#no exclusionary bullshit on my tumblr

[swimmingdeepbelow]

Having to block 90% of the systems I come across for their absolutely insane hypocrisy is wild. We should not be hating on people for deadass just existing differently than us.

Seriously wish Tumblr would stop shoving this shit in my face. I'm tired of seeing the cruel bullshit towards endos and other sys origins. I'm tired of finding out people I thought were chill are actually hateful assholes.

Endos, y'all deserve better. You're safe on all my blogs. All sys origins are.

Systems complaining about being fake claimed and trying to spread positivity while actively fake claiming a massive part of our fucking community are hypocritical and that's the end of it. Your posts are soured by it. They mean nothing in the face of your hatred and ignorance, much of which is willful. The exclusionary bullshit you do to others is exactly what you hate done to you.

Anti-endos get the FUCK out of here. You will never be welcome and you will continue to be blocked on sight. If you try shit you will deadass just be laughed at and ignored so don't bother.

[mediapen]

❤️‍🩹 why is is that I can’t get my C*****News from anyone but you like I’m so sorry for being crazy but the way you idk vet stuff and make sure I don’t see anything but the finest particles is so. Calming ig like I can’t handle hearing about him from anyone who isn’t #weird about him like you are. I get so sick about it like I feel as if no one should think about him if it isn’t in the way the small circle of like 7 carlosheads with like 700 followers on tumblr r doing it. I can’t even post about him on my own blog because No One Understands (lame)

omgggg what a compliment fr.............. organic fresh from the source bullshit all day every day WHO else could be weird and exclusionary about him like me and you!!! tbh my mo is if i dont want to see it The People dont want to see it and i dont want it on my blog. SO glad that works for us.

i will be real with you though babe like top tips for Curation. i dont see anything that isnt on tumblr i follow like 15 people i have blocked and filtered relentlessly i dont engage with sportsjournalism and refuse to believe anything i dont like. grow the circle. post about him on your blog 😈

[salt-baby]

Hi! This might be a dumb question and also not specifically relevant to you, but do you know if crip punk includes people with physical disabilities that are invisible? I get that neurodivergent people have their own similar movement (madpunk or something?) but as someone with an invisible disability, I would hate to look like I'm appropriating crip punk. Any insights would be super helpful!

Looking solely at the semantics of the original tenets, I would argue that you qualify, simply because you have a physical disability regardless of it's visibility. I'm sure someone asked the original creator at some point, so you can probably comb their blog for a more definite answer. I don't think people would accuse you of appropriating it.

Honestly, though, I no longer identify with cripple punk. I think it's become something exclusionary and divisive. I've gotten multiple asks like this, where people are asking me to be the arbiter of whether their disability "counts".

Many people on Tumblr will devote so much time and energy to trying to find the exact line in the sand - I don't think it exists. Is my disability invisible, because I can cover my orthotics with pants, or is it visible, because I'm subject to plenty of strangers comments on it? Is Alzheimer's a mental disorder, because it primarily affects cognition and personality, or is it a physical one, because there are biochemical and anatomical differences in the brain?

Why waste time arguing over this? It's all disability in the end. We're all getting the same discrimination, the same bullshit questions, the same massive medical bills. It wastes so much time and resources to argue with each other over who's "enough" and who isn't.

And I get it. I was in your shoes once, and that's why I'll time and time again answer these questions with "yes, you're disabled enough", because there was a time where I really needed to hear that. But the truth is? To me, hay fever is "disabled enough". I don't think people faking disability socially like that is a big enough problem to care about, and if I'm tricked once in a blue moon, then so be it. I'd rather live a life where I believe in the people around me and occasionally one of them lies, than to live my life constantly suspicious and invalidating of people who needed my trust.

[somethings-monstrous]

If you can't handle topics revolving around menstruation, block me, then grow the fuck up, please and thank you! 🤗

Trigger Warning: Bible, Bible verse, blood mention, trans exclusive language use mention.

So, I bought a new menstrual cup. Mine vanished during a move. Got the new cup in today and was inspecting it while waiting for the water to boil to sterilize it and...

Is that a fucking Bible verse?!

[35] I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he said, It is more blessed to give than to receive.

Yup.

So, the company, Pixie Cup, does a 1 to 1 system, donating one menstrual cup to a person in need for every cup purchased (love that so much! These things are so cheap to make it's offensive). So, the Bible verse is about them donating menstrual products to those in need. The paperwork with the cup specifically says "a woman in need" and "for women," which honestly wasn't suss until I noticed the Christian bent and then it kinda stood out more as exclusionary. It may not be, but I feel it is good to mention that they use very gendered language in the leaflets and such. But, still, I appreciate the donation they make.

My first instinct was to be pissed. Like, that's some sneaky dogma shit. Trying to convert me, p*ssy first I guess. But, after a second we realized..that's going inside our vagina to be filled with blood.

And just...yeah I can't honestly be pissed about that. Like, that's fucking hilarious. You snuck a Bible verse into my menstrual cup, and my sacrilegious ass is about to literally put it in my vagina and bleed doom upon it. Makes me wish we still practiced witchery.

If there are any Abrahamic witches with a menstrual cycle reading this: Blood sacrifice and witchery cup right here.

Anyway, this amused us and seemed like the kinda shit one is required to post to Tumblr.

Also, figured some out there might appreciate the notice that this is a thing to avoid if, like us, you have religious trauma and would prefer to keep associations far, far away.

Anyway, bullshit aside, it's a good cup with multiple sizes. We have a low cervix and standard sized cups are too big. The xsmall fits perfect, can't feel it and the vacuum seal it forms doesn't make our cramps worse, which larger cups do. The cup came with a pack of lubricant, several cup wipes, a draw string pouch, and a zip carrying case that it all fits into, as well as a section divided off with a water proof layer for reusable pads or the unsteralized cup. It was $20USD on Amazon and I'm happy with it, even with the bloody verse 🥁😃

If you menstruate, seriously look into getting a cup. It's $20 or so, and will last a minimum of five years. I've seen people who had the same one over 15 years. Especially if you have insecure finances and living situations, get a cup. Being homeless on your period sucks. Being poor on your period sucks. If you can, get a cup. It's insanely cheap compared to disposable products, better for your body, better for the environment, and not as scary or gross as it seems.

Ransom aside, our housemate's dad is staying with us and he is very Christian (but not a dick about it, which I respect), and it's so weird having someone say "and I thank the lord for xyz." Like, my brain has a "the fuck is he on about? Oh right." I legitimately forget Christians exist 😅 Though, now my menstrual cup will remind me so...hurray -_-

[sophieinwonderland]

I don't exactly know why, but it's funny how statements like "X part of Y marginalized community are invading the Y community and is Y-phobic!!!!" statements always turn out to be exclusionary bullshit. Exclus (especially those on tumblr) have said similar things about bisexuals, pansexuals, asexuals, aromantics, transgender people, nondysphoric trans people, xenogender people and neopronoun users, m-spec lesbians and gays, and are now targeting endogenics (all of who are literally just people trying to live their lives and express themselves in a completely harmless way).

Fun fact: I've only known about systems and plurality and stuff for about a few days. The first system-related post I ever saw was of a sysmed saying how much they hated endos and got off and bullying them and endos are fakers and ableists, and stuff like that. Reading the post gave me an uneasy feeling in my gut because most sysmed posts are structured EXACTLY like exclusionist posts (X part of Y marginalized community are appropriating Y culture, X are fake and Y-phobic, X are taking up Y resources, X are invading Y community, at LEAST one line about how they want X to suffer and want them to be booted out of Y community etc etc) and I didn't trust these posts. I guess not believing these posts was right.

This is so true!

The groups that are being excluded always changes, but the exclusionism itself never does. It's the same thing with a slightly different coat of paint. And this infighting always takes away from efforts we could be making to gaining actual acceptance.

In truth, it feels like cowardice.

Making change means fighting back against an establishment that is powerful. It will be long and tedious, and we may die before we see the type of change we really want.

I think the sad truth is that the reason exclusionists target other marginalized communities so much is because it's just easier for them to punch down, blaming a small group in the same community for all the hardship they face, than challenge their actual oppressors.

[mogai-sunflowers]

Maybe im too meh about alot of things and this is kind of a vent

but i honestly hate that nowadays (mostly white) people wont reblog an important post about privilage in society or a post with links about a crisis cause the op dosent 100% align with someone elses opinions despite the fact that post has nothing to do with it. Like awhile back i saw a black person's post spreading around a bunch of super important links regarding the buffalo shooting and how to help the families just to see some white mogai individual refuse to mess with the post and yell at their other (white and poc) muturals for reblogging it cause op didnt specfically support emojipronouns. Like i understand that that makes them nbphobic and emoji pronouns are important but there is a bigger issue here that is very important. They refuse to support people unless they can slide themselves into their perfect image of a perfect progressive person which is why it takes so long for news to meet this community.

Im not saying you should never vet your sources and you should give notes to bigots but when it comes down to huge issues like racism, mysogny and communally-external lgbtphobia, wether or not that one person likes mspec lesbians, endogenic systems or neopronouns dosent really matter. Its about information reaching as many people as possible, the rest is infighting smaller issues that are very niche and dont matter in comparison. Im a poc, i use neopronouns, im an mspec lesbian and im a collective but im not gonna pretend someone whose only exclusionary view is not liking pnc gays/lesbians to a raging racist. Our community needs a bit of reality check concerning what is big issues and what is small issues and the mogai/liom communities are an echo chamber wether we like it or not. Internet discourse and national law are 2 very different problems and i see alot of abled white people conflating the 2 because they get all their news and live their lives on tumblr. I know because i used to do that, once tumblr wasnt my main app anymore, i learned alot more about the world around me.

I'm not saying you or anyone else is over-reacting btw, im just tired of seeing people comparing xenogenderphobes locking people out of nonbinary servers to anti-immigration laws and Trump's walls. There significantly more damage from one than the other and the comparison is always done by someone who only faces the lesser issue.

Ill just sign myself off as 🌿

i completely agree. i've seen this before too and it pisses me the fuck off, like I saw a Black person talking about fandom racism and how to support Black people in fandoms, and people were like "but they dont support bi lesbians" and it's like??? okay yeah that sucks but that's not relevant to the actual issue here and it's very disrespectful to ignore someone's input on their own oppression just because they have one opinion you don't like. like, just the other week, a bunch of white queer people started attacking a Native Two-Spirit trans guy who was talking about what's currently going on regarding the ICWA, and this person was reblogging the post saying not to listen to him because he asked not to be called queer because he thought it was a slur and im like. get out of your fucking ASS jesus fucking CHRIST. and im not like, saying that to try and distance myself from whiteness, i've caught myself having that kind of chronically online mindset before and had to evaluate myself. just agreeing with you anon, it's massively stupid the way people, especially in the mogai community, prioritize interneet discourse over things like structural racism and queerphobia. it's bullshit.

[homemantis]

i know engaging with a south park fan is pointless because you're undoubtedly going to be a right-wing reactionary but what issue do you have with radical feminism?

Oh Jesus Christ okay!!

First off, people are saying I’m a “South Park Stan” when clearly in my pinned message, I have explained I have a hyper fixation with the show, however my relationship with it is complicated. I dont like Matt and Trey. The show has weird shitty messages at times that I don’t support. I’m obsessed with the characters. I’m obsessed with the way the fandom creates a whole new world about these weird campy paper cutouts. The fandom on tumblr is hilariously queer, something that would probably have these ‘right wing reactionary’s you speak of trembling in their boots. And I love it.

I’m queer. Non-binary. I don’t know what the fuck my sexuality is, but I know I like girls. I’m very left wing, and I hate shitty right-wingers. I’m their enemy.

I find radfems to be terrifying honestly. While I think feminism and womens movement to be fantastic, and holy shit is it needed…

I hate most radical feminism for it’s exclusion of trans people. I love trans people. I’ll say it again, I LOVE TRANS PEOPLE!! Gender is a social construct, and to let go of the restraints of gender is so, so freeing. I think people should be allowed to identify as whatever they want and be supported for it. At the end of the day, gender was made up by society, what we are described as, what we like, what we wear, is all just made up by society. So fuck it, go crazy and fight back, identify as whatever your heart desires. It’s freeing, it’s queer, it’s campy and it’s fun. People should always be allowed to express themself however they want.

Terfs, trans-exclusionary radical feminists are becoming increasingly popular. People like JK Rowling hasn’t helped. I think its so important for women and by extension, everyone to express love for themselves and their bodies and be allies for one another. But again, not at the cost of now allowing trans people to do the same. Jk Rowling is a radical feminist, and most radfems I see are gender-critical.

Im just going to use Wikipedia here:

Feminists who describe themselves as "gender-critical" say that biological sex is "real, important, and immutable" and is "not to be conflated with gender identity", and that feminism should organize with emphasis on the basis of sex rather than gender.

This is what the majority of radfems believe in. Kronkk, who I criticised, after a quick scroll of the word trans on their blog, I have found that yes, they too are very gender critical. Radfems like this contribute to the oppression of trans people. Your sex characteristics don’t equal your gender. As said before, gender is made up by society, it’s a way to express, and society has often made it a way to oppress. Intersex people exist. Cis females who don’t want to fit into the box of ‘pretty pink dresses’ exist. Trans men exist, who don’t feel like they want to be female at all. Trans women exist!! Non-binary people who don’t want to be either exist. Fuck it, shout out to people who use neo pronouns, who have decided all this gender bullshit is stupid and just want to be referred to as stuff like ‘cat/it’ fucking slay.

Again, I love the lgbtq+ community. But we can’t be a community without the T, just as we wouldnt be our community without the L’s and G’s. We need to support one another, not tear one another down. Our community will always be oppressed by the same people. Fucking hell, a member of my queer club at my school was stabbed in the street last year for ‘looking too queer’. We have enough shit coming from people who aren’t in our community. It’s awful to have allies and members of our own community have these shitty bigoted views as well. Out community wouldn’t be where it is without trans people. Trans people have been around from the beginning of time, look it up. I’m begging our allies, and queer siblings to stand up for us.

Anyway. This became a bit of a love letter to trans people by me. But I hope you understand where I’m coming from. I love our community, and we don’t need anymore hate for it. Have a nice day <3

[laurenfoxmakesthings]

Title: Dawn of International Asexuality Day

A long while after the university assignments, I realised how much I liked doing collages, doing it of my own volition. This was my return to collage, a submission for International Asexuality Day a few years ago.

It's going to be very obvious from this point on that I'm ace, so if you're an aphobe, shoo. I'm not having any of that exclusionary bullshit on my return to tumblr (I was on tumblr back in ye olde 2010s, you can't deny that BS happned).

[burn--until-we-meet-again]

Hello! You can call me Ruin, I use he/him. I made this blog because I'm sick and tired of all the bigotry and bullshit I see on Tumblr (and everywhere else), and I wanted to keep all my thoughts on it in one place.

This blog supports queer people and identities (yes, all of them), people of color, fat positivity, disabled folks, neurodivergent folks, abortion, educated self-diagnosis, and everyone who isn't aiming to be hurtful or exclusionary. TERFs, fatphobes, sysmeds, ableists, anti-LGBTQ folks, and all the other bigots can go fuck themselves. Don't start a fight with me, it's not one you'll win.

I'm tired and angry, but somebody should be.

P.S. - if you get the blog references, we should be friends

[error-523scintilla]

Is there any element of trans ideology you don’t agree with or are you just like all the other blue haired weirdos who dutifully nod their heads when one of you comes out with some new bullshit?

This doesn’t feel like it’s coming in good faith, but I guess I will try to answer anyways.

1) Believing that trans people can and should I exist is not an ideology. It’s the same argument homophobes use when saying “the gay agenda”. It’s not a choice you subscribe to. People just are, and they exist.

2) Yes, I believe there are problematic things inside a community, as every single community does. There’s always gonna be extremists, annoying haters and bigots passing as “Allies”, looking for a “just cause” to justify their hate on other minorities or groups. Heck, there are trans people that are transphobes themselves. Being a minority doesn’t makes someone incapable of being a bigot.

3) Unlike popular believes, some activists aren’t “blue-haired, full of tattoos and piercings and pronouns”. I’m as plain and generic as a Cis woman can be. Undyed brown hair, no piercings, no tattoos, almost to no make-up (Ty humid-ass country where you sweat anything), with my only constant jewelry being a freaking wristwatch. I don’t even look queer for some queer folks, much less for Cis or straight people. Although that can be a doble-edge sword for myself when I don’t act feminine enough for straight people and my machista Latinoamerican society. Guess that’s the price to pay for not having enough energy to give a shit about your appearance, I guess.

If this ask comes from me having a enormous distaste for TERFs, I want you to know I’m a firm believer of intersectional feminism; and as someone that studies and works on the medical sciences and the camp of medicine, I abhor the biological essentialist ideologies that come attached to TERF arguments and standpoints. Also, many TERFs ideas tend to take points, arguments and inspirations from the good ol’ Nazi rhetorics. It’s uncanny how so many arguments sound almost exactly the same as the ones both Nazis and White Supremacists used to justify their targeted hate against many groups. This may not be your case, specifically, but occurs often enough that freaking Neo-Nazis appear at TERF-centric RadFems protests. Oh, and they have such a weird hyperfixation on Euro-centric standards of femininity and “what’s like to be a women” that many Cis women, including myself, are targets of their hate, be it intentional or not. Specially if they’re non-white or gender-non-conforming, or have medical conditions that makes them “not feminine enough”.

Have you heard about the horseshoe theory? That one about if someone’s just far enough on any side of the political spectrum they both sound almost the same? Well, that’s my stand about Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists. They’re far enough on the “Left” spectrum that they sound almost like Extremist Conservatives (but like, in a woke way /s) . You just change one target for another, and it’s the same stuff.

Also, for some reason there’s a big movement of Aphobia and Biphobia on TERF circles? Why???

But once again, getting to my original point, I don’t defend _every single trans person_. There are some shitty people out there in the community, using it as a shield, but that’s because they’re shitty people that just happen to be trans, and not the other way around. That haloes in every single fucking community, because humans can and do be shitty in general. That’s just life.

Also, RadFems here on tumblr should take a good inside of their community, and spend their time better fighting the patriarchy, which is a fucking systematic problem —as many of you know— instead of picking a fight against trans people who are like less than 1% of the population. We all ducking suffer under the patriarchy, so why waste your time on petty shit instead of tackling the real issue, who btw _loves_ seeing us fight because that’s less time spent fighting _them_. You know, the divide and conquer and all that. They rejoice seeing minorities fighting between each other.

[vaguely-problematic]

i hear people complaining about the use of microlabels, or broader labels like disabled and autistic and queer, and how people shouldn't use them

and i hear "don't ask don't tell" and "i don't see color [race]/ we're all just people here"

[hacash]

it’s always weird hearing about current trends on tumblr that don’t actually cross your own dash, but one of the funniest trends I see from a distance is the ‘tumblr is for teens! any interest in fandom should die out spontaneously when you hit 25! if you’re a grownup your presence online is suss and you shouldn’t be here!’ thing; because literally all of my mutuals and those I follow are 20s/30s/40+ and my tumblr experience is largely delightful

and the content is staggeringly better than whatever gatekeepery/exclusionary/purity politics bullshit keeps floating around this blue hellscape, so honestly maybe wanting everyone with a modicum of life experience banned isn’t the genius idea y’all think it is

[ms-demeanor]

What do you think about TERFs

Okay this is apparently controversial so I’ll try to be clear about it:

I think TERFs are bad and I think their targeting of trans women is repugnant, harmful, bigotry and that is why I block terfs.

HOWEVER

I also think that even radical feminists who are *not* trans exclusionary are also bad and I think that their framework of “patriarchy is the root of all societal harms” is genuinely damaging, gender essentialist bullshit that ALSO erases race, class, and nationality from conversations about how the world might be improved and in ADDITION to that making radical feminism logically and morally shaky it is ALSO a hive of classist, nationalist, racist thought.

(all of that is beside my thoughts about radfems and sex work because my thoughts are that radical feminism refuses to allow people to make choices; it is a philosophy that believes that people don’t know what’s best for themselves and must be controlled and that’s not a philosophy that I’m ideologically open to)

AND ALSO ON TOP OF ALL OF THAT

I think that it is sometimes worthwhile to (if you can, if you want to, if it doesn’t hurt you to do so) have conversations with TERFs, SWERFs, and Radfems because a lot of them (on tumblr especially) are very young women who have been specifically targeted by TERFs and who have been radicalized and isolated and sometimes patiently answering questions that make me want to tear my hair out can do a lot more to make someone question a harmful ideology than an impassioned, thoughtful, well-sourced essay.

And nobody is OBLIGATED to do that, and trans women are ESPECIALLY not obligated to do that, but, while I am trans (Hi! I’m nonbinary!) I’m not directly harmed by TERF transmisogyny the way that trans women are so sometimes I’ve got the energy to engage and I try to do so when I can.

[lewishamil10n]

What's the difference between bisexual and pansexual? Not trying to be rude!

hi! unfortunately i am not educated enough to give you any research nor do i speak for everyone, so i will just try to tell you my experience.

i'll be honest with you, i didn't even know pansexuality was a thing until i joined tumblr. i've known since my teenage years that i wasn't attracted to cis men exclusively, and as i spent more time researching i found out about sexualities other than straight, and i found out about other gender identities too. knowing all of that and knowing what i was attracted to, i realized that the label i felt fit me best was bisexual. i was always under the impression that that meant attraction to two or more genders.

it wasn't until i joined tumblr that i realized that apparently, according to some people, that's wrong? a lot of people thing bisexuality means attraction to two genders. some people split hairs and say bisexual people are only attracted to cis men and cis women, and therefore it is a trans-exclusionary sexuality. which is bullshit, by the way. bisexuality has never excluded non-cis identities.

with pansexuality, i have seen it defined as "attraction regardless of gender" and people claim it is more trans-inclusionary. but that claim is built on the implication that bisexuality is trans-exclusionary and therefore kinda transphobic? which is crap. bisexuality has ALWAYS been trans-inclusionary. it has always included every single gender identity (or lack thereof) under the lgbtq+ umbrella.

i have no issues with anyone identifying as pan. to me personally there is very little distinction between the two identities, too little to be significant. but that's my personal opinion. i know the distinction, minuscule as it may be, matters to some people, and that's okay. everyone has the right to choose what label suits them best. for me, that's bisexual.

the problem comes in when bisexuals are accused of being transphobic or trans-exclusionary. no label is more superior than the other, and no label is inferior either. bi people face enough bullshit as it is, from straight people AND other queer people. we don't need to be told we're transphobic when we're not. i've even been told i am actually a pansexual and not a bisexual just because i said gender didn't matter to me in terms of attraction. i have had my sexuality invalidated by people who thought they knew me and my preference better than me. it's ridiculous.

sorry, this got kinda long! i hope it made sense to you anon. if you're interested in more info, you can check out my bisexuality tag. and if anyone else wants to correct me or add on to the post, please feel free!

[yharnamsnewslug]

i go around on tumblr and send completely random people I don’t even know asks because my friends suck but I can’t believe how many times I have to tell them that either they stop saying trans rights or they stop sprouting “I hate men/kill all men.” one of them even insisted on saying some dumb shit like ‘this is why I specify cis straight men’ like it doesn’t make it any less shitty and transphobic? like that exact phrase isn’t used to attack trans women?? and then putting a bar between cis men and trans men using hatred is so fucked and it shouldn’t be a complicated concept to be like. “okay I’ll stop sprouting off hate with a rhetoric terfs used to harass trans people” (bc lets be real it stopped being about frustration with the patriarchy ages ago) but god I’m tired. I think I just need new friends

Hi, anon! I'm so sorry about your friends - I made a decision about a year ago to distance myself from a group of high school, close, old friends whom I'd spent a lot of time with. They were panphobic and exclusionary and very much performative in that way.

If you are a trans man, or transmasc, you are definitely not along in this feeling of utter exhaustion, and I have a lot of acquaintances and friends that know this is terf rethoric infiltration into mainstream feminism. I also know a lot of trans women who know this is terf rethoric. So first things first: you are not alone, most trans people know this is bullshit, and if you change your group of friends, know that you will always be able to find people who want to help you and understand you.

Cis people do not often examine the way they talk about gender, because to them, trans people are another gender entirely. Women is safe, men is dangerous - they do not examine the racist, xenophobic connotations of this, or even the misogynistic connotations of this philosophy, because they feel validated by other cis women who have promoted this belief into everyday speech.

Transphobia runs deep within media, within society, and it is very hard to teach people where it is rooted and from where it comes from.

Thinking men = bad is easier than saying "the patriarchy is a system that benefits only a select group of men who have the money, race, religion and neurotypicality that society deems as the best." As always intersectionality is often confused with "It's only about misogynoir", when we should listen to all people of color, to all the experiences of the disabled, of intersex people, of trans people, Muslim and Jewish and pagan and the like.

Gender essentialism is bad, however you want to look at it. And people do know this. So please, anon, do not despair, because when you decide to leave people for their bigotry, you will realize that there are lots of people who will cut it at the root and be willing to listen and learn from your lived, marginalized experiences.

Together we are stronger. Don't despair and find strength in the fact that we will overcome this as a community, as a movement. Your trans siblings will always be there.

[tiptapricot]

I’m not a terf, but if you read a bit of radical feminism theory (not tumblr blogs, actual theory) you’d know that the goal of radical feminism is to abolish gender, to abolish this system which oppresses women and trans people. I’m trans, and like other trans people who think like me, I know that in a genderless society I most likely wouldn’t feel like a stranger to myself in my own body.

Listen dude I get wanting to feel comfortable with yourself, and feminism is good and great and wonderful, but

1. Radfem stuff and Terf stuff are intrinsically intertwined and it’s honestly pretty impossible to draw a line between “good” and “bad” radfem stuff right now, there’s too much overlap and it’s often a pipeline to Terf/swerf/exclusionary bullshit because at its base it has a lot of different ideologies that prime you for that kind of thing, like focusing on men as the enemy and a lot of anti sex work/anti trans views that large portions of the radfem movement have.

2. Gender isn’t the system of oppression that’s pushing down women and non woman trans ppl. The patriarchy has a large part of sexism and transphobia in it, yes, but that’s not gender’s fault. For a lot of trans people including myself gender is a liberation and a home and a sense of community, a love for each other and oneself, or literally just an identity and facet of ourselves. It doesn’t have to be bad and painful. There are people that like gender and should be allowed to for their identity. Breaking down societal views of “acceptable” gender stuff is fine but again, that’s kind of separate from what falls under the radfem umbrella right now.

And 3. If you don’t feel comfortable with yourself and think it’s impossible to be until we achieve a genderless society, I think that’s something you need to work through deeply with yourself. If something isn’t working for you, find a community that supports you in the right way and experiment with what labels or lack of feel right to you and how you want to define and present yourself. You deserve to be able to feel comfortable here and now, and if you don’t want a gender that’s fine, you literally don’t have to I was serious about that.