#non romantic sex

[positively-bi]

Actually every time an aroallo has sex without romance an angel gets their wings so shut the fuck up

[moth-from-real-life]

i hate how describing yourself/others as a 'freak' is extremely sexual. I can't count on my hands the number of times I've seen people make posts that say words along the lines of "people calling themself a freak and then saying in pinned post 'no nsfw please' are cowards/not real freaks." girlie............. Shut the fuck up. Disrespectfully. Sit. Your. Aphobic. Ass. Down.

[pygmalimoon]

old pic but never post here. ❤️💖🌸🗡️

to confirmed that I’m comeback to my kallura era.

Art by Jiaozi

[littlelightfish]

I will scream at every non-romantic post I see about these guys. Writers be not afraid. I will love their non-romance fics. I'll blow up your coment section all alone if I have to. I will find you. Artists be not afraid. I will reach tag limit on your artpiece. If I see it at least. And if I don't, I will eventually. Or I'll try. Or @me so I won't fail you.

[ambrosiagourmet]

Take this with a grain of salt but I don’t think Izutsumi necessarily MUST be be viewed as canonically aroace. I do not have a problem with that reading at all, to be clear, but I’ve been mulling this over for a while and with how much self-loathing and neglect informs her character it just doesn’t seem to entirely fair in insist on taking the “I don’t have a type” line at face value.

She’s a traumatized 17-year-old girl who thinks she’s unlovable and has never had the freedom to chose what to do with her life. Of course she doesn’t have a type and longs for a mom to love her unconditionally.

[read-write-thrive]

platonic and romantic are not some sort of binary that relationships have to be divided into. they’re not even two ends of a linear spectrum. they’re fully just abstract concepts made up of culturally-dependant social behaviour and expectations that are continually forced upon people to reinforce religious, legal, and broader societal/cultural norms, often and repeatedly to the detriment of non-normative groups including, but not limited to, the queer community. and I am sick and tired of those norms being replicated in fucking fandom discourse, of all places

[confused-disaster32]

Hi! So you can call this a rant or a vent or whatever I don't rlly care - I just wanted to put some of my opinions out there bc it is eating me inside out to keep my opinions on Alastor's sexuality and all of the discourse about him being shipped to myself.

Also i'd like to state that I'm writing this as someone who is aroace but has no actual wish to be in a romantic relationship and actually struggles to so much as picture what that's be like for myself. I would also like to state how I'm not speaking for the whole community and others will have different opinions to myself.

Firstly - aroace is a spectrum (as someone who is on the aroace spectrum btw) and I completely agree with ppl who say that it is a spectrum and shipping has always existed and you can't rlly stop an entire fandom. My only problem is when ppl completely ignore that he is aroace while doing this, bc to me it seems like there's so much potential to having him have to go through those types of emotions and to write him off as if he's completely allo not only can make some people feel unseen but also just isn't as fun.

Also I kind of believe that he'd possibly date someone for the entertainment - like even if he didn't exactly feel romantic attraction maybe he'd be willing to be around someone closely bc he might like the reactions he'd be getting. (example: he might've stayed in a relationship with Vox maybe not out of pure attraction but if he found out that affection could make the TV short-circuit? He'd be interested)

Adding to that, I personally do not actually ship him with anyone romantically due to his character + the fact that I am projecting my own distaste for romance on him but you do you ig.

Also, on the note of nsfw around him - sometimes you cannot stop a fandom, rule 34 exists and some people who are asexual sometimes may want to have sex and all of that stuff. Personally I think he'd probably be sex-repulsed due to the fact that he canonically has issues with being touched.

ALSO, i personally think that way too many people are brushing over the idea of putting Alastor in a QPR - like that would literally be so awesome.

Alastor x Rosie? Cute af (to me Rosie gives of aro vibes too, but more romance - favourable) like they're already besties and honestly I think that Rosie would defo help him figure out about his identity considering that he's quite obviously not all that sure about slang and stuff.

Vox x Alastor - It has the potential to be SO FUCKING FUN like, you get to experiment with how they feel for each other, maybe what Alastor's got going on bc he died before being aroace was rlly a thing and he'd be confused about how he felt about Vox for sure.

Lucifer x Alastor - I quite like it, ik that Lucifer is supposed to be with Lillith but she did take an extremely long hiatus on her family up in heaven so i think it's okay. Plus the idea of them bonding and becoming close due to Charlie is wonderful.

Even angel and Alastor - maybe after Val Angel doesn't want a super sexual relationship - maybe he's not all that interested in something purely romantic either and though I love huskerdust this would still be pretty cool.

Really all I'm saying is; be considerate. Incorporate the fact that Alastor is Aroace, even if you do ship him - in or out of QPRs - and ofc sometimes writing someone who is part of a group ur not in is difficult (coming from someone who often struggles in writing especially when it comes to romance) but taking a crack at it might actually turn out to be rlly cool.

But please don't ignore his aroace-ness, there's not a huge amount of aroace characters out there and acting like someone isn't can be annoying for ppl who want to find rep around their identity, esp if they haven't seen much before (I can relate and he was one of the first aroace characters I was introduced to after I found out what it meant).

So yeah, that's my piece.

[toastedtitaniumalloy]

Vent about being ace~~

Being a hopeless romantic who is also on the asexual spectrum is exhausting! For some reason, people hear the term "asexual" and assume that you don't want any type of intimacy, but that is not true at all! Yes, some people on the ace spectrum may not desire it, but we are all different and unique individuals. Just talk to us!?

I want to be held, kissed, and do cute things together while also having arguments like an old married couple! I crave intimacy in ways that are difficult to explain; I do not want it to be solely seen as a pathway to sex. I enjoy being affectionate and cuddly, but I have yet to find a partner who can appreciate that without also expecting sex from me or pressuring me to be sexual. While I understand that sex is tthe bee's knees or whatever, it is not something I desire. I do not want to be sexualised!!

Sex is like sprinkles on a sundae; it may be great for those who enjoy it, but it is not essential for a delightful dessert! A sundae consists of many other components that contribute to its overall deliciousness, and sprinkles are simply an added bonus. It is perfectly acceptable to enjoy sprinkles; do not let anyone make you feel ashamed for liking them. However, they are not my preference, and it seems that many individuals believe that they are necessary for a sundae to truly be a sundae.

No matter what societal norms say, sex is not required for a relationship to be "real".

Sex does not define a relationship! ALSO, pressuring someone into engaging in sexual activities is hurtful. Even if you are not explicitly pressuring them, it is unkind to act offended or inconvenienced when someone who has clearly stated their lack of interest in sex establishes their boundaries.

And just because someone identifyies as being "on the asexual spectrum" rather than strictly "asexual" does not indicate an openness to engaging in sexual activities in the future. It simply means that we fall somewhere on the asexual spectrum!!!

Ugh!!!!!!

[chaos0pikachu]

watching people write in-depth meta about a t-shirt that says "fart" in english b/c they like the director and studio not realizing that's not even how costuming in film works and that a lot of english t-shirts in East Asian countries just Be Saying Shit for the Vibes but can't get past a bathtub full or flowers or recognize the surrealistic aesthetics playing off erotic media works of Playboyy b/c there's blowjobs and dudes are cranking it on screen

[b-lysia]

Sex doesn't actually have shit to do with love

Purity culture says that sex taints anything it touches, making it spoiled.

If you live in a world where that's the dominant thought, but you still want/think you want or have been told you need to accept it in order to survive, then you have to find and hold onto someone who will continue to use the same tainted thing repeatedly. Or make yourself seem "high quality" enough, that a handful of "uses" won't taint you, under this pretext.

So sex, or rather formal monogamy and the concept of cheating, is mostly about ensuring that your place in the hierarchy Patriarchy places all of us in, is secured.

And until this is broken, we are never going to see an end to songs and stories where some "deeply broken" (social outcast/sexual) character, is accepted by an angelic(social better/less overtly sexual) character in spite of their "flaws" (having fucked before, or at least been assaulted).

Love is love. Being horny is being horny. They are not inherently related, and should never ever fucking be conflated.

[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

Alloaro plato repulsed culture is aquantences with benefits. Guy I Kinda Know with benefits. Person I Don't Hate with benefits.

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[thenookspace]

Girl help I'm having aroace Miguel O'Hara thots

[blluespirit]

the level of BRAINROT that shipping has caused in fandom circles is unfathomable to me btw. like two characters will like Be Nice to each and maybe even.... become friends... and next thing I know there's 50+ dissertation length posts discussing how these two characters are made for each other and if the writers do anything but make them canon then they shall be hunted for sport. anyone in fandom that disagrees will be hung drawn and quartered.

[soullessjack]

what's your thoughts on Jack and romance/aroaceness ? love you xx

haiii luv u back mwah mwah kith <3

so like, no shade 2 aroace jack truthers i know a lot of u guys r just projecting for comfort & i totally get it. guilty charged and sentenced.

But i myself find it kinda hard to read him as aroace since in 14x06 he was curious/interested in both sex & romance (mostly romance) & talked to dean a lot ab wanting to experience them eventually , and i feel like a lot of it just stems from the idea that hes a child & therefore not ready for it or smth

...which actually happens a lot in fandoms w autistic[coded] characters (cough hack she-ra entrapta hordak) so like yay we still cant win

[nitroish]

sorry if this is in bad taste but the wording of your last post makes it seem like someone thought u and quirkle were both link irl and were upset at the idea of two real life people dating which is hysterical to me

anon you quite literally hit the nail on the head. they saw me go by legend, saw me call quirks my partner, and called our Real Life Relationship ( that is ENTIRELY Platonic by the way !!!! ) linkcest. it blew my fucking mind.

its hysterical tho ur right. moving from the fact quirks and i arent even Dating nor are we romantic and therefor cant be considered linkcest by default, can you imagine their reaction to my two partners that i Do kiss gayly? my boyfriend and my partner that i Do kiss ??? woof . they called the wrong relationship i have linkcest if they want to be loud and weird about me being Gay and kissing someone behind a dennys

[pagesofkenna]

having seen some spoilers on the Astarion romance arc now, I really wish thats how the non-romance arc went as well. maybe it will? and i havent heard anyone talking about it bc the people not romancing Astarion don't care? but just in the early interactions in my playthrough it really seemed like he and my tav were becoming catty best buds, and based on the spoiler stuff I've seen it feels like his character arc should work even better this way?