#flexible aplatonic

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Aplflexible ~ Aqpflexible

Analtflexible ~ Asenflexible ~ Anaeflexible

Definition: One who is mostly a- [attraction type] but occasionally experience [attraction type] attraction. However, the attraction one experiences is so little and/or rare that one considers oneself a- [attraction type] with some fluidity.

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@tertiary-attraction-archive @orientation-archive @radiomogai @liom-archive @imoga-pride

[mintoezz]

Also they should bring back the popularity for alterous attraction/relationships btw I think it can be nice than just have qprs being the only ones

[your-bigender-big-brother]

It's Aplatonic Visibility Day! 💜💙💚💛

What is Aplatonic?

Aplatonic is an identity on the anattractional spectrum (aspec) that describes a lack of platonic attraction. The aplatonic spectrum is known as aplspec and apl- is pronounced like "apple."

Platonic refers to a tertiary form of attraction where one desires to form friendships (platonic relationships.) A platonic crush is known as a squish and a friend is the person who is in a platonic relationship.

Some folks may feel fluctuating platonic attraction while others may feel very diminished levels of platonic attraction. Some may be entirely repulsed by platonic relationships while others may simply not wish to pursue platonic relationships. All types of identities you see in the aspec community - gray, fray, litho, demi, cupio, aego, apothi, orchid, neuro - are experiences you may see in the aplatonic community. Like all other orientations, this is a flexible and varied label, and people will use it in a variety of ways.

This is not a term exclusive to the aro/ace community. Many folks may be aplatonic but feel attraction in other aspects.

Click here to see a very informative website all about the aplatonic identity and all the terms that fall under it.

Some blogs to follow:

@aplatonicism

@our-aplatonic-experience

@aplatonic-stuff

@apls-to-apls

@aro-apl-safeplace-for-all

@aroapl

@aroaplandchill

@aplatonic-culture-is

@aplatonicsafespace

@aplatonic-alpaca

I'm also aplatonic! I'm open to answering questions about it. I'm not out to many people (definitely no one outside of the internet) and I'm still exploring this aspect of me, so there are a lot of details I'm not sure how to explain yet. I talk a lot about my experiences under the "aplatonic" tag on my main, @stormy-talks.

- 💙💚

[mewos-laptop]

While it is true that humans are a social species, humans also have the choice to NOT be social, as opposed to animals living in the wilderness who NEED to be social to survive, inherently

Platonic, romantic, familial, sexual, etc attraction is ALL flexible, and it's especially noticeable in humans, but that doesn't mean that other animals don't still experience varying levels of that attraction. It's weird to try and box humans into the ways YOU think they're supposed to behave

Aplatonics and afamilials are completely valid, and they don't need to use science to justify existing ???? Identity is not scientific, it's just how someone is, and it's weird to expect every1 to have a scientific explanation as to why they don't experience platonic attraction or connection

[askanaroace]

i'm questioning whether i'm aplspec - aplspike, i think? maybe - but mainly, i am non-sam aroace, and i don't experience any romantic or sexual attraction. my friends, while acespec, do, and date.

my best friend recently got into a relationship and i feel insane because it makes me feel like i'm being left behind. it seems to be an alloromantic expectation that partners always come before friends.

as silly as it sounds i was listening to a reddit story where op was acting out of jealousy of their friend leaving them after they got into a relationship. while i recognised that it was an excessive reaction, it didn't occur to me once that op was in love with their friend; all of the commenters said they were, and that they were an asshole, because partners come before friends. but if i'm the only one that won't have a partner, does that mean i always come last?

again here - i think i might be aplspec, because i'm not sure whether or not what i feel towards my friends is "love" or not - perhaps some kind of deep attachment? the best friend i mentioned previously helped me through a lot of stuff so it would make sense. at times i definitely feel more obviously apl than others but i've never spoken about this with them for fear of their reaction.

am i overreacting? what do i do about these feelings? even if i don't love them, am i still wrong for feeling like i'm getting left behind? I don't know how to make sense of these feelings, i just don't feel as important anymore and I don't want lash out on them because of my own issues.

Yes, in amatonormativity, people are pressured and expected to treat romantic/sexual partners ahead of friends and friends do become a bit of an afterthought, unfortunately. I'm very sorry you're experiencing this now!

Since your friends are ace themselves, it feels worth it to actually bring this up to them and have a discussion. Before you do, I would consider what actions they've done that trigger these feelings of abandonment/loneliness. Do you hang out less? Do they no longer casually contact you? That way you can have specific things you can ask if they'd be willing to focus on with you.

I think it can kinda be extra tough to date as an ace but you feel really double the amount of pressure to adhere to amatonormative standards in order to be accepted and please your partner. You're already treated like you're somehow disadvantaging or even abusing your partner for being ace, so you can tend to hyper-adhere to amatonormative standards like upkeeping relationship hierarchies. But a conversation might make them realize the harm of this and that they don't have to do this. People worth dating wouldn't ask them to sacrifice their happiness.

As for always coming last, that is going to depend on your circle. There are absolutely people out there being relationship anarchists and working on breaking down these walls! Or maybe you'll happen to find a non-partnering friend or two! It's not an absolute guarantee that you'll always come last. A lot of people will unfortunately probably treat you that way - but there's people out there who won't, as well. I wouldn't just completely give up. Keep advocating for yourself and building relationships with folk who are willing to stand against these norms and value non-romantic relationships more similarly to you! And no, it's not an asshole move to expect to be treated with consideration by your friends! I spend a lot of time on reddit and the aspec communities there are pretty darn good - but by and large, reddit is really a cesspool for some of the worst and most stereotypical ways of thinking. I would not turn to reddit (especially relationship forums) for any sort of reality check or validation.

As for aplspec - there's a lot of different ways to be apl. There's actually two main definitions for being aplatonic, so there's a lot of flexibility in you getting to determine how you feel and if the label helps you or not. Also, if a label even just mostly feels right to you, feel free to use it! Humans aren't clear cut or black and white. There's a lot of room on a lot of spectrums. It's okay to have "exceptions" to the labels you use. I think if apl helps you understand and make room for this difference in the way you feel in regards to friends than other people tend to, then that's what the label is for. Also, aplatonic is about platonicism at its core. There's some aplatonic people who feel like they skip the friend-ness and go straight to being family with some people. They're still apl. You can be apl and have some sort of strong feelings or attachment towards those you're close with.

As for overreacting - feeling feelings is not a reaction. It's an innate response to a variety of internal and external stimuli. Feelings are just information. So having feelings cannot be an underreaction or an overreaction. Feelings are a part of how we decide what actions to take, and it's actions that have positive and negative impacts. So what you need to weigh is: what do you want to do with these feelings? Sit with them and think about them longer? Talk about them? Talk about them to a queer-friendly therapist? Talk about them with your friends? Talk about them with a queer support group? Make changes to the way you build your relationships?

It's okay to feel your feelings and live your life. In general, I hate the term "overreacting". It tends to be a way to gaslight people out of advocating for their own happiness. People are often shamed for "overreacting" by others in their life who don't want to have difficult conversations or take into consideration their feelings. It's always people either in toxic situations or in marginalized communities asking themselves "am I overreacting and being too sensitive?" and never the others asking themselves "am I being too insensitive or even controlling?"

You're allowed to want to make of your life what you want to make of it. That's not a bad thing. Your happiness and fulfillment matters. You should get to build a life with people who want similar things as you. You deserve a place to get to make room for your feelings and make decisions to build your life in a way that would make you happy and comfortable. You deserve to exist, difficult and intense feelings and all.

Having a conversation is not lashing out. It's okay to talk about your feelings with others and ask for what you need. It's okay to walk away from people, too.

[42-clocks]

aplatonic refers to someone who experiences little to no platonic attraction OR someone who struggles to form or maintain platonic relationships

it’s still an emerging term so the definition is very flexible — but in regards to the first def, it basically means that they don’t get “friend crushes” like if you’re acquaintances w someone and think “woah I really wish I could be their friend!” apls just don’t have that feeling. it also doesn’t (always) mean that they don’t have any friends, just that other types of relationships may be more impactful for them like familial, romantic, or sexual.

There’s also loveless and lovepunk folks who reject or defy social norms surrounding love and attraction all together

here’s an article that goes in depth aromanticism.org/en/news-feed/aplatonicism-101

[image ID: Bernie Sanders meme with a small aplatonic flag captioned “I am once again asking for you to include aplatonics in your pride art/posts/merch” End ID]

[arco-pluris]

Hi! I'm aspec and wondering if I'm aplatonic, asocial or anamical, or maybe all? I have the gist of it but i've seen platonic attraction be described so many different ways that im now confused as what counts as platonic (unless its a flexible definition-) if you know, could you describe key differences between amical, social and platonic ?

I saw people classifying anamicality and asociality within aplatonic spectrum/as aplspec identities.

and just as you noticed, platonic attraction is so subjective and multifaceted that the aplatonic spectrum becomes broader than any other anattractional spectrum/aspec identity.

I say that because I'm alloplatonic but nuancedly apl-spec, since I'm on asocial and anamical spectrums. that's how I view myself, so depending on other people's interpretations on those attractions, I could become aplatonic alloamical.

when I coined/tried to describe my feelings towards what I called amical attraction, I interpreted platonic attraction as an intersection between interpersonal interactions and impersonal attraction. I hadn't the right words in my mind to subcategorize that that time.

why impersonal? in philosophy classes in highschool, I learned about platonism and platonic love in a perspective similar to what I used to ratiocinate/rationalize, maybe I self-interpreted my own way too.

maybe going on wikis and reading about those sorts of attraction seems easy to classify yourself through handy terms ignoring subjectivity.

I saw some blogs mentioning the concept that amical attraction comes from a non-Westerner point of view. comparable to the non-consanguineous siblinghood (brotherhood/sisterhood, called bromance/womance specifically I guess). in truth, amicality derive (Neo)Latin languages (amistad/amizade/amitié/amicizia). it shouldn't be confused with amicability (friendliness) nor amiability (loveliness).

anytime you see platonic orientation antagonists acting as if platonicality is a friendship attraction, you see that friendships in english encompasses acquaintanceships as well.

so friends aren't necessarily amique (amīcum/amigue/ami·e), as acquaintances (noti) aren't the as amiques (amigues/ami·es). I just made amiquity up now, but I'm presuming it's the neuter/epicene of amico/amica in Italian.

asociality is personality trait based on interacting/socializing but when it comes to attraction/orientation, I personally feel it deeply impersonally rather than tactfully/tactily. I'm unable to speak much on it.

and if some aplatonix are defining their unattraction/aspecness as towards friends and platonicity/platohood as friendhood, that's their right. in fact it carries a flexible definition/description. in that sense, amicity becomes a best friends relationship/orientation. but wasn't it just quasiplatonic closeness‽

qplatonicity(qplatonism/qplatonicality) for me is “higher” than amicities(amicalities/amicism)/«more than» just BFFs(best friends). it's an amato-attraction/amorous(gamous/anthropous/relatious/relational) relationship. but I can't dictate how others feel about QPP/QPR/QPA. QPRs/QPPs can be interchangeable with amics for some people.

and just in case, there's specifically familial attraction for siblingliness/germanality (brotherlinees/fraternality\sisterliness/sororality) [germanidade/germanalidade (germanitude/germanity‽)/irmandade/irmanidade/irmanalidade (irmanality/irmanity)/hermanidad/hermandad/hermanalidad (hermanity/hermanality) is the neuter of fraternity & sorority]. so I leave amity to be just friendzoning (many aspex like being friendzoned, as they say) if one wants

[twstsimping]

Introducing my new Scarabia Oc!! This took me loads of time to make and I’m really proud of it!

Name: will smith

Age: ???

Birthday: ???

Starsign: ???

Height: 6’ 2

Eye colour: brown

Hair colour: black

Homeland: ???

Dorm: Scarabia

School year: 3rd

Class: 3A

Occupation: student, genie of the lamp

Club: light music club

Best subject: music

Dominant hand: ambidextrous

Favourite food: jams

Least favourite food: human flesh

Dislikes: Not having a top knot

Hobby: singing

Talent: everything

Personality

Who is Will Smith? He is an American actor, producer, rapper, and songwriter who has been nominated for four Golden Globe Awards, two Academy Awards, and has won four Grammy Awards, and was named "the most powerful actor in Hollywood" by Newsweek. He was born on Wednesday September 25th 1968, in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, United States.

Will Smith has powerful personality, and possesses great potential for success, but this power is delicate and conditioned by a strong commitment of his to his ideals and vision, which must be used to inspire others to join him in his dream. He must learn to effectively bring together the necessary elements - people, ideas and resources - to realize his goals. This undertaking can be quite complex and multi-layered, so Smith must also learn to surrender to the larger cause that he serves, and to understand that the final result may be quite different from his original vision. But with such faith and commitment, Will will make an enduring impact on the world.

is good at business and politics. He naturally understands large institutions, and has the ability to think and act on an international scale. He has developed the talent to deal effectively with a great variety of people, to understand and consequently to unite many differing people toward a single goal. As the visionary with both his feet on the ground, Will Smith is gifted with uncommonly sound common sense. He can see the beauty and potential in a given idea, but also the practical methods that will bring it to fruition. He also understands intuitively the limitations of ideas - what will work and what will not.

Will Smith is a steady partner in any relationship, and offers sound advice and consistent emotional support. He avoids airs and pretension, does not suffer from flights of fancy, and resists the emotional heights. However, Will is also very difficult to live up to. This ambitious personality of his makes him a most difficult master who drives all that is around him to accomplish the utmost of what they are capable of.

Smith's lesson is to share his vision and allow others too to make their personal contributions. This flexibility is perhaps the toughest challenge for Will Smith's strong personality. When he grows more faith in the ability of others, he would lessen his tendency to control, and sometimes even manipulate, people and situations.

Unique magic

Wills unique magic is called aplatonic genie, he can say the words aplatonic genie mood board and send anyone into a coma.

Backstory

Well Ali Baba had them forty thieves

Scheherezad-ie had a thousand tales

But master you in luck 'cause up your sleeves

You got a brand of magic never fails

You got some power in your corner now

Some heavy ammunition in your camp

You got some punch, pizzazz, yahoo and how

See all you gotta do is rub that lamp

And I'll say

Mister Aladdin, sir

What will your pleasure be?

Let me take your order

Jot it down

You ain't never had a friend like me

Life is your restaurant

And I'm your maitre d'

C'mon whisper what it is you want

You ain't never had a friend like me

Yes sir, we pride ourselves on service

You're the boss

The king, the shah

Say what you wish

It's yours, true dish

How about a little more Baklava?

Have some of column A

Try all of column B

I'm in the mood to help you dude

You ain't never had a friend like me

Can your friends do this?

Do your friends do that?

Do your friends pull this out their little hat?

Can your friends go poof?

Well, looky here

Can your friends go, Abracadabra, let 'er rip

And then make the sucker disappear?

So dontcha sit there slack-jawed, buggy-eyed

I'm here to answer all your midday prayers

You got me bona fide, certified

You got a genie for your chargé d'affaires

I got a powerful urge to help you out

So what-cha wish?

I really want to know

You got a list that's three miles long, no doubt

Well, all you gotta do is rub like so - and oh

Mister Aladdin, sir, have a wish or two or three

I'm on the job, you big nabob

You ain't never had a friend, never had a friend

You ain't never had a friend, never had a friend

You ain't never had a friend like me

You ain't never had a friend like me, hah!

Trivia

Don’t touch him

He likes to party

It’s cold and dark inside his lamp

He likes going on a walk

As people

He has a son

No one knows his age or where he comes from

He has a burning hatred of Jamil

[variant-archive]

Variant: not completely conforming to the societal and cultural ideals or roles of gender, sex, orientation, sexuality, relationships, expression, and other related forms of self-identification. Not being accepted as a member of conformant society due to one’s identity differing from the one assigned to and expected of them. To specify certain subcommunities, terms like gender variant, attractional variant, and relational variant can be used.

“Conformant” is the antonym- meaning not variant-  because cishetalloperisexmonoam(screaming for 11 minutes) is too long and I don’t want to keep shortening it to cis/het because some variants are both cis and het, but variant in another way like gender nonconformity, intersexness, or non-monoamory.

I discuss this term more in this post.

The flag stripe/color meanings are of particular importance because they’re meant to represent certain variant sub-communities and I want to make sure it covers everything to clarify what identities are variant. Colors are chosen based on their use in pride flags/symbols and their association with certain identities. I also wanted the flag to evoke other variant flags like genderqueer when you examine it closely. might edit this if I forgot something. To be fair, there is a lot to cover. Just know that these aren’t complete lists… because that would be a list of every term ever. I’m sticking to mostly broad terminology because of that.

From top center to bottom corners:

Lilac: represents all of the variant community and inclusionism. Lilac is the color representing variance.

Purple: represents (gender)queer, gender/pronoun nonconforming, cross-aligned, androgynous/androgyne, ace-spectrum, altersex, wlw, transgenital, genderfluid, amplusian, mspec/pluralian, (bi/pan)curious, genderfuck, strayt, kingender, varioriented, gender creative, transexpressive, and ficto- variants.

Blue: represents non-monoamorous, non-monogamous, alterous, objectum, conceptum, gay (all kinds of gay), gai, aplatonic, lesbian, auto-, paro-, multigender, enbian, fluitic, flex-, and (responsible/consensual) kinky-identified variants, as well as variants in nontraditional relationships or with variant relationship orientations/preferences.

Yellow: represents neutral, intersex,  abinary, xenine/xin/xenogender, aesthetigender, ambident, iso, ultric, pangender, anthrotherio-, nblnb, pulsaric, aporagender, nontrinary, pandrogynous/pandrogyne, limno-, maverique, and queerplatonic variants.

Green: represents agender, neutrois, aro-spectrum, angenital, orientationgender, agorarelational (open relationship), mlm, medusan/alloda-, aliagender/other gender, oriented aroace, antigender, neurogender, synesgender, heartedgender, and abro- variants.

Black: represents aspec, anattractional, omnia-, repulsed/ARC, nonpronominal/pronounless, unaligned, nonamorous, apothigender, apothibinary, leptrois-spectrum, negabinary, sexless, neither gender, gendervoid, nullgender, anonbinary, and genderpunk variants.

Gray: represents gray-aspec, uingender, graygender, questioning, neuro-oriented, genderflux, flexible, amplusic, autogamous, gamyflux, celibate-oriented, utrinque, demigender, pre-, and nongender variants.

The shape is to evoke queer chevrons and the letter v. Exclusionists/REGs, truscum/transmeds, gatekeepers/identity policers, anti-mogai/neolabel/neopronoun and anyone who would exclude any variant identity can’t use the flag, interact with me or this post, or participate in the variant community. We’re inherently inclusionist and so is the flag and term.

[stormy-talks]

I just call myself aplatonic. I'm a little new to this label and haven't gotten to talk much about it outside of some posts I've made here.

I think my aplatonic identity intersects with my autism in a way. Platonic relationships and attraction have specific societal rules that I just can't wrap my head around or figure out how to navigate. It's incompatible with my neurodivergence.

Love me some red apples. I love Cosmic Crisp apples and Red Delicious. The darker and crunchier, the better. Ambrosia apples are also really good.

I prefer apple cider over apple juice. I don't drink cider as often as I'd like. Maybe I'll do that more this year!

I like candy apples sometimes. My partner once surprised me by making me my very first candy apples with five different varieties of apples to try, which is how I discovered I like ambrosia apples. I used to love caramel apples but I have a dental crown so anything that can stick to my teeth is avoided at all costs. Artificial green apple isn't so bad but I don't eat it as much as an adult. Loved it as a kid. I remember always buying these caramel green apple lollipops all the time and they were so good.

I came out here on Tumblr and recently put out a video about the experience, but I've never come out with confidence to anyone. No one outside of the internet knows yet, and it doesn't seem relevant really.

I realized that my confusion about friendships and what is expected when I'm in one was an indication of being aplatonic.

I honestly don't remember when I first heard about aplatonic. I must have seen it in some aromantic spaces and never thought much about it, because I thought it was specific to the aro/ace community.

Friendship? Uhh. Well, I'm allo- everything so friendships are weird to me if there isn't some other aspect (romantic/sexual specifically.) It's hard for me to navigate any relationship that isn't romantic or sexual. Ideally I'd have a strong support system. People I can connect with, especially right now in my life where I'm lacking a lot of support. These would be people I could share my work and my experiences with, maybe similar to my Discord server where I share the projects I'm working on and share resources on different identity-related topics. I don't have friends or a support system though. Not ideal.

(B) I prefer no friends unless there's a conversation beforehand, where we can discuss expectations and boundaries. Navigating life without friends isn't so bad because it takes a lot of burden off of me. I'm not expected to maintain entire other relationships outside of the one I have with my partner. I'm no good at keeping track of multiple people in my life. But I also feel left out when I see friend groups. I wish I had that but I don't know how to pursue it and the thought of maintaining non-rose relationships stresses me out.

Not really. But I highly dislike when people assume I'm their friend just because we talk a lot or hang out sometimes.

I'm mostly indifferent to friendship tropes and stories that focus on friendship. I like to see them sometimes because it's something I want but can't have, but sometimes it's fun to observe them from the outside. I don't like the heavy focus on friendships in aspec spaces though, especially when friendship is seen as more valuable than romantic and sexual relationships.

Aplatonic isn't just "I have no friends" but at the same time, having no friends is okay. I also don't want to be pitied for being aplatonic. It's just a lack of attraction and it doesn't affect anyone.

I simply want people to see the flexibility of the label and that this label is not unobtainable to people like me who don't experience a lack of attraction in any other aspect.

I'd like to see aplatonic-coded characters that are not hermits, "weirdos", or villains. I want an average everyday person represented.

I never thought to headcanon anyone as aplatonic. Honestly? Could be internalized aphobia. It's something I don't ever consider as a headcanon but I should! It should do it as often as I headcanon characters as nonbinary or gay.

Not any that I can think of. Actually, since I'm literally looking at my partner playing this game right now: I can relate to Linus. He seems like he could be aplatonic in some way.

None I can think of. I'd love to be recommended some though!

Aplatonic Asks 🍏

What aplatonic labels and terminology do you use?

Is there any intersection with your aplatonic identity and other identities you have?

Thoughts on apples? Red or green?

Thoughts on apple juice? What about apple cider?

Have you ever tried a candy apple? Thoughts on artifical green apple flavor?

Have you come out to anyone as aplatonic? Have you discussed aplatonicism with anyone outside of aplatonic communities?

How did you realize you were aplatonic?

How did you first learn about the term "aplatonic"?

If you do want friends, describe your ideal friendship. If you don't want friends, describe your ideal support system.

(A) If applicable, talk about the successful and comfortable friendships you've had. What is it like for you to navigate friendship as an aplatonic? (B) If you don't have, want, or prefer friends, talk a little about the other kinds of relationships in your life that you deem important. Outside of relationships, what makes you happy and comfortable in life? What's it like to navigate life without friends?

Is there anything that makes you feel plato-repulsed?

Thoughts on the "power of friendship" trope? And other similar platonic-heavy tropes and stories?

What do you wish alloplatonics understood about being aplatonic?

What would you want to see highlighted in aplatonic awareness aimed at alloplatonics and questioning apls?

What would you want to see in aplatonic representation in media and/or fandom?

Do you have any aplatonic headcanons?

Has there been any media and/or characters that you could relate to as an aplatonic?

Any aplatonic-friendly media recommendations? Any media you recommend that aplatonics avoid?

[i-dreamed-i-had-a-son]

What’s a queer platonic relationship? How would you define it? xx

Hi! Thanks for asking, I love talking about QPRs :)

Queer platonic relationships (or partnerships, if you prefer) are relationships that aren't the same as typical friendships or romantic relationships. The term is most commonly used in reference to an a-spec relationship of some kind, but allo people can have them too.

I'd characterize it as a committed platonic relationship which is distinct from other friendships and is not inherently romantic in nature. (I also use the term "life partner" to refer to the same type of thing, but they're not quite synonymous.)

A QPR can involve varying degrees of intimacy, such as cuddling/spooning/holding hands, etc. If you want, it can even include romantic or sexual behavior. But, in contrast to a romantic/sexual relationship, none of these behaviors are expected or necessary for the relationship to be healthy and enjoyable. That's why many a-spec folks love them: they allow emotional intimacy, with a committed partner, without the necessity for romantic or sexual feelings.

They're very "customizable", and each QPR has goals and boundaries unique to the people in it. It helps remove the societal pressure, associated with typical relationships, to do certain things and be a certain way. This allows for a lot of flexibility. Some people think this makes QPRs less meaningful than romantic relationships, but that's not true--the level of commitment present can be the same; it is just a different type of relationship.

Bonus info: Like a crush (romantic) or a squish (platonic), the strong desire to be in a QPR with someone has its own term: plush. Also, if someone refers to themselves as aplatonic, it can mean they don't have any desire for a QPR; alternatively, it may mean they don't get squishes and/or plushes.

Anyways, that's a lot lol 😂 if you're looking for more information, I know @/justaroacethings on Instagram has some good graphics that might be useful! I hope this answered some of what you wanted to know though. :) Hope your day is filled with nice things!