#dysphoric culture is

[dysphoric-culture-is]

Dysphoric culture is wanting a phalloplasty without a vaginectomy and not being able to find any doctors who've ever done it, and then crying because you know your ideal configuration apparently isn't a thing that happens.

I want to keep my vulva/vagina, but I still want a penis, and I can't tell you the amount of times I've cried because I don't think this type of surgery is even done or, if it is, done in the US at least. It sucks so much.

Dysphoric culture is!

Also anon, great news: this surgery is real! It’s called vagina-preserving phalloplasty or VPP.

There aren’t a ton of surgeons who perform it in the US but some (from the Crane Center in California) are listed here. There’s also someone in New York that talked about getting a vagina-preserving metoidioplasty in a news article but mod doesn’t know who their surgeon was. More info and some more surgeons are here.

More people are getting nonbinary bottom surgeries so there are slightly more resources around now. Good luck anon!

(For those wanting the opposite of this, phallus-preserving vaginoplasty exists too.)

[uncanny-tranny]

The hardest, but most important, part of my transition has been untangling what my personal dysphoria is, and what is more a result of cissexism.

What I mean by this is that I learned that I am not dysphoric about certain aspects of myself, my body, and my life, but my discomfort in these aspects was influenced by the cissexist culture I live in which told me I couldn't exist as myself.

It's definitely a slow process, but I have found that it helps me self-actualize and actually see myself instead of what others demand of me.

[jesncin]

A buff butch in a kebaya? Oh my <3

Kebaya are traditional clothing found throughout Southeast Asia, and they've always been a dysphoric thing for me to wear. So! Here's a more dapper twist on a kebaya fit for a young butch.

[local-limebug]

wore a saree for the first time today for eid (family celebrates and i usually don't but i did this time cause i wanted to wear a saree).

review: people like to make it seem scary but its actually so comfortable and nice. and i'm not even dysphoric in it and nor am i having ANY sensory issues that i have with lehengas and shalwar kameez. common saree W.

[disassociation-culture-is]

Depersonalisation with gender dysphoria culture is really really not recognising yourself in the mirror

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[emy-he-him]

I’m just going to leave this here

[gnc-culture-is]

Cis dysphoric gnc culture is all the dysphoria resources either telling you you're trans (which after much introspection you've understood that you're not) or telling you dysphoria is fake and you should just stop experiencing it

I mean. We believe you, and I hope dearly that you can find a way to alleviate your dysphoria. good luck.

[non-dysphoric-positivity]

non dysphoria alter surrounded by dysphoric trans alters culture is not understanding your headmates issues and sadness but being there to support them :D

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[dysphoric-culture-is]

dysphoric genderqueer culture is having dysphoria in a million "opposite" directions

Dysphoric culture is!

Also, yeah dysphoria can be 'contradictory' sometimes especially for not binary people. Or it can seem contradictory to someone else but make sense to you personally, for example you want to be feminine in [this] specific way and masculine in [that] specific way but other people just think "but you're already feminine and masculine so what's wrong?".

Good luck trying to balance things out anon!

[lavenderedhoney]

She shaved off her goatee for a change of pace but kept her mustache bc she's been feeling butch lately and it's really cute 🥰🥰🥰

[l-e-g-i-o-n-losh]

Sometimes i wonder if gaining weight would ever be viable or if it would double fuck my mystery joints to have to carry more (i have in the past been directly ordered by nurses to gain a little weight and prescribed supplements to do so but 1) they are spensive and 2) dad starts waxing fatphobic about "my health" when my ribs are still clearly visible) and then i get caught up in a completely theoretical dysphoria paradox loop about going to the trouble of finally getting top surgery only to gain weight and distribute fat right back to the bust and whether i would actually ever feel ok with my body under any circumstances. Idk.

I think about things like surgery and hrt a lot more than i have since we originally came out bc i feel like if I'm trying to shape my adult life into something i actually want to live then thats a huge component and I've already put it off a decade, but at the same time i still feel so stupid and anxious trying to look into it bc i dont even have regular healthcare and the state of our nation is so sucks and although i feel like i really know who I'm becoming or at least trying to i do NOT feel like i have enough cred to convince dad that i am capable of permanent adult life decisions, especially with how he doesn't even like the thought of me getting my ears pierced. He's always going to feel some degree of posession over my body and like its ok to manipulate me or stalk me or whatever if he "knows better" and its in my "best interest" and right now its not a problem bc we're a household and he gets a lot of managerial power anyways so it doesn't come up much but i always worry in the back of my mind what would happen if i ever did Really move out again.

He wants me to "act my age" and hit normal benchmarks like getting a job and dating and shit but like when am i Ever going to have time to work or meet people socially when I'm a 24/7 live in assistant and where am i going to get the PRIVACY to get to know somebody like that, even IF i wanted to, which i SHOULDN'T HAVE TO. He suggested arranging like zoom playdates for me once so i wouldn't get under socialized. That is NOT going to make me "normal" dude.

[atlasisntdead]

If my family keeps telling me to lose weight I will fucking lose it

[transxcultureis]

transX culture is when you are a dysphoric nonbinary person and you wanna transition to androgyny by either becoming sexless or a mix of the two binary sexes 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[disassociation-culture-is]

Is this dissociation? I'm a maladaptive daydreamer, and a large part of the time (25-40% of the time) when I'm not daydreaming, I'm sorta taking the role of one of my oc's, and everyone around me does too. If I'm sad, the cause is changed to the thing causing an oc sadness, and I'm them. I know I'm not actually them and I know for certain this isnt plurality or anything. Also, I'll have random moments where everything feels super real, like it wasn't real before but I was suddenly plunged into reality for 5-10 seconds until it went back to normal. I know I'm real, but I feel sorta out of it, ig, idk. I also don't recognize myself in the mirror a lot. Idk if this is all just symptoms of maladaptive daydreaming and dysphoria, or I'm dissociating. Help?

MDD is on the dissociation scale, even if it's not super recognized/in the DSM/ICD yet, so I'll just say that first XD

Very very relatable, and dysphoria could be the/a cause for dissociation.

Yea no only really you or a professional would be able to tell you whether or not that's dissociation, but it definitely sounds like it!! You pretty much Exactly explained our constant situation lol

Look into the connection btwn MDD and dissociation (if it won't be triggering), it's very interesting imo!!

(Also sorry for late response, we've been Quite busy and also questions Scare me sometimes lmao)

[alter-culture-is]

Cis Amab alter in afab body culture is not getting dysphoric when you get misgendered, just confused.

This could also apply to cis afab alters in amab bodies.

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[anxiety-culture-is]

[ Gender dysphoric ] Anxiety culture is being open about your preferred name and pronouns at school but when there is a substitute teacher and you go into Unnecessary Panic Mode because What If They Dont Know My Preferred Name And Announce My Deadname To The Whole Class During Role Call ( Im sorry this was long :(( )

The length of the ask is totally okay! I may not relate to this but I have friends who do. I understand the discomfort they have when being dead named so I send you love <3 /gen