Little things adults and older people can do to help younger people and children feel included, safe, and respected as an equal individual:
Ask before touching the young person - even for hugs. Ask before you take pictures of them, and let them see photographs of them before they are printed or sent to others (even family).
Apologize when you are wrong
Ask for a young persons thoughts on a subject, then engage with them after they have spoken
Demonstrate behaviour you want to see from them (see: apologizing). Say "excuse me," say "thank you," say "please" to them
Validate their feelings, even if they don't know how to express them just yet
Remember that this is the first time they've been alive, and that you've had way longer to "figure it out"
These are some things I wish other adults remembered when engaging with young folks. We so often forget what childhood felt like and how unfair it all was because we were often awarded freedoms as adults that we never had as children. These kids are equal to adults, and they deserve the same courtesy, respect, kindness, and understanding we give to other adults.
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Curious System / Plural Ask Game
inclusive of all system types :] feel free to send an ask, or reblog if you want to play too!
❤ Is anyone in-system in a relationship? What kind(s)?
🌹 Does your system have any inhuman members? If so, what species are they?
🐾 Is your system mostly human or inhuman members? Somewhere in between?
🧡 How does your system handle memories? Does everyone share, or is it split across members? (Feel free to be as vague or specific as you want, or skip this question.)
⭐ Do you have a headspace / inner world? What does it look like?
💛 How long have you known about your system / plurality?
🌻 How did you discover your system / plurality? (Feel free to be as vague or specific as you want, or skip this question.)
🌙 How does your system handle dreams? Do you share dreams, or are they specific to one member? Do any members show up in dreams?
💚 Do you have any funny stories about another system member(s) or about being a system?
🍀 Do any system members practice a religion or belief system? What about spirituality?
❄ Do you have a favorite memory related to your system? (i.e. something that happened in headspace or something that another member did.)
💙 Does your system have any introjects? Do they typically come from the same source / origin, or is it more varied?
🧵 How does your system handle the body's / vessel's appearance? Does everyone dress the same, or is there a broad range of styles?
💜 What's your favorite part of being plural / in a system?
🌺 Do any members consider other system members to be family? In other words, does your system have any internal families (such as siblings, caretakers, parents, etc.) ?
🌸 Does your system have any inside jokes?
🎀 Does your system share everything in the outer world / meatspace? Does anyone have any objects / items that are solely theirs?
🤎 Do system members typically agree on things or is there a broad range of opinions?
🖤 How does your system make important collective decisions? Does one person call the shots, or is it a group effort?
🚀 Do any members speak another language? What about multiple languages? Does everyone speak the same language(s), or does it vary?
🌼 Do any members have accents or typing quirks? Are accents/quirks common in your system, or more rare?
☁ How does your system handle switching? Can you switch easily, or does it take more effort? Are there a lot of switches?
🔬 Does everyone in your system typically share skills and hobbies, or does it vary between members? Does anyone have any unique or strange hobbies / skills?
🏁 How has your system changed over time, if it has? Such as a new influx of members, a change in headspace, or a new structure. (Feel free to be as vague or specific as you want, or skip this question.)
🔎 Is there any other trivia about your system you'd like to share?
🤍 Say something positive about another system member (or all of them, if you'd like!)
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