#introvert guide

[joitotheworldstuff]

Introvert's Guide to Friendship: Finding Friends Who Respect Your Space

Friendship is a beautiful part of life, but for introverts, it can be a tricky balance between socializing and maintaining personal space. Introverts tend to recharge in solitude, and sometimes, traditional forms of friendship can feel draining. The good news is that you can still form meaningful friendships that honor your need for space and quiet moments. Here’s how to cultivate relationships…

[bodyhorror-bimbo]

I would probably make a horrible floret… sigh.

- I intrinsically appose authoritarian government.

- I kill every indoor plant I touch.

- I am self destructive.

- I crave and need personal space and alone time. Don’t touch me. Don’t look at me. Leave me to my nest.

- I have a fear of needles.

- The idea of being in outer space sounds cool…. Also fills me with deep deep dread.

- I am gonna try and bite an Affini. Probably multiple. I need to know how every possibly edible plant I come across tastes.

[glowettee]

✧・゜ how to radiate confidence in social situations (even when you're screaming inside) ゜✧:・゜✧

hey lovelies! ✧

let's be honest - we've all been there. standing in a room full of people, smile plastered on, while our internal monologue is having a complete meltdown. that was literally me last weekend at this networking event where i knew absolutely no one and spent the first 15 minutes hiding in the bathroom (classic me behavior).

but over time i've collected some little tricks that help me appear confident even when my insides are doing gymnastics. thought i'd share in case any of you are fellow social anxiety girlies too!

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ the body language hack ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

our bodies can actually trick our minds into feeling confident. before entering any intimidating social situation, i find a private spot (usually the bathroom, let's be real) and stand in a "power pose" for two minutes. arms on hips, shoulders back, chin up. it feels silly but it genuinely changes my nervous system.

another tiny thing: keep your hands visible, not crossed or hidden in pockets. something about this signals confidence to others and eventually to yourself.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ prepare your conversation toolkit ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

nothing makes me panic more than awkward silence, so i always have a mental list of conversation starters ready. not just "what do you do?" but questions that actually lead somewhere interesting:

"what's been keeping you busy outside of work lately?"

"have you read/watched anything good recently?"

"what's something you're looking forward to this year?"

the secret is asking questions that you genuinely want to hear answers to. people can sense authentic curiosity, and it takes pressure off you to be "interesting" when you're focused on being interested.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ the "i belong here" mindset shift ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

this one changed everything for me. i used to walk into rooms thinking "i hope they like me" which immediately put me in a position of seeking approval. now i try to shift to "i wonder if i'll like them."

it's such a subtle change but it puts you in the position of the observer rather than the observed. suddenly you're not auditioning for acceptance - you're just seeing if this person/group is your vibe.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ embrace the awkward ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

the biggest confidence killer is trying to be perfect. there's actually something magnetic about someone who can laugh at themselves when they trip over a word or spill their drink.

i've started just naming the awkwardness when it happens: "well that came out completely wrong, let me try again!" people actually connect more with your humanity than your perfection.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ the 5-second reset ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

when i feel myself spiraling into overthinking, i use this tiny reset: i take a deep breath, count to 5, and remind myself that most people are too worried about themselves to be analyzing me.

seriously, the same insecurity that makes you worry about what others think is the exact thing that prevents others from thinking about you as much as you fear!

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ aftercare is essential ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

confidence isn't just about how you act in the moment - it's also about how you treat yourself after. i used to dissect every interaction, cringing at everything i said.

now i have a rule: no social autopsies. instead, i celebrate that i showed up at all. sometimes i'll even buy myself a little treat on the way home as a "well done for being brave" gift.

remember, true confidence isn't the absence of fear - it's just the decision that something else is more important than that fear. and with practice, those screaming-inside moments get quieter and less frequent.

what about you? any confidence hacks that help you in social situations?

xoxo, mindy 🤍

[plum-petals]

TIME FOR THE NEXT PART OF THE RIDAN LIST!!!!

Mostly from chapter 1 of the Ivan’s rules for survival. Plus one that I forgot last time.

Both having a very strong sense of loyalty to the ones they care about.

Ridoc’s patience with Ivan in rule 3

Ivan being quietly hilarious to Ridoc’s louder humor (it’s just the way the compliment each other so well)

“He does kind of like Ridoc.” Rule 3 (see attached picture for my reaction)

“Ridoc says brightly, leaning his head down close to the table to catch his gaze.” Rule 3 (this is so cute)

Honestly just all of Rule 3

Ivan being incredibly happy he made Ridoc laugh. Rule 3 (me too)

THE WINKING! Rule 3

ANOTHER ENTRY FOR THE RIDAN LIST!!! Keep them coming 💓

a few comments are like “oh i didn’t see this coming!” and i have to giggle because truthfully i have been hinting at it from the beginning. i wasn’t sold fully on exploring it until other people pointed it out too but i definitely built their friendship very intentionally and it’s so fun to see the pay-off 60 chapters later… maybe i will make my own ridan list of all the breadcrumbs i dropped hahah

the way that they lowkey are the two funniest members of iron squad just in wildly different ways hahaha

[minzart]

THEY ARE FINALLY OFFICIALY BESTIES OH MY GOD THAT ANKWARDNESS IS SO CHARMING I WANNA SQUEEZE THESE TWO

[dreamaze]

Save Giuk 15/� ... from being caught between yongkang (no. 1 of many)

(cr. STUDIO WEVE)

[hold-fast-and-rise]

[1introvertedsage]

Not all ghosts haunt - Some keep you company until you can trust the living once more ~Noor Shirazie~

[individualist-infp]

Hi i'm stuck between infp and enfp and I wanted ur op on what u think I am? I'm actually kind of shy/quiet/awkward in social situations, but I think it's because I have some social anxiety? Either way, I always have a natural urge/tendency to be around people and try exciting things. I have a lot to say and feel like I only hold back because of my anxiety/fear. In truth, I'm actually quite spontaneous but also deep/internally focused at times. Do u think I might be an infp or enfp??

From that information I can't tell if you are an enfp, infp or other type. First of all you need to know if you are an introvert or an extrovert. There are extroverts who can have social anxiety or be shy and introverts who can be social. There's the stereotype that extroverts equal party animals or people with 100 friends that always have to be socializing, or that being an introvert equals shyness. Those are just confusing stereotypes.

The first letter of a physchological type is I or E , which stands for our primary attitude: Extraversion or Introversion.

Extroverts: emphasize the influence of outward circumstances. They interact with most situations in terms of the satisfactions possible to them—even if those satisfactions have no immediate relationship to their Introverted reflections.

Extraverts are stimulated by the claims, pleasures, and obligations of the outer world. The people, things, and events that constitute the external world.

Do you seek and collect energy from the world outside?

Are you energized by the outside world of people, objects, experiences, etc?

Do you act before reflecting?

Are you influenced by and gauge your worth by the expectations and attention of others?

Are you outgoing and highly expressive, and do you fail to recognize your own needs?

Are you straighforward, understandable, accesible?

Introverts: emphasize the inner viewpoint. They are most comfortable in situations that allow for sustained reflection and a certain amount of privacy. If the satisfactions possible in a situation aren’t well enough related to their needs, they may carve out a space for themselves that allows them to participate on their own terms.

Do you consider your own viewpoint the arbiter of reality and make decisions based on it?

Do you focus on and draw sustenance from a vivid and rich inner world of thoughts, ideas, feelings, impressions, facts?

Do you reflect before you act?

Do you defend yourself against the expectations of others?

Are you self-aware, sometimes passionately intense, but may not realize the effect you have on others?

The key here is to reflect on yourself and think were do you draw sustenance, the inside world or the external world? Extroverts can be reflective at times when they use their introvert functions but they still have the preference for extraversion.

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Also, you need to take into account your cognitive functions to figure out your type accurately. There are 4 functions in each stack of each type, their order vary depending of the type.

It's not the same to have Fi in your dominant function or as the auxiliary function, the dynamic changes. When an INFP is presented with a new situation for example, he or she first needs to reflect on personal feelings or how she feels about the situation. If it aligns with her personal values she then goes for it. On the contrary an ENFP may easily jump to the new experience and seeks to exploit it's potential, and then reflects and internalizes feelings.

INFP: Internalizes feelings, then is open to new experiences.

ENFP: Experiences, then internalizes feelings.

INFP:

(Fi) Introverted Feeling

(Ne) Extraverted Intuition

(Si) Introverted Sensing

(Te) Extraverted Thinking

ENFP:

(Ne) Extraverted Intuition

(Fi) Introverted Feeling

(Te) Extraverted Thinking

(Si) Introverted Sensing

First of all, there are the perceiving functions, which can be iNtuitive (N) or Sensation (S). We use those functions to perceive.

Types who prefer Sensation generally focus on direct sensory experience. They’re aware of appearances, facts, and details, and their surroundings have a direct impact on them.

Types who prefer Intuition generally ignore the material surface of things and consider the larger picture. They’re interested in meaning and future possibility, not facts and details. Intuitives may be so focused on a situation’s potential that they overlook present obstacles. They have great interest in symbols and the unseen, it's natural for them to read between the lines, they see what's behind the physical. Ex: When watching a movie an intutive interprets an old and decrepit manor where a tragic character lives like his underworld, a place of suffering and entrapment. A sensor just sees it as a manor, nothing more.

Then, there are the judging functions: Thinking (T) and Feeling (F). Judging functions prompt us to note how things usually happen and to organize our behaviors accordingly. This is why Thinking and Feeling are considered rational functions. Rational behavior is always based on predictability—things we know to be true because they happen regularly in the same way.

When we use Thinking, we organize our behaviors in terms of general, impersonal predictability: rules, laws, principles, logical or numerical sequence, definition, hierarchy, and so forth.

 When we use Feeling, we organize our behaviors in terms of specific, personal criteria: the signs and rituals that convey our shared beliefs, values, moral sensibilities, identification with others, and social relationships.

Lastly, there are the Perceivers (P) or Judgers (J). These do not represent cognitive functions, but preferences.

As the title suggests, those with a J preference pair like to “judge” life’s outcomes. They’re careful calibrators and enjoy setting schedules and making plans. They prefer to know what comes next and like to have a sense of control over their surroundings. Overall, they like things the way they are and aren’t always open to change.

Perceivers see life as a spontaneous opportunity.Those with a P on their personality results are most likely seen as creative, curious, and open-minded. They can easily adapt to almost any situation and prefer flexible schedules. All in all, they come across as procrastinators with an outgoing approach on life.

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I hope I haven't confused you with all of this information. This is the basics of the different type of functions and the difference between introversion and extraversion. There's a lot more to know with the functions, but I didn't wanted to overwhelm you. If you have more questions feel free to send me more messages. 😊 On my taglist I have many post on cognitive functions and typing tips, you can check them out.

I recommend you this test to figure out your type with precision:

https://www.shambhala.com/media/wysiwyg/Personality%20Type_Psychological%20Test.pdf

[iamthekarmapolice]

second weekend in the new place and ive woken up feeling hungover even though i haven’t had a drop of alcohol yesterday. i think it’s just the eventfulness of the week catching up to me. i really feel like i don’t have the energy to do anything social or physically involved that’s for sure. ill probably feel better on future weekends when the week isn’t wall-to-wall moments of things that are all just so new to me and when my brain gets more familiar with here. i feel bad because there’s people who adapt so well and always have an endless reserve of energy to socialize and do stuff and feel like a local within weeks but idk. unless i get a personality transplant that’s never going to be me. so this weekend i Rest. best i can do is walk around different parts of the city for an hour or so on each day

[wildflower-otome]

Boris Airay: 'As I thought, in times like these, it's better to get right to it. The queen may be a high class lady, but in the end, she's still a girl.' 'I'm the type to immediately go after the girls I like. Like doing ~~~ and ~~~ right from the start.' Nightmare Gottschalk: '.....!' Boris Airay: 'So, because the rook's here.....Mr Stationmaster will probably block with his bishop, but that's all part of the plan.' 'The truth is, I can aim for the queen from here. Once the stationmaster's queen can only move forward, I'll come in from the side.....' 'From the front is fine too, but doing it from the side and back is pretty good too. Going like ~~~ and ~~~, like you're doing something naughty.....~' Boris Airay: '——Anyway, something like that? Right, Stationmaster?' Nightmare Gottschalk: '~~~-.....!!' Nightmare Gottschalk: Y-Y-You...! I can't believe you! Not only thinking something so indecent, but saying it out loud!' Nightmare Gottschalk: 'A-a-a-aren't you embarrassed, don't you feel ashamed at all-?!!' Boris Airay: 'Hm~? Not really~?'

[mossycakes]

most embarrassing "crying on my period" moment was recently, when i ordered a revision guide for my a levels and found it was written by one person. text books are usually written by a group, and i just imagined him alone in a university study room working on it ... oh my god stop its too sad justice for peter clements

[queen-of-elves]

I made a Introvert’s guide to a cool summer notion template you can use for free (o˘◡˘o) I had a lot of fun making it and maybe it might come handy to some introverts scared of wasting their summer away

[rxttenfish]

okay but the weirdest thing people do is assume shyness/awkwardness/introverted-ness somehow makes them immune from guilt. as in, if they are anxious and fearful then they can automatically never hurt a person, never injure a person, never commit any great evil and that they are instantly immune from all culpability and innocent in all regardless. its bizarre, as if in their minds being able to reach out or initiate is the only thing which makes someone capable of harm.

[devil-ace09]

I mean shit childhood, complicated youth but happy married life? Yes please.

I'm already mapping out what, why, how and when of the series.

✨SPIN THE WHEEL TO GET YOUR CHARACTER✨

[laidbackmarco]

Laidback Log: June 22nd Back Into the Habit

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