#actually agender

[ace-disgrace-withamace]

Seeing as I’ve been sent some aphobic hate speech (if you’re an aphobe why are you looking at content made by asexuals? Honestly, idiot) here’s me continueing my shit

Being aspec is 1000% valid, and if anyone says anything else they should be eaten alive and also burnt at the stake simultaneously.

Being aspec does not make you any less queer

Being heterosexual aromantic is valid and doesn’t make you less queer

Being heteromantic asexual is valid and doesn’t make you less queer

Being heterosexual heteromantic agender is valid and doesn’t make you less queer

Being oriented aroace doenst make you any less aroace and is VALID AS HELL

Being split attraction is valid

[the-adhd-duck-on-your-shoulder]

i'm a girl in the same way i'm catholic

[jos-has-too-many-hobbies]

Gender?

I hardly know her

[weepingwillows-sweethibiscustea]

Actually quite tired of seeing people completely erase those who are agender and/or who don’t use pronouns.

Yes the bigot is a dumb fuck for saying they refuse to use pronouns because they’re not a lib or whatever.

But theres other ways to articulate that then being condescending/aggressive about how everyone uses (gendered) pronouns, what, do you want us to just not refer to you?

[something-existing-somewhere]

Sorry I Spent all mY spoons this week already and it's fucking Tuesday. We're heading to the knives

[some---weirdo]

If this post gets:

100 notes I'll explain my gender to my friends and tell them my pronouns

500 notes I'll explain my romantic orientation to my friends (they think I'm aroace, I just identify as ace) ✓

1000 notes I'll come out to my sibling (they're agender, I know they'll support me)

10 000 notes I'll come out to my sister (she has pronouns in her discord bio, it'll be fine)

100 000 notes I'll tell my best friend I love her

1 000 000 notes I'll come out to my homophobic, transphobic conservative Christan family that I live with (they still talk to my agender sibling, so it'll just be very awkward for the next few years...)

[castielfucks]

theres actually no rules to transitioning and youre allowed to want contradictory things for your transition. it's fine if you only want some of the changes that come with hrt and take preventative measures for the rest (like wanting bottom growth but not body hair or vice versa). you can want to have vagina AND a dick. you can be a woman and want top surgery, or wear a packer. you can be a man and want to have a pussy. you can change your transition goals one or a million times or not have any goals at all and just take things as they come or as they feel right.

there are no rules.

[second-stixs]

Uh, of course I have straight As!

-Agender

-Aromantic

-Asexual

-Autistic

-Anxious

-Asthmatic

[glitchedcosmos]

One thing about me and my mutuals is we will be on a spectrum autistic?, aromantic?, asexual?, gender?, you name it were on it you’ll find me on every goddam spectrum

[neurovarious]

so yknow the "AAA battery" joke with aspec identities? well there's a lot of versions of that whether its Aro/Ace/Agender or Aro/Ace/Autistic, but... theres so many other A's too: Abro, Aplatonic (and other Aspec orientations), Androgyne, Abinary, Atrinary, Alterhuman, ADHD and more- you get it.

so, i wonder... how many As can one battery have???

[paranormeow7]

tired of nonbinary people being pressured to be thin hairless elf like pretty and always depicted as white afab skinny kids with blue hair, of course only using they/them. give me nonbinary people who are heavily fem/masc aligned!! give me nonbinary people who use neopronouns and xenogenders!! give me fat nonbinary people!! hairy nonbinary people!! nonbinary POC!! amab nonbinary people!! disabled nonbinary people!! nonbinary people who wear crazy clothes, or nonbinary people who don’t stand out and don’t feel the need to!! nonbinary people with names like Moss or Socks, or nonbinary people with “regular” names like Susan or James or something!! Give me every flavor of nonbinary people, and stop trying to make it into yet ANOTHER gender binary!! Nonbinary can be anything, not just a third gender to adhere to!!

[e-wwis]

genderfluid but not in a "is it a girl day or boy day today" way but in a "my soul has lived here for too long. the doorframes are chipped and the walls are sun-faded; the wood rots and the nails rust. this house was once home but today it is no longer. will I ever be back? maybe one day. but come tomorrow this place is dead to me." on a random wednesday and then chopping all my hair off way

[the-adhd-duck-on-your-shoulder]

i tried pretty hard to have 'mystical nymph androgynous' but ultimately failed and have settled into my true aesthetic of 'eight year old at summer camp androgynous'

[hellenhighwater]

What are your pronouns?

my gender is someone gave me a bowl of raisin bran and my brother a bowl of cheerios, and I like raisin bran just fine, but if they'd asked what I wanted I might have picked cheerios? But I'm already a couple bites into the raisin bran and it seems like an awful fuss to switch to cheerios now, and while I've heard that some people prefer lucky charms or cinnamon toast crunch, and those do seem super fun...I'm not really willing to put in the effort of explaining my breakfast choices to people who think that everyone should just be eating raisin bran or cheerios and nothing else, especially when I don't really care if I'm eating raisin bran or cinnamon toast crunch or lucky charms or cheerios, though I do think everyone should eat whatever cereal they want without being bothered about it.

She/her's fine.

[akabirdieart]

Gender & Multiplicity: A Primer On The Intersection of Transness & DID REDAC FourOFour Spring 2023

It’s finished. And yet I have SO much left to say. I almost feel like starting an activist group for this niche community. If you know how to do that and are interested in helping, message me. You don’t need to be a system yourself.

I’d appreciate if this spread. I’ll take the nightmare notifications if it means that people outside of the dissociative community might understand and care.

As mentioned, my experience is not universal. This is a comic about the experiences we have, and some that we know others have. For example, some people that saw the preview noted that they DO identify as genderfluid collectively. I love to hear about your experiences; reading the notes on that post was delightful. All systems are different! We all deserve a world we can live as ourselves without risk.

See Alannah’s pinned post on @married-to-the-night​ for information about the term utrinque.

[theeretblr]

Do you know if there is a name for feeling like you have no gender? I'm too afraid to google it

I'm not afraid to google it

Yep, Agender! Now go do some more research, there's nothing to be afraid of! Also a reminder that labels do not define who you are, you can use labels to help explain to others how you feel, but you should not feel like you have to put yourself into a box.