#aspecs

[queertations]

"Some people don’t think asexual or aromantic people count as queer, or just not queer enough without another letter tacked on, and—well, it’s a shitty feeling, being told that you don’t belong by people who are supposed to know what it’s like to be treated like there’s something wrong with you."

Wren Martin Ruins It All by Amanda DeWitt

[wherethestoriesare]

i dont know. it was fine. it was fun even. enjoyable.

but i am slightly disappointed that what i thought was a more qpr aroacespec relationship is not actually rep for us.

im still happy for the rest of the queer community though. aros & aces are used to it by now

[man-squared]

Thank you, @genderkoolaid , for more youtubers to watch and listen to lol (if you made a post about this other video, I have not seen it though).

Tara Mooknee has a video on Amatonormativity (which she has commented that she left out loveless aros and that she has more to learn about when it comes to people who are aspec).

[thismeddlingkid]

Helo! I'm here to deliver some garlic bread, don't mind me! I'll just put it here: 🍞🥖🧄🧈🥖🧄🍞🧈🧄🥖

Have a great day

- The Garlic Bread Deliverer

Thank you!

[nrhodact]

Ok, you're anti-censorship and can tell the difference between fiction and reality. But ARE YOU NORMAL ABOUT ASPECS!?

I swear, every time these convos come up there is always someone bringing up ASPECS to be aphobic like??? What do they have to do with this??

[man-squared]

[ ID: Two tweets and a reply from aroacespidey that say, "Psst 👀 calling everyone: June 5th is aromantic visibility day, our very first ever aromantic visibility day and it's so very close, can you all help us spread the word about aromantic visibility day? Spread it to as many people you can before the date comes.

"If you're wondering why you hadn't heard of #Aromantic Visibility Day until this month, it's because it was only created at the beginning of this month. But yes, it is happening!!

"Currently waiting for AUREA and google to recognize aromantic visibility day (unless aurea already did?)." End ID.

Text Description: Large text that is capitalized and reads "Guys Guys Guys we're gonna have an aromantic visibility day!!! It's being created now!! I'm so excited ahhhhh." End TD. ]

GUYS GUYS GUYS WE'RE GONNA HAVE AN AROMANTIC VISIBILITY DAY!!! IT'S BEING CREATED NOW !! IM SO EXCITED AHHHHH

[sergeantsporks]

"Aro/Ace person gets given a love potion" story but instead of them being immune or whatever, it DOES work, and they realize IMMEDIATELY that they've been fed a love potion because this feeling is so wrong and foreign but everyone keeps laughing off the idea of it being a love potion because "they were probably just a late bloomer" or "no, you just finally found the right person!" and it's just a horror story about how no one believes them even though they know, they KNOW this isn't right and they can't stand it.

[sminny-wew]

It's so funny being a shipper when you're aroace it's like you're an anthropologist, like hey fictional blorbos who live in my head let me study your bonds under a microscope and take notes on what happens when I throw Valentines Day into your enclosure

[queertations]

"Straight people are rarely treated like they’re close-minded for knowing their sexual orientation, but aces are assumed to be unsure and always on the brink of finding the person who will change everything."

Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen

[transscriptual]

[ ID: A drawing of a person in front of a laptop. The person is crouched over a bowl of something hot, eating it. They are sitting criss-cross, have white skin, and are colored in in purples.

Their hair and shirt are different medium toned purples, and their pants and bowl are a dark purple. They wear glasses and socks which are both not colored in.

Steam comes from the side of the bowl. Lines pop up from the dark purple laptop, showing that something is being watched on the screen.

The person says, " . . . What?"

Above and below the drawing is text that reads "[caps] HAPPY ACE WEEK [end caps] from your ace friend who thinks [underlined] this [end underline] is the ideal way to 'netflix and chill.'" End ID. ]

more like netflix and chili amirite

[jamierthanyou]

as an aroace, im particularly dangerous, because i wont fuck or marry. i only know how to kill.

[mossy-aro]

[watsername]

this post was supposed to be a lighthearted post about aspec people by highlighting them in a joking way that still instills positivity and pride in the identity .

unfortunately too many people are too chronically online and media illiterate to realise that so let’s break down the post.

‘shout out to the people not having gay sex this pride month’

this was intentionally a worded to counter the ‘have lots of gay sex this pride month’ jokes and positivity that surround pride discussions. The wording directly associates with anti-queer activity and their frequent attempt to divert attention from queer people during the month of pride. it is worded intentionally. it is supposed to seem counter active to pride .

the humour is then seeing a pride flag. specifically the asexual flag- in which case this stands for an umbrella term across the aspec community which is more recognisable than the variety of aspec flags that i had seen whilst looking for a flag for this post . the grey line of the asexual flag stands for the spectrum between allosexual and asexual it represents the degrees of asexuality and in so, with the purple, stood for the aspec community in this post.

if the joke is still lost on you, the idea was to read a statement that counters the idea of queer pride and find it recontextualised to humorously represent an identity associated with the lack of sexual attraction; ergo no gay sex .

what this post is NOT, is a comment on varied asexual attraction. it us not a commentary on what makes a valid asexual person or whether or not you specifically will have sexual inter course this pride month . it is not saying asexuals are not allowed to have sex . this post is pushing any stereotype of asexuality . op is a sex having aspec person. i am demisexual . i have been with my partner for almost 2 years and engage in sexual activity .

what this post IS, is a joke. it’s a fucking joke i cant make it any clearer. not every single joke is going to relate to your own experiences and that’s ok. not every post about asexuality is going to relate to your own experiences that’s ok. you need to stop taking things at face value and actually engage in some media literacy to understand when something is a reductionist and stereotyping commentary which is inherently negative and when something uses a reductionist approach to convey humour because a lot of you really seem to be struggling with that one.

i fear a lot of you take yourselves too seriously and can’t find the humour in simple tumblr shitposts to the point where i’m having to actually explain what i thought was a very easy concept to grasp because it has upset a lot of people . stop taking everything so seriously .

if you are offended by the original post that is actually a you problem. that is something you have to work on where you cannot accept any form of lighthearted media that does not directly align with your own experiences . bc it’s not serious . it’s a joke x

also allo people can fuck off bc this is literally a post celebrating aspec ppl idc if your gf lives across the country or if you’re just a single loser this literally has nothing to do w u

yall make me want to kms for making me do this

[safetaynet]

couldn't have said it any better :)

Aces, you’re amazing.

Aros, y’all are astonishing.

Demisexuals are downright dazzling.

Demiromantics are delightful

Gray-aces? Great, of course!

Gray-romantics? Glamourous individuals.

Aspecs deserve love no matter what they identify as.

[aceysun]

"love is love" until it doesn't include sex

"love is love" until it lives in separate beds

"love is love" until it is queer platonic

"love is love" until it does not comply with compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity

love IS love, for aspecs, for sex repulsed folk and for platonic relationships

"love is love" apply to more than same-sex relationships in a world where romantic and sexual relationships are considered more valuable

Remember to advocate for Asexuals and Aromantics this pride. Because we are also here, and we are also queer