boom characters.

Long post warning.

First of all i would like to say that i really enjoy sonic boom !! I think it has a really healthy and silly humor that for me it's always welcome, so i like this show and its characters. But don't take my opinion as something biased bc i don't really think it is, i can't be biased towards a piece of media that holds little to no value to the true canon mainline games.

I have seen people dragging this show to hell, and at the time it came out it recieved a LOT of criticism for VALID reasons, valid when it comes to comparing them to the actual canon personalities of these characters (which varies from media to media but its mostly the same concept, but you can't say they haven't fucked up in the characterization of certain characters in mainline games but thats for another day).

But neither sonic or amy or tails or whoever in boom actually have any meaning at all, do they have a backstory? a purpose? any serious fight? is eggman even their enemy? Absolutely not!!

BECAUSE THIS SHOW IS NOT MEANT TO TAKEN SERIOUSLY !!

If we are talking about knuckles, he is not smart !! he doesn't have a life mission to protect the emerald !! There's nothing going on for him !! he doesn't even remember anything, in one episode he suddenly realized he didn't have a family and started to look for one, getting manipulated into an "evil" complot and that's he most arc he has ever gotten in boom (found family trope at the end of the ep, rlly cute)

And i did see some worries about the franchise being influenced by the boom! characterization. Mostly for knuckles and amy.

As for knuckles i think that some of you watched the scu shortfilm and immediately thought that they were bringing boom!knux into the mix, i disagree wholeheartedly with this (if s3 comes out and it is like that well then...) i think that scu!knux is just someone who gets represented by his pure heart (as every good representation of knuckles) and lack of knowledge of his surroundings and the people who came into his life. He gets easily manipulated and doesn't know what icecream is, bc he has been a loner for so long !! and he does not know earth, that does not mean he's stupid in any way, and i dont think that's what they would go for in s3.

And for Amy I've seen the discourse that boom! generated around her, some claiming that it was the best amy, for her not overly girly attitude maybe or for the fact that her affection towards sonic was hidden and she didn't show it at all, even though it was stated that she liked him.

So I've seen people saying that due to this amy being well received, it has influenced on how they made her in modern media, which i don't think is that much of a true tbh??? Like besides twitter takeovers, i haven't seen much of boom!amy influence in any other thing, perhaps yes they took a different take for her in frontiers or other modern games, but she has always been true to what really her character is, sonic or not Amy is Amy. Its not about how they made boom! canon suddenly but what is the path they want her character to take while she is still connected to her emotions and love for sonic and everyone.

And no i don't think boom!amy is the best version of amy, i don't think any boom! character is the best version of themselves and they will never be, because there is nothing that conveys their true selves in this interpretation, so it's impossible for these characters to be that.

LETS NOT EVEN TALK ABOUT BOOM!SHADOW because that boy is not shadow at all, then again this is a character that suffered a lot of misinterpretations from his own creators so,,,

So im not making really any point in here?

just simply stating the obvious !! sonic boom is a show that you watch to have fun ! it does not have any action or true emotional moments, never has the team gone through a serious situation. You watch it because it's silly and you don't expect much else from it! Everyone is loveable in their own way if you look at them with the right eyes, so maybe you could enjoy this show without thinking about how out of character most things are.

love you sonic boom i will always defend you

[adhbabey]

hope its ok im responding to ur post abt paych critical! it is so relatable! there are lots of things i appreciate abt the psych critical/antipsych community & movement but i also like. dont understand why in the world so many ppl are like overwhelmingly against therapy. obv it doesnt work for everyone! ik its not available or accessible for everyone! but its such a vast & varied field and such an adaptable thing that like. i don’t think i’ll ever get why ppl direct their anger towards those of us who *do* benefit from therapy or find it a useful tool for recovery. yknow. what good does infighting do!!! who does that serve!! this has turned into shouting into the void a little bit, sorry about that

Yeah it's fine. Honestly I'm pretty anti psych about a lot of things, like the fact that people are abused or mistreated in medical situations and that people are forced to take medication, have their rights stripped away, etc.

And I, too, hate that people call their partners by words taken from disorders. Like, you shouldn't call people "narcissistic" or "psychotic" as an insult. Pathologicizing abusers is just really fucking harmful and stupid. The whole thing is misunderstanding why those words exist in the first place and just scapegoating mentally ill people.

But this doesn't mean words like dissociation, triggers, panic attack, depression, manipulation, gaslighting, etc. don't have their purpose and it doesn't mean everyone is misusing them. And it is just stupid to assume everyone is, and that's the problem with some people who are anti-psych.

Some people view professional help and medical terms and diagnoses as bad, and it just makes them sound like the people they disagree with. I'm psych critical, not against helpful tools and professional treatment. They should be used with consent and with autonomy. Removing and gatekeeping information and resources is what's bad.

I'm extremely pro-self diagnosis. Partly because I am psych critical and partly because I think we have the intelligence to figure things out for ourselves. That crazy people aren't too crazy to know that they are "crazy". That we have the ability to recognize the fact that something is wrong.

Self diagnosing people aren't stupid for taking medical knowledge and applying it to themselves, they're not pathologicizing all human experiences, and I think that people who argue that are dumb.

So like. There is a middle ground that people aren't noticing, because they lean too heavily to one side. I can't function without medication, but I'm terrified of being institutionalized and my family is somewhat ableist, so I struggle to find an option to get help. I think most people on the internet have found themselves in similar situations.

So like, the whole "stop pathologizing human experience" and that people say "the tiktokification of the internet is bad", like bitch, we all loved Vine. The whole thing is just missing the understanding that people are striving for accessibility and education, not whoever the fuck that takes it too far.

So yeah, thanks for sending an ask to let me talk about this more. Therapy does not solve all your problems, especially if your therapist is not the right one. But it's something people should still try and seek. Maybe it's helpful, maybe it's not.

But the fact of the matter is, is that people are literally just using terms to understand their experiences. Sometimes they'll take it too far, but there is a middle ground. There will always be normal and reasonable opinions within it, we should listen.

[the-faultofdaedalus]

ok wild idea, i know, but people are actually allowed to have different opinions on things! especially about characters! communication is NEVER perfect, and things are always lost in translation and the blanks are always filled in according to the exact unique context that whoever is doing the translating has experience.

it’s fine and good, even, that two people can read the same story about the same characters and come away with different thoughts on it. no one is the same as anyone else! we all read things differently! and that’s ok!

it’s also, shockingly, ok to have an opinion on this shit like, out loud. or on social media. that’s what social media is for. it’s to put your opinion on. of course like, the social part does mean that there’s an inherent risk that you could get clowned on for sharing your opinion but also like…. you are allowed to do that. it’s good to do that!

what’s the PROBLEM is when people think that someone expressing a (totally valid) opinion about a fictional character who isn’t real that is different from their interpretation is an excuse or incantation to be an asshole to that person. because now you are being a dick to someone about SOMETHING THAT DOESNT MATTER! it’s ok to disagree with them! it’s even ok to be like “hi, i see you have this opinion on this character bc of this content, i think you might be missing this piece of information, because i feel a different way but see how missing that context would make you feel that way, can we have a discussion about it?” (fucking of course you don’t have to be that formal just like, don’t be a dick about it jesus) because like. conversation is good! helping people solve puzzles with pieces of context they’re missing is fine! but if you more just going to be a dick about it, like… why.

like, you know what i do when i see an opinion about a character that i don’t like or agree with? i simply ignore it, or i clown on it but privately. in group chats. where - and this is the important bit! - the person i am disagreeing with cannot see it.

this shit is what the block button is for. that’s what filtered tags are for. everyone has their own opinion. everyone’s opinion is built from the context of their own life experience and whatever information they do have. you don’t have to AGREE with those opinions just, wtf do not go TO THEM being an asshole about those opinions.

like, i know, i get it. i hate seeing the shit tony antis are talking about but you know what i don’t do? i dont seek out their opinions. and i don’t go into their spaces to talk shit to them. because that’s just rude. i KNOW that people disliking your favorite character, especially one you ID with to any extent, can feel like it’s an attack on you. i know that! i get that! i deeply care about tony as a character, and i have friends i follow on here who have occasionally reblogged posts about him that make me feel like shit. but like… i dont confront them about it. i’m not an asshole to them because of that. i simply move on. MAYBE i bitch a little in DMs but ONCE AGAIN, THATS FINE, SINCE THEY WILL NEVER SEE IT AND ARE THEREFOR NOT HURT BY IT

listen be as fucking abnormal about characters as you want just don’t be a dick to real human people with real feelings because of it, ok?

[manie-sans-delire-x]

I think you're decontextualizing too much and talking from a privileged point of view. I'm not arguing with the objectivity of what your point is, but it's a very bland flat hill to die on, in my opinion. People can totally agree to disagree, but the whole "good luck living this way" or "it's never gonna happen" is nothing but a shrugging off problems just because they don't belong to you.

Of course trans folks have deeper issues, we've been fighting in a society that, by default, does not accept us and we're forced to explain our very existence on a daily (or whoever cares to, to be honest I dropped that one ball there). So that's why it's important to make people who are coming from said privileged spots (mind, I'm not using the word "privileged" to hop on a high horse and offend anyone) understand how some things are very easy adjustments to make to accommodate minorities. And you don't really need to know/profoundly understand /why/ it's important for them, you can simply trust it is if they say so.

It's like saying "why would I use City money to build a stupid ramp when wheelchair users can struggle a little and learn to climb a 3 inches step" or "why would I stop staring at that person's ass if it's out and it's natural for me to look at it" because you want to be better and it's not that deep.

Yet again, agree to disagree if adding "assigned at birth" is such an inconvenience. No one is word obsessed, but personally speaking I'll bend the usage of my language as much as I can to make sure everyone around me is comfortable and feels safe, I don't care and need to know why.

How am I decontextualizing or talking from a privileged point of view? I mean I suppose I am in that I am not trans? I'll give you that.

Why is my point of view a bland hill to die on but insisting on changing female/male to afab/amab isnt?

No I just truly believe and came to the realistic conclusion it will never happen, not in any of our lifetimes at least. Do you really expect that this is going to become the new normal, in every country and culture? Seriously?

Yeah damn straight Im shrugging it off, I cant help people who are determined to be unhappy over word choice. Its not my problem, as you said. Everyone elses life will go on as normal, only they will be stuck on this and being unhappy, only hurting themselves.

Changing a language is not "very easy adjustment", not at all. I mean clearly, or else all this fighting wouldnt be happening right? And ok, say English changes. What, now every other language in the world has to change? Oh boy, thats going to lead to a lot of confusion and fighting. Sounds kinda problematic too, to insist other cultures and countries have to change their languages to match the more enlightened English. Colonist vibes.

Lets have realistically attainable goals. Lets focus on what really matters- like violent hate crimes against transpeople. People who are sooo passionate about political correctness and word choice should maybe, idk, do something real to help. Volunteer or work to help transpeople. But see they dont actually care about transpeople, they just get off on the self righteousness and false sense of moral superiority.

Its not about understanding why its important to them, I understand that it is. But unfortunately, reality doesnt give a shit about peoples emotions or whats important to them. (and clearly its not ok to disagree, because then you get labeled as a terf or whatever else new acronym...)

If you want to compare it to that, its more like if people in wheelchairs insisted that all stairs should be banned- ramps only- and you cant call them disabled anymore, everyone else is un-disabled. Society will never build itself around to a minority population, and shouldnt because it makes no sense.

Its not about "doing better" or peoples feelings. This is the main difference in thought process I think- some people view it as a moral social issue, some people view it as a issue of reality and logic.

What is a female? What is a male? A woman? A man? Whats the differences between them? Whats the difference between sex and gender? Are trans people actually transsexual or transgender? Is it even possible to be transsexual since you will never have the desired sex's gametes? Can someone be a female man or a male woman? At some point we need some god damn definitions. We cant just make words mean whatever we want them to.

Why not just have females, males, and transfemales and transmales?? Men, women, transmen, transwomen. That makes way more sense. Why would the majority and a whole ass language change to fit the minority? And even with the use of "cis", "trans" is still in use so attaching "cis" is pretty redundant either way!

[wp-blaze]

The Michael Mongeon Fund

My brother Mike is very ill. It doesn’t look like he’ll be with us a whole lot longer. I’m sure there will bills left behind and I’ve never been one for begging. Neither has Mike. Sue tells me he’s got someone from Hospice, which is nice. I could open up a gofundme page but that […]

[park-jimin-isnt-real]

We don't care about this collab. He ruined the chance to shine alone. Or maybe they don't trust him and his voice. He needed help from another artist

Listen.

Listen. Listen.

I can see where you're coming from, but the thing is: we don't know what went on behind the scenes. We don't know everything that happened. Maybe he knew it would be a collab from the get go and wasn't allowed to say anything. Maybe he's the one who suggested it. Maybe he didn't get a say in how it was marketed. We don't know!! The only information we had was Jimin was doing an OST. That's it. We're the ones who assumed it was a solo like Jin's and Tae's OSTs have been.

The way I see it, this is still a solo project because it's something he's doing outside of and apart from BTS. So I still care about it and I'm still excited for it and I bet it'll still be amazing.

Tae and Hobi said they've already heard the song and that it was really good, and Jimin said it was something different than what he's previously done and that he wants to try doing more different things in the future. If anger and disregard is how he's going to be met every time he tries something new, just because it doesn't meet whatever expectation you have in your mind for him, then who's really the one "ruining his chance to shine alone"?

[comradedream]

1/2 before all this i was a tommy/benchtrio/jack main n never rlly considered myself that big of a dream fan but like. seeing all of their fans' bad takes genuinely makes me want to be exclusively a dtkq + foolish + tina main instead 😭 like inniters have such bad opinions its insane

((im sorry for just now getting to this ive had rly limited time online today lawl))

okay well i’m biased so my first reaction is omg the drama yasss b a dtkq main this is my perfect victory and the sentence “inniters have such bad opinions it’s insane” from a someone in their community is gonna make me CRYYY ur over them omfg speak ur truth 😭😭😭

but like on a srs note yeah i totally understand that, im sorry ur subfandoms made ur uncomfortable :/ ik one of the things keeping me sane last week was that at least the ppl i follow on here and twt were relatively on the same page so i cant imagine being bombarded w shit takes i disagree w from them on top of that, that mustve sucked im srry :( ur always always welcome here if u feel it’s a better fit 🙏🙏 i love dtblr so i think you’ll have fun here and i adore the ccs i main sm i can’t imagine maining anyone else LOL. but also, i dont watch any of those ppl u listed but dont let bad fans turn u off from the content of the ccs themselves that u may still care ab, like dont feel like u have to pick one set and denounce the other if u want to continue watching both yknow. but 10000% center ur account itself around whoever u want and follow from whatever community ur comfortable w, a community is huge part of the entire experience imo so CURATE IT 🌟 cleanse urself fr fr they dont deserve u anyway 🙄 n also it’s not an overreaction, im sure seeing the ppl around u in a totally different light is a shock in addition to u being hurt over the mess(es) last week, that’s 100% valid, it was a Lot

good luck w whatever u do nextttt again ur always welcome here ^_^ <3

[radiantmists]

i feel like this is gonna be an unpopular opinion but i sometimes see people talk about grizzop as a sort of paragon of logic and morality and it always bugs me.

bc like. yes, i love grizzop. and i think it’s clear that he is very much trying to be good, and he’s very committed to doing what he sees as the right thing. 

but the same are true for azu and hamid and plenty of characters, and i don’t think he’s any better at moral reasoning than most of the rest of the party. i think the impression that he is comes from his unshakeable confidence and his mastery of what I’ve started to think of as catholic logic. 

(this is fairly stream of consciousness and i’m not gonna tag it bc it’s not gonna be entirely coherent or especially well argued, i’m just getting some thoughts down. but my understanding is that sometimes untagged stuff shows up in search, plus ig i have followers, so feel free to reply and discuss this, i’d actually love that. but not much i say here is stuff i’m super confident about so... please don’t get too offended by my wrongness. just tell me why you feel im wrong without aggression, or move on.)

the first bit is the confidence. we don’t ever see grizzop have a moral crisis in the way that most of the other characters do. I can’t think of a time that he’s appeared to look back on something he’s done and wonder if it was wrong; the closest that occurs to me is when he regretted shooting the guy’s legs off in the cairo bar, but tbh i think that was more of a judgement error where he expected to hurt the person much less than he did. we don’t see him question things like flooding the orc town near damascus or dragging sasha into the politics of ancient rome when she didn’t want to be, and honestly, i think this lack is mostly to do with how short a time he was with the party.

most of the arcs he were present for were focused on hamid and sasha’s growth. where he played respectively the accuser and the protector, both roles that made him look good because they cast him as the arbiter of who was right. 

i think hamid, especially, bought into this in the cairo arc, because i think hamid is very consciously in the process of recalibrating his moral compass at the time and he has a marked tendency to do so based on the people he admires-- and the loudest voice in the room. hamid really doesn’t like people he admires having a problem with him, and he already felt that he wasn’t necessarily a good person, so he was very open to seeing grizzop or azu as the authority on whether he could be good, and since grizzop pushed where azu prevaricated, grizzop was the one who got the final say.

but in the same arc, you can see sasha and azu starting to question grizzop’s moral compass; sasha notices how legalistic grizzop’s judgement is, and that it really ought to condemn her too, while azu takes issue with how brutal grizzop’s methods are (see punching wilde). but neither of them are willing to press the issue with him at that point, and so he’s never really confronted with something that contradicts him.

and notably, grizzop’s confidence comes from the obvious source: he believes that artemis is inviolably good, and he knows she approves of what he’s doing because his powers still work. but there’s an arrogance here, too, a very strong belief in his own moral superiority with the slightest confirmation; look at rome, where he refuses to listen to azu and ed’s assertions that there’s something wrong with the gods there, because he was able to bull through to artemis the one time he tried, so obviously he must just be a better paladin of a better god, right?

grizzop has very strong beliefs and opinions, and he takes whatever route works best to fulfill them-- both in terms of actions, and in terms of logic. take his decision to forgive/endorse hamid near the end of the cairo arc: by his own assertions, people should experience consequences for their actions, and we know he knows what manslaughter is because he brings it up when hamid first starts talking about accidental murder. but where saleh and carter belong in jail because they’re ~bad~, hamid is allowed to continue on because he’s ‘trying to be better’, never mind that that  was hamid’s whole argument about why saleh didn’t deserve to go to jail. plus, saleh’s one goal when he thought he’d killed someone was to resurrect them, which imo makes a lot more sense as a redemptive gesture than going around killing entirely unrelated people. the rules are different because grizzop likes hamid (and probably a bit because ben didn’t want to break the party, but shhh).

this twisting of the logic to fit what you’re trying to prove is what i mean by ‘catholic logic’ (i’m catholic dont @ me); it sounds really good if you don’t think about it too hard, but in fact it’s generally post-facto rationalizations for decisions that have already been made.

grizzop is very enthusiastic about poking holes in other people’s moral reasoning, as we see with apophis, but i think his issue is that he’s got a blind spot when he looks at himself and his own decisions. in grizzop’s world, grizzop is right as long as artemis is still with him and everything else comes after.

now i’m personally of  the opinion that alex doesn’t bother/want to engage with the idea that gods take away powers, post-poseidon nonsense, which if true i sympathize with; doing so is either going to lead to the sort of inscrutability zolf had a meltdown over, or put a player in the weird position of making their character do what alex has decided their god would require or having to entirely reinvent the character without those divine powers.

on another meta level, my understanding is that grizzop  was designed to be very resistant to doubt because of ben’s difficulties playing zolf, so i think he might have been nearly as resistant to growth on that front as bertie was in general, because believing unshakeably that he’s right is a core element of his character. 

but i think if grizzop had lived longer, alex absolutely would have done some hammering at that absolute conviction. that might have come in the form of vesseek and the fact that grizzop is apparently an absentee father; even if he is sending home money, i can’t imagine that not being something that gets mined for angst. 

i also think he would have eventually come into a similar sort of conflict with azu, sasha, or cel (whoever was there) that zolf is in right now, where he absolutely believes that whatever killing he’s committed/intending to commit is not only right but a moral imperative, and they disagree. 

now whatever side you fall on in the barrett debate, i think grizzop ought to be a lot less willing than zolf to say ‘i’m not gonna go through you lot to do it’, not because i’m convinced grizzop would be hugely more willing to physically fight the rest of the team over it, we know that despite his practicality he seems to overlook some ‘’’wobbles’’’ in people he already cares about,  but because zolf is capable of giving up on something in a way that grizzop just isn’t. i dont know how that would play out; chances are, it would get interrupted by a fight, but. who knows.

[wasflypaw]

Okay, opinions time, completely unrelated to current events bc current events have my brain going "??????"

This one's gonna be quite controversial considering I've built my following off my older c!Techno critical posts but here goes nothing

So. November 16th. Its canon that c!Techno did not know Pogtopia's plan somehow, and its canon that c!Techno wasnt expecting the place to blow up (he shouted "WHAT'S HAPPENING??" when it happened). Looking back after the events of Doomsday I really dont think Techno's actions on November 16th really compare. He shot and killed ppl but none were Canon deaths, and the items were Left on the Floor in most cases, the killing ppl didnt really Affect anything other than the first shot he took at Tubbo to indicate he Was Not Happy which was also Not a canon death

The Withers did damage but the place was already wrecked, 2 stacks of TNT had already gone off, not to mention the other ppl on "Team Chaos" aka Dream n whoever else was following him (there were quite a few people) were also running around placing TNT and blowing stuff up, not JUST Techno. Techno's Withers honestly really didnt do very much

I Dont agree with him blaming everything on c!Tommy and telling him to die, or calling c!Tubbo a Tyrant, but other than that he really. Didnt Do Much. It was more of a Show than anything, the place was already screwed, it was more of him using this to show ppl what happens if they betray his trust (in his eyes). What happened was a Miscommunication but Techno didnt See it that way, he saw it as a legit betrayal whether it was or not

Now for my next point. The Butcher Army. I kept saying "they did it to protect the nation / Techno was a threat!" and while I still believe this in Tubbo's case, and I Do believe Techno was collecting 150 Wither Skulls for a Reason, what he did doesnt warrant Literal Death. They literally Killed him, he survived bc of the Totem but he DIED for a second. You know I take Canon Lives quite seriously n Techno nearly lost one here which is one of the main reasons why I dont think The Butcher Army is justified. Quackity SAID his reasons for doing it, and it had nothing to do with his actions on November 16th. It wasnt consequences of releasing the Withers At All, which is why I dont agree "They were justified in arresting Techno bc he did Bad Thing on November 16th!" bc its quite literally Canon that Quackity's actions were Not spurred on bc of that, and He leads the Butcher Army.

Quackity's actions dont affect how I see the Butcher Army as a whole, I genuinely do believe Tubbo had good reason and was trying to protect his country (which would match with his mindset of wanting Peace he's had this entire time). There's also the screenshot of Quackity saying something along the lines of "let's just use Techno for his resources for now" and while I usually disagree with the sentiment that Pogtopia intentionally used Techno, it's clear Quackity wanted to regardless of whether he actually did or not. Again, Quackity's actions do Not affect my opinion of Pogtopia as a whole

I also believe the Pogtopians were in their right to think Techno's a traitor, all evidence matches up with it, even if its miscommunication (aka thinking he was involved in the original explosion, getting confused bc Philza shouted that he's a traitor, or them simply being Hurt that he'd turn on them. They had every reason to dislike Techno afterwards)

I also still dont agree with Doomsday At All by the way. I dont believe Techno deserved Death for his actions, I dont believe Doomsday was justified bc of the Butcher Army's actions. I will never agree with Doomsday

I want to clarify that this isnt hate against c!Quackity as I'm physically incapable of disliking him regardless of what he does God Bless

[someone-worth-racing-for]

And here I am again, on the topic of Carlos haters. I'm actually very happy for you for not being around people who wish him to crash or to die, because there are so many out there. And its scary. Especially in F1. In a sport where every single fan knows, how it can end. In a sport where its not that inpossible for a driver to actually loose his life. And still they are out there.

Triggerwarning, don't read if you get emotional easy

I had someone telling me that he wishes for Carlos to die, and that his whole family should see it, and that he should have a long and horrible death, which should cause him a lot of pain because "this is what he deserves".

And this broke me. Because its F1. Because it could happen. And I wouldn't know what do if Carlos would actually loose his life, not to imagine his family... And there are people out there who actually put it into words. Its distrubing, alarming. And it leaves me helpless. What should I with messages like it? How can I stop it?

I got nightmares of any kind of drivers dieing because of stuff like this. Because people throw around words without thinking. Or maybe its my fault? Because I'm too attached to drivers? Maybe their death or those people shouldnt bother me?

If you dont feel like sharing this message (because it might be quite disturbing and I got carried away quite a lot, sorry for that) but still wanna answer me, you can call me "Jamie B." in your post and I will still know that you meant me and this message. I was gonna write you a DM but it feels better to stay anonym in this topic, or people might use this against me.

Trigger warning - the following text and also the ask above contains content that some may find disturbing. Please, read with care.

Seriously, anonym - I'm very glad you sent this message to me, because such things need to be talked about and not get ignored! It's so important to talk about this topic and not just look past it.

Yeah, I know I can call myself really happy to be around people who don't wish Carlos or any other driver any harm. Yes, not everyone of the people I follow/talk to support Carlos to 100%, but at least they all stay respectful and are grown up enough to know that you DON'T say duch things! NEVER EVER! ABOUT NO ONE!

Like I have said before, I really wasn't aware about that there are (still) so many people out there, that say stuff like that and even worse they also really mean the thoughtless things they say serious. Mostly because I block every account that comes past my way and is not respectful towards Carlos.

And like I have also said before, I have never seen such a hate post before, but hearing about the (anonym) message you have got gives me chills the worst possible way. This just can't be true, or?! I actually don't even know where to start here..

First of all, it's okay for me to send me anonym asks or requests for fics, but if you have to say something, if you want to tell someone your opinion then for fuck's sake have the damn balls to not send it anonym! I'm pretty sure most of those hate messages people receive are because of the damn anonymity of the internet. First those people are cowards in my eyes and second they really need to see a therapist for just thinking stuff like that, not even mention it to write them down, take their time to send it to someone and overall mean that also serious!

In what a sick world are we actually living to wish someone's (long, painful) death and also let his/her loved ones/family watch him/her dying!? How sick is that?!

Yes, Carlos had said/done some things in the past he shouldn't have and he could have at least apologized for it, but that still doesn't give you the right to wish him stuff like that! He is still only human, like you and me. No one, really no one deserves this!

And the thought that some people would really cheer in front of their TV, if something should ever happen to Carlos makes me really, really sick. Because like you have already said, anonym - stuff like that can happen so easily and quickly in this sport. Carlos or anyone else could really die out there! They could really lose their lives, for real!

I really want to know (no, I actually don't even want to know) what goes through those people's mind, what they are thinking when they write those words down. I mean, how would they feel, if they would read stuff like that about themselves somewhere on the internet from complete strangers (even worse, you don't even know their identity)? (God, I really hope Carlos won't ever have to read those kind of messages) How would they feel about that? What would those words make to them? Don't they see their loved ones/family in front of their inner eyes how they would react, if you would be the one passing away? Are they really so cold and heartless to not ask themselves those questions before sending those messages? Do they really don't think at all before? What's wrong with these people? Have they never received any love in their lives?

To your ask about what you should do - talk, talk about it! Talk with your family, friends or with me about it (also anonymous, it's totally alright if want to stay anonym in this case). Talking about it helps, believe me.

I can also call myself lucky once again, because I have never received such hate messages before (this will probably change after this post..),but if I would get any, I would publish them. Maybe I wouldn't respond anything, but I would want people to know about it, because it's not okay, it's actually the worst thing ever.

And maybe, but only maybe, those people will change their minds if they will read other people's thoughts on their death treats, maybe they will finally be able to understand that such things are unacceptable, that they finally need to educate themselves properly, grow up and finally start to be good.

But if you don't want to publish those messages or read any of their words anymore, you should better really deactivate anonym asks. It's really for your own good and mental health, because I can tell you are suffering a lot because of it.

And if I have understood you right here (God, I really hope I haven't) and you actually know the person who has told you this, then please stop any contact with that person, if he/she doesn't want to understand why this is the worst thing ever. Stay away from those people who aren't good for you and who obviously aren't happy with their own lives. You don't need them. You don't have to listen to their sick thoughts.

But please, don't search the problem by yourself - it's really not your fault at all. You can support/be a fan of whoever you want and there will always be people who disagree with you - which is actually okay - but what these people are doing is more than just sick. It's not your fault that people are like that, their problems are not on you.

I hope I could help you here a little, anonym - but don't ever forget, if things should become too much, please talk with someone about it or take a step back from social media.

And please, also don't ever forget - don't fight hate with hate!

Stay safe, anonym and enjoy the good things in life ❤️