#dating preferences

[alwaysbewoke]

look, women are going to be women, so i believe the first run of pops was because of his height. we can have all the conversations about how hypocritical that is, but women are going to be women, and his height was definitely the primary reason for the first run of pops. the second run of pops was for his name, which admittedly is probably a little much for some people. it's a lot. it's cool in that kind of famous european classical composer vibe, but i get it if a woman thinks that's just a lot. petty, but we are talking about women. but it's the pop when he said he's a chef that kills me because i don't understand what's wrong with that. like there's a video of a girl saying that her ick is men who can cook, but i always assumed she was saying that just to be outrageous. but is that a real thing? a woman out here really unattracted to men who can get down in the kitchen? that's crazy to disqualify this man cuz he can cook! women are truly insane.

[tumbler-polls]

This poll is potentially controversial, but the majority of our followers voted to allow it.

Prompt submitted by anon:

Question to cis monosexual people: "Would you date/have sex with a pre-op trans person who identifies as the gender you're into?" Options: 🍷 No; I want my partner to have particular stuff down there / I have a strong genital preference. ☕️ Yes, but I wouldn't want to interact with their genitals. 🧁 Yes, I'm into all kinds of genitals, what matters is how someone identifies. Additional options: cis straight guy / cis gay guy / cis straight woman / cis lesbian.

The other part of this poll is here.

[gentlemonst3r]

Unpopular opinion, but if you're sterilized, you're automatically ten times sexier.

[fiercemillennial]

Nick Cannon Faces Backlash Over Dating Preferences Comments

Nick Cannon is under fire after comments suggesting his mother's race influences his dating preferences. Does this perpetuate harmful biases? Let's discuss 👇🏾 #NickCannon #representation #colorism #FierceMillennial #FierceImpact

Cannon’s remarks about his mother’s race influencing his romantic choices spark heated discussions on colorism. Nick Cannon is once again facing a wave of controversy following comments he made about his dating preferences. During a recent interview, the media personality suggested that his mother’s race has influenced his attraction to women. “My Mom’s Light-Skinned…” Cannon, who is of mixed…

[sometimes-men-need-help-too]

You’re allowed to have preferences 

Nobody can tell you otherwise 

Having a preference  such as being attracted to a thinner person over someone that’s not isn’t wrong. Making someone feel bad because they don’t fit your preferences is. 

But in and of itself, it isn’t. It doesn’t mean you’re shallow. It doesn’t mean whatever negative word they try to label you as. 

[keyki421]

So much truth

[i-am-the-quintessential-queer]

Sometimes I think my age preference with dating isn’t that serious and then I’ll get the fattest crush on someone in their 30’s and the sheer thought of being with anyone my age is just gone, out the door

People 10+ years older than me have no business being that hot like tf

Anyways I’m getting crushes on men in their 30’s again so I’ll deal with shit as it comes

[politicsmoribund]

Here Blaire White reacts to a series of events involving Andrew Tate, Jeffree Star, woke TikTok users, and Jordan Peterson. Andrew Tate was arrested, leading Blaire to express their thoughts on the situation. In addition, Jeffree Star has claimed that he "escaped the Illuminati", which has caught Blaire's attention. Woke TikTok users have also been causing a stir by claiming that dating preferences are transphobic, which has prompted Blaire to share their thoughts on the matter. Finally, Jordan Peterson has been sentenced to a re-education camp.

[pinkieloveheartpastel]

I need to talk about preferences in dating, and an example of an actual preference, because a lot of what is considered “preferences” is actually just bigotry. And way too many people think that having a preference means: “this is the only group I will date. No one else. I refuse to date anyone else”. Which is completely untrue.

So I once preferred short dudes. And no, I’m not talking about dudes who are medium-height, aka 5’6 and up. They are nowhere near short, and I will argue until I’m blue in the face to prove that. I’m talking about dudes who are around 5’0. ACTUAL short dudes. Dudes who are tiny af.

I always pictured myself being with a dude who looked like a hobbit, a goblin, a gnome, etc, just any short mythical being, especially if they gravitate to nature, and yes fantasy is my special interest. But my partner happens to be 6’3, and I don’t mind that at all. And I, in fact, like to think of him as a kind, and soft-hearted giant or troll, etc, because fantasy-brain and we both love nature.

Or a giant cuddly bear. I’m a fairy.

So having a preference for short men doesn’t mean I wouldn’t date anyone who is tall or medium-height. And I damn sure won’t go out of my way to shit on people who are medium or tall. That’s pathetic and uncalled for. I don’t like bullying.

Same thing for food. Just because I prefer cookies and cream, cotton candy and vanilla doesn’t mean I won’t eat cookie dough, chocolate, or peppermint.

So don’t claim to have a preference while shitting on people you won’t date. Because what you have isn’t a preference if you refuse to date someone because of how they were born, and treat them like shit because of it, or say that this group of people are all ugly, undesirable, etc. It is bigotry. You are a bigot. You haven’t even given this group a chance and you’re immediately shitting on them.

Just say you will only date this specific group of people and shut up.

[tumbler-polls]

Hiii! Right now, there is this huuuge debate within the LGBT community as to whether not wanting to date trans folks is transphobic. I'm bi, so pre/post-op is not an issue for me because I like all kinds of genitals, but I'm wondering how the attraction works in this regard for cis monosexual people (gays, lesbians, straights).

Could you make a poll asking, "Would you date a pre-op trans person?" with the options "No, I want my partner to have particular stuff down there", "Yes, but I wouldn't want to interact with their genitals", "Yes, I'm into all kinds of genitals, what matters is how someone identifies", and additional options: cis straight guy / cis gay guy / cis straight woman / cis lesbian. I sent this idea to other poll blogs, but they refused to publish it :((

This topic is quite controversial and can be triggering to some people. We want our blog to be an inclusive space, so we'll let our followers decide.

Feel free to make suggestions / expand on your answer in the comments!

[knifearo]

ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story

[hypogryffin]

Thoughts on Akesumi?

not my cup of tea romantically but i do love their platonic dynamic

[firestorm09890]

Penny stardewvalley makes me so sad because she's SO sensitive to, like, basically everything you tell her (telling her that you can't stand children while two children are nearby is a pretty lousy move but -1500 friendship?? being a jerk to other characters' faces typically loses you about 50 points, and if you choose the option labeled "creepy" and ask Leah for a kiss in her 2 heart event she physically hits you and kicks you out of her house but that's only -100 friendship…) and so if you want to befriend her it's a whole lot of lying and tiptoeing around her feelings (2 hearts: George was right but saying that makes her feel bad. 6 hearts: her food sucks but even if you try to be polite about it she feels like a failure; only a bald-faced lie pleases her. 8 hearts: saying you don't want to be tied down with a family loses you a little bit of friendship and she's only happy if you say you want kids) and I can't help but think she's a product of her environment. She lives in a trailer with only her mother, who gets drunk every night and has something of a temper. Penny's like a skittish rescue animal who won’t even come out from hiding under something unless you leave her lots of treats

[collophora]

Quick test of magma Who instantly denied pressure sensitivity

[sweetfloatapartment]

oh, you practice ethical non-monogamy? well i practice UNETHICAL non-monogamy. thats right. i have multiple partners so i can perform scientific malpractice and make them all run through mazes like lab rats. i only reward some of them with Science Pellets. the other ones get electrical shocks. i may have also vivisected a partner....what? you're not interested? .......okay, no pellets for you

[graceloveswolves]

Dating Daryl Dixon Would Include…

- knowing him for awhile before you started dating

- and nothing was official, you just one day became his and only his, which was accepted both ways

- everyone saw it coming a mile away before you two and they already assumed you guys were a thing

- gearing up for morning hunts before the sun rose

- being his hunting buddy ALWAYS he likes to be able to keep his eye on you

- you guys sneaking out together to just sit and enjoy nature when you had time

- everyone always assumed y’all were doing something else tho ;) sometimes you did

- he is extremely loyal to you, like 1000%

- everything was very open between you two, no secrets, you were each other’s best friend

- you two not minding being each other’s only company for days

- him taking it personally if he found out you were keeping something from him/not coming to him first about something

- him shooting walkers near you 24/7

- “I had that Daryl.”

- “mhm, I did too.”

- seriously, if you date him you can say goodbye to privacy he’s glued to you

- you guys have a lot of little talks about the group and occurring problems within the group

- usually seeing eye to eye on everything

- if you aren’t, he will usually just move on and accept it

- but you will still be doing things his way

- fun little competitions when you guys are bored

- him making sure you know EVERYTHING he knows about hunting/survival

- I’m not kidding he will drill it into you until you remember or until you beat him to it

- making sure you always have food whether it be tiny as a squirrel or a snake

- he will force you to eat if he notices your not

- you take it and eat anyways even if you are full because you are pretty sure it’s a coping mechanism from him never having any food at home

- he will give you lots of tiny gifts like a heart shaped rock or a four leaf clover

- at first, he might have a few outbursts out of insecurity, but overtime they dissolve entirely

- he is such a softie and wouldn’t ever belittle you or make you feel threatened

- but sometimes he gives you tough love and will tell you the truth even if you don’t want to hear it

- but will always be on your side and have your back against anyone

- speaking of, he would practically kill anyone who threatened you (Jody and the frying pan)

- Rick and Carol would have to pry him off whoever dared to try you

-overall he’s 10000/10 protective

- sometimes you guys fight about him wanting you to stay back on risky runs

- he looses most of the time and will just have to have the comfort of knowing at least he’s with you on the run

- you’re the only person he’ll take a shower for or let touch his hair

- he actually secretly loves it when you touch his hair

- especially when you brush it out of his face

- it’s a small gesture yet his heart melts every time you do it

- late night cuddles

- he loves it most when you lay on his chest

- or when you are hugging/holding him

- he sleeps the best when he’s with you

- when he’s out on a run and it’s a rare occasion that you’re not with him he practically runs off no sleep

- even after everything you guys been through he still managed to keep a Polaroid of you two from the farm when you both were chilling in his orange tent after being shot by Andrea

- he keeps it on him wherever he goes

- and when you’re away from him he will stare at it for awhile thinking about how different everything was then and the people that were still alive

- which makes him hug you extra long when he comes home

- you are his #1 priority

- Merle always being jealous of him that he snagged such a looker

- Rick always trying his best to keep you two together on missions

- “I know you two don’t like being separated but please brother, I need you on this.”

- Maggie or Carol being the one you go to if you are fighting with him

- Daryl really gets annoyed when you are mad at him

- because you are his best friend and he doesn’t socialize with anyone else really

- he will do a little routine that starts off with giving you space, then leaving little gifts around for you, then coming around with dinner or telling you he needs help with something, even if he makes something up just to associate with you

- sometimes he’ll cut the bs and just start apologizing and hope you can forgive him and just move on

- being able to talk to each other just using your eyes

- it’s a literal talent

- group members find it funny how you guys can read each other so well

- swapping old funny stories of your lives before the walkers

- people referring you two as each other’s wife & husband

- though Daryl never got you a ring, to him his love for you didn’t need to be shown through a ring

- but if you wanted one he’d see what he could find

- either way, it was obvious that you were his and he was yours so you never had problems with people trying to get with either one of you

- best couple ever