#disabled people are not a burden

[strawberrycakeblog]

Disabled people >>>>>>>> everyone else.

[yuridovewing]

idk as someone who supposedly “should” relate to blossomfall because both of my brothers are diagnosed autistic while i’m not and they got more attention than me because of that. (which tbf is a much more nuanced situation bc im actually disabled too) i never saw her as anything more than an utterly unpleasant and meanspirited character because the narrative is so disinterested in briarlight’s feelings on the matter and just cares about how disabled people ruin families or whatever

[soullessjack]

oh my god like. the stark contrast between mob’s inner self — saying that everyone around him held him back, everyone was afraid of him, everyone treated him differently, everyone only saw him as something to use and that he was never accepted by anyone at any point; that he would never be accepted for who he really internally feels he is — vs all of mob’s friends and family repeatedly saying “we aren’t scared of you because we know you and we love you, this is just a part of you that we can live with and accept,”— not to mention reigen fully admitting that he was using mob and apologizing for it, as well as telling mob that the only person who really needs to accept mob is himself..? It’s just. It’s so good man

[martyrbat]

detective comics #509

[ID: Bruce Wayne sleeping in his penthouse, his eyes squeezed shut as the narration reads, ‘Gordon's strained laugh sounds hollow, but it echos in the Batman's mind... and haunts his dreams...” Bruce awakens to a hand on his shoulder and before he can think, he's twisting it and holding it down. The panel expands, revealing the hand belongs to Alfred as he's almost toppling over! He cries out, “M-master Bruce—my arm!” as Bruce groggily realizes who it is. He lets go at once as Alfred moves to the end of the bed and holds his arm while stammering an apology, “S-sorry, s-sir... Sorry if I startled you.” Bruce looks at him with aghast as he cries out, “My god, Alfred—I almost broke your arm!” Alfred reasons, “You must have been having a nightmare, sir.” as Bruce sits up and puts his face in his hands. He weepily dismisses, “A nightmare—what kind of an excuse is that? Old friend... forgive me...” Alfred reassures, “Nothing to forgive, sir. Just bad nerves, sir.” END ID]

[i-want-a-slurpee]

If I have to deal with one more person saying they wish they were on SSI and "had it easy like you do" I'm going to rip out my own spine and beat them with it

PSA:

BEING DISABLED ISN'T EASY. IT IS A LIVING NIGHTMARE.

[borgeslabyrinth]

Ah, the familiar rage that one always feels towards the husband in a horror novel. I would simply tear this man apart limb by limb.

[here-there-were-dragons]

i have to wonder what super hardcore militant vegans think should be done about obligate carnivore animals, because in all my painfully-rapidly-approaching-30-years i've literally never actually seen anyone give a clear consistent much less halfway feasible answer on that

[honeycombhank]

4/2/24

I am suffering. I am suffering greatly.

[its-coda]

Oh. That’s a post about eugenics going around in my twitter timeline

[futuristichedge]

Writers are so talented. Your words are doing things to my mind, showing me ideas and connecting dots... inspiring my brain to connect MORE dots

Pure wizardry. It's scary

[awesomeundertalelover3]

You are a burden sometimes- hell, I’d wager you’re a burden most of the time.

But here’s the thing- humans are uniquely good at carrying burdens.

Children wrapped up in cloth to be carried on their parents’ back

Baskets carried on hips and heads and shoulders

Grief wrapped around like a sweater, making everything heavy

Generation upon generation of expectations and trauma and beliefs

Humans are uniquely good at carrying heavy things-

I’d go as far to say that we’re the only species that willingly, consciously, looks at something heavy and goes “let me carry it”

So yes, you are a burden. I am a burden- we all are a burden.

And we’ll carry each other anyways

The first sign of civilization is a healed femur, after all.

You are a burden. You are loved.

What a wonderful thing to carry a love so heavy.

[night-city-netrunner]

I just saw the most annoying ableist take, claiming able bodied/minded people should not have to compromise their comfort so disabled people can exist.

If you think making accommodations for disabled people, people who already exist in a world that is incredibly ableist and violent against them, so that they can have the same comforts you enjoy without needing accomodation, is a burden.... then you're ableist, and in my opinion, kind of a shitty person.

Let me repeat that.

If you think allowing disabled people to have accommodations to exist AS COMFORTABLY AS YOU ALREADY DO WITHOUT THEM is a burden or a discomfort to you, you're ableist.

It's 2023, I cannot believe I have to make a post like this.

[118inflation]

And the other thing about Abby is that you're not allowed to be a hater about her to me unless you can cite 5 instances of you performing basic CNA-type tasks for your own mother. Because that makes you psychologically unwell in a way I think we're all not allowing for in our discussions of her Behaviors

[heartbreakfeelsogood]

[area51-escapee]

Actually still thinking about that though like. The whole fucking “I want a golden retriever ADHD bf”, “I want to meet a neurospicy alt girl”, “I like him he’s a little autistic”, I just fucking hate it. They reduce real mental illnesses and disorders down to just quirky personality traits and to me they make it obvious that they don’t want any of the real problems that comes with having those disorders, they just want the #relatable traits that make for funny TikTok’s.

They’re okay with stereotypical traits of ADHD, being hyper or having that “class clown” type of personality, but what about when their ADHD partner hyperfixates on something and ends up not responding for several hours? What about when their ADHD partner has actual symptoms of ADHD, forgetfulness, time blindness, being disorganized or easily distracted. What about when their ADHD partner forgets to do a chore or needs to be asked to do something? Are they okay with that? Can they accommodate someone who needs extra help and extra reminders? Or will they complain that it’s “too much labor” to ask for something to be done because their partner should just Know that they wanted it done. Will they help their partner when they run out of meds and struggle with daily tasks more than usual? Will they be understanding if their partner forgets things they believe they shouldn’t?

And then the “I want someone who’s a little autistic” absolutely infuriates me. It’s outright admitting they want someone that has these traits they can romanticize but they don’t want someone who’s too autistic, they don’t want someone who would be too weird to other people, they don’t want someone who actually struggles due to being autistic. They like the idea of someone who’s quirky and interesting and “not like everyone else”, but they don’t want somebody who struggles with going to new places, who only eats a handful of specific foods, who struggles with hygiene or keeping their spaces clean. They like the type of autism presented in TV, someone who’s super smart in some specific area, but only if it matters to them, they don’t want to listen to someone with an odd special interest talk about it again and again, they don’t want their partner bringing their toys or stuffed animals or collectibles and trying to display them and “ruining” the aesthetic, they don’t want to help their partner through meltdowns or be understanding when it comes to communication issues.

There’s more to ADHD than being hyperactive or impulsive in a way that comes across as “spontaneous” and interesting, having ADHD doesn’t automatically turn someone into the fun loving extroverted “golden retriever” partner of your dreams. There’s more to Autism than just having “interesting quirks” or special interests in topics considered “important” and coming across as cool and aloof. These are disorders that impact every aspect of a person’s life, that make it difficult to go through day to day life, that often come with experiencing bullying and being treated as “undesirable”. It doesn’t make it better when you pick and choose traits that YOU like and turn them into some kind of category of person you can seek out on a dating app, especially if you are not ready to understand the realities of these disabilities and be there for your partner when they need patience and understanding.

[lunas-treehouse]

I don't know anything anymore